Talkative Tuesday

[vino]

So, our collective conclusion and recommendation mwhip, is to throw a block party and meet your neighbours!

kidding...keep us posted when happens with the introduction.

[mwhip]

Sept 12, 2018 9:26:02 GMT -6 vino said:

So, our collective conclusion and recommendation mwhip , is to throw a block party and meet your neighbours!

kidding...keep us posted when happens with the introduction.

Lol, I would totally throw a party...but I don't think they'd come.  Our HOA does a block party each summer and they haven't shown up to the last two.  There is discussion of a wine/beer tasting or a chili cook off happening soon!

[klong11]

Everyone should also go out and get that book. I've read it in probably 2 days and started the sequel, A Man Named Dave.

[tgrimes]

Sept 12, 2018 9:39:24 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Sept 12, 2018 9:26:02 GMT -6 vino said:

So, our collective conclusion and recommendation mwhip , is to throw a block party and meet your neighbours!

kidding...keep us posted when happens with the introduction.

Lol, I would totally throw a party...but I don't think they'd come.  Our HOA does a block party each summer and they haven't shown up to the last two.  There is discussion of a wine/beer tasting or a chili cook off happening soon!

Is there booze at the block party the HOA throws?

[guster]

I didn’t jump to abuse or neglect, but I do think it’s super weird that the dad (stepdad?) didn’t know where she was. Even at age seven. I would like to be able to say that I know my kid is in the backyard or riding her bike on the street or sitting in his room. And to be honest, I’d like to be able to say that at 7, 12, 17, 32? Too far? Probably .

[nam2013]

guster at 32 I’m sure my mom knows where I am 80% of the time 😜.

[guster]

Sept 12, 2018 10:30:18 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

guster at 32 I’m sure my mom knows where I am 80% of the time 😜.

The running joke is that I would put a chip in my husband and children if I could.

[peachsmama]

Sept 12, 2018 10:30:18 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

guster at 32 I’m sure my mom knows where I am 80% of the time 😜.

Since we live with my parents, they're like this. Everytime I come home they question where we were lol. 

[mwhip]

Sept 12, 2018 10:18:09 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Sept 12, 2018 9:39:24 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Lol, I would totally throw a party...but I don't think they'd come.  Our HOA does a block party each summer and they haven't shown up to the last two.  There is discussion of a wine/beer tasting or a chili cook off happening soon!

Is there booze at the block party the HOA throws?

Yes.  We bring our own, but the HOA did buy some fruity drinks, like Mike's Hard Lemonades and some Jack Daniels Downhome Punch.  The rule is just not to drink them in the roads.

Thinking about moving???

ETA:  In the invite for the block party, it doesn't say the HOA is providing alcohol, just BYOB, water and gatorade provided by the HOA (It's held in the summer when it's hot AF).

[jewels]

Sept 12, 2018 10:27:23 GMT -6 guster said:

I didn’t jump to abuse or neglect, but I do think it’s super weird that the dad (stepdad?) didn’t know where she was. Even at age seven. I would like to be able to say that I know my kid is in the backyard or riding her bike on the street or sitting in his room. And to be honest, I’d like to be able to say that at 7, 12, 17, 32? Too far? Probably .

I dunno if I'm the only one here old enough for this, but do you remember those commercials back inthe late 70s/ early 80s... It's 8:00 do you know where your children are?  

Your post just made me think of that.

Anyway, I agree.  Well not completely.  My mom didn't know where I was at 32

[guster]

Sept 12, 2018 11:53:20 GMT -6 jewels said:

Sept 12, 2018 10:27:23 GMT -6 guster said:

I didn’t jump to abuse or neglect, but I do think it’s super weird that the dad (stepdad?) didn’t know where she was. Even at age seven. I would like to be able to say that I know my kid is in the backyard or riding her bike on the street or sitting in his room. And to be honest, I’d like to be able to say that at 7, 12, 17, 32? Too far? Probably .

