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Post by vvvvvfee on Jul 6, 2017 9:06:08 GMT -6
For the purposes of this check-in, we will define extended breastfeeding as breastfeeding beyond 1 year. Questions are repeated and suggestions are appreciated! 1. How old is your LO? 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? Pregnant & BFing Moms: How are you doing this week? Any issues with supply, pain, aversion? Questions for other moms? Tandem Nursing Moms: How are you doing this week? Any current challenges? Questions for other moms? Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2017 9:15:08 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 18 months 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? wake-up, before nap & after nap (days i don't work), evening, bed, overnight 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? some in my family. i think i would know more if i asked around because my cousin happened to mention this weekend that she BF'd both kids until 2 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? not sure if i'm really looking forward to it but my clothes will change. i wear a nursing bra, nursing tank and no dresses (no easy access).
Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? the area of law i practice in
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Post by byjove on Jul 6, 2017 10:58:45 GMT -6
1. Turning 19 months this week 2. about 4 on days I work, about 6 or 7 on days I don't 3. Actually quite a few 4. Freedom from worrying about if I will be gone will she be able to go to sleep without nursing, without having to pump, etc. QOTW: Nothing academic worthy that is for sure Night weaning has been successful (mostly). She was having a wake up somewhere between midnight and 2 am and asking for food. We've been trying to give her an extra snack right before bedtime and we've had a couple of nights in a row where she goes to 4:30amish and then I bring her into bed to nurse. I feel more tired now that I'm getting more sleep My supply has also really tanked despite nursing during the day and DD isn't happy with that (she is demanding to switch boobs more often and isn't satisfied when she stops nursing). I've also been experiencing a lot of hormone fluctuations and so much nausea (def not KU). Google has been telling me it's a thing. It sure feels like MS though. FX it ends soon. Anyone else have this when they night weaned?
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Post by vvvvvfee on Jul 6, 2017 11:03:12 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 23 months 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 3-4 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? No, except for my sisters-in-law. 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? Not having to structure my day around BFing. Like when I get home from work, the first thing DS2 wants to do is nurse. I can't even put my stuff down and wash my hands before he starts crying. I remember when I finally weaned DS1 off of that after-work session when I was pregnant, it was such a relief to get home and just be able to do whatever. And it will be nice to just have a teeny tiny bit more of my personal space back.
Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? Food/cooking/recipes, breastfeeding, library work, managing a feral cat colony/Trap-Neuter-Return/raising kittens
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Post by maplebaconbar on Jul 6, 2017 12:16:37 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 2 years 2 months 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? too many. 5 times yesterday evening. I'm trying to cut her back to just 3 or 4 times a day again. 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? just 1 I think... 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? Regular bras! Sleeping with my boobs IN my clothes! Getting home from work and not having to immediately nurse!
Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? Knitting or pretty much anything with wool and yarn.
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Post by jewel on Jul 7, 2017 7:20:26 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 16 months 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 3. I would really like to be down to 2 soon, I am feeling more over nursing lately (although I know I will miss it), but LO really doesn't seem over it, so no rush. 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? A decent amount, there are a handful in my "mom squad" and I know a lot of "stealth" extended nursers... Like people who don't really talk about it unless it comes up, which I guess I am too, but I feel like I am pretty open about it, IDK... like I was telling a friend from work about how at my brother's wedding it was the first time someone besides me put LO to bed, and she was like wow, not even H, and I was like well we are still nursing, and she said ya, 16 months, that's around when both my girls weaned. Makes me happy when I hear things like that from other people... Idk just like solidarity... 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? IDK it feels really far away, bc we are not really close to weaning and TTC, so I feel like I will end up with only a short break and while I am pregnant (hopefully at least) and I feel like that doesn't count. lol. But maybe wearing a wired bra for more than an hour without it feeling horrible. lol
Last night H asked me if I could even get pregnant while still nursing, I was trying to tell him to chill it's only been a few months of trying, and that if you get your period you can get pregnant... I guess it's confusing for a husband (or at least my husband who recently saw me doing an OPK and said is that a pregnancy test? Don't you think you should wait, we just had sex yesterday. LOL), bc at first LA is our method of birth control and now I'm still nursing but we are TTC... I know some people do struggle to get pregnant while they are still nursing, but I am not ready to throw in the towel yet... so just chugging along with nursing and TTC.
Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? I feel like a lot of things. Presenting/talking to clients is a huge part of my job (more so before LO (by choice)) but I feel like once you build that skill it applies easily, so pretty much anything work related, cooking/baking, sewing, TV show plots
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Post by maplebaconbar on Jul 7, 2017 7:55:46 GMT -6
After an evening of M screaming at me because she wanted to nurse any time I sat down, she did the cutest thing. We were snuggled in bed and she was nursing and almost asleep, she pulled off, kissed the side of my boob, and said her little version of "I love you". I could have died of the cute. It made me feel a little bad that she couldn't just nurse all evening because she obviously was really needing the cuddles.
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Post by fuzzylogic on Jul 7, 2017 19:20:52 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 19 months
2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? Six or seven? But I'm a teacher and off for the summer so she gets some extra sessions in around naptime. Normally it would just be morning and evening.
3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? I don't know a lot of people with kids. I think most of the women who have babies around LO's age and a little older and younger have already stopped, or they aren't talking about it. My BMB has several ladies hanging in there. I work with a woman who nursed her youngest child until she was almost three!
4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? Getting to sleep all night long? Is that a thing?
Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? Pretty much anything work-related: I could rehearse a high school band on a piece of literature that I've never seen before for 40 minutes. Hell, we do that regularly in class lol.
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Post by sunfrogger on Jul 8, 2017 7:06:47 GMT -6
1. 19mo 2. 2 on office days, like 5-6 on not office days (we were doing so good!) 3. Just one extended BFer but a handful if mom's on my BMB. 4. Looking forward to not having my boob pulled out literally anywhere.
Pg : no issues yet. My boobs are not sore at all when they were last pg so..
GTKY : I'm not sure. Breastfeeding? Seriously I'm not that great at any one thing.
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Post by valiente on Jul 9, 2017 12:19:00 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 1 1/2 and 3 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 3x ]3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? No 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? Good Q! I think travelling without kids and without pumping. I'd also be happy for increased sex drive and for feeling my boobs are sexy (I don't know if that will ever be the case again - at this poing in my BFing journey I feel like my nips are about as sexy as a cheeseburger.)
Tandem Nursing Moms: How are you doing this week? Any current challenges? Questions for other moms? Home from travel with the kids and I am sick. This is day 7 of gut problems and I need it to stop. Kids do not seem phased in the least.
Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? Probably a lot of things. I'm in academia and can lecture on about anything in my research area. Other things would be water safety, aspects of parenthood, local history and culture, German history and culture, most anything in my personal experience I guess...
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Post by valiente on Jul 9, 2017 12:26:32 GMT -6
Hey, jewel, have you confirmed you're Oing? Just wanted to make sure you're good that bleeding doesn't mean you're Oing.
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Post by tinydancer on Jul 9, 2017 21:21:39 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 17 months 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 2-3 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? I knew at least one in real life, and several moms on my BMB, including a few ladies here! 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? Not having to wear a bra to bed.
Pregnant & BFing Moms: How are you doing this week? Any issues with supply, pain, aversion? Questions for other moms? Well, I'm about 30 seconds pregnant. Things seem to be ok, but sometimes my nipples feel a little different. Sometimes pain, sometimes just different. I travel with some frequency for work and over the last month I've stopped pumping on my work trips. Last week I went basically 3 days without pumping and no leakage, so I guess my supply has regulated (or is decreasing).
Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? Tap dancing.
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Post by tinydancer on Jul 9, 2017 21:25:10 GMT -6
byjove, I didn't have any nausea with night weaning, but I don't tend to have nausea. I'm with you on the feeling more tired when sleeping more though. I hope you feel better!
