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Post by peachsmama on Jun 27, 2017 9:48:19 GMT -6
wedding, darkcyan! Also, I'm sorry. I hope you're able to have a chat with YH and enjoy the quality time together. It's good you are recognizing it. I'd probably just not say anything and sit and stew, ruining all our time together. I do the same thing and it's not fair to anyone. But sometimes I just can't bring myself to talk about it.
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Post by vino on Jun 27, 2017 10:03:40 GMT -6
wedding So I was going to reply and be all 'LT for support I'm sorry he doesn't recognize that you're awesome' but then got busy and started cleaning my bathtub and tiles, and the more I scrubbed the more I got fired up. Yes, I definitely think that you need to have a CTJ talk with him and let him know that this is not acceptable. But the more I got to thinking about all of this shit the more I got mad. Why in the world do we, general we, have to keep reminding husbands to be good husbands? At what point do they take responsibility on their own to be better husbands. We, general we, should have to guide them to try and 'figure us out' to put in some damn effort. No. I 100% realize that I am projecting here, but trust that it is nothing my husband isn't aware of. Before he left we had a massive CTJ talk and it included everything from I'll help him be better, to yes he gets some slack but I am over this shit of the constant CTJ, even the D word was thrown around. If I don't 'share how I'm feeling' then it's on me cause I didn't say anything? No, fool. It's NOT on me if you don't compliment me that I look amazing, take care of everything and run this house. I may or may have even said, 'you don't know how to compliment me or be a good husband?, google it'. When MH didn't do anything for Mothers Day and my birthday this year, even though he is away, I didn't say 'oh that's ok I know you're busy' nope, I said 'I'm disappointed and you should try harder'. Sorry bud, I refuse to hold you hand to be a better husband, I'm winging this whole marriage and mother thing as well and I'm killing it, you? not so much. So, the point of my rant is please expect more for yourself wedding, you're an amazing woman who takes care of everything and has had a major life change, the LEAST he could do is celebrate you with a 'babe, you're HAWT!" every once in a while. FTR I had no idea that I'd be so 'I am woman hear me roar' and 'Who runs the world (girls)' today. Everybody better watch out. also, I scrubbed my tiles like a boss and they are sparkling.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 27, 2017 10:12:51 GMT -6
I'm just going to delete my post and "WSS to vino"
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Post by klong11 on Jun 27, 2017 10:19:40 GMT -6
wedding So I was going to reply and be all 'LT for support I'm sorry he doesn't recognize that you're awesome' but then got busy and started cleaning my bathtub and tiles, and the more I scrubbed the more I got fired up. Yes, I definitely think that you need to have a CTJ talk with him and let him know that this is not acceptable. But the more I got to thinking about all of this shit the more I got mad. Why in the world do we, general we, have to keep reminding husbands to be good husbands? At what point do they take responsibility on their own to be better husbands. We, general we, should have to guide them to try and 'figure us out' to put in some damn effort. No. I 100% realize that I am projecting here, but trust that it is nothing my husband isn't aware of. Before he left we had a massive CTJ talk and it included everything from I'll help him be better, to yes he gets some slack but I am over this shit of the constant CTJ, even the D word was thrown around. If I don't 'share how I'm feeling' then it's on me cause I didn't say anything? No, fool. It's NOT on me if you don't compliment me that I look amazing, take care of everything and run this house. I may or may have even said, 'you don't know how to compliment me or be a good husband?, google it'. When MH didn't do anything for Mothers Day and my birthday this year, even though he is away, I didn't say 'oh that's ok I know you're busy' nope, I said 'I'm disappointed and you should try harder'. Sorry bud, I refuse to hold you hand to be a better husband, I'm winging this whole marriage and mother thing as well and I'm killing it, you? not so much. So, the point of my rant is please expect more for yourself wedding, you're an amazing woman who takes care of everything and has had a major life change, the LEAST he could do is celebrate you with a 'babe, you're HAWT!" every once in a while. FTR I had no idea that I'd be so 'I am woman hear me roar' and 'Who runs the world (girls)' today. Everybody better watch out. also, I scrubbed my tiles like a boss and they are sparkling.
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Post by yummeecookee on Jun 27, 2017 10:25:19 GMT -6
klong11, I sure hope this is a phase but to me it has sassy teenager written all over it so I think I'm just hitting the tip of the iceberg. B has been following directions less and talking back more. Example- Me: you need to sit here at the table and finish your dinner B: YOU need to sit at the table and finish YOUR dinner. 😠😠😠
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 27, 2017 10:27:16 GMT -6
WOO, vino, take a bow, girl!!! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by klong11 on Jun 27, 2017 10:27:18 GMT -6
klong11 , I sure hope this is a phase but to me it has sassy teenager written all over it so I think I'm just hitting the tip of the iceberg. B has been following directions less and talking back more. Example- Me: you need to sit here at the table and finish your dinner B: YOU need to sit at the table and finish YOUR dinner. 😠😠😠 Yep, that sounds like C, too. If I tell her to do something she tells me to stop talking to her, or to stop looking at her. And seriously, if she uninvites me from her birthday party one more time I'm not throwing her a party.
