Tuesday Tellings

[cagoldi]

Jun 2, 2020 19:21:08 GMT -6 snoopmommymom said:

Jun 2, 2020 17:30:23 GMT -6 kim22 said:

All of you sending kids to camp, getting your hair done, getting your houses cleaned by someone else and going out to dinner are giving me hope! Salons open on my birthday here (June 22) but there are wait lists forever. I may be allowed into my classroom next week for 30 minutes to collect personal belongings. It’s March 13th there and I have half finished tests on my desks.

Today I got a request to write an IEP for the student I posted in the group about in January. As far as we know, there is no change so that was a punch in the gut.

I was thinking the same thing. None of that stuff is open here yet.

Yeah it’s gone from maybe it’s okay soon? to stay fuck home because things are boarded up for riots so, IDK.

A lot of stuff reopened for a few days then closed again.

[jewels]

kim22 they did announce about the camps and day cares opening here in NJ. I'm struggling so much about what to do! I just don't know what the right answer is. I think your kids did more "specialty" camps (like gymnastics/hockey etc)? Around me, those are mostly cancelled but the generic ones seem to be happening b/c they are just running around outside I guess.

What are you planning on doing for the summer, those in the NE like me where things are opening slower? (snoopmommymom, joelies guster kim22 wedding tallb And I can't remember who else?)

[snoopmommymom]

Jun 3, 2020 7:51:56 GMT -6 jewels said:

kim22 they did announce about the camps and day cares opening here in NJ. I'm struggling so much about what to do! I just don't know what the right answer is. I think your kids did more "specialty" camps (like gymnastics/hockey etc)? Around me, those are mostly cancelled but the generic ones seem to be happening b/c they are just running around outside I guess.

What are you planning on doing for the summer, those in the NE like me where things are opening slower? (snoopmommymom, joelies guster kim22 wedding tallb And I can't remember who else?)

I don’t think camps are opening here. Kids will be home all summer and I’ll continue to work from home i guess until the school tells us to come back in.

[joelies]

I think a few camps are running with massively reduced enrollment. I'm still hoping J's is cancelled because the boys will be home all summer. Daycare reopens to some extent at the end of the month but I have no idea as to what that means, and we will not be rushing back while they are still figuring it all out. DH has a 1 week furlough and I will probably use some timeoff as well. I have no idea how to keep everyone sane and happy.

[tallb]

Jun 3, 2020 7:56:15 GMT -6 snoopmommymom said:

Jun 3, 2020 7:51:56 GMT -6 jewels said:

kim22 they did announce about the camps and day cares opening here in NJ. I'm struggling so much about what to do! I just don't know what the right answer is. I think your kids did more "specialty" camps (like gymnastics/hockey etc)? Around me, those are mostly cancelled but the generic ones seem to be happening b/c they are just running around outside I guess.

What are you planning on doing for the summer, those in the NE like me where things are opening slower? (snoopmommymom, joelies guster kim22 wedding tallb And I can't remember who else?)

I don’t think camps are opening here. Kids will be home all summer and I’ll continue to work from home i guess until the school tells us to come back in.

+1

Some outdoor camps are allowed to open in different counties, and the one we had signed up for said they may be able to offer something later, but I kind of doubt it. We aren't sending K back if they open daycare at the end of the month since it's across town.

[jewels]

So our camp is opening as of July 6. It is at the same place as B is supposed to start Day Care (new place we had decided on a few weeks before all this started). They seem like they have their act together and sent out emails detailing their plans. But I just don't know.

On the 1 hand, the kids desperately need structure and friends and what not. And I need some space from them lol. On the other hand, I am terrified.

I'm just so unsure.

[guster]

Camps are allowed to open here but many of them are choosing not to and the ones that are have very strict restrictions in place. Our kids will be home this summer. Josie will take a virtual tap class but otherwise, it won’t be much different than the last few months have been.

[kim22]

Since I don’t work summers, my kids just did camps for fun. We haven’t signed up for anything yet. DS’s entire spring hockey league never started and they are considering a summer league if they are allowed to. We would let him to that. DD’s gymnastics is still waiting for guidance. She is supposed to go 9 hours a week. They have 5 girls her level that train with 8 girls a level below with 2 coaches. I’m hoping they can do something even if they go half the time with just the girls in their own level. Right now they offer a 30 minute Zoom 5 days a week just for strength and flexibility. I don’t know if gymnastics falls into the same category as gyms. They have a camp during the day also so don’t know if that puts them in the camp category.

We were looking into surf camp at the beach for the 2 oldest. The one surf shop does lessons at our beach. I may call and see if I can just have an instructor with my 2 kids for some lessons.

We have decided that even if we are both working from home in September, C will return to the sitter if she will allow him. She has 5 kids in her home. He’s basically raising himself for half the day and getting into all kinds of trouble. He needs structure and friends.

