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Post by addymac on Oct 27, 2021 17:07:01 GMT -6
I’ve heard quite a few people comment on the Gatorade shortage. My mom was saying something last night that they are saying their will be a wine shortage for the holidays. ::GASP:: not the wine!!!!
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Post by elodin on Oct 27, 2021 17:13:51 GMT -6
Oh dear, DD1 will not stand for this! Doritos were in stock today at DG! Lol. I only needed spray adhesive and toothpaste, but the dorito display was full.
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Post by elodin on Oct 27, 2021 17:15:47 GMT -6
Whattttt I need to stock up then it has something to do with the bottles that they use. Good thing I only have a boxed wine budget. 😂
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Oct 27, 2021 17:22:51 GMT -6
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Post by angelashly on Oct 27, 2021 17:22:51 GMT -6
it has something to do with the bottles that they use. Good thing I only have a boxed wine budget. 😂 My favorite is a localish kind. $7.99 that’s my life
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Post by bobyn on Oct 27, 2021 17:33:29 GMT -6
How would you handle your child getting in trouble for talking back to one of the after school employees?
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Oct 27, 2021 17:43:53 GMT -6
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Post by goldenbird on Oct 27, 2021 17:43:53 GMT -6
How would you handle your child getting in trouble for talking back to one of the after school employees? Lose game/tablet time for tonight, talk about it, have them apologize tomorrow.
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Oct 27, 2021 17:53:37 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2021 17:53:37 GMT -6
bobyn do you know what was said and the context? I know our boys are similar in age and has started talking back. Sometimes though he’s not intending to talk back based on the situation but comes across that way. Most of the time if it’s already been handled elsewhere we discuss a proper way to handle it and lay out consequences if it were to happen again (apology, loss of privileges etc) ETA: H is super sarcastic so DS1 thinks he’s being funny like H and it comes across as back talk at times so that’s why I always ask for the back ground context
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Post by sudsy on Oct 27, 2021 18:06:18 GMT -6
I somehow adopted a kid for the evening. It was not my intent. I offered to have DD’s new friend to come over to hang out and I bought stuff to make individual pizzas. So I told her mom if it was ok, she was welcome to stay for dinner. I told her I’d bring her back by 6. Well, just as the kids were sitting down to eat, there was a knock at the door. It was the older sister saying that the rest of the family was going out and would be back at 7. I couldn’t stop the kids from eating, so I agreed to just let her stay here. But now it’s past 7, and no one is back yet.
Also, this woman doesn’t know me and does not have my contact info because we’re literally 3-4 houses away from each other. The only communication we have is talking at the bus stop 1-2 days a week in the morning.
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Post by Dr. Grey on Oct 27, 2021 18:07:16 GMT -6
I somehow adopted a kid for the evening. It was not my intent. I offered to have DD’s new friend to come over to hang out and I bought stuff to make individual pizzas. So I told her mom if it was ok, she was welcome to stay for dinner. I told her I’d bring her back by 6. Well, just as the kids were sitting down to eat, there was a knock at the door. It was the older sister saying that the rest of the family was going out and would be back at 7. I couldn’t stop the kids from eating, so I agreed to just let her stay here. But now it’s past 7, and no one is back yet. Also, this woman doesn’t know me and does not have my contact info because we’re literally 3-4 houses away from each other. The only communication we have is talking at the bus stop 1-2 days a week in the morning. Uh wtf?! Absolutely not okay.
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Post by thatgolfb on Oct 27, 2021 18:17:43 GMT -6
DS was on a bottle strike for a couple of weeks, but just took one! 🙌🙌🙌 I was starting to get worried it would be an issue when I went back to work in a couple weeks, so this is a big relief.
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Post by bobyn on Oct 27, 2021 18:19:43 GMT -6
bobyn do you know what was said and the context? I know our boys are similar in age and has started talking back. Sometimes though he’s not intending to talk back based on the situation but comes across that way. Most of the time if it’s already been handled elsewhere we discuss a proper way to handle it and lay out consequences if it were to happen again (apology, loss of privileges etc) ETA: H is super sarcastic so DS1 thinks he’s being funny like H and it comes across as back talk at times so that’s why I always ask for the back ground context The kids were asked to help put things away and they each took care of one, so they got sassy when reminded and said they “already put one away”. I think he was just trying to be funny, but we talked about how that’s not respectful to those in charge and emphasized how being helpful is a form of respect and kindness. I do think I’ll have him write an apology note to give to them tomorrow, but this “attitude” is new to us and I feel so out of my league.
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Post by kayc on Oct 27, 2021 18:22:58 GMT -6
sudsy, wtf to that mom?! I hope the family is home soon!
