Check in - week Jan 13

[danib]

Weeks/Due Date -

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The Good -

The Bad -

Milestones/Appointments -

To Do List -

[danib]

Weeks/Due Date - 19w2d / June 6

Symptoms - acid reflux and trouble sleeping

The Good - DH comes home tomorrow so I'll finally have some help around the house and with the kids (and shoveling). I'm also finally (mostly) over this darn cough/cold I've had since Christmas.

The Bad - stressing about not getting our house sold. We have time, but it just needs to happen now. I do not want to be moving at like 9 months pregnant or with a newborn. Plus we need to buy a van before baby comes and the move needs to happen before that happens so it doesn't shag up our credit ratio.

Milestones/Appointments - feeling daily movement / anatomy scan on Tuesday

To Do List - nothing baby related right now.
Continue decluttering and organizing.
Add to the To Do List I have started for DH (minor repairs and cleaning that I can't do on my own).

[fikafairy]

Weeks/Due Date - 15w6d/June 30

Symptoms - low appetite, exhaustion, but at least there's an explanation for that now.

The Good - baby looked GREAT on Friday, but we still don't 100% know what it is! Tech made a guess that it's a boy but then said they can't see much so don't buy anything.

The Bad - So we still don't know - I'm trying to mentally fit my head around having another boy and knowing that if it is a boy, we will never get to raise a daughter since we lost DD in 2016. I also am anxiously awaiting the results of the blood typing to see exactly how complicated the rest of this will be. I'm also anemic and like 1 point away from needing a transfusion myself, so that's fun.

Milestones/Appointments - amnio was done Friday and waiting for results! Next appt is the 24th.

To Do List - figure out what I need to buy

[txaggie08]

Weeks/Due Date - 20 weeks/May 30th. Half-way already!

Symptoms - nothing that can't be helped with Nexium and an inability to keep my opinions to myself (is that a legit symptom?)

The Good - more consistent movement

The Bad - DH and I had a small argument last night about how I don't feel 'in the mood' ever. Hello - I'm tired by the end of the day and just want to go to sleep. I think we worked it out.

Milestones/Appointments - Anatomy scan this Thursday! I'm excited to see baby and simultaneously terrified that we're going to get bad news. I'll be happy when it's done.

To Do List - DH needs to paint DD's old room so I can clean the carpet. Then we can move DS in there and clean his room for baby. I'll feel a lot better once DS is moved.

[trtlcrzy]

Weeks/Due Date - 16w1d, 6/28

Symptoms - headaches, forgetfulness, short of breath

The Good - I’m mostly feeling great in regards to pregnancy symptoms. My doc told me to take omeprazole daily at my appt on wed and since then I haven’t had any issues with reflux or heartburn.

The Bad - my joints are super loose so I keep twisting my hip and other annoying things. Also I don’t feel movement yet and, I know it’s early, I was hoping I would start by now.

Milestones/Appointments - appt last wed went great, I updated in last week’s thread about it. No appt until next month.

To Do List - Nothing terribly exciting. My girls want to start getting things out for the baby but I have to keep telling them no because we have a long time till baby’s here.

[sdlaura]

Weeks/due date - 19 weeks tomorrow/June 9

Symptoms - not much. RLP, the occasional headache.

The good - feeling a bit more movement. Finally told everyone at work but still trying to hide from some clients. DH is telling his coworkers today. Because of childcare issues I dropped DS2 at DH’s office just now on my way to the airport for work. He had the idea to put him in our ‘this guy is being promoted to big brother’ shirt that we used a few years ago for DS1, and he’s going to take him around his office before taking him home for nap.

The bad - not much really. Non baby related childcare issues because the husband of our daycare provider had to be rushed to the hospital with flu complications.

Milestones/appts - no appts till early Feb. I’ll be excited to be halfway next week.

To do - I need to fully unpack and organize my maternity clothes. I have one favorite work skirt that I can’t find. I got a pair of Loft maternity tights that I love, so I want to get a couple more pairs of those. Otherwise I feel like we have lots of time to get the few baby items that we need.

