Check in w/o 3/18

[Eames]

OMG to the adorable babies in this thread! And jewelsofthenile, you look awesome!!!

[lemondrop]

Mar 19, 2019 13:27:29 GMT -6 jewelsofthenile said:

so many cute babies in this thread 😀

Seriously, the cute babies are making me glare at my stomach, lol. Like, you need to stay in little dude, BUT I WANT YOU TO COME OUT SO BAD. 

I bet all these babies smell really good, too. *kicks rocks*

[haleyscott]

pambee tapdancer @bex soooo cute!!

[wittyusername]

Weeks pregnant/Due date/How old is baby: 38+4/scheduled induction on 3/24


Baby is the size of a: Pomeranian


FTM/STM/TTM/etc: STM


Team: 💙


Appointments: Just this Sunday for my induction!


Symptoms: Tons of pelvic pressure, and this kid loves to be up in my ribs


Milestones: I just lost my mucus plug so I'm 🤞 that means we won't even make it til Sunday


Rants/Raves/Vents: None!


QOTD: what parenting practices did you take from your parents/ in laws? What will you skip?

I didn't have the best parenting models in my family. I think I've managed to do a pretty good job with my daughter thus far. She's kind, empathetic and sweet (despite junior high!) So I'm hoping to continue with my son.

[loorin]

Weeks pregnant/Due date/How old is baby: 34+6, April 25th


Baby is the size of a: baseketball hoop


FTM/STM/TTM/etc: STM


Team: pink


Appointments: friday


Symptoms: SPD, braxton hicks have started to have butt and vag pressure/pain associated with them - hoping this means something is progressing there


Milestones: down to a max of 3 more weeks of work (!!!)


Rants/Raves/Vents: i think there were a few of us with 3 year olds, so maybe someone can sympathize or tell me this isn't just my kid, but man my DD has been on a whole new level of defiance, screaming, back talking, etc. It is extremely trying. I am sure that it's related to the upcoming changes, but she's been extremely rough to deal with. We've been reading some books like voices are not for yelling, words are not for hurting, etc and I think it helps some. We are also doing screen time detox to see if that has any correlation, but my H and I are pretty much at our wits' end with her.


QOTD: what parenting practices did you take from your parents/ in laws? What will you skip? From my in laws, I really like how they have a close knit extended family. There are so many aunts/uncles/cousins and my H grew up very closely with all of them. Sometimes it's a bit much and too many people up in other people's business, but overall there's a ton of love, support, and fun to go around. I had such an opposite experience growing up and it's something I really cherish about his family.

My parents managed to raise me with really good body image and also an awesome relationship with food. I have no clue what they did, but it's something I really hope I'm doing right for my daughters. I use positive terms to talk about bodies, but feel like I'm messing up the food thing. I don't think I would even notice this otherwise, but with my in laws everyone is "needing to go on a diet", "fat", "needs to lose X number of pounds"... but also pressuring people to eat more food, desserts with every meal, etc. I just want my daughters to be comfortable with who they are and able to eat until they are full - not stuff themselves on dinner to achieve the dessert or gorge themselves on treats every time they have access to them. It's a tough balance that I haven't figured out.

[Eames]

Weeks pregnant/Due date/How old is baby: 2 weeks 2 days today


Baby is the size of a: We had their 2 week growth check today. They exceeded their birth weights at 7lb15oz and 7lb12oz today!🎉


FTM/STM/TTM/etc: STM/TTM (twins)


Team: identical boys


Appointments: One month pediatrician appt in 2 weeks, and I'll have a 6 week pp checkup in 4 weeks. My incision check was Tues and all looks good!


Symptoms: Still having night sweats but I feel great otherwise. I feel like this recovery has been easier than my first c section, which was unplanned.


Milestones: Made birth weight and 2 weeks nursing/pumping so far. I'd love to make it a year but taking it one day/week at a time.


Rants/Raves/Vents: I already vented about ILs staying with us in another thread and feel guilty about it. 😕


QOTD: what parenting practices did you take from your parents/ in laws? What will you skip?