I dunno if I'm the only one here old enough for this, but do you remember those commercials back inthe late 70s/ early 80s... It's 8:00 do you know where your children are?  

Your post just made me think of that.

Anyway, I agree.  Well not completely.  My mom didn't know where I was at 32

I remember those. I’m old. But I thought it was 10 pm, not 8.

[jewels]

Sept 12, 2018 11:57:29 GMT -6 guster said:

Sept 12, 2018 11:53:20 GMT -6 jewels said:

I dunno if I'm the only one here old enough for this, but do you remember those commercials back inthe late 70s/ early 80s... It's 8:00 do you know where your children are?  

Your post just made me think of that.

Anyway, I agree.  Well not completely.  My mom didn't know where I was at 32

I remember those. I’m old. But I thought it was 10 pm, not 8.

LOL  I think they were all sorts of times.  

[tgrimes]

Sept 12, 2018 11:51:56 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Sept 12, 2018 10:18:09 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Is there booze at the block party the HOA throws?

Yes.  We bring our own, but the HOA did buy some fruity drinks, like Mike's Hard Lemonades and some Jack Daniels Downhome Punch.  The rule is just not to drink them in the roads.

Thinking about moving???

ETA:  In the invite for the block party, it doesn't say the HOA is providing alcohol, just BYOB, water and gatorade provided by the HOA (It's held in the summer when it's hot AF).

Lol.  It would be fun to be neighbors!  E can come over anytime and raid my pantry.

I was asking because maybe that's why they didn't attend the block parties. 

[tgrimes]

Sept 12, 2018 11:53:20 GMT -6 jewels said:

Sept 12, 2018 10:27:23 GMT -6 guster said:

I didn’t jump to abuse or neglect, but I do think it’s super weird that the dad (stepdad?) didn’t know where she was. Even at age seven. I would like to be able to say that I know my kid is in the backyard or riding her bike on the street or sitting in his room. And to be honest, I’d like to be able to say that at 7, 12, 17, 32? Too far? Probably .

I dunno if I'm the only one here old enough for this, but do you remember those commercials back inthe late 70s/ early 80s... It's 8:00 do you know where your children are?  

Your post just made me think of that.

Anyway, I agree.  Well not completely.  My mom didn't know where I was at 32

Yup!  I remember I got my ass beat for not being home before the street lights came on.  Back then we'd leave the house and only come home for bathroom breaks or lunch.  

I can't imagine doing that with M, especially in my neighborhood.

I know my sister's neighborhood was very much like that.  When she needed one of the kids she'd start calling #s down the block until one of the mom's knew where the kids were.  It was a small subdivision with a lot of families so it was pretty safe.  You don't find that a lot of places though.

[mwhip]

Sept 12, 2018 12:03:10 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Sept 12, 2018 11:53:20 GMT -6 jewels said:

I dunno if I'm the only one here old enough for this, but do you remember those commercials back inthe late 70s/ early 80s... It's 8:00 do you know where your children are?  

Your post just made me think of that.

Anyway, I agree.  Well not completely.  My mom didn't know where I was at 32

Yup!  I remember I got my ass beat for not being home before the street lights came on.  Back then we'd leave the house and only come home for bathroom breaks or lunch.  

I can't imagine doing that with M, especially in my neighborhood.

I know my sister's neighborhood was very much like that.  When she needed one of the kids she'd start calling #s down the block until one of the mom's knew where the kids were.  It was a small subdivision with a lot of families so it was pretty safe.  You don't find that a lot of places though.

I feel like this could describe our neighborhood.  There are about 80 houses, mostly younger-middle aged families.  So it seems safe, I've walked around it a lot since it makes a full .6 mile loop.  But you don't know what's going on behind closed doors.  I mean, come on, I have to cook my meth sometime!  