[Radley]

Jan 13, 2020 11:20:10 GMT -6 fikafairy said:

Weeks/Due Date - 15w6d/June 30

Symptoms - low appetite, exhaustion, but at least there's an explanation for that now.

The Good - baby looked GREAT on Friday, but we still don't 100% know what it is! Tech made a guess that it's a boy but then said they can't see much so don't buy anything.

The Bad - So we still don't know - I'm trying to mentally fit my head around having another boy and knowing that if it is a boy, we will never get to raise a daughter since we lost DD in 2016. I also am anxiously awaiting the results of the blood typing to see exactly how complicated the rest of this will be. I'm also anemic and like 1 point away from needing a transfusion myself, so that's fun.

Milestones/Appointments - amnio was done Friday and waiting for results! Next appt is the 24th.

To Do List - figure out what I need to buy

I’m so sorry for your loss. Just remember it isn’t certain it’s a boy yet and that even if it is, there is nothing wrong with grieving the loss of raising a daughter. Feel how you need to feel.

[Radley]

Weeks/Due Date - 16w 3d/June 27th

Symptoms - insomnia, restlessness, mild heartburn, stomach pain when eating

The Good - made it to 16w (this is pretty much always going to be my good)

The Bad - I still can’t eat and I’m still losing weight. It makes me nervous.

Milestones/Appointments - I had an appointment for tomorrow but DS1 has a sinus infection and DS2 started running a fever this afternoon so I moved it to Thursday.

To Do List - I need to buy more maternity clothes. I have bump bands and one shirt.

*TW*

SPOILER: Click to show

**TW** any PALs terrified all the time. The closer I get to my doctor appointment the more certain I feel that there won’t be a heartbeat and it’s making me feel crazy **TW**

[danib]

Radley I've basically been like that with all of my pregnancies. It took us 4 years to get DS1, and I was terrified the entire time that after FINALLY getting pregnant it wouldn't last. Then when our 2nd pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, I didn't even want to tell anyone when we got pregnant again because "un-telling" everyone had been such a mind-fuck. This time, the big bleed I had early on really had me in a spin. I'm only doing well now because I'm having weekly ultrasounds and feeling movement most days.
So yeah.... I get it. It sucks so hard. I try to do the whole "today I am pregnant" thing. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't, but it does mostly keep me from spiraling too bad.

[trtlcrzy]

Jan 13, 2020 15:25:07 GMT -6 Radley said:

Weeks/Due Date - 16w 3d/June 27th

Symptoms - insomnia, restlessness, mild heartburn, stomach pain when eating

The Good - made it to 16w (this is pretty much always going to be my good)

The Bad - I still can’t eat and I’m still losing weight. It makes me nervous.

Milestones/Appointments - I had an appointment for tomorrow but DS1 has a sinus infection and DS2 started running a fever this afternoon so I moved it to Thursday.

To Do List - I need to buy more maternity clothes. I have bump bands and one shirt.

*TW*

SPOILER: Click to show

**TW** any PALs terrified all the time. The closer I get to my doctor appointment the more certain I feel that there won’t be a heartbeat and it’s making me feel crazy **TW**

I had a nagging feeling before my appt last week that something was wrong. Luckily everything is fine and it’s just PAL brain getting to me. I will feel much better when I feel regular (or any) movement. The first half of pregnancy is always the worst because you’re basically in a black hole of not knowing what’s happening.

[fikafairy]

Jan 13, 2020 15:25:07 GMT -6 Radley said:

Weeks/Due Date - 16w 3d/June 27th

Symptoms - insomnia, restlessness, mild heartburn, stomach pain when eating

The Good - made it to 16w (this is pretty much always going to be my good)

The Bad - I still can’t eat and I’m still losing weight. It makes me nervous.

Milestones/Appointments - I had an appointment for tomorrow but DS1 has a sinus infection and DS2 started running a fever this afternoon so I moved it to Thursday.

To Do List - I need to buy more maternity clothes. I have bump bands and one shirt.

