It's Finally Friday!!! It really is!

[flamingo]

We had a good 2-year run, but poor C has her first full-blown cold and is kind of a mess. Not surprisingly, she doesn't enjoy the Nose frieda any more than B ever did

We got our pumpkins and mums for the front porch. Every year I say I'm going to do some sort of display with a hay bale, heirloom pumpkins, etc. And every year I get a 'family' of regular ol' orange pumpkins and a couple big pots of mums, lol. I think "maybe next year" is going to become my rallying cry.

[mwhip]

Oct 5, 2018 10:14:44 GMT -6 flamingo said:

mwhip LOL, that recruiter sounds a bit slow on the uptake, that is question #1 a recruiter would ask a potential candidate--who is your current employer/what is your job. Is it for the exact same position your H is currently in? Do you think your H can leverage that info into a raise?

Yes, they must have an old resume of his.  It is the exact same position, same certifications he has, everything.  He knows they're looking for more people to do his job, so it isn't a concern that they're looking to replace him.  And yes, hopefully this works into a raise.  He has been trying to get more money out of them for awhile, they have very high turnover because they don't pay great, so with unemployment so low, people are always leaving for more money.  

I told him since we have his job description nicely written, we can easily update his resume!

[flamingo]

Oct 5, 2018 10:29:39 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Oct 5, 2018 10:14:44 GMT -6 flamingo said:

mwhip LOL, that recruiter sounds a bit slow on the uptake, that is question #1 a recruiter would ask a potential candidate--who is your current employer/what is your job. Is it for the exact same position your H is currently in? Do you think your H can leverage that info into a raise?

Yes, they must have an old resume of his.  It is the exact same position, same certifications he has, everything.  He knows they're looking for more people to do his job, so it isn't a concern that they're looking to replace him.  And yes, hopefully this works into a raise.  He has been trying to get more money out of them for awhile, they have very high turnover because they don't pay great, so with unemployment so low, people are always leaving for more money.  

I told him since we have his job description nicely written, we can easily update his resume!

LOL! Exactly. Nice to know his skillset is in demand! Fingers crossed he can get a nice raise. 

[guster]

Hi hi! We had Josie’s field trip this morning: pumpkin picking. What a beautiful day for it!
We got fast food for lunch, picked a few things at home goods, and now we’re all begging out.

[lahdeedah]

I’m off of work early! Yay! I have a few errands to run, then I may hit the gym before I go home for a break before having to get the boys.

[tgrimes]

klong11 I don't know if you need any uniform stuff but Target had all their stuff 50% off.

[guster]

I made pizza for the kids, and I don’t want to make it for us, and now I don’t know what we’re going to have for dinner.

[cagoldi]

Ugh.

Everyone except Pete is sick. I think I need to take Poppy to urgent care in the morning to rule out an EI.

Our feeding therapy OT is also writing up a whole new treatment plan, wants me to keep (another) food log, and is going to work on developing a sensory diet. I swear it's like a full-time job in and of itself.

[flamingo]

Oct 5, 2018 18:42:21 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Ugh.

Everyone except Pete is sick. I think I need to take Poppy to urgent care on the morning to rule out an EI.

Our feeding therapy OT is also writing up a whole new treatment plan, wants me to keep (another) food log, and is going to work on developing a sensory diet. I swear it's like a full-time job in and of itself.

Whew, that's a lot. I hope you're all on the mend soon and P doesn't have an EI. 

[trtlcrzy]

I have had a crappy afternoon. This morning after I got back from the chiro DH was in a bad mood and spent the day being an ass. I tried to avoid him mostly but at one point I did slam the door in his face. I’m glad the girls are going to bed, I will be up late probably because I need some alone time. I just baked chocolate chip pumpkin muffins and now have mixed berry muffins in the oven.

[xolastunicornxo]

Oh my god, you guys.

