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Post by peachsmama on Dec 24, 2019 14:20:29 GMT -6
We had Christmas at my moms this morning with my brother and his family. All 4 big boys got new bikes. They were ecstatic.
We just got home and A is annoying me. We have to take our recycling to the drop bin and its literally 3 minutes from us. I always take it but it got out of control with big boxes from gifts so I asked A to take it in his truck. He said well I'll just burn it. Okay, when? Its everywhere in the garage. The dogs are starting to mess with it and chew it. He just shrugs. I've asked him 5 times and he gets an attitude each time. I guess my frustration finally got to him. He's taking it now.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 24, 2019 15:30:21 GMT -6
He took it all down and the trash. Yay. Christmas party at my brother's tonight. I need to wrap presents and get the appetizer made. But MJ is asleep on me an won't let me put her down. So I'm watching the Santa Clause. I love this movie.
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Post by joelies on Dec 24, 2019 16:22:19 GMT -6
Pies are in the oven, my brother and SIL should be over soon, and DH gave me a mug of spiked cider. Mmmmmm!
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 24, 2019 16:47:08 GMT -6
M and I went to the car wash and vacuumed it out. We came home and I decided to wax it. My arms feel like jello now. MH is taking the boys out so I may try to wrap some gifts.
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Post by wedding on Dec 24, 2019 17:58:00 GMT -6
I’m currently hiding at my in laws. The food is horrible as per but I’m also feeling some mom guilt. I have Thursday and Friday off but am still sending C to daycare. I’ve been battling big time depressed and anxiety over the past year and know I’ll need time to sleep and regroup from all of the togetherness.
My SIL half heartedly complained that she is off and has both of her girls. Then she added “but I take time off to spend..” and realized how that was sounding and stopped. I brushed it off but I’m feeling a bit down that I’m not the mom that wants to take time off to spend with her kid. I obviously love him but it doesn’t make sense to me since he has more fun at daycare and I enjoy being alone. Logically I know I’m not a shit mom but damn sometimes I feel it.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 24, 2019 19:11:01 GMT -6
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 24, 2019 19:38:38 GMT -6
I’m currently hiding at my in laws. The food is horrible as per but I’m also feeling some mom guilt. I have Thursday and Friday off but am still sending C to daycare. I’ve been battling big time depressed and anxiety over the past year and know I’ll need time to sleep and regroup from all of the togetherness. My SIL half heartedly complained that she is off and has both of her girls. Then she added “but I take time off to spend..” and realized how that was sounding and stopped. I brushed it off but I’m feeling a bit down that I’m not the mom that wants to take time off to spend with her kid. I obviously love him but it doesn’t make sense to me since he has more fun at daycare and I enjoy being alone. Logically I know I’m not a shit mom but damn sometimes I feel it. It’s ok that she is different. Isn’t this the helicopter SIL who can’t chill when her kid is um... walking? Lol. Sometimes you have to put yourself first in order to be better for your child. I’m definitely just like you in that I need that break- mentally and emotionally. I feel guilty about it too, but I find that I’m more on edge and snappy with the kids when I don’t take that time. I try not to mellow in that guilt. Hope you can move past it and enjoy the rest of the holiday. You have two alone days to look forward to! |
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 24, 2019 19:38:57 GMT -6
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Post by wineallthetime on Dec 24, 2019 19:43:45 GMT -6
I’m currently hiding at my in laws. The food is horrible as per but I’m also feeling some mom guilt. I have Thursday and Friday off but am still sending C to daycare. I’ve been battling big time depressed and anxiety over the past year and know I’ll need time to sleep and regroup from all of the togetherness. My SIL half heartedly complained that she is off and has both of her girls. Then she added “but I take time off to spend..” and realized how that was sounding and stopped. I brushed it off but I’m feeling a bit down that I’m not the mom that wants to take time off to spend with her kid. I obviously love him but it doesn’t make sense to me since he has more fun at daycare and I enjoy being alone. Logically I know I’m not a shit mom but damn sometimes I feel it. Don't. Do what works for you. If you want to spend extra time with C, great. Of you want to use the tile to recharge, great. I can guarantee you that if we had the option to be kid free a couple days we would 100% do it. |
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Post by kim22 on Dec 24, 2019 20:09:27 GMT -6
wedding plenty of parents are physically in the house with their kids but not spending any actual time with them. C gets to go play with his friends, there is nothing wrong with that. My mom had a bad year when I was younger and she was home with us but locked in her room most of the time. I would have been far better at daycare then I was at home watching that. Take your 2 days to recharge and have no guilt.
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Post by kim22 on Dec 24, 2019 20:11:29 GMT -6
We are home from my family Christmas. DH is wrapping my gifts now and then we will probably watch Christmas Vacation before going to bed. Have a great Christmas morning everyone!