*TW*

SPOILER: Click to show

**TW** any PALs terrified all the time. The closer I get to my doctor appointment the more certain I feel that there won’t be a heartbeat and it’s making me feel crazy **TW**

I usually get about 24 hours of a "grace period" after an appointment where we get to see the baby before I have again convinced myself that we won't take this one home either.  I keep spiralling into crazy scenarios that don't make much sense, and some that make too much sense, and overall I'm just an anxious mess.  

Just wanted to say you're not alone.  

[sdlaura]

Radley that’s why I have a home Doppler. At this stage I can find the heartbeat immediately so I’m using it less than 30 seconds and it just gives me peace of mind.

Of course our 21-week loss was the result of medical issues and not the heart stopping beating on its own. So I’m scared of things they can only tell from an ultrasound/echo.

[txaggie08]

Jan 13, 2020 15:25:07 GMT -6 Radley said:

Weeks/Due Date - 16w 3d/June 27th

Symptoms - insomnia, restlessness, mild heartburn, stomach pain when eating

The Good - made it to 16w (this is pretty much always going to be my good)

The Bad - I still can’t eat and I’m still losing weight. It makes me nervous.

Milestones/Appointments - I had an appointment for tomorrow but DS1 has a sinus infection and DS2 started running a fever this afternoon so I moved it to Thursday.

To Do List - I need to buy more maternity clothes. I have bump bands and one shirt.

*TW*

SPOILER: Click to show

**TW** any PALs terrified all the time. The closer I get to my doctor appointment the more certain I feel that there won’t be a heartbeat and it’s making me feel crazy **TW**

This is new PAL territory for me, and it sucks. I feel for anyone who has to go through it multiple times. You aren't crazy.

[sdlaura]

On the good news front, I got a Zika test since we went to Fiji on vacation in early December, and it was negative.

I didn’t think there was any real possibility of it being an issue, or I wouldn’t have gone. There were zero reported cases there last year, and I went nuts with bug protection and don’t think I got bitten at all. But it was still reassuring news. I also paid out of pocket for DH to get tested a couple weeks ago (since it’s sexually transmitted) and he was also negative.

[Radley]

Thanks for making me feel normal guys. I definitely struggle with that faux gut feeling a lot. I’m sorry so many of you can commiserate though. That’s awful.

txaggie08 this isn’t my first PAL, but it’s my first (so far) successful one after four other losses and it’s really messing with me. I know I won’t be able to do it again. I’m planning on having my remaining tube tied during the c-section. I’m so sorry you are going through it.

sdlaura yay for the good results! Even if you aren’t really expecting bad news, it’s great to be reassured.

[Radley]

Jan 13, 2020 16:13:35 GMT -6 danib said:

Radley I've basically been like that with all of my pregnancies. It took us 4 years to get DS1, and I was terrified the entire time that after FINALLY getting pregnant it wouldn't last. Then when our 2nd pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, I didn't even want to tell anyone when we got pregnant again because "un-telling" everyone had been such a mind-fuck. This time, the big bleed I had early on really had me in a spin. I'm only doing well now because I'm having weekly ultrasounds and feeling movement most days.
So yeah.... I get it. It sucks so hard. I try to do the whole "today I am pregnant" thing. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't, but it does mostly keep me from spiraling too bad.

We had a spotting/light bleeding scare and a potential ectopic scare with the pregnancy. I can only imagine how awful a big bleed would be. I’d be breaking down. I’m really glad everything is still okay.

[trtlcrzy]

Jan 13, 2020 18:22:34 GMT -6 sdlaura said:

Radley that’s why I have a home Doppler. At this stage I can find the heartbeat immediately so I’m using it less than 30 seconds and it just gives me peace of mind.

Of course our 21-week loss was the result of medical issues and not the heart stopping beating on its own. So I’m scared of things they can only tell from an ultrasound/echo.

I don’t know what my issue is this time around but I’m struggling to find the heartbeat with my home doppler. I used mine last night and was able to find it for like 3 seconds faintly. The OB did say at my baby was moving around a lot when she did it at my appt last week. Maybe that’s my issue, as soon as I find it the baby moves.