My parents somehow made me really self confident and always had our backs. They encouraged us to travel and expected a lot from us academically, and I feel like me and my sisters rose to the challenge. However, I didn't always feel like I could be 100% honest if I was struggling with something. Once I was in high school/college I turned to friends for a lot of support. Luckily I had/have a great group of supportive friends.

For my ILs, one thing I love is that they do seem to have that open honest relationship and are/were understanding when my H and his brother messed up. One thing they do (and I don't think they even realize it) is nitpick and/or talk and gossip about other family members. It always makes me wonder what they say about me!

[Deleted]

loorin, I have a 3.5 yo so I can sympathize for sure. She’s the sweetest kid ever but man she can turn into a raging monster sometimes. It’s tough! I try to tell myself that it’s normal for her age but she for sure tests my patience!

[jacks]

loorin re: 3 yr old emotions - I have found my DD needing a lot more physical affection lately. I also make a real effort to spend one on one time with her. I’m usually up doing light chores while she plays, but sometimes I can tell when she just needs me to sit and color or whatever with her. It seems to be helping so far. My house is a wreck, but at least I don’t have a sobbing threenager on the floor?

And about food- I haven’t been great about food things, but have picked up great phrases from Feeding Littles. I’ve stopped offering dessert as a “reward” for eating dinner, etc. Her school also pushes “making a happy plate” which drives me crazy, but I’ve been turning it to “happy belly” means she can stop eating.

[Eames]

loorin, I love happy tummy, my DD's old school said happy plate too, and it drove me nuts. My ILs are here and have also been saying things like, "finish your mac and cheese, and then you can have dessert." My H does this too and I have to remind him that kids have a pretty good sense of when they are full.

[Yogurt]

loorin and jacks
I'm guilty of "eat a reasonable amount of dinner and then (and only then) can you have dessert". Is that a bad approach?

If she eats no dinner I don't give out ice pops, basically.

[loorin]

Yogurt I have no clue what the “right” thing to do is - if my kid knows there will be something sweet after dinner, she will barely eat anything in order to be done faster and without a doubt she will be telling me her belly is hungry when I’m trying to get her to bed. If I insist she eat more, she will, but I get nervous about her getting into a clear your plate if you want dessert habit and I don’t really want that either. I want to teach her to eat until she’s content and sometimes we get a treat, sometimes we don’t. Dessert isn’t an every night thing here.

I’ve been thinking about including a treat on her dinner plate and letting her choose when she wants to eat it but haven’t decided if that will somehow backfire on me.

Basically, I have no clue what I’m doing here.

[jacks]

Yogurt I don’t ever advertise desserts until after she’s done eating dinner because she’ll immediately stop eating her dinner. If she barely eats, I just don’t offer anything and if she asks for a treat, my response is just “we’re not having that tonight. If you’re hungry, you have some dinner left you may eat.”

But of course other times, I might use it as bribery. She’s the worst about “I don’t like that!” before ever taking a bite. I might promise a chocolate chip if she tries something new.

She’s never been a good eater, so I should probably finish watching the toddler feeding course I bought on Black Friday....

[snickerdoodle]

My DD just turned 2 but I relate so much to the food issues. She is super picky and loves sweets. So we have done a lot of things that aren’t sustainable to just get her to eat. But I hav multiple family members that have had eating disorders so I am also concerned about how we talk about food and how it will affect her. I have no idea what is the right thing to do most of the time. Me and H also have different views on feeding which is hard. I want to try the feeding Little’s class. Has anyone done the toddler class is it worth it?

[pambee]

I don't know what's "right" but E has to eat some of her dinner before she gets a treat or dessert, and she knows it. If she's hungry enough to want dessert then she can eat more of her dinner. I do pretty good at giving her small portions that I know she can actually finish or eat most of, and she knows she can always ask for more too. And sometimes she'll finish her plate, get a snack, and then if she's still hungry she can have seconds of dinner.

Sometimes at lunch she can have something like chips with her meal (not a typical side for us) but only if she eats her whole sandwich too, etc. So she gets the chips with the meal, but knows if she eats them she has to eat the sandwich too.

We don't really snack during the day, either though. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner and a snack really only if we're out or something. So I try to make sure she eats well at meals.