Magical Monday

[klong11]

[klong11]

My kid came to my bed at 5 am. She managed to wake me up prior to that because I heard her laughing in her sleep from across the hall. She brought her own blanket and pillow though, so I was fine with her joining me. Unfortunately the cats took this as their cue to wake up for hte day, puke in the hallway, and beat the shit out of each other.
So now I'm at work feeling groggy, my head is achy like it's trying to decide if it wants to be a full blown headache or not, and they messed up my coffee order at Starbucks.

I left 4 worksheets for Cadence to do while I'm at work. She's all for it. She understands its review for when school starts back up and she knows if she gets them done she gets something out of the prize bucket. I was telling mh the directions for the worksheets last night (yes, he needed me to walk him through kinder worksheets) he then started complaining it was too much and he has to work. At most all he would have to do is read the directions at the top of each page, she knows what to do and wouldn't need any help. Too much for him!
I looked at him and said, "what happens in a few weeks when school actually starts? She has to be logged in at various times and working on things. Are you going to be able to handle that or....?"
"Katie, that's REAL school."
"yeeees, and this is review for REAL school, so she's comfortable at their starting point."
I ended the night by saying I would just bring her to work with me and handle everything, as per usual.
Now I'm even more stressed about school because I feel like he's going to screw it up and not log her in and help her when needed.

[jewels]

Ugh I'm sorry klong11 This school shit is so stressful, and adding in a partner that's not able to help... it sucks

I am 99% sure we are going to be sending S to either a pod or the Y "camp" for school. I am home now, but truly think that he will do better in a group with other kids. I also am hopeful to get back into the office sometime soon. MH is helpful when it's for short spurts, but would be too focused on work to help in any long term meaningful way with school. So, while this may not be the most cost effective option, we will make it work for all of our sanity.

[jewels]

I dropped the boys off at camp/day care and am checking in here/checking emails/drinking coffee before heading out to grocery shop and costco.

We had B in underwear for a few hours Saturday (then we went to the pool so put him in a swim diaper) and all day Sunday. Sunday he had a few accidents in the morning then he stayed dry from noon till bedtime. But not once did he tell us he had to go. He peed when we put him on the potty.

I really am wondering if he just doesn't feel it. When he had his accidents, he would just look down and say "I'm wet!" like it was a surprise to him or something. I was originally thinking he was stubborn but now I'm wondering if it's something different.

Hmmmm...

[peachsmama]

Morning. We took our usual 9am golf cart ride. Then the kids played outside while I cleaned up the yard some. Theres boxes and packaging and all that from the pool. M has been begging for a box fort so since we have all these giant boxes, I think we'll make that happen today in the basement. I need to place a grocery order but other than that, just relaxing today. Mom wants to go out to lunch but idk where.

[lahdeedah]

Aug 17, 2020 7:40:17 GMT -6 jewels said:

I dropped the boys off at camp/day care and am checking in here/checking emails/drinking coffee before heading out to grocery shop and costco.

We had B in underwear for a few hours Saturday (then we went to the pool so put him in a swim diaper) and all day Sunday. Sunday he had a few accidents in the morning then he stayed dry from noon till bedtime. But not once did he tell us he had to go. He peed when we put him on the potty.

I really am wondering if he just doesn't feel it. When he had his accidents, he would just look down and say "I'm wet!" like it was a surprise to him or something. I was originally thinking he was stubborn but now I'm wondering if it's something different.

Hmmmm...

M2 does the same. He never says he has to go. We have to prompt him to go 98% of the time. Does he push back when you tell him it’s time? I think M2 is just too busy to stop and go because usually I get push back and a lot of ‘not yet, I don’t want to’ when I tell him to go.

[lahdeedah]

klong11 Sorry about the worksheet debacle with YH. Do you go over it with C, too? When I send workbooks with M to do at Mh’s job, I usually go over the pages with him the night before so he has an idea of what to do.

[klong11]

Aug 17, 2020 8:16:11 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

klong11 Sorry about the worksheet debacle with YH. Do you go over it with C, too? When I send workbooks with M to do at Mh’s job, I usually go over the pages with him the night before so he has an idea of what to do.

Yes, I went over them this morning with her and she was perfectly fine with it.

I'm concerned that if he has a bad attitude about it she will then have a bad attitude about it as well.

I get that it's summer and why make her do these worksheets in the first place, but I'm seriously concerned about her falling behind. She has finally started wanting to try and read (thank you Camp Grandma!), and I don't want her to lose that momentum because he's being so weird about it all.

[jewels]

Aug 17, 2020 8:13:52 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

Aug 17, 2020 7:40:17 GMT -6 jewels said:

I dropped the boys off at camp/day care and am checking in here/checking emails/drinking coffee before heading out to grocery shop and costco.

