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Post by hardlyluck on Jan 30, 2020 14:26:12 GMT -6
It’s so wrong on lots of levels, right? It’s so weird! Like I understand that their bio dad gave up his rights and Kody adopted them and that is wonderful, but to make up this whole fantasy about their family history together is...I don’t have the right words, but it just seems so misleading and well, fake. Are they trying to erase their life story before Kody because that doesn’t seem very healthy.
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Post by jewels on Jan 30, 2020 14:36:12 GMT -6
It's so weird. And did they use an existing photo to make that portrait? Like was their bio dad in it and the cut him out and sketched Kody in? I agree, it's great that Kody adopted them. Truly. And great that it truly seems he treats them the same as if he had been with them their whole life. But like hardlyluck said, to create this whole fake story is... weird.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 30, 2020 15:03:53 GMT -6
I’m on season 9 after the adoption and Robyn had a portrait made of a younger Kody with her kids as babies made. I thought it was so creepy. I forgot about this. The kids didnt know him at these ages right? Right. And they still visit with their bio dad.
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Post by hardlyluck on Jan 30, 2020 15:05:34 GMT -6
I forgot about this. The kids didnt know him at these ages right? Right. And they still visit with their bio dad. They do? That’s unexpected. Does anybody know why he gave up his rights?
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Post by Jesslfar on Jan 30, 2020 15:15:47 GMT -6
It’s so wrong on lots of levels, right? One of the best parts of this photo is the age is off for Kody. He should be 10 years or more older in that photo.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 30, 2020 15:27:49 GMT -6
Also I’m on the I hate Robyn train.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 30, 2020 15:28:56 GMT -6
Right. And they still visit with their bio dad. They do? That’s unexpected. Does anybody know why he gave up his rights? He said because Kody was better at taking care of them. He wasn’t paying child support. The kids see him at least twice a year.
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Post by xtine22 on Jan 30, 2020 15:30:18 GMT -6
Right. And they still visit with their bio dad. They do? That’s unexpected. Does anybody know why he gave up his rights? I’m not sure about after the adoption but they visited him up till I believe. When Dayton has his ATV crash he/they were with their bio father, so I would assume that they still see him.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 30, 2020 15:33:21 GMT -6
Ok I’m on an episode where it appears Meri was trying to let them know she was leaving before she knew she was being catfished. Like she was all about this “guy” beforehand.
Kinda don’t blame Kody now.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 30, 2020 16:25:02 GMT -6
Ok I’m on an episode where it appears Meri was trying to let them know she was leaving before she knew she was being catfished. Like she was all about this “guy” beforehand. Kinda don’t blame Kody now. Ohhh interesting
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Post by crunch on Jan 30, 2020 16:41:01 GMT -6
Robyn is getting really pissed off at the house pride meeting. No one ever really talks to Kody like that.
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Post by lolacachia on Jan 30, 2020 17:38:55 GMT -6
I’m on season 9 after the adoption and Robyn had a portrait made of a younger Kody with her kids as babies made. I thought it was so creepy. That’s what I was talking about!!!!!
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Post by whatsit on Jan 30, 2020 18:34:45 GMT -6
I keep seeing ads/videos for paintings of deceased loved ones with younger family members together.
To me it’s something like that... unnecessary to re-write your past through a picture.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 30, 2020 18:55:43 GMT -6
I keep seeing ads/videos for paintings of deceased loved ones with younger family members together. To me it’s something like that... unnecessary to re-write your past through a picture. I can understand the deceased loved ones. It’s not for me but I don’t cringe at that so much.
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Post by bunnyfungo on Jan 30, 2020 19:01:58 GMT -6
That is super upsetting to me. Kody isn’t their dad. He didn’t know them then and they didn’t know him. I’m glad he is a great father figure to them, but blended families are complicated. Erasing the kids past isn’t going to help them navigate the big feelings that come with losing one family and growing into a new one. You can’t pretend that half of their parents/life never existed. I’m very wtf about that.
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Post by Jesslfar on Jan 30, 2020 19:32:07 GMT -6
That is super upsetting to me. Kody isn’t their dad. He didn’t know them then and they didn’t know him. I’m glad he is a great father figure to them, but blended families are complicated. Erasing the kids past isn’t going to help them navigate the big feelings that come with losing one family and growing into a new one. You can’t pretend that half of their parents/life never existed. I’m very wtf about that. Can't the kids only go with one family in the afterlife? Isn't that their whole thing?
