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Post by vino on Apr 26, 2021 10:55:55 GMT -6
inthekitty Technically no. There are a lot of postings all over the country and we've been 'lucky' that the farthest he has had to go is 2 hours away and we just did IR and he was gone Mon-Fri. Between his education, jobs and promotions his jobs have always been here since it's a large base. He is up for promotion in July and his job will be here again, so he is good for a least a year. He is pretty close to retirement, I think 4 years now, and we've had many talks that if he gets posted we'll just deal with it. He can be posted and we'd stay. It is not for everyone but for me to leave my good paying govt job, our home, kids school to go to a lesser quality of life for a short period of 3 years it's not worth it to us. I know it's not for everyone and I feel we get judged a lot when it comes up esp with military folk but we've had extensive talks about the future. Now if we get a postings to another country post pandemic, we'd consider it since the kids are older and it'd be a good life experience for them. I totally get it. MH travels so much, and so much of his business is in DC (about 4 hours away) so many people don't understand why we don't just move there. But it doesn't make sense for us. I have a good job here, I have a major support system, and the kids have a good life. Together, we decided that was more important then uprooting all of that. But I feel judged sometimes too. It's the worst. When I was on another floor at work years a go there was one lady who was all 'oh my god your husband is gone so much, how do you do it, how does your marriage survive' all the time making comments. Finally, I just said 'my god you're husband is home all the time, that must get suffocating' . She was totally flabbergasted and I just said, 'doesnt feel good to be judged for life choices for your family, eh?' I got an apology and word got around the floor, so people either stayed out of my business or asked respectful questions about military life/family life. I dont give a shit how people live, how they conduct their homes or what they deem as family life. Not my business. So it always takes me aback when people are disrespectful of our very well thought out choices.
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Post by vino on Apr 26, 2021 11:00:38 GMT -6
Oooooh inthekitty, I would be annoyed as well.It happens all the time here, 'dad this, dad that, dad took me here, we went there, best day ever'.....meanwhile I'm running this house like a well run machine day in and day out. I revel in the fact that the sweet sound of 'thank you' when they are 25+ will happen. Only 18 years to go...... In saying that there was a time just before MH left this time and B was chatting before he went to bed and telling me that he trusts me more, to tell me things and to handle problems. That's when he was having the issues with the kid at school, so he noticed that I tried to come up with a plan to make sure he was heard and made his life better. Not gonna lie, it felt amazing to hear that.
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 26, 2021 12:13:22 GMT -6
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 26, 2021 12:39:51 GMT -6
vino Yay for the offer going through! Congrats! Your plate will be full indeed. As to what you have decided what is right for your family, I think it’s awesome and totally why. Also, Why would someone judge what you believe to be right for your family? So weird, but clearly you have a plan and I applaud you. I definitely tried to breach that subject with Mh with this move, but Mh hates being away from the boys, even it was just for a year. I could have toughed it out for sure, but it’s would have been hard for him, so we move. 😒 I’m starting to get excited about somewhere new, though. Moving is so much work, though.
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 26, 2021 12:48:55 GMT -6
Here I am thinking people may judge us for moving so much, and I’m jaw dropped at people actually judging you all for wanting to stay put for support, jobs, etc. People be peopling. 🙄 I think you all are amazing for being willing to take on solo parenting for long periods of time because that shit is hard. Bravo and keep being amazing moms.😘 vino and jewels
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Post by wedding on Apr 26, 2021 12:50:44 GMT -6
vino I missed it, what is this golf course property? A new home, land to build on...? Congratulations either way! Congrats to you too jewels! I'm glad he passed. Ugh to your day of Dr's tgrimes. kim22 I hope your meeting went well today. SSDD here
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 26, 2021 12:52:49 GMT -6
Okay so I’m a pw. ☺️
The boys are inside the dentist office and I’m sitting here dicking around on my phone. I wouldn’t mind if it takes 30 min or so as I sit here in silence.
