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Post by marygracerich on Oct 17, 2018 11:09:36 GMT -6
marygracerich / sorry for the funk. We are here if you want to vent. If you want something funny and light to read let me know. No pressure. Thanks. I don’t bore everyone with my nonsense when there are much bigger problems in the world. It’s mostly stress from my big kids school stuff and such. Nothing I can’t handle, it just sucks for a little while. I honestly think I wouldn’t feel so badly if I was around adults more. I’m pretty lonely. All of my friends live 40+ miles away and don’t have time for me. I tried making friends with the moms at my local library but I am very different then them and I don’t really fit in. There aren’t really any mom groups around here either. So I sit home with the baby most of the day. Some days I go to work after MH gets home but even then, I basically work alone. That’s when I listen to podcasts. |
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Post by miawallace on Oct 17, 2018 11:20:28 GMT -6
marygracerich / sorry for the funk. We are here if you want to vent. If you want something funny and light to read let me know. No pressure. Thanks. I don’t bore everyone with my nonsense when there are much bigger problems in the world. It’s mostly stress from my big kids school stuff and such. Nothing I can’t handle, it just sucks for a little while. I honestly think I wouldn’t feel so badly if I was around adults more. I’m pretty lonely. All of my friends live 40+ miles away and don’t have time for me. I tried making friends with the moms at my local library but I am very different then them and I don’t really fit in. There aren’t really any mom groups around here either. So I sit home with the baby most of the day. Some days I go to work after MH gets home but even then, I basically work alone. That’s when I listen to podcasts. I’m sorry. I always say finding moms who are in your same wavelength are hard to find. It’s like dating. There’s needs to be a spark. Common interests too. Most of the moms I have met, it’s been through mutual friends. I haven’t gotten out in the mom group dating scene yet. It scares me. My social anxiety is fun. When C was little I use to walk around my local mall to squeeze in exercise and just window shop. Even if I interacted with the Macy’s perfum lady it helped make me feel less lonely. Also your worries are not nonsense. They matter to you and even if the world and country are falling apart, they matter and they are valid concerns especially in regards to your children. Damn sometimes I stress out when my little one doesn’t poop. Lol. |
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Post by 4PrivetDrive on Oct 17, 2018 11:20:46 GMT -6
marygracerich, hugs to you. Vent away to us whenever you need and I hope you can shake the things that are troubling you, which aren't stupid if you are bothered by them! miawallace, horror movies on the bike seem like the perfect incentive to pedal as fast as you can from the murderer. Because the killer never runs in the movies. Yet everyone dies anyway.
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Post by 4PrivetDrive on Oct 17, 2018 11:22:36 GMT -6
marygracerich / sorry for the funk. We are here if you want to vent. If you want something funny and light to read let me know. No pressure. Thanks. I don’t bore everyone with my nonsense when there are much bigger problems in the world. It’s mostly stress from my big kids school stuff and such. Nothing I can’t handle, it just sucks for a little while. I honestly think I wouldn’t feel so badly if I was around adults more. I’m pretty lonely. All of my friends live 40+ miles away and don’t have time for me. I tried making friends with the moms at my local library but I am very different then them and I don’t really fit in. There aren’t really any mom groups around here either. So I sit home with the baby most of the day. Some days I go to work after MH gets home but even then, I basically work alone. That’s when I listen to podcasts. Oh hey me. I should have kept reading. All of my close friends don't live in the town as I do, and the ones that do live here rarely get together because everyone is always so busy with their own stuff. It really is hard to branch out and find new people as you get older with kids. |
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 17, 2018 11:40:44 GMT -6
Thanks everyone. I appreciate the love.
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Post by mischief on Oct 17, 2018 13:18:31 GMT -6
Ill +1 to everything miawallace said. Especially on the social anxiety, its a bitch. Im lucky in the fact that I live with my sister so Im not ever short on company but I know its hard trying to make new friends. We moved to a new city last year and I have made one friend and she is my sisters friend from work. You are always welcome to vent here about anything at all big or small. Sometimes it helps just to get it off your chest. Or if you just want to hang out and chat Im always down for that. This is really the only board Im on anymore and its always in the background even if Im reading.  |
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Post by purple on Oct 17, 2018 13:29:07 GMT -6
marygracerich, you're among friends here, and we care about what you care about. Parenting is really hard. I had a group of mum friends when L was tiny. Once our kids got to nine months or a year they all started to go back to work. When I lost Gracie and nearly died, when L was eleven months, I was shocked to find that none of them were there for me. They weren't such good friends as I'd thought. I do have mum friends now, both in RL and on the interweb, but finding real ones takes time and courage. And social anxiety is a real bitch. I'm a real advocate of talking to strangers on the internet. Typing is much less scary than talking in real time.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 17, 2018 13:30:47 GMT -6
And now I’m sobbing. You guys are awesome.
