Wednesday with a holiday hangover

[csho]

Good morning! How was the holiday for everyone?

[csho]

I'm headed out to do daycare drop off, we had simultaneous lightning and fireworks last night, it was pretty amazing!

[skategirl128]

We're tired over here. It was just DS and I yesterday as SO was working. I worked in the early afternoon and then had dinner with my mom, stepdad, stepsister and niece. I then took DS to the local minor league stadium for our towns fireworks. So much fun!

Not sure what we will do today. Car shopping is on the agenda as we want to get it sorted out before our road trip vacation in two weeks. My car is really on it's last legs...looking for a bigger and better vehicle since I'm always carting around other kiddos.


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[misspeansmama]

I am exhausted today. DD had another nightmare last night and wanted to sleep with us, so no good rest was had by anyone. DH ended up going to sleep in her bed because she was sleeping completely sideways and kept kicking him. These nightmares are rough b/c not only do they wake her in the middle of the night, they are causing her to be scared to go to bed. I wish I could make them stop for her. But if she is anything like me, she is doomed to a life of having nightmares.

And of course I have lots to do today at work. Might need to make more coffee to get me through the day. It's going to be a rough one.

[bellatrix]

Here & also exhausted.

::passes coffees around::

[NamasteBirches]

DH is back to work & DS is off to camp soon. Thank goodness because he's been a pill this morning. I have high hopes to get the house in order. At least the living room that he trashed with having the day off yesterday but we shall see.
The 4 day weekend with having DH home was nice, I can get used to that.

[csho]

Jul 5, 2017 7:03:29 GMT -6 misspeansmama said:

I am exhausted today. DD had another nightmare last night and wanted to sleep with us, so no good rest was had by anyone. DH ended up going to sleep in her bed because she was sleeping completely sideways and kept kicking him. These nightmares are rough b/c not only do they wake her in the middle of the night, they are causing her to be scared to go to bed. I wish I could make them stop for her. But if she is anything like me, she is doomed to a life of having nightmares.

And of course I have lots to do today at work. Might need to make more coffee to get me through the day. It's going to be a rough one.

I don't know how legit this is but I read somewhere that drinking apple juice before sleeping can cause a lot of vivid dreaming.

It sounds like crap, I'm laughing at myself already.

[csho]

NamasteBirches, what is today's camp?

[NamasteBirches]

Sorry about the nightmares misspeansmama
DS had a bout with night terrors for a while & it was a rough period. Thank jeebus it's been a while since that has happened.

[misspeansmama]

Jul 5, 2017 7:35:21 GMT -6 csho said:

Jul 5, 2017 7:03:29 GMT -6 misspeansmama said:

I am exhausted today. DD had another nightmare last night and wanted to sleep with us, so no good rest was had by anyone. DH ended up going to sleep in her bed because she was sleeping completely sideways and kept kicking him. These nightmares are rough b/c not only do they wake her in the middle of the night, they are causing her to be scared to go to bed. I wish I could make them stop for her. But if she is anything like me, she is doomed to a life of having nightmares.

And of course I have lots to do today at work. Might need to make more coffee to get me through the day. It's going to be a rough one.

I don't know how legit this is but I read somewhere that drinking apple juice before sleeping can cause a lot of vivid dreaming.

It sounds like crap, I'm laughing at myself already.

Well in our situation it doesn't ring true, only because DD hates juice and won't drink it.  So that can't be the case in our situation.  But I think it is possibly something that could be true.  They do say eating certain foods before bed can cause dreams, so why not apple juice.

[misspeansmama]

Jul 5, 2017 7:37:24 GMT -6 NamasteBirches said:

Sorry about the nightmares misspeansmama
DS had a bout with night terrors for a while & it was a rough period. Thank jeebus it's been a while since that has happened.

She goes through periods where she doesn't have any at all.  And then there are times were she'll just have one and not another for a long time. Then there are other times where she'll have several bad nights.  I just can't pinpoint what causes them because they are so random. 

[NamasteBirches]

Jul 5, 2017 7:35:55 GMT -6 csho said:

NamasteBirches , what is today's camp?

Today is his daily playground camp that's through our city rec dept. It runs for majority of summer. I've pulled him out for a few other camps that are held simultaneously so it's his filler since it's nonstop since the second week of June. It goes until the end of July. 

[NamasteBirches]

Jul 5, 2017 7:41:35 GMT -6 misspeansmama said:

Jul 5, 2017 7:37:24 GMT -6 NamasteBirches said:

Sorry about the nightmares misspeansmama
DS had a bout with night terrors for a while & it was a rough period. Thank jeebus it's been a while since that has happened.

She goes through periods where she doesn't have any at all.  And then there are times were she'll just have one and not another for a long time. Then there are other times where she'll have several bad nights.  I just can't pinpoint what causes them because they are so random. 

I'm just curious, are you able to console her when she wakes up upset, crying/screaming, etc?