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Post by bunnyfungo on Jan 30, 2020 19:34:00 GMT -6
That is super upsetting to me. Kody isn’t their dad. He didn’t know them then and they didn’t know him. I’m glad he is a great father figure to them, but blended families are complicated. Erasing the kids past isn’t going to help them navigate the big feelings that come with losing one family and growing into a new one. You can’t pretend that half of their parents/life never existed. I’m very wtf about that. Can't the kids only go with one family in the afterlife? Isn't that their whole thing? I have no idea about their religion. But as a person in a blended family, I don’t like it.
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Post by poppet on Jan 30, 2020 20:41:09 GMT -6
Also I’m on the I hate Robyn train. Ok you are indeed catching up. She was likable for a moment then there’s her now.
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Post by poppet on Jan 30, 2020 20:46:04 GMT -6
Ok I’m on an episode where it appears Meri was trying to let them know she was leaving before she knew she was being catfished. Like she was all about this “guy” beforehand. Kinda don’t blame Kody now. Yes, this is part of the reason I’m wtf at any deep Meri sympathy on here. Kody still doesn’t get to torture her forever, though.. But yeah, she was ready to leave them all for dead. Meri was a relentless bitch in the early days. I respect Christine on never wanting to share a house again. (Even though I’m with Jenelle on this one.)
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Post by Jesslfar on Jan 30, 2020 21:14:55 GMT -6
Ok I’m on an episode where it appears Meri was trying to let them know she was leaving before she knew she was being catfished. Like she was all about this “guy” beforehand. Kinda don’t blame Kody now. Yes, this is part of the reason I’m wtf at any deep Meri sympathy on here. Kody still doesn’t get to torture her forever, though.. But yeah, she was ready to leave them all for dead. Meri was a relentless bitch in the early days. I respect Christine on never wanting to share a house again. (Even though I’m with Jenelle on this one.) My sympathy with Meri is about kids. When Robyn came in the door wasn’t closed on fertility treatments for Meri. Robyn offered to carry a child for Meri and that felt like a real possibility. Once Robyn started having kids Kody nixed it. Kody dropped her as first wife and only has eyes for Robyn. I can see why she wanted to run. She is barely treated as a wife anymore.
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Jan 30, 2020 23:00:30 GMT -6
Also I’m on the I hate Robyn train. Her first husband was a Jessup. They are huge is the FLSD church.
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Post by jewels on Jan 31, 2020 7:25:43 GMT -6
Yes, this is part of the reason I’m wtf at any deep Meri sympathy on here. Kody still doesn’t get to torture her forever, though.. But yeah, she was ready to leave them all for dead. Meri was a relentless bitch in the early days. I respect Christine on never wanting to share a house again. (Even though I’m with Jenelle on this one.) My sympathy with Meri is about kids. When Robyn came in the door wasn’t closed on fertility treatments for Meri. Robyn offered to carry a child for Meri and that felt like a real possibility. Once Robyn started having kids Kody nixed it. Kody dropped her as first wife and only has eyes for Robyn. I can see why she wanted to run. She is barely treated as a wife anymore. Didn't Robyn first offer to carry Meri's kid after she had Solomon? I remember it being a weird moment in the immediate hours after he was born. Also, I honestly don't think Meri was into that idea at all. And I don't blame her. I think that would put an even weirder dynamic on the family (like the new young fertile wife has to come in and "save" Meri by giving her a baby) I don't know, I'm not wording what I'm thinking well, but I think it would have been a recipe for disaster.