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Post by purple on Oct 17, 2018 13:33:14 GMT -6
4PrivetDrive, relationships are so, so hard. Good luck working out what is best for your family. miawallace, you're a braver woman than I am. I once saw two minutes of a horror film by mistake. I was too scared to sleep for a week and more than twenty years later, it still sometimes features in my nightmares. Anything that encourages exercise is a win in my book! mischief, hope the diet is going well.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 17, 2018 13:33:32 GMT -6
The worst part of it is I am generally not shy! The only thing I am EVER socially anxious about is the big kids bus pick up and drop off. I have a rocky relationship with the driver and the matron which is part of my problems today.
I talk to people everywhere I go. I exchange numbers with people. I am super chatty. I just think that A) I have a strong personality and people don’t like it. B) I am very different and people can’t relate to me.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 17, 2018 13:39:10 GMT -6
I’m sorry for your loss purple |
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Post by purple on Oct 17, 2018 13:52:39 GMT -6
I’m sorry for your loss purple Thanks. It was the first of six consecutive losses, which is why I have PTSD and depression and sometimes have to read fanfic all night to keep the monsters away. Which is why I started lurking on this board... |
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Post by mischief on Oct 17, 2018 14:00:01 GMT -6
Day 3 of the diet is so so. I had to pick DS up from school because he wiped out and hurt his head, hes got a nasty cut, so we got McDonalds. But I only had a cheeseburger vs 2 and a large fry and soda. So Im calling it a tiny win. My shake is in the fridge.
Yesterday I did really good. The chocolate isnt too bad, surprisingly I prefer the vanilla because I add the cinnamon and nutmeg. The snacks are weird they are just like little discs, almost like pills. Im supposed to suck on them and not just chew them down. They taste okay. The Isaflush works great. The Ioniccleanse still tastes like sewage lol. I have a powerbar I havent tried yet but am interested in, Im saving it for something. Im starting the cleanse on Saturday so that should be fun, starving with 3 crazy kids running around lol. Ill probably be here whining. And I have the powdered stuff you add to flavor the water I havent tried yet either.
I do stay full though, the hardest problem I have is snacking, Im a snacker. Especially at night so I gotta work on that.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 17, 2018 14:11:11 GMT -6
Ok since this is sort of a ransoms thread and you guys asked for it. Here is a little back story.
Warning: This is going to get long.
I usually hang out on my bmbs, the blinds, the royals thread and sometimes on GD. I have been married for 4 1/2 years. I have a 3yo (G) and a 9.5mo (I).
At 2yo I had G evaluated for a speech delay. During her evaluations they found signs of ASD. They said she has no cognitive delay so her ability to learn is not affected. They said IF it’s a true diagnosis, she is so borderline that she may be fine after getting some services. She had ABA, OT and ST. A year goes by and she has progressed by leaps and bounds. Her therapists and teachers all say with all their experience, there is nothing that makes them believe G is on the spectrum.
I had her evaluated by the school system. NY is very good about providing services for kids that need it. Well she did NOTHING for the evaluators. When I say nothing, I mean for one of them she literally laid on the floor and ignored the evaluator. I was crushed. My kid that was doing awesome is not showing what she can do.
They place her in a full time special ed program for 3 year olds. I tried to get her in a class with kids that are at least at the same functional level as she is. I got that for the most part. She also gets ST, OT and now PT while in school. She gets bussed back and forth to school.
I am grateful she gets bus service. It stops me from having to drive her and pick her up and bring the baby along. Pick up time would be in the middle of his afternoon nap and that would suck to disrupt every day. Well the bus comes at 6:35am to get her. School doesn’t until 8. She is the first pick up. That means she is on the bus for almost an hour and a half. That’s a very long time and that’s very early in the morning for a 3 year old.
Yesterday and today G has refused to get on the bus. I had to drive her. It’s a source of extreme stress for me. I really need her to take the bus. I don’t know how to fix it. Tomorrow I am going to try bribe her with an m&m. The problem is that she is soooooo tired in the morning. I get her up at 6. She hates getting up so early. She even fell asleep on the bus home today because she is exhausted. She has no problem getting on the bus in the afternoon and she had no issues up until this point. I already put her to bed at like 7:15. I don’t know what else I can do to help her. I am terrified of tomorrow’s bus pick up.
In the end, it’s only been two days of this bus problem but it’s really stressing me out. I have no one to talk to about it really besides my internet friends and MH. I have my sister that lives sort of close but she is 15 years older than me and she is exhausting to deal with a lot of the time.
I’m stressed about the bus. I’m stressed because I worry about her development. I hope every day that the baby is neurotypical. I am not even sure G is on the spectrum because they cant for sure diagnose it in her so young and because it’s sooo borderline. I haven’t had a chance to bring her the developmental pediatrician outside of the school system. She acts like a completely typical 3yo most of the time.
I’m just sort of lost in all of that. I spend 80% of my time with just the baby. It’s lonely.
I work part time but I have a lot of work to do this week. I’m exhausted by it all. Usually my books or crafts are my outlet but I haven’t had the time for any of it.
I will stop now that I have bored you all to death.