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Post by thatgolfb on Oct 27, 2021 18:27:46 GMT -6
Oh gosh sudsy I would be so annoyed.
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Post by sudsy on Oct 27, 2021 18:32:57 GMT -6
The older sister came to get her 15 min ago. Told me her mom asked for my phone number. She has 5 kids, so I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I would be so nervous to have my kids stay with someone I barely know without being within earshot. She is a nice lady but very trusting. She lets the daughter walk home from the bus stop by herself too, so 2 days a week when I’m home I have her walk with us. (The bus stop is a trek for us. Not within sight of the house at all.)
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Post by Dr. Grey on Oct 27, 2021 18:49:23 GMT -6
The older sister came to get her 15 min ago. Told me her mom asked for my phone number. She has 5 kids, so I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I would be so nervous to have my kids stay with someone I barely know without being within earshot. She is a nice lady but very trusting. She lets the daughter walk home from the bus stop by herself too, so 2 days a week when I’m home I have her walk with us. (The bus stop is a trek for us. Not within sight of the house at all.) Holy crap that all makes me nervous. I’m glad she got picked up safely.
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Post by sudsy on Oct 27, 2021 18:50:25 GMT -6
Aaaand she just texted me to thank me because her daughter had such a good time tonight.
I feel like a total asshole.
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Post by Dr. Grey on Oct 27, 2021 18:52:51 GMT -6
Aaaand she just texted me to thank me because her daughter had such a good time tonight. I feel like a total asshole. You aren’t an asshole. She seems a bit more trusting with a relative stranger watching her child than I would be. Hopefully y’all can get to know each other better.
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Oct 27, 2021 19:01:11 GMT -6
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Post by northernlghts on Oct 27, 2021 19:01:11 GMT -6
My mom did the something similar when I was a kid sudsy. As she tells it, I was in kindergarten. We were out at the grocery store and I ran into my best friend from class. My friend's mom offered to take me home for a couple hours so my friend and I could play together. Not sure if the other mom mentioned we lived in the same neighborhood. Anyway, my mom said sure, not really thinking and off we went. She realized after "WTF did I just do?!" because she didn't have my friend's contact information and hadn't really met this person before.
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Post by Tlex on Oct 27, 2021 19:22:21 GMT -6
bobyn do you know what was said and the context? I know our boys are similar in age and has started talking back. Sometimes though he’s not intending to talk back based on the situation but comes across that way. Most of the time if it’s already been handled elsewhere we discuss a proper way to handle it and lay out consequences if it were to happen again (apology, loss of privileges etc) ETA: H is super sarcastic so DS1 thinks he’s being funny like H and it comes across as back talk at times so that’s why I always ask for the back ground context The kids were asked to help put things away and they each took care of one, so they got sassy when reminded and said they “already put one away”. I think he was just trying to be funny, but we talked about how that’s not respectful to those in charge and emphasized how being helpful is a form of respect and kindness. I do think I’ll have him write an apology note to give to them tomorrow, but this “attitude” is new to us and I feel so out of my league. For me, I would consider it handled given what you’ve already discussed and with it being a new thing, not an ongoing thing. I like the messages you emphasized and they way you made it about being respectful - I’m going to use that line about being helpful being a form of respect and kindness! The only consequence I’d consider is letting my kid know that due to this incident I’ll be asking the staff for reports now and then about attitude and talk back, and I expect they’ll want me to hear things they’d be proud of.
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Post by Tlex on Oct 27, 2021 19:25:48 GMT -6
Aaaand she just texted me to thank me because her daughter had such a good time tonight. I feel like a total asshole. Just because she’s gracious doesn’t mean your experience wasn’t valid. You felt imposed upon and like it wasn’t something within your own boundaries of “ok” as a parent to a same age kid. You’ve learned something about your trust battery with this person - it’s not fully charged - and you can move accordingly.
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Post by sudsy on Oct 27, 2021 20:28:09 GMT -6
The older sister came to get her 15 min ago. Told me her mom asked for my phone number. She has 5 kids, so I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I would be so nervous to have my kids stay with someone I barely know without being within earshot. She is a nice lady but very trusting. She lets the daughter walk home from the bus stop by herself too, so 2 days a week when I’m home I have her walk with us. (The bus stop is a trek for us. Not within sight of the house at all.) How old is your DD? This wouldn’t make me nervous at all. You talk to this woman multiple times a week for a while now (even just chatting at the bus stop) and your kids are friends and you invited the kid over? Maybe I’m missing info but this is absolutlry a non-issue for me unless the kid is under 4 and still at that age when they need pretty regular supervision 7. Its likely me projecting my own anxiety. Disregard.