I do want that, but like you said, they would start calling numbers, because she had their number, because she knew the parents.  I was talking to another neighbor about it last night, I wouldn't have a problem with their daughter coming over whenever, without a parent, and vice versa, but we know each other

[tgrimes]

Sept 12, 2018 12:17:01 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Sept 12, 2018 12:03:10 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Yup!  I remember I got my ass beat for not being home before the street lights came on.  Back then we'd leave the house and only come home for bathroom breaks or lunch.  

I can't imagine doing that with M, especially in my neighborhood.

I know my sister's neighborhood was very much like that.  When she needed one of the kids she'd start calling #s down the block until one of the mom's knew where the kids were.  It was a small subdivision with a lot of families so it was pretty safe.  You don't find that a lot of places though.

I feel like this could describe our neighborhood.  There are about 80 houses, mostly younger-middle aged families.  So it seems safe, I've walked around it a lot since it makes a full .6 mile loop.  But you don't know what's going on behind closed doors.  I mean, come on, I have to cook my meth sometime!  

I do want that, but like you said, they would start calling numbers, because she had their number, because she knew the parents.  I was talking to another neighbor about it last night, I wouldn't have a problem with their daughter coming over whenever, without a parent, and vice versa, but we know each other

Yup!  Everyone knew each other and all of the kids played together at some point.    

[trtlcrzy]

Here’s an anecdote for you: my bff and I met because she came down the street to my house, alone, rang the doorbell and asked me to play when we were 5/6. I pretty much lived at her house as a kid, frequently eating supper or whatever else there. Her mom’s a food pusher though. Her parents and mine are not friends but they know each other and would say hi if they saw each other. We are still bffs 24 years later.

Earlier this summer a family moved in across the street with 2 little girls close in age to mine. I was very hopeful that they would play a lot this summer but they’re never outside playing. H and I met the dad and older daughter one evening but that’s about it. H has asked me to text their parents to see if they can play but I don’t have their number and I don’t feel comfortable enough letting her go ring their bell because we don’t really know them. I’m kinda bummed it didn’t work out like I hoped.

[inthekitty]

Sept 12, 2018 9:11:56 GMT -6 vino said:

I mean, I get it. But my mind just didnt go there, and honestly isnt going there at all. Girl wants to play and have some company, could she be bored at home, sure, but neglected and lack of care, I'm just not seeing it.

Super unhelpful anecdote is that when I was a kid living on my small town street, we all went in an out of each others houses all the time to play, eat whatever. It wasnt unusual to have a friend over for dinner on a random Tuesday, play over at Jeffrey's when he was over at Michael's. So I'm very shruggy guy over this.

Agreed. We have a ton of kids in our neighborhood and semi-feral ones are the norm. It's very common for kids 6-7-ish+ to play outside for hours during the summer. Some weren't trained the best by their parents and continue to knock on our door and ask the girls to play after I've already sent them away because we're eating dinner. I'd be mortified if mine were at someone's house raiding the pantry, but it's still in the realm of normal kid behavior around elementary school age. And kids can eat like beasts. We left a buffet and the second we got home Madison asked for a turkey sandwich.   

[mwhip]

Semi-Feral kids had me laughing inthekitty!

[inthekitty]

Sept 12, 2018 10:33:33 GMT -6 guster said:

Sept 12, 2018 10:30:18 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

guster at 32 I’m sure my mom knows where I am 80% of the time 😜.

The running joke is that I would put a chip in my husband and children if I could.

I mean, you kind of can now. Verizon and other cell carriers have satellite tracking watches. It's a bit too Black Mirror for me but I may change my mind in the future. 

[wedding]

I was definitely out and about at 6 without my parents knowing where I was. I had a radius I was allowed to be in. I got caught going outside it once when I was 8. My dad made me write an essay about what I did wrong.

[cheeksmum]

We moved into our house when I was 4... about a week or so after we moved in I went door to door looking for other kids. I was allowed to play outside but had to stay on the court so I didn’t see anything wrong with it and I don’t remember ever getting in trouble for doing it so I assume it was okay.