TL/DR: life is stressful and it’s bumming me out today.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 17, 2018 14:13:30 GMT -6
Day 3 of the diet is so so. I had to pick DS up from school because he wiped out and hurt his head, hes got a nasty cut, so we got McDonalds. But I only had a cheeseburger vs 2 and a large fry and soda. So Im calling it a tiny win. My shake is in the fridge. Yesterday I did really good. The chocolate isnt too bad, surprisingly I prefer the vanilla because I add the cinnamon and nutmeg. The snacks are weird they are just like little discs, almost like pills. Im supposed to suck on them and not just chew them down. They taste okay. The Isaflush works great. The Ioniccleanse still tastes like sewage lol. I have a powerbar I havent tried yet but am interested in, Im saving it for something. Im starting the cleanse on Saturday so that should be fun, starving with 3 crazy kids running around lol. Ill probably be here whining. And I have the powdered stuff you add to flavor the water I havent tried yet either. I do stay full though, the hardest problem I have is snacking, Im a snacker. Especially at night so I gotta work on that. Keep going! You can do it! I craft or play Mario kart to stop myself from snacking at night. |
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Post by pianolove on Oct 17, 2018 14:59:44 GMT -6
Aw I hope your DS is better soon. Hate when they get hurt. Small changes is what it's all about, that's great!! The orange powder stuff is delicious and tastes like Gatorade. We will keep you company on saturday! marygracerich I can relate to feeling lonely. Edited the rest cause it ain't about me. Shoulda kept reading. I'm sorry, that all sounds so difficult. |
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Post by mischief on Oct 17, 2018 15:07:23 GMT -6
That sounds rough marygracerich, that is way early and a long ride. Is there a way she could sleep on the bus? Or take a busy book so she is entertained or something like that? |
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 17, 2018 15:08:56 GMT -6
That sounds rough marygracerich, that is way early and a long ride. Is there a way she could sleep on the bus? Or take a busy book so she is entertained or something like that? She can sleep on the bus. But she has to get on the bus first and she has been fighting it the last two days. I spoke with the school and her occupational therapist and they have some ideas. If the m&m bribe doesn’t work tomorrow I will try there ideas. ETA: she has 0 problems when she is on the bus. It is just getting her on it yesterday and today. |
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 18, 2018 5:42:00 GMT -6
She got on the bus today!!! The m&m bribe worked and she even wore her new jacket. I feel so much better today. I am still worried about tomorrow but for today, I am ok.
You guys are awesome for listening to all of my craziness.
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Post by mischief on Oct 18, 2018 8:03:51 GMT -6
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Post by 4PrivetDrive on Oct 18, 2018 10:34:38 GMT -6
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Post by pianolove on Oct 18, 2018 13:05:21 GMT -6
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Post by miawallace on Oct 18, 2018 13:11:23 GMT -6
marygracerich. Chocolate to the rescue. Actually I’m pretty sure I used Hershey’s kisses as potty training currency with c. Also C is 3 and your kid is such a tiny adult going on a bus and such a trooper. I’m impressed and you’re doing such a great job momma. I have a background in social service - particularly in developmental disabilities sector. There will always be days where kids will act Warner frog and make parents feel like they are failing. Good thing there’s soooooll many resources, people, and time to catch if one day was an odd day or the norm. I’m crossing my fingers your kid continues to go on the bus smoothly.
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Post by miawallace on Oct 18, 2018 21:11:19 GMT -6
Okay so my friend invite my H and I to her birthday party in december. It’s costume and LOTr and hobbit themed. I don’t know anything about the fandom.
Any tips?
What can I go as that is easy to make or go as.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 19, 2018 5:29:25 GMT -6
Okay so my friend invite my H and I to her birthday party in december. It’s costume and LOTr and hobbit themed. I don’t know anything about the fandom. Any tips? What can I go as that is easy to make or go as. Oooooooh I took a class on Tolkien in college because I freakin love LOTR. If it’s indoors, going as a hobbit would be easy and comfy af. They wear dresses and are usually barefoot with hairy feet. You can just get costume fake hair to put on them. I got this cosplay from google  Elves are my fave and are very pretty with flowy dresses and robes  I would be an elf just for the chance to wear a pretty cloak. I’m weird like that. |
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 19, 2018 9:47:28 GMT -6
G got on the bus again today! I really hope this continues.
I am on HP and CoS on the podcast I am listening to. I still think it’s OTT but so far it’s very informative and fun.
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Post by pianolove on Oct 19, 2018 10:23:00 GMT -6
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Post by mischief on Oct 19, 2018 17:12:28 GMT -6
I weighed myself today since its been a week since I was at my dr.s appointment I was 334 and am now 331, so I lost three pounds in a week and 2 inches off my waist! Im pretty fucking pleased with myself right now.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 19, 2018 17:48:10 GMT -6
I weighed myself today since its been a week since I was at my dr.s appointment I was 334 and am now 331, so I lost three pounds in a week and 2 inches off my waist! Im pretty fucking pleased with myself right now. Congrats! |
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 19, 2018 17:49:01 GMT -6
The kiddos are in bed. MH is going through his new D&D book. I am trying to decide if I want to cross stitch or read while I wait for our Chinese food.
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