The appraiser came when I was en route to get them, so that’s done. I may run in the grocery store once they are done to pick up a few things that can’t wait. M needs lunch for tomorrow. Baseball this afternoon.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 26, 2021 13:16:31 GMT -6
There are rumblings of a dress code change. I swear if they try to tell me what to wear, but do nothing about Smokey's wild and free boobs, I'm going to have an issue. She announced about a month ago that she hadn't changed her clothes in a week....I'm hoping it has to do with those 2 things and not trying to control what the normal people here actually wear. I shouldn't have to dress up to be in an office that clients don't come to. I will also not be told to dress up because I'm the receptionist....I. am. not. your. receptionist. I am helping in this position until you hire someone else.
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Post by kim22 on Apr 26, 2021 13:45:21 GMT -6
The meeting went great. I was prepared for an interview but really she wanted to tell me about the available job and ask if I was still interested. It’s a 1/2 day preschool class so different groups in the morning and afternoon. I didn’t know they still had 1/2 day because we now have free full day preschool for all so I’m thinking my class is going to be the 3 years olds just out of early intervention. It’s in a preschool only building really close to my house. I asked if she wanted to know about me and she said she heard enough good things. I want the job so she’s submitting for approval for my transfer so as long as that goes through I’m good.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 26, 2021 13:48:07 GMT -6
There are rumblings of a dress code change. I swear if they try to tell me what to wear, but do nothing about Smokey's wild and free boobs, I'm going to have an issue. She announced about a month ago that she hadn't changed her clothes in a week....I'm hoping it has to do with those 2 things and not trying to control what the normal people here actually wear. I shouldn't have to dress up to be in an office that clients don't come to. I will also not be told to dress up because I'm the receptionist....I. am. not. your. receptionist. I am helping in this position until you hire someone else. Quoting myself. Don't get me wrong, I'm fine with dress codes, but when you have a staff of 3 people I don't see why its necessary. 6 attorneys, 4 are partners, they don't have to follow any dress code rules that are put in place. It would literally be rules for just us 3. I think it would be dumb.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 26, 2021 13:49:13 GMT -6
kim22, I would love that job. I hope your transfer goes through and it works out for you!
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Post by jewels on Apr 26, 2021 13:52:14 GMT -6
woo hoo kim22! Sounds perfect for you! Also, I would NOT have the patience for a full day of 3 year olds. It takes a special person to do that!!!
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 26, 2021 14:34:48 GMT -6
I really liked the new doctor we saw today on the palate team. She said he definitely has velopharyngeal insufficiency and although he does not have a submucous cleft, there's another type of cleft that can be hidden that they would need to scope him to see. For now, we will get scheduled for a visit to her clinic. They only do them once a month and they only have 4 appts that day because they last between 2-3 hours. If we can't get on the schedule for May, we'll hopefully get in for June.
She also wants us to see a geneticist. She thinks he might have Digeorge Syndrome. Apparently it can take awhile to get in to see them so I need to call them today.
She told me we were in the right place and at their clinic they would go over way more information and also decide if he needs specialized therapy, surgery right away or wait it out. Overall, I'm a bit freaked out, but glad they have specialists here that focus on this and know how to handle his situation.
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 26, 2021 14:40:51 GMT -6
The meeting went great. I was prepared for an interview but really she wanted to tell me about the available job and ask if I was still interested. It’s a 1/2 day preschool class so different groups in the morning and afternoon. I didn’t know they still had 1/2 day because we now have free full day preschool for all so I’m thinking my class is going to be the 3 years olds just out of early intervention. It’s in a preschool only building really close to my house. I asked if she wanted to know about me and she said she heard enough good things. I want the job so she’s submitting for approval for my transfer so as long as that goes through I’m good. Yay! Congrats. I knew you had it in the bag because you are a badass!
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 26, 2021 14:42:30 GMT -6
There are rumblings of a dress code change. I swear if they try to tell me what to wear, but do nothing about Smokey's wild and free boobs, I'm going to have an issue. She announced about a month ago that she hadn't changed her clothes in a week....I'm hoping it has to do with those 2 things and not trying to control what the normal people here actually wear. I shouldn't have to dress up to be in an office that clients don't come to. I will also not be told to dress up because I'm the receptionist....I. am. not. your. receptionist. I am helping in this position until you hire someone else. Quoting myself. Don't get me wrong, I'm fine with dress codes, but when you have a staff of 3 people I don't see why its necessary. 6 attorneys, 4 are partners, they don't have to follow any dress code rules that are put in place. It would literally be rules for just us 3. I think it would be dumb.