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Post by wedding on Dec 24, 2019 20:14:16 GMT -6
Yes lahdeedah she is the overprotective one so we are very different in many ways. Thanks guys. Sometimes I can just see the judgement in people’s eyes and it sucks. |
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Post by guster on Dec 24, 2019 22:17:35 GMT -6
Take care of yourself, wedding. You know what you and C need and like best. He’ll have a blast with his friends and you’ll take the time to recharge for the weekend. Hugs! |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Dec 24, 2019 22:20:18 GMT -6
wedding I would kill for 2 days home alone without my kids or husband. Don’t let her judgey eyes bother you, she’s a different kind of mom and that’s ok.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Dec 24, 2019 22:23:48 GMT -6
I need to get to sleep. My mom came over to my house this afternoon unexpectedly to stay for the night. She helped decorate cookies and then wanted to stay here while we went to the Christmas Eve celebration. When we got home I decided to just let the girls open all of their gifts from us, tomorrow will be stockings in the morning and santa gifts when I get home from work. They are thrilled with all of their new things and of course didn’t want to go to bed. I am going to do my santa duties in the morning before I leave for work.
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Post by guster on Dec 24, 2019 22:24:59 GMT -6
We got to my aunts late. MH ended up with another corneal erosion this week, and had it patched on Friday and then again on Monday, but as we were driving back to westchester today, he said his eye started to really bother him. He called his doctor and was able to sneak in an appt. right before they left for the day. Turns out some foreign body got trapped under the patch and under the tear in the epithelial layer. They removed it, patched him for the third time and set him up to have a keratectomy on Thursday. Surprisingly he was still in good spirits at dinner and we all had a really nice time.
We got home at 9. The kids went right to bed (after sprinkling reindeer glitter food on the lawn) and leaving out snacks for Santa and the reindeer (parenting win: Santa got a cookie but also a nice chunk of smoked Gouda).
All the gifts are out and everything is prepped for tomorrow.
I just got into bed to watch the last episode of Maisel!
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 24, 2019 22:34:16 GMT -6
wedding your an amazing mom and need your down time too. I say take the days and relax. C will have so much fun at DC.
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 24, 2019 22:35:27 GMT -6
Backup care called This afternoon. To tell me the days I request for this year they have a nanny for me. The 2nd and 3rd they are still looking for.
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Post by slenle on Dec 24, 2019 22:38:10 GMT -6
Merry Christmas Eve! The kids are all asleep, Santa has dropped off gifts and just happened to bump into the tooth fairy on his way so N is getting an extra dollar for the (6th!) tooth she lost tonight  Our day started off a little somber when we woke up to the news that dhs grandma passed overnight. We knew it was coming soon, but it still stinks. We haven’t told the kids yet... will probably wait until Thursday. It didn’t hit me until I grabbed a Christmas book to read the kids at bedtime and it was a book his grandma had given N a few years ago and had a hand written note. Thankfully N didn’t notice me crying as I read ❤️ We were able to take the kids sledding today which was a great distraction. They had so much fun and it was a perfect day for it. Wishing you all a very merry Christmas tomorrow! |
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 24, 2019 23:20:24 GMT -6
I get it wedding. Mom guilt is a bitch. I'll be home all of winter break except for 1 day at work. These first few days of break were at my parents so sometimes they took the lead with the kids. The rest they will have all their new things to play with and each other, so just like kim22 mentioned, they'll probably spend the majority of the time in a different room than I am playing and come down when they're hungry. So I'll still get plenty of me time away from them even though they're home. 🤷♀️ C will have a great time in DC and it's ok for you to recharge. 💓 |
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 24, 2019 23:22:12 GMT -6
I'm sorry for your loss slenle, but glad it sounds like she went peacefully. guster ouch! Your poor H. I would whine. Anything near my eye freaks me out. |
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 24, 2019 23:24:56 GMT -6
As usual, everyone is already at their destination so there's thankfully hardly any traffic. We're making great time home. Now just hoping M actually goes to sleep quickly (ha!) so Santa and the Tooth Fairy can do their thing. She lost one today and C is excited about finally having her first loose tooth.
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 25, 2019 0:10:10 GMT -6
@slene sorry for your loss
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Post by guster on Dec 25, 2019 6:07:15 GMT -6
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Post by nam2013 on Dec 25, 2019 7:34:32 GMT -6
slenle I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Post by jewels on Dec 25, 2019 7:41:52 GMT -6
slenle I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Dec 25, 2019 7:50:46 GMT -6
I’m sorry for your loss slenle |
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 25, 2019 8:36:06 GMT -6
Sorry for your loss slenle. Stinks extra when it's around the holidays. |
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Post by kim22 on Dec 25, 2019 8:54:47 GMT -6
slenle I’m sorry for your loss.
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Post by joelies on Dec 25, 2019 10:14:15 GMT -6
I'm sorry for your loss, slenle. |
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