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Post by strawberrykiki on Feb 21, 2019 12:16:44 GMT -6
thelittleredm evening is definitely better than during the night! k I feel you. I’ve barely left my house in weeks! Last night was rough. Little guy just did not want to stay asleep. He’s now sleeping peacefully in his glider thank goodness. MH has been a little more helpful. He seems to do better when I say here take him for awhile or can you change his clothes and diaper. Clear instructions! We are going on a mini date tonight. I think out to one of our favorite places for a drink at the bar. My mom leaves Saturday and we have no family here so making the most of a babysitter while we can.
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Post by k on Feb 21, 2019 12:25:52 GMT -6
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Post by TashaLa on Feb 21, 2019 12:30:50 GMT -6
k I hear you! My mood is SO much better if I leave the house, even if it’s just for a little. I went to the mall to walk yesterday and S needed to eat when we got there, then wouldn’t settle down in the stroller so I had to hold her, which prompted every other person to come over and get too close, and comment on how little she is. 🙄 Then we needed a second feeding, finally went down for a little snooze. So in 2 hrs I covered about 1.5 miles 😂 I still call it a success, but damn! Thank god Nordstrom has such a nice ladies room/nursing lounge!
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Post by tngrl3 on Feb 21, 2019 12:33:29 GMT -6
I'm a major introvert and enjoy the days at home with quiet, but I also try and get out of the house at least 2-3 days a week. It makes such a difference.
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Post by TashaLa on Feb 21, 2019 12:46:27 GMT -6
tngrl3 it’s good that you know that about yourself though. I’m a true extrovert and really struggled with DD1 until I realized how much I needed personal connection and human interaction. Getting out was a huge part of my self care. I even broke up grocery shopping into a few smaller trips to make excursions productive
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Post by k on Feb 21, 2019 12:58:15 GMT -6
It’s funny bc I am an introvert, but I’ve realized with kids I am so much happier, patient and sane when i get out. It’s obviously a struggle getting out with a newborn, especially during flu season, but I feel heaps better. I can’t wait until we can just walk to the park. Why did I have 3 winter babies? 🤔
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Post by wildflowers on Feb 21, 2019 22:28:34 GMT -6
I should go to bed but I find myself dreading the broken sleep so much I don't want to.
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 22, 2019 3:49:56 GMT -6
Getting out of the house right now is a struggle. DS1 was born at the beginning of a warm autumn, and we were able to take plenty of walks and Target trips. Now, I’m so scared of B getting sick again that I’m just not comfortable being around a lot of people. My niece’s birthday party is on Sunday and I know that DS1 would love to see his cousins, but at least one of them is always sick and I know most of them haven’t had a flu shot. So we’ll be staying home.
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Post by k on Feb 22, 2019 4:17:27 GMT -6
Getting out of the house right now is a struggle. DS1 was born at the beginning of a warm autumn, and we were able to take plenty of walks and Target trips. Now, I’m so scared of B getting sick again that I’m just not comfortable being around a lot of people. My niece’s birthday party is on Sunday and I know that DS1 would love to see his cousins, but at least one of them is always sick and I know most of them haven’t had a flu shot. So we’ll be staying home. I don’t blame you. I’d do the same.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 22, 2019 8:48:12 GMT -6
My first baby was also a February baby and I felt OK taking her out right away. She didn’t get sick until starting daycare. But now with a toddler that picks up every last bug going around, I am much more nervous. The logistics are more complicated too. I’m going to try next week for the first time since I signed DD1 up for a class at the Y.