[sdlaura]

trtlcrzy I couldn’t find it as early this time. In prior pregnancies I could find it at like 10 weeks, but this time my OB has even had a hard time finding it at 12-14. It did get way easier though once I hit like 15/16 weeks. I found out at my anatomy scan that I have an anterior placenta so that may be why.

[willow]

Weeks/Due Date -
25w, twins coming no later than April 16


Symptoms -
just generally uncomfortable all the time now. 


The Good -
I have nothing other than normal discomfort so far so that is good. I have a lot of paranoia and anxiety over something going wrong since twins are high risk inherently. So every day that things go smoothly I'm happy. 


The Bad -
I'm already getting huge lol. I visited a friend this weekend and she was like "Whoa. I think you look as big as I did when I gave birth at 36 weeks!" haha. I am probably about the size I was at 33/34 weeks with my first. It will be fun to take huge bump photos eventually. I'm also just in a general pain state at all times, so that's fun. 


Milestones/Appointments -
I have my GT on Wednesday. Not looking forward to it, I got so sick after the first time I did it with my son. Hoping it brings back fine results though. 


To Do List -
My mom is coming over this holiday weekend to paint the nursery. After that we can start putting it together. 

[trtlcrzy]

Jan 14, 2020 8:40:54 GMT -6 sdlaura said:

trtlcrzy I couldn’t find it as early this time. In prior pregnancies I could find it at like 10 weeks, but this time my OB has even had a hard time finding it at 12-14. It did get way easier though once I hit like 15/16 weeks. I found out at my anatomy scan that I have an anterior placenta so that may be why.

Yeah, I’m 16 weeks now so I thought it would be super easy at this point. Jokes on me. Last night when I was laying in bed I’m pretty sure I felt the baby move. It’s still pretty faint but if I concentrate I can feel it.

[hangry]

Weeks/Due Date - 25w, 2d; Due April 26

Symptoms - Annoying right sided upper abdominal pain that comes and goes. And I didn’t get any results from my blood work last week. So hopefully it’s just random pain.

The Good - feeling movement all the time

The Bad - I feel huge already, and people have made mild comments that are making me self conscious. I can’t help that my belly gets big!!?!

Milestones/Appointments - will see my OB for the first time but not until Feb 5th. Nothing until then.

To Do List - H and I had a serious financial talk and made plans to go forward with necessary home renos. First up is visit the bank and get some real estate agents through to discuss the value added for our proposed ideas. Then get some contractors to give us quotes. I am very motivated right now but know this will slowly slip away and I hope we can get the ball rolling enough before that happens.

[sdlaura]

hangry very exciting - what are you thinking of doing for your reno? We did major projects before our last two kids (kitchen before DS1 and backyard outdoor living room/patio before DS2). I want new floors downstairs but we’re going to owe a ridiculous amount in taxes this year, so I know DH won’t go for it. Maybe after my year end bonus next year.

ETA: we are getting a new fence on one side, but that’s only because the current one is now leaning at a major angle due to our neighbors taking out some trees during their backyard project. Apparently the trees were holding up the fence So we’re splitting the cost with them.

[magaroni]

Weeks/Due Date - 19+5, June 5th

Symptoms - I had a pretty bad headache for the past 3 days. Luckily it went away yesterday and did not return yet.

The Good - I love feeling all the movement. DH got to feel baby kick the other night so that was exciting.

The Bad - I’m feeling pretty good if I could just stop with the headaches.

Milestones/Appointments - appointment and repeat anatomy scan on 1/24. Hopefully baby cooperates this time.

To Do List - I’m still trying to get all my Christmas decorations put away. I’ve also started cleaning out the 4th bedroom so we can remodel it for DD1. We’ve started picking out stuff and she is so excited.

[trtlcrzy]

I’m going to AW for a second. Today is my birthday! I don’t have much for plans, except we are going to Red Robin for dinner tonight.