[wedding]

Cs after school care is also where he did preschool and summer camp. Because they are childcare they were able to open June 1st and were accepting school age kids and helping them with distance learning each day. I didn’t want to put that distance learning struggle onto someone since it’s been rough with C so he is just going Wednesdays the first three weeks of June. I also wanted to ease in a little. He will start summer camp there on the 22nd. They have a really good detailed plan in place that makes me feel as comfortable as I can I think.

Today was his first day and I was so nervous dropping him off. We haven’t had more than an hour apart in three months! When I picked him up his teacher said he was laughing and smiling all day. He said he had a great time and made some new friends. He came home tired and hungry, like he always used to. I also loved hearing the chorus of kids shouting “Bye Callan!” when he left. It was something I didn’t realize I missed.



jewels I have had mom guilt like no other with making this choice. I felt guilty increasing his exposure but I also feel guilty daily when he asks me to do something and I can’t because I have time sensitive work or a conference call. It feels like a no win.

It came down to him really needing the socialization, the independence, and the activity. He has always loved having his own world separate from us.

I also really need the space for my own well being. I have been making stupid mistakes at work because of the constant interruptions and pressure to get everything done. I’ve been going a mile a minute since March and the cracks are starting to show in my work.

I have also been struggling with the feeling of losing my identity. Before I would get in my car after the bus picked up and become a professional in my nice clothes, my nice office, working with people who respect me, and having some tangible work product at the end of the day that I knew was good. I didn’t have to stop and get people snacks, log someone into their Zoom and fight them to do their work, or constantly vacuum under the couch cushions. I miss the work me, and even though I won’t be dressing up or going to my office when he goes full time, I will likely be able to say with confidence that I did a good job at the end of the day because I will be doing it uninterrupted.

So my best advice is to pick what works best for everyone and decide what’s more important. When I added it up for us it felt like we would lose more by not going. Although the cost savings was nice😃

[wedding]

And that was hella long! 😐

[joelies]

wedding - If daycare could actually explain their plans and they were reasonable, I'd send both boys. They need normalcy and friends and to get away from screens! We are still waiting for the details they promised late last week but honestly, I'm not surprised. I love the local staff but the parent company has really tarnished the relationship.

[wedding]

Jun 3, 2020 16:09:26 GMT -6 joelies said:

wedding - If daycare could actually explain their plans and they were reasonable, I'd send both boys. They need normalcy and friends and to get away from screens! We are still waiting for the details they promised late last week but honestly, I'm not surprised. I love the local staff but the parent company has really tarnished the relationship.

Ugh that’s frustrating! Ours gave us a copy of what they submitted to the Governor and have been in regular communication with us this whole time so I feel pretty good about it.

[peachsmama]

Its a cool 91 degrees. I'm sitting outside watching M at ball practice. J stayed with my mom so I've just got MJ, who is very cranky.

[lahdeedah]

Jun 3, 2020 16:02:20 GMT -6 wedding said:

And that was hella long! 😐

You have put a lot of thought into it and even I’m sure you are doing what’s best for everyone in your family.

[lahdeedah]

I’m not in the northeast, but M2 never stopped going to daycare, so it’s safe to say I cannot judge. I had a little guilt, but having him home would have made things soooo much harder on everyone. In that time he lost the runny nose he had for weeks before and was completely healthy, so I’m glad we kept him going to keep his routine. If I was in a hotspot area, I would have felt differently though, jewels.

It seems like MH will be expecting local athletes next month, so I need to sign M up for camp and I am a little nervous about that since he has been home since beginning of March, so I get it.

I would say just wait it out and see what your numbers do over the next few weeks before you make the decision. Is there any way they can go part time?

This may not sound great, but can you just start B and keep S home? M kinda does his own thing and doesn’t really bother us when he is home by himself. He does his art, build LEGOs, plays wii, watches his shows and we just have to feed him breakfast and lunch for the most part. Or maybe just delay S starting camp by a week or two?

Okay I need to stop typing as I think because clearly I am rambling.

[jewels]

lahdeedah those are all good questions. Unfortunately, due to all the restrictions and the super small groups mandated, they are not able to go part time. It’s full time or nothing. And while yes, S is way easier to be home with all day, B is the one I am more worried about. He’ll be starting a new school in the midst of all this (and is not good w change) and still lives with his fingers in his mouth). I feel like S would be more conscious of hand washing etc.

I have till tomorrow to make my final decision and I’m sure I will change my mind 800 times

[lahdeedah]

Jun 4, 2020 6:52:00 GMT -6 jewels said:

lahdeedah those are all good questions. Unfortunately, due to all the restrictions and the super small groups mandated, they are not able to go part time. It’s full time or nothing. And while yes, S is way easier to be home with all day, B is the one I am more worried about. He’ll be starting a new school in the midst of all this (and is not good w change) and still lives with his fingers in his mouth). I feel like S would be more conscious of hand washing etc.

I have till tomorrow to make my final decision and I’m sure I will change my mind 800 times

I completely get that. I think B has had more issues with illness, too, so I can see why you are more concerned for him. M is my child that always keeps his hands in his mouth, another reason why I’m nervous to send him to camp.

[chrisy01]

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