So the last few days I’ve noticed some behavior in R when we go to school that 1. He seems to be the “leader of the pack” and 2. He’s using that power to leave certain kids out. Well, his teacher pulled me aside and told me that this was happening (without me saying what I had noticed) and that R basically not being inclusive and kind of being a bully. Like, when they get assigned a job they are all suppose to clap, but when someone R doesn’t like gets a job he doesn’t clap and the other kids follow suit. Just mean, petty stuff like that. So we had a long talk about being kind and including everyone and I told him if the teacher told me the same thing today he would lose privileges at home. Well she said it was “better” but not great. He dictates who can sit by him and who can play with him and leaves the other kids out.

Then, I was sending out text message reminders for our game tomorrow. R has a little girl friend A on the team. They are always goofing off, hugging etc. well, on mondays practice they were horsing around and R got too rough and pushed her. It didn’t seem like a huge deal, but she cried a bit and left early. Her mom responded to my text today that A was done with the season because her arm still hurt on Tuesday and the took her to urgent care and it’s fractured.

I just don’t know what to do with R. He doesn’t seem empathetic when he hurts someone, emotionally or physically. And he’s both charming and manipulative. I’m at the end of my rope.

Sorry for the long DD. I don’t know who else to talk to.

[klong11]

xolastunicornxo did you tell R about A and explain how her arm got broken. Could his brothers possibly talk to him? It might make it easier to understand if it comes from them.

[xolastunicornxo]

Oct 5, 2018 20:39:17 GMT -6 klong11 said:

xolastunicornxo did you tell R about A and explain how her arm got broken. Could his brothers possibly talk to him? It might make it easier to understand if it comes from them.

We did. He was upset, but I feel like he was more upset that he thought he was in trouble. We asked if he wanted A to be hurt and he said no. We asked if he meant to hurt A and he said no. But then we ask if he was sad if A was hurt and he said.... no. So I don’t k ow if he was not understanding? I guess it would be worse if he lied and said yes because he knew that’s what we wanted to hear? I don’t know. I feel like I must be failing him in some way.

[Sunny41]

xolastunicornxo I'm sorry about Rs behaviour.

[chrisy01]

xolastunicornxo I’m sorry R is being difficult. I’ve noticed a change in LO since I started asking each day when I picked him up “what was 1 nice thing you did today for someone else?” He knows I talk with his teachers so he’s learned to be truthful about it. In days he says no one, I’ll ask why. He’ll respond with I wasn’t feeling very nice so I just played by myself. And will talk things through. It doesn’t stop all the bad behavior but it encourages the good.

I don’t know if that helps but good luck.

[flamingo]

xolastunicornxo I’m sorry y’all are having a hard time.

Y’all are great parents and are raising good kids, he’s going to turn out fine 😊 i think empathy is still a kind of nebulous, developing characteristic in kids this age, it’s something that’s just going to have to be reinforced over and over again until it is learned. It may just be that he needs to be parented differently for awhile. I tend to be a ‘nip it in the bud’ type person with regards to behavior like this, so if I didn’t see a positive change after talking about it, my personal tact would be to take a very firm stand now while he’s still testing out this new persona. Utilize his ‘currency’ (whatever it may be) to allow him to feel the consequences of bad decisions.

If all else fails and you don’t see improvement I’d probably talk to your pediatrician and see if s/he has any suggestions.

[kim22]

xolastunicornxo I’m sorry. I’m having some trouble with T as well. DD’s school has all these little blind spots on the playground and Thursday another mom told me he was around the corner throwing rocks at the security camera (which the principal can watch from her desk.) He is also giving me a hard time when we need to leave the house like pretending he can’t put on his shoes and can’t buckle his car seat even though he’s been doing both for a long time. He doesn’t go to school on Wednesday’s so I have been trying to plan something special with him (of course I have C with us though). I think it’s an attention thing for us. He also has a lot more freedom than his siblings had at that age and doesn’t always get to sleep enough because of our schedules. I’m still trying to figure it out. Sorry I can’t be of more help but we can help each other if we find something that works.

[cagoldi]

Happy Thanksgiving weekend vino!

[trtlcrzy]

I’m sorry @xolastunicorn. I hope you can figure out a way to change his behavior soon.

[guster]

I’m just catching up here. I’m sorry your having a tough time with R, @unicorn. Aside from C, any big changes happening? New friends, new sports teams where he might be seeing and emulating this type of behavior.