[NamasteBirches]

So my niece's b-day is this weekend. They invited us but we're not going to be able to make it. For the newbs to our family dramz, we live a state away from our family. We were out there in May for DH's grandma that recently passed so we have seen them more frequently than ever before. So when I let my brother know, he gave me this anecdote about how much she misses DS & blah blah. Then my mom called yesterday & also said the same thing about how she was in near tears about wanting to play with him & they had to explain to her that we don't live near. First of all, this is the first time you are explaining this to her? wow.
Second of all, here's a fun fact. They have yet to visit us here. Like since we've got married. We've been married for going on 8 years. We got married before them so since they have been married & since they have had children, they have never been to us. They never even step foot into our first house we bought here that we lived in for over 3 years. So yea, how about that?
Like wtf. Leave me alone. We have been out there countless times. Sure, the last times we've been out was because of unfortunate events but we still made the initiative to stop by & hang out. We could have totally just ignored you & stayed with DH's family the whole time but no, we were nice & divided up the time. So over it. Ugh but whatever, this is the way they always have been. They apparently will never change & don't see their flaws.

[jillywilly]

NamasteBirches, I'm sorry about the family drama. My SIL is kind of similar, she's constantly texting me how much our niece misses DS, but then anytime we invite them over or make plans with them, she's too busy, or one of them gets sick the day before they're supposed to visit. They only live 45 minutes away, so it's a drive, but not that bad. It's just frustrating because DS also loves his cousin, and I want them to be close growing up, especially now that we're not giving him a sibling, but H and I also can only do so much when it feels like the relationship is very one-way sometimes.

[jillywilly]

I'm feeling the holiday hangover for sure today. I passed out early, and so both DS and I missed what apparently was a very impressive fireworks display put on by our neighbors. So far with the quieter atmosphere at work though, I've been pretty productive, and it definitely helps knowing it's only a two day work week for me, so I guess it could be a lot worse.

[misspeansmama]

Jul 5, 2017 8:17:27 GMT -6 NamasteBirches said:

Jul 5, 2017 7:41:35 GMT -6 misspeansmama said:

She goes through periods where she doesn't have any at all.  And then there are times were she'll just have one and not another for a long time. Then there are other times where she'll have several bad nights.  I just can't pinpoint what causes them because they are so random. 

I'm just curious, are you able to console her when she wakes up upset, crying/screaming, etc?

It's usually just crying, no screaming...thankfully.  And yes, I can calm her down but she is so scared she won't go lay down and back to sleep unless someone is with her.  Last night, I tried staying in her bed until she fell back asleep but 45 minutes later when I got up to leave, she woke right up.  

She has 3 nightlights in her room and on nights where she is scared I leave the bedroom door cracked with the hall light on too.  

[misspeansmama]

Jul 5, 2017 8:30:50 GMT -6 NamasteBirches said:

So my niece's b-day is this weekend. They invited us but we're not going to be able to make it. For the newbs to our family dramz, we live a state away from our family. We were out there in May for DH's grandma that recently passed so we have seen them more frequently than ever before. So when I let my brother know, he gave me this anecdote about how much she misses DS & blah blah. Then my mom called yesterday & also said the same thing about how she was in near tears about wanting to play with him & they had to explain to her that we don't live near. First of all, this is the first time you are explaining this to her? wow.
Second of all, here's a fun fact. They have yet to visit us here. Like since we've got married. We've been married for going on 8 years. We got married before them so since they have been married & since they have had children, they have never been to us. They never even step foot into our first house we bought here that we lived in for over 3 years. So yea, how about that?
Like wtf. Leave me alone. We have been out there countless times. Sure, the last times we've been out was because of unfortunate events but we still made the initiative to stop by & hang out. We could have totally just ignored you & stayed with DH's family the whole time but no, we were nice & divided up the time. So over it. Ugh but whatever, this is the way they always have been. They apparently will never change & don't see their flaws.

Sorry you had to deal with another guilt trip.  Seems like a load of BS that your niece was nearly crying over not playing with your DS since they don't really get to see each other to play.  Sounds like your Brother and Mother are laying it on a little too thick. 

[NamasteBirches]

yea I totally didn't buy it either misspeansmama. You'd think by now she'd know this. She's such an exaggerator. I wanted to say they can always come here & then she can stop her crying! but now with their youngest still kind of struggling, I'm sure that'll be their excuse with not being able to travel but then again, they can always get one of the grandparents to babysit him for the weekend & take the two oldest & come visit for the weekend if they really wanted to visit. If they wanted to make the effort, they could if we're being real.

[NamasteBirches]

Jul 5, 2017 9:21:06 GMT -6 misspeansmama said:

Jul 5, 2017 8:17:27 GMT -6 NamasteBirches said:

I'm just curious, are you able to console her when she wakes up upset, crying/screaming, etc?

It's usually just crying, no screaming...thankfully.  And yes, I can calm her down but she is so scared she won't go lay down and back to sleep unless someone is with her.  Last night, I tried staying in her bed until she fell back asleep but 45 minutes later when I got up to leave, she woke right up.  