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Post by wedding on Jun 27, 2017 10:32:52 GMT -6
Went to the dentist this morning. I managed to not cough the entire time I was getting my teeth clean, but then had a major coughing fit when I got out to my car. I slept with a cough drop in my mouth last night. Safe? No, but it allowed me to get a little bit of sitting up sleep. I always do that when I'm sick. Sometimes I wake up choking or with it stuck to my hair. It's not cute but nicer than coughing.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 27, 2017 10:35:10 GMT -6
klong11 , I sure hope this is a phase but to me it has sassy teenager written all over it so I think I'm just hitting the tip of the iceberg. B has been following directions less and talking back more. Example- Me: you need to sit here at the table and finish your dinner B: YOU need to sit at the table and finish YOUR dinner. 😠😠😠 Yep, that sounds like C, too. If I tell her to do something she tells me to stop talking to her, or to stop looking at her. And seriously, if she uninvites me from her birthday party one more time I'm not throwing her a party.LOl but seriously, toddlers are ass holes. M wants "my nana!" everytime he doesn't get his way. I've started responding with "FINE! Go get nana!" cause I'm mature. And she knows better than to disregard what I'm telling him so it back fires on him anyways.
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Post by wedding on Jun 27, 2017 10:36:36 GMT -6
Umm we need a pic of H in her overalls trtlcrzy! I bet she's so stinking cute!!
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Post by wedding on Jun 27, 2017 10:38:59 GMT -6
Thank you guys for the support. That's where I've been at vino so I've held off talking about it because if I come from an angry place he will get defensive and it won't go well. So I've been trying to calm but I'm just getting more pissed. With the weight thing in afraid he'll say something like "well you're still fat". He's never once talked to me like that but I have this fear about it. BtW I ordered the darkcyan. I love the polka dogs but I'm more of a solids girl. ETA: dots not dogs. I am a polka dog girl!
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Post by wedding on Jun 27, 2017 10:41:13 GMT -6
Thank you guys for the support. That's where I've been at vino so I've held off talking about it because if I come from an angry place he will get defensive and it won't go well. So I've been trying to calm but I'm just getting more pissed. With the weight thing in afraid he'll say something like "well you're still fat". He's never once talked to me like that but I have this fear about it. BtW I ordered the darkcyan. I love the polka dogs but I'm more of a solids girl.
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Post by wedding on Jun 27, 2017 10:45:10 GMT -6
C is rocking an attitude too. I get a lot of "I'll do it if I want to!" Umm no. He's also been extra whiney the past week.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 27, 2017 10:53:29 GMT -6
wedding you lost an entire person in weight. I commented on how great my MIL looked last week and she's like "well it's only 20 pounds so far" 20 pounds is huge. Thats Jackson! Lol. She laughed and said "yea I guess you're right, it is a lot" Whether you have 3 pounds or 50 left to lose, 54 pounds is a huge accomplishment.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 27, 2017 10:54:34 GMT -6
klong11 , I sure hope this is a phase but to me it has sassy teenager written all over it so I think I'm just hitting the tip of the iceberg. B has been following directions less and talking back more. Example- Me: you need to sit here at the table and finish your dinner B: YOU need to sit at the table and finish YOUR dinner. 😠😠😠 Yep, that sounds like C, too. If I tell her to do something she tells me to stop talking to her, or to stop looking at her. And seriously, if she uninvites me from her birthday party one more time I'm not throwing her a party. I get uninvited from M's party all the time. I told her if I'm not invited that means she doesn't get a party. I'm also not her best friend. No shit girl, I'm your mother. Now do what I asked!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 27, 2017 10:56:14 GMT -6
Umm we need a pic of H in her overalls trtlcrzy! I bet she's so stinking cute!! PDQ
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 27, 2017 11:01:55 GMT -6
trtlcrzy OMG! I love her! I see more of S in her as S gets older.
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 27, 2017 11:07:57 GMT -6
klong11, I sure hope this is a phase but to me it has sassy teenager written all over it so I think I'm just hitting the tip of the iceberg. B has been following directions less and talking back more. Example- Me: you need to sit here at the table and finish your dinner B: YOU need to sit at the table and finish YOUR dinner. 😠😠😠 Every time Atticus gets annoyed with me he threatens to call my dad. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by wedding on Jun 27, 2017 11:20:24 GMT -6
MIL's bday is July 4th. It's her 60th. They are staying at a fancy Boston hotel to go to the Boston Pops and fireworks. I want to send up wine and treats to her room but I have never paid attention to what white wine she drinks. How would I know if it is Prosecco or Pinot Grigio? I was going to ask my SIL but then she will want to go in on the gift and honestly, I am the least favored so I am pettily not including her. I was thinking Pinot is the safer bet?
