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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 20, 2020 22:58:27 GMT -6
bootsorhearts1 hoping when you read this you're feeling heaps better and recovering well! and not at all silly to get a TT. I am in the camp of if it makes you happy with a better quality of life go for it. TBH it occurred to me a year later after lil fella was born since I still looked 20 wks preggo and didn't know it really was my fibroids and admittedly it was bothering me folding in half and couldnt fit into most of my clothes and also the fact that I was sleeping with an adult diaper when I got my period. I am not quite there yet but I am happy after the surgery and I can sleep on my stomach again! so incredible. Taitai, I know you're considering it and if they can do a LAP, you'll be back on your feet in no time and if you need to, you could even go back to work after 2 weeks or WFH in less than a week.
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 20, 2020 23:01:01 GMT -6
This is making me want to watch Jumanji and see if DS would be able to tolerate it! Do you think I should probably get him to read the book first? He's like a wuss and will run away at the scene of the marionettes in Polar Express. He also got super upset reading the first chapter of Harry Potter and I thought he'd be ok so we've stopped reading it - he woke up MOTN the night we read it and had a nightmare. oh man that’s a tough one. DS is 6 and usually likes things that are scary (he begs to watch The Ring but that is a firm no). And I think he got scared at the beginning when they start to play the game and everything starts coming out of it, and the boy gets sucked into it. I think we turned it off and tried again months later when it came on tv and he was fine. So I think yes, I’d try the book first. I hope he enjoys it. I loved the original when I was a kid. The Ring is pretty freaky and I have no desire to want to watch it again. No thank you. Yeah I think it will depend on the kid. As I said DS is a wuss ( he's 5 ) so we'll stick with the book first.
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 20, 2020 23:09:54 GMT -6
Well I yelled at the 2 year old and put him to bed without reading or singing. I feel like a crap parent but he’s just so mean. He whacked his brother in the forehead with a matchbox construction truck thing. This was totally unprompted. I don’t know what his deal is, and brother has a tiny hole in his forehead where the truck poked thru his skin. 😭 H is working late and on his way home finally. I’m trying to resist the urge to open my wine before he gets here. Late reply but they can be real AHs and don't know their strength which is astounding for 2 yr olds! I've gotten boxed so many times and a couple of weeks ago, lil fella ripped hubs glasses off and threw it across the room and the lenses popped out. He's also constantly breaking things like on purpose and will tell me as he's doing it!! A few days ago during bath, he grabbed his sponge as I was filling the tub and ripped it in half and handed it back to me and said " Mommy I ripped it, it's broken, can you fix it?" I can't even tell you how many things he's pried apart and destroyed.
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 20, 2020 23:14:27 GMT -6
danvers I’m impressed that you and your H can eat in a different room from your kids, while they play an have their own picnic dinner. That would last all of 5 seconds in my house, before food was everywhere and the boys were fighting each other 😂🤣. Maybe in 5 years. Maybe. danvers I am totally with Taitai on this. I can't barely leave both kids alone without supervision for a minute let alone able to even eat in peace. I am glad you're able to do this and also go on a date night! Hubs and I don't ever do that and even if we could, we'd be too tired
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 20, 2020 23:17:36 GMT -6
danvers How nice you two were able to go on a date! It’s great that your parents are so helpful like that. August Blooms I hope you all had a nice holiday weekend! Meal planning is not my strength and that falls in my H’s area of responsibility. I have no creativity at all - even if you put me in a grocery store, I’m like....ugh....let’s just make tacos. 😂 Honestly the possibilities are endless with Tacos! You can tacorize anything! ANYTHING! We had tacos last night from the previous night's leftover grilled chops.
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 20, 2020 23:30:52 GMT -6
Taitai , I am glad your family has something to look forward to in a few months time. I also have a reco for the long flight. Button art! linkSo yeah at this point, my folks are staying put back home and it may be months before they decide if they want to return. I know my mom does but yeah not a great idea for them to be traveling long distance in the current state of affairs.