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Post by hardlyluck on Jan 31, 2020 7:58:11 GMT -6
My sympathy with Meri is about kids. When Robyn came in the door wasn’t closed on fertility treatments for Meri. Robyn offered to carry a child for Meri and that felt like a real possibility. Once Robyn started having kids Kody nixed it. Kody dropped her as first wife and only has eyes for Robyn. I can see why she wanted to run. She is barely treated as a wife anymore. Didn't Robyn first offer to carry Meri's kid after she had Solomon? I remember it being a weird moment in the immediate hours after he was born. Also, I honestly don't think Meri was into that idea at all. And I don't blame her. I think that would put an even weirder dynamic on the family (like the new young fertile wife has to come in and "save" Meri by giving her a baby) I don't know, I'm not wording what I'm thinking well, but I think it would have been a recipe for disaster. Disclaimer* again I was watching that episode though the lense of infertility depression. I was torn when Robyn offered, I wanted to think it was totally altruistic and caring (aside from the very weird timing), but as someone who’s body was currently betraying me by refusing to work right and get pregnant, it felt almost... I guess smug. And yeah “I’ll come save your broken body with my younger one that just proved it works” ^ there is so much projection there it’s not even funny but that’s how I felt
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 31, 2020 7:58:42 GMT -6
I just don’t buy meri was the only bitch. Again they’re all so outspoken and I don’t see Janelle taking shit from anyone. I can still pity meri and count her flaws.
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Post by jewels on Jan 31, 2020 9:25:16 GMT -6
Didn't Robyn first offer to carry Meri's kid after she had Solomon? I remember it being a weird moment in the immediate hours after he was born. Also, I honestly don't think Meri was into that idea at all. And I don't blame her. I think that would put an even weirder dynamic on the family (like the new young fertile wife has to come in and "save" Meri by giving her a baby) I don't know, I'm not wording what I'm thinking well, but I think it would have been a recipe for disaster. Disclaimer* again I was watching that episode though the lense of infertility depression I was torn when Robyn offered, I wanted to think it was totally altruistic and caring (aside from the very weird timing) but as someone who’s body was currently betraying me by refusing to work right and get pregnant, it felt almost... I guess smug. And yeah “I’ll come save your broken body with my young that just proved it works” ^ there is so much projection there it’s not even funny but that’s how I felt I was not struggling with infertility at all and I felt the exact same way.
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Post by poppet on Jan 31, 2020 9:29:28 GMT -6
I just don’t buy meri was the only bitch. Again they’re all so outspoken and I don’t see Janelle taking shit from anyone. I can still pity meri and count her flaws. I don't think that Meri was the only bitch, but she was the only bitch that had problems with literally every other adult. Jenelle and Christine remain united on the fact that Meri made life almost unbearable for them in the early years. Meri and Jenelle's counseling years later, and Christine's desire to never live together again are a direct result of Meri's behavior from that time. I agree she is pitiful. And her daughter was such a brat to her in the aftermath of her affair. And grody Kody never helped with shit.
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Post by poppet on Jan 31, 2020 9:43:26 GMT -6
I was just reminded of that time when Meri's daughter made fun of her eyebrows. As someone with imperfect brows, I felt that. Lol.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 31, 2020 10:56:03 GMT -6
I was just reminded of that time when Meri's daughter made fun of her eyebrows. As someone with imperfect brows, I felt that. Lol. To be fair Meris brows werent just imperfect. They were severely overplucked and terribly drawn on. I'm glad someone said something 🤣
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Post by MichaelScott on Jan 31, 2020 11:19:09 GMT -6
I just don’t buy meri was the only bitch. Again they’re all so outspoken and I don’t see Janelle taking shit from anyone. I can still pity meri and count her flaws. I don't think that Meri was the only bitch, but she was the only bitch that had problems with literally every other adult. Jenelle and Christine remain united on the fact that Meri made life almost unbearable for them in the early years. Meri and Jenelle's counseling years later, and Christine's desire to never live together again are a direct result of Meri's behavior from that time. I agree she is pitiful. And her daughter was such a brat to her in the aftermath of her affair. And grody Kody never helped with shit. I agree. This shit didn't come out of no where. Meri's been playin' these games this whole time but look at the common denominator. Also, it was Meri who co-signed on all things Robyn when the other two were reluctant. She wanted a newbie to be on her side.
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Post by hardlyluck on Jan 31, 2020 12:05:11 GMT -6
I know it sounds like I keep giving Meri a pass and I really don’t even like her as a person, she seems like a bitch honestly, but I had a LOT of resentment and even sometimes irrational hatred of people who could get pregnant “easily” while I was not capable. It made me an angry, bitter person for that time period (and some of that still lingers), and that was just my co-workers, not other women my husband was fucking, which would drive home the point that the “flaw” lay with only me. Like others have said I can realize she is a bitch and still feel for her watching her husband’s other wives get everything she wanted.
*i think she would have been awful to them even without the infertility, that just added to it.
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