I’m with you on this. No dress code necessary. Maybe they will make it a general- make sure you come in with fresh clothing everyday for smoky’s nasty butt.
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Post by vino on Apr 26, 2021 14:45:39 GMT -6
tgrimes I'm sorry you're uneasy with todays appointment, it sounds like there is a really good team and hopefully you can get in for appointments soon. Thinking of you.
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 26, 2021 14:49:21 GMT -6
Quoting myself. Don't get me wrong, I'm fine with dress codes, but when you have a staff of 3 people I don't see why its necessary. 6 attorneys, 4 are partners, they don't have to follow any dress code rules that are put in place. It would literally be rules for just us 3. I think it would be dumb.
I’m with you on this. No dress code necessary. Maybe they will make it a general- make sure you come in with fresh clothing everyday for smoky’s nasty butt. I can't stop laughing at smoky's nasty butt. I needed that.
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 26, 2021 14:51:09 GMT -6
tgrimes Glad you feel good about this new doctor. I had to google that diagnosis. That would explain his immune issues. I’m sure it’s a lot to take in, but you are doing great and hopefully getting closer to giving your little guy the best care and treatment.
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Post by inthekitty on Apr 26, 2021 14:51:28 GMT -6
Oh kim22 that's awesome! Congrats and I hope the transition goes smoothly. klong11 I agree with you. And as usual, WTF to Smoky. tgrimes yay for a doctor who's on it and being on the path to a correct dx. That must be such a relief after all this time.
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 26, 2021 14:52:12 GMT -6
I’m with you on this. No dress code necessary. Maybe they will make it a general- make sure you come in with fresh clothing everyday for smoky’s nasty butt. I can't stop laughing at smoky's nasty butt. I needed that. I wanted to say funky ass nasty butt, but I thought that was a little too harsh. I’m a work in progress. 😁
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Post by mwhip on Apr 26, 2021 16:27:55 GMT -6
tgrimes that is a lot to take in...I'm glad you and H sound like you're on the right path to finding the source and hopefully relief, for his medical issues. But whoa to a 2 to 3 hour appointment! I hope they can get you in quickly.
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Post by mwhip on Apr 26, 2021 16:28:33 GMT -6
kim22 congrats! Thats so exciting for you!
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Post by lfig on Apr 26, 2021 16:48:43 GMT -6
tgrimes it took 9 months for us to get in to the geneticist. Hopefully it won’t be that long for you. I know you just want answers. I’m glad you like the new dr though! It sounds like someone is finally trying to help figure out the mystery that is your child!
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Post by lfig on Apr 26, 2021 16:54:06 GMT -6
Also, hi!
I’ve been crazy busy at work and have 4 additional men in my house for the last week. So that’s keeping me busy! But they all leave tomorrow! And my H is leaving with them! They are going to drop him off in AL on their way home to GA to pick up his truck that broke down on vacation. So I’m looking forward to my day off work tomorrow with no one home and Sierra at school!
My 8 year old niece fell off the monkey bars at school today and broke her humerus bone just above the elbow, and her wrist in 2 places. She is having surgery tomorrow to put pins in. My sister works at the school so she was able to be with her quickly.
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Post by guster on Apr 26, 2021 17:29:52 GMT -6
That is awesome, kim22! Excited for you! tgrimes, I would feel overwhelmed, too, but I am glad that you have a Doctor who is taking the situation seriously and has some direction for you.
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Post by jewels on Apr 26, 2021 17:37:01 GMT -6
tgrimes I echo what everyone else said. I’m glad you finally are getting some answers for H
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Post by kim22 on Apr 26, 2021 17:51:38 GMT -6
jewels so glad he passed tgrimes that’s scary but I hope you get some real answers
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