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 20, 2020 23:33:54 GMT -6
cythe I am super super happy to hear that E is moving! Yeah E! I hope you've gotten your kitchen reno done! Much harder trying to get anything done with her moving around for sure.
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 20, 2020 23:39:52 GMT -6
doodlemommy good luck! sounds like your little guy is ready. I really really want to try with lil fella but I don't think he's quite ready or is just plain stubborn. He knows where the potty is and knows that's where we go when it's time and will tell me instantly after he's gone #2 that he needs to go potty.
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 21, 2020 0:21:50 GMT -6
OMG! guys so today, during nap time, lil fella decided to strip down and pee in his PnP. I usually pretend to sleep until he falls asleep and have my back turned so I don't giggle seeing him do silly things or say silly things which he does a lot. I heard rustling sounds and was thinking nah! then I heard like peeing sounds and again thought nah! he'd be laughing his head off then I heard him say "mummy, I shee shee on my diaper, I need to go potty" I jumped right up and there he was standing bottomless over his diaper. Luckily he peed and had good aim onto his diaper so most of it was contained and a little leaked out but still!!! really kid. Meh...hoping this isn't going to be a trend. Anyways I took him to the potty and he pooped in it so I guess spilled pee is a heaps better than poop amirite!!?? Other ramblings, hubs and I didn't do anything for Valentine's. I considered making molten chocolate cakes but decided not to. DS didn't have school and we made chocolate covered strawberries - DS liked licking the spatula. I mentioned the last time I logged in, I had PT con with DS' teacher and she basically reinforced my suspicion that he wasn't quite "normal". So I started looking more into his behavioral patterns and from what I've found out on my own, he fits the bill of Asynchronous development. danvers have you encountered this with any of your kids at school? He's in kindergarten and his teacher basically told me that he's unmistakably gifted. I asked her if she was sure ( oxymoron question I know but I just blurted it out - Are you sure? ) because he has other behaviors that just doesn't jive which we talked mainly about. She did say we should get him tested but I feel he's too young ( He's 5yr + 8mo ) and everything I've read says it's not a good idea to get them tested too young. He's reading level she believes is at G3/4. He can basically read chapter books and does well with math too. I have no frame of reference so I don't know what to expect. The school does have a psychologist on staff and I was wondering if it was worth discussing it with her and see if she could evaluate him informally? Can you even request this? I know I need to speak with the pedi and at this point we'll just wait until his 6yr well child in 4 months to discuss this. I just feel a little lost and anxious to know how to properly deal with his condition if he has one or maybe not. He may just be a very very challenging bright child and I should be blessed. As it stands and moving forward, we'll need a very different approach parenting him - I am doubly exhausted already thinking of it. Oh yeah, Lil fella also barfed in the car yesterday. 1st time after we turned him FF since December I think? Gah! Work is....well work. so far client is happy so I guess that's good and it should be good enough for me but I think otherwise - yeah yeah I know I have issues! LOL!
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Feb 21, 2020 8:41:47 GMT -6
duskymonkey oh hai! Lol @ bubs peeing in the diaper. Y’all reading stories about your little ones, and my big kid was a challenge at this age holy crap, my little one is I’m sorry to say soooo easy. She is just happy. She listens, she follows directions, she eats, she plays, she doesn’t make a huge mess. I feel like the older kid is so much harder because he has a short fuse and gets frustrated so easily. He gets that honest 😬 I’m still chilling around the house this week. This is my current view. The cat never sits near me like this I guess she feels bad for me. She’s purring too! I go Monday to hopefully get my drains out. That will make life a bit easier because I can shower but I still have to wear this girdle thing for a while. I can stand up straighter now, at least so my back doesn’t hurt walking but I still look like an old lady. 😂 I’m off work next week too so hoping by the end of next week I’m feeling more normal.