We had B in underwear for a few hours Saturday (then we went to the pool so put him in a swim diaper) and all day Sunday. Sunday he had a few accidents in the morning then he stayed dry from noon till bedtime. But not once did he tell us he had to go. He peed when we put him on the potty.

I really am wondering if he just doesn't feel it. When he had his accidents, he would just look down and say "I'm wet!" like it was a surprise to him or something. I was originally thinking he was stubborn but now I'm wondering if it's something different.

Hmmmm...

M2 does the same. He never says he has to go. We have to prompt him to go 98% of the time. Does he push back when you tell him it’s time? I think M2 is just too busy to stop and go because usually I get push back and a lot of ‘not yet, I don’t want to’ when I tell him to go.

He was pushing back before.  We got a cheap paw patrol watch as a gift and it has a timer on it.  He responds pretty well to that about 75% of the time.  The rest of the time it's the same "not yet, I just need to finish XYZ first".  At school he goes every hour and they say he doesn't fight them at all.  

Also, B is 4.  It just seems too old.  

[klong11]

Aug 17, 2020 7:36:45 GMT -6 jewels said:

Ugh I'm sorry klong11 This school shit is so stressful, and adding in a partner that's not able to help... it sucks

I am 99% sure we are going to be sending S to either a pod or the Y "camp" for school. I am home now, but truly think that he will do better in a group with other kids. I also am hopeful to get back into the office sometime soon. MH is helpful when it's for short spurts, but would be too focused on work to help in any long term meaningful way with school. So, while this may not be the most cost effective option, we will make it work for all of our sanity.

I would do that, but with me still only part time it's just not in the financial cards for us right now. Mh seems to forget that I'm making half of what I was and I'm still buying groceries, paying bills, etc. But, that's a whole other issue!

[klong11]

jewels, When the timer goes off is he the only one sent to the bathroom to go? Maybe if everyone goes it will be more enticing for him. Like, "oh, potty break everyone" and everyone lines up at the bathroom, just like at school.

[guster]

I’m sorry, @klongotia. That’s not a way to start the morning. I hope yh helps her get started today.

[jewels]

Aug 17, 2020 8:33:36 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Aug 17, 2020 8:16:11 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

klong11 Sorry about the worksheet debacle with YH. Do you go over it with C, too? When I send workbooks with M to do at Mh’s job, I usually go over the pages with him the night before so he has an idea of what to do.

Yes, I went over them this morning with her and she was perfectly fine with it.

I'm concerned that if he has a bad attitude about it she will then have a bad attitude about it as well.

I get that it's summer and why make her do these worksheets in the first place, but I'm seriously concerned about her falling behind. She has finally started wanting to try and read (thank you Camp Grandma!), and I don't want her to lose that momentum because he's being so weird about it all.

S has the worst attitude about school now, which is part of why I am planning to outsource it.  He had just really gotten good at reading when school closed down, and he was so proud and loving it.  Now asking him to read is met with groans and "I hate reading" etc.  I am afraid it's because the experience was so rough with him and I doing school and now he has a bad taste about it.  

I am going the other route.  I figure all the kids are behind to an extent.  I am pretty much leaving schooling alone for the summer and just letting him be.  Occasionally asking him to read a book but that's about it.  He also plays a coding game on the computer that he loves so he does that, but only when he asks for it.  I am worried about him developing a distaste for school at such a young age.  

This is all so tough, and there is not roadmap for it since this has never happened before.

Ugh... now I'm stressed out again.

[nam2013]

@kongloria11 Ugh That’s no way to start your day or your week! Hope your h will see the importance of this.

[jewels]

Aug 17, 2020 8:34:37 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Aug 17, 2020 7:36:45 GMT -6 jewels said:

Ugh I'm sorry klong11 This school shit is so stressful, and adding in a partner that's not able to help... it sucks

I am 99% sure we are going to be sending S to either a pod or the Y "camp" for school. I am home now, but truly think that he will do better in a group with other kids. I also am hopeful to get back into the office sometime soon. MH is helpful when it's for short spurts, but would be too focused on work to help in any long term meaningful way with school. So, while this may not be the most cost effective option, we will make it work for all of our sanity.

I would do that, but with me still only part time it's just not in the financial cards for us right now. Mh seems to forget that I'm making half of what I was and I'm still buying groceries, paying bills, etc. But, that's a whole other issue!

I totally get that, and I know I am so lucky that we have that option.  It's yet another way that all the financial disparities are effecting kids and it sucks.  C is lucky that you are so involved so she will do great, but I worry so much about so many of the kids right now.  