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Post by valiente on Jul 10, 2017 7:37:34 GMT -6
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Post by lily on Jul 10, 2017 7:58:16 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? - 2.33 year 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? - 4-5x, back to normal after an increase 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? - no 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? - so much more time in our day, especially quicker mornings. Other people putting him to bed, even though he doesn't nurse to sleep so who knows if that will change.
Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? - so much stuff; I'm a talker. Breastfeeding, babywearing. Most ophthalmic diseases, many ophthalmic procedures or surgeries.
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Post by lily on Jul 10, 2017 8:05:31 GMT -6
byjove moreso any time DS suddenly increases number of nursing sessions, I get nausea, hot flashes, mood swings. But the nausea happens to a lesser extent when he drops back down. I also get nausea as an ovulation/PMS symptom which wasn't true for me pre-baby (and therefore pre-breastfeeding.) jewel I second what Valie said. And if you're ovulating, your luteal phase may be short cause of BF, which charting could show you. One of my BMB ladies had that scenario & her OB prescribed progesterone supplements. fuzzylogic for many of my Feb15 BMB ladies who didn't extended BF or didn't BF at all, no, sleeping through the night is still not a thing. Sorry. tinydancer congrats!!
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Post by maplebaconbar on Jul 10, 2017 11:09:09 GMT -6
tinydancer, Congratulations! jewel, I think LAM only really works for the first few months of nursing, right?(too lazy to google) But I agree with the charting if you want want to have a better picture of what's going on. I started charting when DD1 was a year old because I had no idea what was going on with my body and we were TTC.
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Post by fuzzylogic on Jul 10, 2017 12:11:39 GMT -6
lily, my mother reminded me the other day that I didn't STTN (all night) until I was at least two. H didn't until he was three. Kid comes by it honestly. But damn, people will make you feel terrible because they do that little "tsk" breath-suck-in-thing if you say your kid is this age and not sleeping all night long. I don't even sleep all night without waking up to pee or get a drink of water, or from a dream, or a noise and I'm 36!
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Post by tburdin2013 on Jul 11, 2017 17:29:49 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 16.5 months 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? It depends on the day but at least 5 or 6... its difficult to remember how many times she does at night 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? I know other Moms in my area that are, but none that I spend time with. My husbands aunt breastfed all 3 of her kids through toddler age though! 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? Not having to wear breast pads! Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation? Hmm... I really don't know. Probably something mom related though haha
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Post by Risscaboobs on Jul 11, 2017 21:24:33 GMT -6
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Post by byjove on Jul 12, 2017 12:30:24 GMT -6
I would like to amend my what am I looking forward to post BFing to not smelling like sweaty sour milk when it is hot out.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 14, 2017 20:16:47 GMT -6
1. How old is your Almost 3.5 years 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? She has cut back to 1...my supply has totally tanked! Not sure how I feel about it yet. 3. Do you know a lot of other extended BFers in real life? I know a few who are still BFing children the same age as DD. 4. Suggested by lily: What is something you're looking forward to about life after breastfeeding? Being able to wear clothes without worrying whether or not I can comfortably BF in them. Non-BFing question of the week: What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with no preparation? I'm a teacher so anything to do with literary analysis (English or French), mathematical concepts or art. jewel My mom keeps telling me the reason we're on cycle 8 of TFAS is because I'm BFing. I told her it's because we're old. I know my LP is on the short side but it's really only 1 day shorter than when I got KU with DD. I'm also not ready to call it quits. For those of you who got pregnant while BFing what was your LP like while TTC and how many cycles did it take to get pregnant? Also, how were/are your symptoms compared to your first pregnancy? (Yes. I'm doing all the symptom spotting every cycle).