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Feb 21, 2020 8:44:24 GMT -6
duskymonkey on your DS, my kids teacher said they all develop differently to some degree and as long as its not too bad they just try to work with each one where they are. Are his differences causing him problems with school? If not I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I was thinking about getting counseling for ours and his constant temper tantrums (he’s 6.5 I mean come on!) but he’s an angel at school so 🤷♀️
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Post by Taitai on Feb 21, 2020 8:47:01 GMT -6
Taitai , I am glad your family has something to look forward to in a few months time. I also have a reco for the long flight. Button art! linkSo yeah at this point, my folks are staying put back home and it may be months before they decide if they want to return. I know my mom does but yeah not a great idea for them to be traveling long distance in the current state of affairs. That button art looks like it would be great for our flight back! I’m going to see if I can pick it up during my next trip to the states for work. I understand why your parents wouldn’t want to risk travel right now. Flying transpacific normally gets me sick as it is, and I’m not 70+ and then of course there is coronavirus now. Ugh. I haven’t heard about Asynchronous development, but I hope you are able to figure out the steps in evaluation, diagnosis, and family/home adaptations. You are a great mom, and I know you can do this!
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Post by CoachTsWife on Feb 21, 2020 11:01:52 GMT -6
bootsorhearts1 my kids are opposite yours. DS1 seems like an angel compared to DS2. We often say if we'd had DS2 first we might have been "one and done". He is challenging, to say the least. Our pediatrician tells us that his "qualities" are challenging as a toddler but will be his advantage when he's an adult. I sure hope so....goodness. Related, we just turned DS2's car seat FF. I really struggled with the decision but he is so much happier riding in the car now and hasn't arched his back once while trying to get him buckled. It is like magic, he just let's me put him in the seat and then says "mommy, why turn around?" I ask if he wants to turn his seat back around and he answers with an emphatic "no". This kid.
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Feb 21, 2020 15:03:51 GMT -6
CoachTsWife that is so cute! Big kid also really wanted to be turned around but we managed to hold off until he was 3. Little bit is happy rear facing so we will keep her there for now, we just have to watch the height and weight limits for it. She is not teeny tiny like he was!
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Post by duskymonkey on Feb 21, 2020 15:46:12 GMT -6
So...lil fella is winning again today. I’m about to give up napping him for 3 consecutive days now. I think he’s going through a leap and possibly teething too 🤦🏻♀️ What about your littles, notice anything different? 😫 both my boys are definitely giving me a run for my money 😐 lil fella is possibly worse 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
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Post by Taitai on Feb 22, 2020 8:15:14 GMT -6
duskymonkey DS2 has been getting a little more naughty, sassy, and generally emotional lately. He’s also had a cold for since Weds, so I don’t know if that is making him extra ornery. I know these things come in leaps and phases / hoping your little guy gives you a break!
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Post by danvers on Feb 22, 2020 14:44:00 GMT -6
We skipped my nieces’s bday party today (I’m sure the in-laws will be letting us hear it later 🙄) because DD1 seems like she *might* be on the verge of being sick?!? She’s got all the classic symptoms of starting not to feel good without the actual fever/vomiting/etc. We had her take a nap this afternoon when DD2 went down (she rarely naps anymore), and she slept for 3 hours!
So.... we were either right and hopefully are heading this off at the pass or she and I will be up till midnight before winding down 😬😳
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Post by August Blooms on Feb 22, 2020 19:19:38 GMT -6
cythe That’s great news about E! doodlemommy Good luck with the PT duskymonkey I always love your stories about your little ones! I hope if you DS1 does end up being extraordinarily gifted your are able to find the support he needs.
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Post by August Blooms on Feb 22, 2020 19:24:24 GMT -6
So looks like I’m separating from my DH? I think? We have been in therapy together and I’ve been going myself and I basically threw down the gauntlet. We had what I thought was a productive session then he stopped talking to me but then after the kids went to bed we talked a bit and then he said something really shitty and petty and I peaced out of there. I’m not going to have a bath and a glass of wine and try to sleep.
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Post by August Blooms on Feb 23, 2020 8:46:35 GMT -6
So cancel that, had a night to sleep on things and we are going to try to work on things. They are still not great, our communication sucks and it’s lead to a lot of problems.