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 22, 2019 8:49:17 GMT -6
Getting out of the house right now is a struggle. DS1 was born at the beginning of a warm autumn, and we were able to take plenty of walks and Target trips. Now, I’m so scared of B getting sick again that I’m just not comfortable being around a lot of people. My niece’s birthday party is on Sunday and I know that DS1 would love to see his cousins, but at least one of them is always sick and I know most of them haven’t had a flu shot. So we’ll be staying home. I don’t blame you. I’d do the same. Thank you - that helps me feel less guilty about it. I know that it’s 100% the right thing to do, but I hate missing my nieces and nephews and keeping DS1 from his cousins. MH works this weekend, so the kid is stuck with B and me. Oh. MH works this weekend. That means it’s my first attempt at solo parenting two children. I should probably go ahead and pop the wine in the fridge now.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 22, 2019 9:21:44 GMT -6
I'm so over today and it's barely started. I make it a point to do MOTN wake ups because H has always had pretty tasking physical jobs and I hate listening to him complain about being tired so, no excuses if he gets to sleep. I did finally ask him at 5:15 this morning to fetch me a diaper. He did it but it ended up waking DS2 up. I made DS2 go get his own new diaper while I changed A. H changed DS2 but that was the end of the help. DS2 climbed into bed with us and I cuddled him. Then DS1 woke up and climbed into bed. So I'm squished between A's cosleeper thing and the two boys (all of us on one half of the bed, mind you) and all of a sudden the boys are extra restless and fighting over their spot. And H? Ignores everything. I'm done. Not even really tired right now, just frustrated.
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Post by redhead610 on Feb 22, 2019 12:42:24 GMT -6
DH leaves on Sunday for a 6 night business trip. First off, it's in Cancun. I would love nothing more to go on a vacation after a grueling pregnancy but nope. Second, I will be alone with a 7 week old, a 2.5 yr old, and a 5.5 year old for a week. Ds3 still wakes up all night long, mostly just needing a paci replaced and then eating sometime around 5am. I already feel like it's so, so hard to care for them all day every day (ds1 is in K so gone some of the day), but now needing to do every single wake up for 6 nights straight (usually dh and I split nights, we bottle feed) and then try to be functional enough to care for them all during the day? Day after day? Yesterday I called my mom panicking. She said she could stay overnight if needed. I feel awful asking for help but I have no idea how I'll survive otherwise.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 22, 2019 12:56:52 GMT -6
DH leaves on Sunday for a 6 night business trip. First off, it's in Cancun. I would love nothing more to go on a vacation after a grueling pregnancy but nope. Second, I will be alone with a 7 week old, a 2.5 yr old, and a 5.5 year old for a week. Ds3 still wakes up all night long, mostly just needing a paci replaced and then eating sometime around 5am. I already feel like it's so, so hard to care for them all day every day (ds1 is in K so gone some of the day), but now needing to do every single wake up for 6 nights straight (usually dh and I split nights, we bottle feed) and then try to be functional enough to care for them all during the day? Day after day? Yesterday I called my mom panicking. She said she could stay overnight if needed. I feel awful asking for help but I have no idea how I'll survive otherwise. This would make me panic too. You need the help, don’t feel bad to take it.
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Post by k on Feb 22, 2019 13:15:23 GMT -6
redhead610 take her up on it! if you get along with your mom 😜. Does she still work? Would she be up for taking the older boys instead so you just have the baby?
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Post by strawberrykiki on Feb 22, 2019 13:49:44 GMT -6
Glasses of wine for all of you! Finn takes up all my time I can’t imagine next baby when I have toddler Finn and a new baby to care for. Even though it’s for work I would be a tad resentful of MH going to a tropical paradise while I struggled PP with the kids on my own. hrh omg yup she totally ruined it. I’m so sorry. We were the same and did not tell anyone the baby’s name until he was born. We actually didn’t choose his name for sure until a few hours before he was born. I missed my mom meeting him and learning his name because they were sewing me up but that was just the circumstances not because she was too impatient.
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Post by redhead610 on Feb 22, 2019 14:31:08 GMT -6
redhead610 take her up on it! if you get along with your mom 😜. Does she still work? Would she be up for taking the older boys instead so you just have the baby? She does not still work, but my dad still does and travels, so I imagine it would be hard for her to get ds1 off to school (20 min from their house) rather than just get on the bus at the end of our driveway. But she would definitely take one to storytime or whatever for me if needed, and coming over to let me rest. Thanks for letting me vent. DH told me he was concerned about ppa/ppd, and while I appreciate the concern, I'm pretty sure it's just anxiety over this trip and doing everything alone!