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Post by jewel on Jul 15, 2017 5:40:24 GMT -6
Hey, jewel, have you confirmed you're Oing? Just wanted to make sure you're good that bleeding doesn't mean you're Oing. Yes. I am temping (and doing OPKs) and have clear shifts. I got my cycle back at 10 months and we were TTA then, so I have been intermittently temping since then. My cycle is still fairly regular all though less than before LO, but nothing outgrageous, my cycles have been between 28-32 days and I have o-ed potentially as early as 13 (this month, but I was not so good with temping this month, so that is more based on OPKs, it could have been a bit later but was definitely before 16 when I remembered to temp again and was already at my post-O level) and as late as 18, so a decent luteal phase as well, although again not always as long as before LO. Before LO I was 29 days and pretty O-ed on 15 every time, but I only had a few cycles between BC and being KU. Charting for us is essential. Neither of us has a super high sex drive and having a toddler has not improved it. TTA was really not a challenge for us at all. Lol.
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Post by PinkFreud on Jul 16, 2017 5:23:08 GMT -6
DD is 22 months and still nurses once a day in the morning. I'm looking forward to that extra 15 minutes before work each day. 40 minute presentation easy on what kids should be doing each year in high school for college and career readiness.
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Post by Risscaboobs on Jul 16, 2017 9:06:51 GMT -6
We still bedshare. She likes to nurse MOTN when she wakes for comfort. I'm over it, so I refused last night. Screaming ensued. It was a long night, and I'm very tired today. Anyone else do this and have any anecdote for how long LO will keep trying before they realize that part is over? I'm okay with nursing before bedtime still until my supply runs out or she stops, but I feel like she wakes up more than necessary to nurse MOTN.
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Post by lily on Jul 16, 2017 19:02:59 GMT -6
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Post by Risscaboobs on Jul 16, 2017 21:55:06 GMT -6
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Post by byjove on Jul 17, 2017 7:48:46 GMT -6
Risscaboobs, the gentle weaning method never worked. I cold turkey night weaned DD2 just a few weeks ago because she was waking to nurse too many times every night. I nurse before bed and then after 4 am when she wakes up I'll bring her into bed and let her nurse then. The first night was the worst. The longest was an hour of screaming, then a snack, then she went down. Subsequent wake ups were about 10-15 minutes of screaming (I was with her, rubbing her back or holding her for these wake ups, but not nursing). It took about a week of waking a couple of times a night briefly to start sleeping through until about 430/5am. It was glorious. Then this last week she isn't having it and there was a particularly shrill new scream that went on for hours. Neither DH or I could get her back down. I don't know if the 2 yo molars are coming in or what, but I gave in and nursed her. But now she's trending back to her old ways and I think we are going to have to night wean again UGH
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Post by Risscaboobs on Jul 17, 2017 8:43:19 GMT -6
Risscaboobs , the gentle weaning method never worked. I cold turkey night weaned DD2 just a few weeks ago because she was waking to nurse too many times every night. I nurse before bed and then after 4 am when she wakes up I'll bring her into bed and let her nurse then. The first night was the worst. The longest was an hour of screaming, then a snack, then she went down. Subsequent wake ups were about 10-15 minutes of screaming (I was with her, rubbing her back or holding her for these wake ups, but not nursing). It took about a week of waking a couple of times a night briefly to start sleeping through until about 430/5am. It was glorious. Then this last week she isn't having it and there was a particularly shrill new scream that went on for hours. Neither DH or I could get her back down. I don't know if the 2 yo molars are coming in or what, but I gave in and nursed her. But now she's trending back to her old ways and I think we are going to have to night wean again UGH Yeah, I cold turkey'd her Saturday night. It went pretty awful haha. Every time she woke up, she clutched at my shirt (we bedshare) and screamed. She woke up every half hour, it seemed. Last night was better. She only woke up and screamed like that once for about ten minutes. I'm hoping tonight goes okay. Right now, I'm only nursing her before bed and then after my alarm goes off. Hugs on maybe having to start over with your daughter. Molars suck.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2017 20:16:52 GMT -6
We bedshare too and I go back and forth between being ok night nursing and not ok with it. We did jay Gordon and had some success a while back. Not saying it worked great but I was ok with the result .... one longer stretch overnight of sleeping. We are going on a vacay soon and will prob try and implement the jay Gordon stuff again. If at doesn't work, not sure what we will do. Good luck!
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