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Post by Taitai on Feb 23, 2020 9:03:52 GMT -6
August Blooms Big hugs to you. Marriage is so hard, especially when communication is not clicking. Whatever you decide to do will be the right thing - because you are choosing to do it. I hope he really puts in effort to making things work. We’ll be here to support you and listen if you need to vent. Just know you are an amazing woman and mom - will be keeping you in my thoughts.
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Feb 23, 2020 10:38:50 GMT -6
August Blooms sorry you’re going through all that. DH and I have had our moments too but lately seems seem better. Hopefully it’s just a rough patch and you can get to the other side. I find when life is more stressful than usual (sick kids, stress at work, little one not sleeping, etc) our relationship struggles too.
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Post by curmudgeon on Feb 23, 2020 19:37:19 GMT -6
I’m sorry August Blooms. I hope you’re able to work on communicating better and can improve the relationship.
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Post by cythe on Feb 23, 2020 23:17:34 GMT -6
Hugs August Blooms. LT for the update, I hope you decide whats best for you. Its not easy no matter how you look at it. Hopefully these wake up calls will do everyone some good. Hang in there.
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Post by CoachTsWife on Feb 24, 2020 8:54:14 GMT -6
August Blooms I'm sorry to hear that you guys are having troubles. I'm thinking about you and we are here for you if you need to vent. (((hugs)))
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Post by August Blooms on Feb 24, 2020 13:03:18 GMT -6
Thanks for the kind words everyone. It means a lot. We will see how things go, the same issues have been going on for years and I’ve just finally reached my breaking point. Just taking it day by day right now.
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Post by doodlemommy on Feb 24, 2020 23:13:34 GMT -6
DS woke up dry this morning and peed on the potty! He stayed dry in his underwear all morning while out running errands, dry during nap, and dry until 6 PM!!!! Yes, that’s right...11 hours without peeing. He apparently is like his sister with a bladder of steel 🤷🏽♀️ And he drank lots during the day so I have no idea how he made it that long. Hopefully he will keep staying dry but maybe pee like once more in there somewhere 🙄
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Post by Taitai on Feb 25, 2020 7:57:12 GMT -6
DS woke up dry this morning and peed on the potty! He stayed dry in his underwear all morning while out running errands, dry during nap, and dry until 6 PM!!!! Yes, that’s right...11 hours without peeing. He apparently is like his sister with a bladder of steel 🤷🏽♀️ And he drank lots during the day so I have no idea how he made it that long. Hopefully he will keep staying dry but maybe pee like once more in there somewhere 🙄 He’s like a little camel! Good job keeping the bed dry little guy! I question whether I will jinx myself by writing this...but DS2 has slept in his bed without a diaper for about 1 month now. Not one overnight accident - pees at 7:30pm and holds it until 6am. Now watch, he’ll pee the bed tonight 🤣😂
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Post by Taitai on Feb 25, 2020 8:05:41 GMT -6
The air pollution was sooooo bad today, plus all these new coronavirus restrictions on travel are affecting a lot of families here. Ugh - life needs to go back to normal. But who knows when that will be.
The government is cancelling school tomorrow for the public schools due to poor air quality, but thankfully the international schools (who have air purifiers) are allowed to stay open. The government also issued these complicated new coronavirus self-quarantine issues for students at all schools here. The new rules mean that some families/parents need to keep their kids home from school for 2 weeks if they have visited or transited certain airports in the past week. Even if a parent went on a business trip (without kids), but transited an airport in Singapore, China, Korea or Japan (or other countries) on their way home - now that parent either needs to not see their kids for 2 weeks (upon coming back home) OR see their kids and then keep their kids home from school for 2 weeks.
Just craziness. Not letting kids go to school for 2 weeks if their parent goes on a business trip in the region, but still absolutely NO limitations on tourists coming here from anywhere in the world! Sigh.
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Post by curmudgeon on Feb 25, 2020 19:24:00 GMT -6
My uncle had a heart attack last Thursday and is still in the hospital. He’s doing well, but they keep wanting to run more and more tests and pushing his release date. I don’t think they know if he has any lasting damage yet. My aunt calls me to give me updates and says he keeps telling the staff they are so wonderful. Lol I think he is drugged up real good.
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