[Radley]

Jan 15, 2020 10:00:44 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

I’m going to AW for a second. Today is my birthday! I don’t have much for plans, except we are going to Red Robin for dinner tonight.

Happy birthday!!! I haven’t been there in forever but if they still have it, get the chocolate cake. It’s the bomb.

[magaroni]

Happy Birthday trtlcrzy !!!

[trtlcrzy]

Jan 15, 2020 10:37:21 GMT -6 Radley said:

Jan 15, 2020 10:00:44 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

I’m going to AW for a second. Today is my birthday! I don’t have much for plans, except we are going to Red Robin for dinner tonight.

Happy birthday!!! I haven’t been there in forever but if they still have it, get the chocolate cake. It’s the bomb.

My stomach is the size of a golf ball so I’ll be lucky to finish my food, but maybe I’ll get it to go. They used to have poutine, which I love and want very much, but they took it off the menu. Boo.

[willow]

Jan 15, 2020 6:51:55 GMT -6 magaroni said:

Weeks/Due Date - 19+5, June 5th

Symptoms - I had a pretty bad headache for the past 3 days. Luckily it went away yesterday and did not return yet.

The Good - I love feeling all the movement. DH got to feel baby kick the other night so that was exciting.

The Bad - I’m feeling pretty good if I could just stop with the headaches.

Milestones/Appointments - appointment and repeat anatomy scan on 1/24. Hopefully baby cooperates this time.

To Do List - I’m still trying to get all my Christmas decorations put away. I’ve also started cleaning out the 4th bedroom so we can remodel it for DD1. We’ve started picking out stuff and she is so excited.

I'm still trying to get my H to feel the babies kick. I feel like it happens all the time since there are two of them but EVERY TIME he puts his hand there, they just chill out. I joke that they must already love the attention from dad and they calm down. 

[magaroni]

Jan 15, 2020 13:32:33 GMT -6 willow said:

Jan 15, 2020 6:51:55 GMT -6 magaroni said:

Weeks/Due Date - 19+5, June 5th

Symptoms - I had a pretty bad headache for the past 3 days. Luckily it went away yesterday and did not return yet.

The Good - I love feeling all the movement. DH got to feel baby kick the other night so that was exciting.

The Bad - I’m feeling pretty good if I could just stop with the headaches.

Milestones/Appointments - appointment and repeat anatomy scan on 1/24. Hopefully baby cooperates this time.

To Do List - I’m still trying to get all my Christmas decorations put away. I’ve also started cleaning out the 4th bedroom so we can remodel it for DD1. We’ve started picking out stuff and she is so excited.

I'm still trying to get my H to feel the babies kick. I feel like it happens all the time since there are two of them but EVERY TIME he puts his hand there, they just chill out. I joke that they must already love the attention from dad and they calm down. 

This baby is breech so I’m not sure if they are more noticeable since it’s kicking down there instead up into my organs. I can see obvious kicks when I’m laying down too.

[danib]

Jan 15, 2020 13:32:33 GMT -6 willow said:

Jan 15, 2020 6:51:55 GMT -6 magaroni said:

Weeks/Due Date - 19+5, June 5th

Symptoms - I had a pretty bad headache for the past 3 days. Luckily it went away yesterday and did not return yet.

The Good - I love feeling all the movement. DH got to feel baby kick the other night so that was exciting.

The Bad - I’m feeling pretty good if I could just stop with the headaches.

Milestones/Appointments - appointment and repeat anatomy scan on 1/24. Hopefully baby cooperates this time.

To Do List - I’m still trying to get all my Christmas decorations put away. I’ve also started cleaning out the 4th bedroom so we can remodel it for DD1. We’ve started picking out stuff and she is so excited.

I'm still trying to get my H to feel the babies kick. I feel like it happens all the time since there are two of them but EVERY TIME he puts his hand there, they just chill out. I joke that they must already love the attention from dad and they calm down. 

DH didn't feel DS1 until I was something like 30+ weeks, because everytime he tried DS would just stop. It was both hilarious and frustrating.