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Post by SweetPotato on Oct 27, 2021 20:32:11 GMT -6
The older sister came to get her 15 min ago. Told me her mom asked for my phone number. She has 5 kids, so I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I would be so nervous to have my kids stay with someone I barely know without being within earshot. She is a nice lady but very trusting. She lets the daughter walk home from the bus stop by herself too, so 2 days a week when I’m home I have her walk with us. (The bus stop is a trek for us. Not within sight of the house at all.) How old is your DD? This wouldn’t make me nervous at all. You talk to this woman multiple times a week for a while now (even just chatting at the bus stop) and your kids are friends and you invited the kid over? Maybe I’m missing info but this is absolutlry a non-issue for me unless the kid is under 4 and still at that age when they need pretty regular supervision I’m here. But you’re definitely not an asshole for feeling how you did sudsy. I just also think the mom was fine in being comfortable with her daughter at your house. The first time my kid had a playdate at a friends house the other mom picked them up from school together and took them home. When they were already at the friend’s house my H asked where they lived was and I was like “I’m not sure I’ll text to ask when I’m on my way” so maybe don’t go by me lol
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Oct 27, 2021 20:36:58 GMT -6
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Post by SweetPotato on Oct 27, 2021 20:36:58 GMT -6
How old is your DD? This wouldn’t make me nervous at all. You talk to this woman multiple times a week for a while now (even just chatting at the bus stop) and your kids are friends and you invited the kid over? Maybe I’m missing info but this is absolutlry a non-issue for me unless the kid is under 4 and still at that age when they need pretty regular supervision 7. Its likely me projecting my own anxiety. Disregard. I don’t think there’s a right/wrong. Everyone just has different comfort levels with stuff like that and that’s ok!
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Post by bobyn on Oct 27, 2021 20:42:07 GMT -6
Thanks for all of the feedback, friends! I took the fact that this was his first offense into consideration and I think we came up with a proper solution.
DH told me that the staff at pick-up told him this was actually B's second offense but they never told us about the first one. He said, "And how does that help us?" and made sure that they knew to tell us about anything else going forward. So that's great.
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Post by angelashly on Oct 28, 2021 7:15:17 GMT -6
I somehow adopted a kid for the evening. It was not my intent. I offered to have DD’s new friend to come over to hang out and I bought stuff to make individual pizzas. So I told her mom if it was ok, she was welcome to stay for dinner. I told her I’d bring her back by 6. Well, just as the kids were sitting down to eat, there was a knock at the door. It was the older sister saying that the rest of the family was going out and would be back at 7. I couldn’t stop the kids from eating, so I agreed to just let her stay here. But now it’s past 7, and no one is back yet. Also, this woman doesn’t know me and does not have my contact info because we’re literally 3-4 houses away from each other. The only communication we have is talking at the bus stop 1-2 days a week in the morning. MY GOSH
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Post by angelashly on Oct 28, 2021 7:17:09 GMT -6
The older sister came to get her 15 min ago. Told me her mom asked for my phone number. She has 5 kids, so I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I would be so nervous to have my kids stay with someone I barely know without being within earshot. She is a nice lady but very trusting. She lets the daughter walk home from the bus stop by herself too, so 2 days a week when I’m home I have her walk with us. (The bus stop is a trek for us. Not within sight of the house at all.) How old is your DD? This wouldn’t make me nervous at all. You talk to this woman multiple times a week for a while now (even just chatting at the bus stop) and your kids are friends and you invited the kid over? Maybe I’m missing info but this is absolutlry a non-issue for me unless the kid is under 4 and still at that age when they need pretty regular supervision For me it would be the whole I'll bring her back by six and then sending the other kid over to say well they decided to go out so they won't be back until after 7 that bothers me
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Post by sudsy on Oct 28, 2021 7:59:16 GMT -6
I somehow adopted a kid for the evening. It was not my intent. I offered to have DD’s new friend to come over to hang out and I bought stuff to make individual pizzas. So I told her mom if it was ok, she was welcome to stay for dinner. I told her I’d bring her back by 6. Well, just as the kids were sitting down to eat, there was a knock at the door. It was the older sister saying that the rest of the family was going out and would be back at 7. I couldn’t stop the kids from eating, so I agreed to just let her stay here. But now it’s past 7, and no one is back yet. Also, this woman doesn’t know me and does not have my contact info because we’re literally 3-4 houses away from each other. The only communication we have is talking at the bus stop 1-2 days a week in the morning. MY GOSH I can’t tell if this is directed towards me or the other mom.
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Post by angelashly on Oct 28, 2021 8:02:18 GMT -6
I can’t tell if this is directed towards me or the other mom. The other mom. I've had this where I invited my little sister over for a specific reason and what was supposed to be a few hours turned into the full day because my mom was doing everything else.
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