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Post by tngrl3 on Feb 22, 2019 15:10:39 GMT -6
+1 to the anxiety of having a newborn during cold/flu/RSV season. With two older brothers, especially one in preschool, DD is inevitably going to be exposed to things. Trying balance our needs to get groceries and such, as well as just getting out of the house to keep everyone sane, with the knowledge that we need to minimize the risks for her is a challenge. She's been to Target and Costco a few times each, but that's about it, other than preschool drop-off/pickup and doctors appointments. I look forward to getting out more in the coming months! We have actually been quite a few places because I have to do certain things to keep our family running. I find that going early in the morning cuts down on crowds and I try and avoid being close to other people. I always wear her so people would really have to invade personal space to get close to her. With DS in school and DD1 in daycare I know she us exposed to some stuff. I make them change clothes and wash hands when they come home.
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Post by sammysam on Feb 22, 2019 17:18:59 GMT -6
sunshiney I just saw your your announcement now. Congratulations on your little boy!!!
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Post by strawberrykiki on Feb 23, 2019 17:51:35 GMT -6
hrh lol so much fun when everyone starts asking. Like nope obviously I haven’t but thanks for asking!
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 23, 2019 22:10:25 GMT -6
hrh, It may have only been by two days, but I'm thankful I didn't have to watch my due date pass while also having to deal with work. Seriously, coworkers are the worst.
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Post by TashaLa on Feb 24, 2019 17:39:48 GMT -6
Anyone with tips to get your kid to take a pacifier? DD1 loved her binky, this kid not so much
S will wake up and I know she just needs to suckle to go back out. She also has such an aggressive latch/suck the LC recommended not letting her hang out too long after she’s done nursing
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 24, 2019 18:00:48 GMT -6
TashaLa I’m limiting time on the boob for the same reason. I can get D to take a paci by kind of removing it from her mouth, then she tries to keep it and suckles more. She’s not crazy about it but it works in a pinch.
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Post by tngrl3 on Feb 24, 2019 18:13:28 GMT -6
dashook, TashaLa DD2 doesn't love her paci but will take it at times. What brand are you using? I'm a huge fan of the MAM newborn size. That size is hard to find but I find newborns take it a lot easier. Between Bfing and pumping my nips can't handle being a pacifier too!
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 24, 2019 19:58:30 GMT -6
TashaLa, DS1 never took a pacifier, never used his thumb. He was strictly a boob man. DS2 took a pacifier but only WubNubs for some reason. But ultimately, he's a thumb guy. DD has only seemed to like her WubNub. We've tried other ones but she just spits them out. Honestly, I sort of just held pacifiers to their mouths until they decided it was maybe a nipple and tried it.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 25, 2019 9:15:28 GMT -6
My baby is so sleepy still. She’s only awake for a few minutes at a time at a week old. DD1 had much more quiet alert time as a newborn. I’ve been enjoying the rest, but I’m also a little worried.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 25, 2019 9:30:07 GMT -6
notagoddess, DS1 and DD were/are way more alert than DS2 was. He was a much sleepier baby for longer than the other two. If it helps, he is now my busiest and noisiest child lol
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 25, 2019 17:40:21 GMT -6
@amc, DS2 throws his weight around when he wants to play with people and he's given my heart so many issues because of how close he comes to knocking into A. I think he's only chucked one toy toward her but man. We got sneak peeks from A's newborn session and I thought I'd share a couple of my favorites!
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Post by k on Feb 25, 2019 17:47:36 GMT -6
DS2 got a new set of toy emergency vehicles yesterday evening. Less than 24 hours later, both boys have already landed the toy helicopter on DD's head while she's nursing. 🤦♀️ I’m sorry but I LOLed at this. I keep saying B needs a helmet.
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Post by k on Feb 25, 2019 17:48:13 GMT -6
So sweet! @littleredm
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