[jewels]

Aug 17, 2020 8:36:43 GMT -6 klong11 said:

jewels , When the timer goes off is he the only one sent to the bathroom to go? Maybe if everyone goes it will be more enticing for him. Like, "oh, potty break everyone" and everyone lines up at the bathroom, just like at school.

He usually will go when the timer goes off, so that's not really our issue.  I'm more trying to figure out how to get him to realize that he needs to go on his own. It's like he can't feel the urge or something?  

[nam2013]

Morning. My uncle came out to help out last night which was great, and today was just calls to our insurance who stated that we would only be reimbursed for the planks that are damaged... that won’t fly. Luckily we have a middle man, who immediately said ‘well let me just handle that, that is ridiculous’.

Ds had his very first day in first grade today. He was so nerveus! Poor thing. Dd was still home, because the new first graders assemble in their old class and their old teacher brings them to first grade, very sweet.

I had a lovely morning with Dd, I figured I nights as well take advantage of the cool but nice weather and the quiet of early Monday morning and took her for a babyccino an coffee for our first mummy daughter date in six months!

[nam2013]

jewels for ds It took a little while for him to click, he would also be so immersed in his play/activities he’d simply forget. Hopefully B will get the hang if it soon!

[lahdeedah]

Morning.

SIL called me early and said I needed to come to the hospital. MH didn’t have a great night. Since he couldn’t keep anything down before the surgery, he tried to eat too much in the last 24 hours. He had some indigestion last night and it continued through the night and kept him up. His GI system is slow to start up, so they ended up having to put an NG tube in this morning. Definitely not going home today.

I got M2 off to school before coming here and FIL will be here at some point so I can head home for a few hours. I need to do a grocery run and do a little cleaning.

[tgrimes]

lahdeedah I'm sorry he's having a rough time.

[lahdeedah]

Aug 17, 2020 8:33:36 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Aug 17, 2020 8:16:11 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

klong11 Sorry about the worksheet debacle with YH. Do you go over it with C, too? When I send workbooks with M to do at Mh’s job, I usually go over the pages with him the night before so he has an idea of what to do.

Yes, I went over them this morning with her and she was perfectly fine with it.

I'm concerned that if he has a bad attitude about it she will then have a bad attitude about it as well.

I get that it's summer and why make her do these worksheets in the first place, but I'm seriously concerned about her falling behind. She has finally started wanting to try and read (thank you Camp Grandma!), and I don't want her to lose that momentum because he's being so weird about it all.

Totally get that. Hopefully he answers any questions she has without hindering her motivation.

Our school sent out some review things everyone can do this month since we don’t start until Sept., but they were things that, IMO, he would be bored with. Things they started off doing in kindergarten review. They did send home a summer packet for rising 1st graders at the end of last year and that’s what we have been doing this month because I completely forgot about it over June and July. Whoops! I also need to make him review the sight words from distance learning that we didn’t do. I think I’ll task Nana with that this week to start off. 😁

[mwhip]

Morning!

lahdeedah I just caught up from the weekend, glad you took your H to the ER. Hopefully he rested good and gets to come home today!

A lot of our local schools are starting in the next week, my SIL goes back this Wednesday, we start next Wednesday, so it will be interesting to see what happens in the next few weeks. I really want to hear the enrollment numbers since so many said on FB that they would do virtual learning.

[nam2013]

@lahdeehdah I’m so sorry, hopefully he’ll start feeling better soon.

[vino]

jewels I know that J is a little younger than your B but she is the same with going, we ask her and she just tells us no, even B asks every so often. Then she is holding herself and saying I HAVE TO GO NOOOOOWWWWWW'. I just make sure that there are times that things dont happen until she goes, like bike rides, walks, when she changes to go on the pool, whenever we go somewhere in the car etc. I find that setting times where it's not an option and I worry less about accidents.

I think that at these young ages they find it as an inconvenience to go to the bathroom and takes away from their playing time.

[vino]

Ugh I am sorry that he is having a rough time lahdeedah, I had mine out a hundred years ago and I still remember how awful it was for recovery. I hope he starts feeling better soon and goes easy on himself. Thinking of you guys.

[klong11]

lahdeedah, sorry he isn't doing well. Hopefully his system will straighten out and he'll be home soon.

[lfig]

lahdeedah I’m sorry YH is having a rough time. I’m glad your in laws are there to help out!

[lfig]

I’m scrambling to get things done today because tomorrow is Sierra’s VNS surgery. No food after 5:30am. We have to be there at 11:30 and surgery is at 1. I hope she doesn’t get too hangry!!

[mwhip]

that's a long time for her to go with no food lfig, I hope she does okay without it. I wouldn't be able to keep Evie out of food that long during the day.

[kim22]

lahdeedah I’m sorry Yh’s recovery has been rough.

lfig I will be thinking of you guys tomorrow, update when you can.