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 27, 2017 11:24:13 GMT -6
MIL's bday is July 4th. It's her 60th. They are staying at a fancy Boston hotel to go to the Boston Pops and fireworks. I want to send up wine and treats to her room but I have never paid attention to what white wine she drinks. How would I know if it is Prosecco or Pinot Grigio? I was going to ask my SIL but then she will want to go in on the gift and honestly, I am the least favored so I am pettily not including her. I was thinking Pinot is the safer bet? Prosecco has bubbles in it! So that might be more festive, a pino is always nice ☺️.
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Post by cheeksmum on Jun 27, 2017 11:29:12 GMT -6
wedding, I like the darkcyan or floral teal klong11, I sure hope it's a phase... N has taken to spitting at us when he gets angry/upset. It's just a phase. It's. Just. A. Phase...
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Post by cheeksmum on Jun 27, 2017 11:37:18 GMT -6
The back talk is ridiculous lately! Even just now N wanted me to grab his watermelon slice off his plate for him. "Mommy get it." Nolan.. I cut it up and put it on your plate, you can get up and get it for yourself. "No, you get it!" I'm not your maid or waitress, you want it you can get it. "You are my waitress and I told you to get my watermelon."
...he's currently in time out...
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 27, 2017 11:56:20 GMT -6
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Post by inthekitty on Jun 27, 2017 12:08:20 GMT -6
wedding, your husband is just further support that God didn't use Adam's rib to create woman, but Adam's brain. I say PREACH to everything vino said. I often feel the same. MH does not carry his share of the load and I often have a hard time talking about it because I'm sick of the fucking necessity to have serious talks all the time. Do your fucking job. I do mine without being asked. It's always one-sided and it gets old. I hope your husband starts doing better vino and that you don't have to keep spelling it out to him. Like you said, no one gave me a play-by-play of how to be a good mom and wife, but I borrowed from the basics of my be-a-good-person lessons. MH was a straight up dick last year for Mother's Day. Didn't do shit and acted like a selfish ass. This year, I was honestly shocked beyond words when he got me a beautiful necklace. Maybe he realized on his own that being a dick is not a positive attribute. I hope yours has that light bulb moment as well.
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Post by inthekitty on Jun 27, 2017 12:09:48 GMT -6
I'm avoiding work today but I can't waste anymore time. 1 person is out and another person has computer problems so it's down to just me and one other guy and we've been slammed. I have multiple reports piling up so I need to get to it.
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Post by inthekitty on Jun 27, 2017 12:12:55 GMT -6
Oh, and speaking of the sass. Cass is PT (#blessed) but is a turd about going independently if I'm around and wants me to come in the bathroom and do the whole 9 yards including wipe her ass even though she is perfectly capable of it. I've told her when she starts preschool in the fall she needs to do it all on her own so she needs to start doing it at home (which she knows how, it's just a power struggle to get me to do everything for her). Last night I was finishing up something when she kept hollering from the bathroom to have me wipe her ass. I said several times "I'll be just a minute" and I heard her in the bathroom mocking what I was saying in a sassy tone. *eye roll*
Ok, now I really need to work...
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Post by wedding on Jun 27, 2017 12:30:55 GMT -6
Pinot it is. Thanks for making all my decisions today guys!
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Post by kim22 on Jun 27, 2017 13:01:56 GMT -6
I took T for a haircut yesterday. I told the guy I still wanted some of his blond curls. He cut them all off. He looks like a different kid. DS1 cried. Why does no one sell maternity clothes anymore? I hate online shopping for clothes but I just went to 2 malls and they had none. Not even Sears. Old Navy had dresses but I can still wear my regular dresses. xolastunicornxo we are just going to the Jersey shore for the week. Next month is Disney. This trip is easy but packing is a pain because I have to bring all the linens and stuff. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by melaniesue on Jun 27, 2017 13:07:21 GMT -6
Ugh. Husbands not helping out. This video is funny bc it's exactly adam. Even he says it's him. He does one tiny thing and feels like he deserves so much praise. When I do eleventy million things but it's just expected from me.
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Post by yummeecookee on Jun 27, 2017 13:14:24 GMT -6
Oh, and speaking of the sass. Cass is PT (#blessed) but is a turd about going independently if I'm around and wants me to come in the bathroom and do the whole 9 yards including wipe her ass even though she is perfectly capable of it. I've told her when she starts preschool in the fall she needs to do it all on her own so she needs to start doing it at home (which she knows how, it's just a power struggle to get me to do everything for her). Last night I was finishing up something when she kept hollering from the bathroom to have me wipe her ass. I said several times "I'll be just a minute" and I heard her in the bathroom mocking what I was saying in a sassy tone. *eye roll* Ok, now I really need to work... B is doing this as well. She wants me to dress her, help her pull her pants up when she goes potty, brush her teeth, the list goes on. I know at school, the teachers don't do any of that for them so she is fully capable!
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