She has 3 nightlights in her room and on nights where she is scared I leave the bedroom door cracked with the hall light on too.  

ok well then at the very least they're not night terrors. With those, we weren't even able to console DS out of them, they royally sucked. It was like he was in a trance, crying & screaming. We mostly had to just wait it out until he woke up or just stopped.
Anyways, does she tell you anything specific about what she is dreaming about?

[misspeansmama]

Jul 5, 2017 11:31:07 GMT -6 NamasteBirches said:

Jul 5, 2017 9:21:06 GMT -6 misspeansmama said:

It's usually just crying, no screaming...thankfully.  And yes, I can calm her down but she is so scared she won't go lay down and back to sleep unless someone is with her.  Last night, I tried staying in her bed until she fell back asleep but 45 minutes later when I got up to leave, she woke right up.  

She has 3 nightlights in her room and on nights where she is scared I leave the bedroom door cracked with the hall light on too.  

ok well then at the very least they're not night terrors. With those, we weren't even able to console DS out of them, they royally sucked. It was like he was in a trance, crying & screaming. We mostly had to just wait it out until he woke up or just stopped.
Anyways, does she tell you anything specific about what she is dreaming about?

Thankfully not night terrors!  Twice she has told me what she dreamed about.  They were about bugs...once that they were crawling all over her and the other time just that there were giant bugs.   Most times though she says she cannot remember.

[helenahhandbasket]

Present, but barely.

The bonus is that we have an incredibly short week. We get summer Fridays here, so the remainder of my July will be 4 day work weeks, so that is something.

Today was DD's first day of camp, and drop off went smoothly so yay for that.

Ugh I am sorry about the family drama, NamasteBirches.

[NamasteBirches]

LT for the commiseration that they're not night terrors misspeansmama
I wonder why she gets the frequent nightmares. DS has had a few 'normal' nightmares & IIRC, it was mostly due to watching a spooky scooby doo right before bedtime so it was related to silly characters in the show so we stopped those types of episodes right before bed.
I know you mentioned you also get nightmares, that's so crazy if they're hereditary.

[punkypower]

NamasteBirches the next time they say that, without missing a beat-say you know what? Come for the weekend next week. You've never seen our house. We miss you all so much and would love to have you. DS is so sad that DN has never seen his bedroom (or something else). Use this every time they try and guilt you. Either they'll eventually stop or will actually visit.

Yesterday we went to the country club for their BBQ and swimming. We went to see Dispicable Me 3 in the evening and got home at the perfect time to do fireworks. DS seems to finally be past the point of hating the loud noises. I made sure to point that out to MH later-kind of a see? Because we didn't force he, he's come around.

Nothing exciting today. Going to the dinner and to buy lettuce for the guinea pig.

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Your family is so ridic with the guilt trips NamasteBirches. I like punkypower's suggestion, purely because I'm curious what their reaction would be.

Hi mamas. We had a slow morning, that's for sure. DS went to bed at 11:00pm last night! He was pretty grumpy by the time we got home, haha. I might try putting him to bed early tonight so he can catch up on sleep. And me too.

[Deleted]

Oh NamasteBirches, I've been meaning to ask, do you think we can get the board name changed to One and Done (instead of OAD)? It's bugging me that the acronym is the board name.

[csho]

NamasteBirches, I'm sorry about your family being jerks. Clearly it's them, not you and you have no reason to feel guilty or indulge their self-centered behavior.

[NamasteBirches]

The thing with them is that I can probably foreshadow the conversation with the comeback. Their youngest is a little over a year old & was born at 25 weeks. He's still with a a feeding tube & is having reflux issues, he's still not able to eat solid foods without vomiting multiple times a day. I mean, I'm not trying to downplay the situation, DS was a preemie (although not that early & without those issues); however like I previously mentioned, they have two older kids, if they truly can't travel with the youngest, one of the grandparents could watch him for the weekend. Come out with the older two.
Although I'm pretty sure they have brought him out to Sesame Place & other places an hour or two away from them so idk with them (but we are 6 hours.) So I'm pretty sure they'll use him as their reason now for not coming out but what was their reason before he came along?
So that's the full situation.

[NamasteBirches]

Jul 5, 2017 16:28:33 GMT -6 @rocknroll said:

Oh NamasteBirches , I've been meaning to ask, do you think we can get the board name changed to One and Done (instead of OAD)? It's bugging me that the acronym is the board name.

I don't see why not. Do you think I should post on the mod board or pm an admin about it?

[punkypower]

NamasteBirches yes I can see how traveling with the baby is challenging. Your comeback could be-Mom and Dad would love to watch X for the weekend. We know they love when the cousins and siblings get to see each other. It'd also give you two a much needed break. Which is really the truth. I'm sure it's stressful dealing with the baby's needs.

Six hours each way is a long drive. You'd think they would understand that it is too much when you were there in May. Obviously they must know this if they can be bothered to see you.