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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Sept 4, 2018 16:38:41 GMT -6
SO and I are having our reception this January. Semi-formalish in that we have a caterer and open bar and I’m wearing my dress.
SO works a weird job and more than 50% of his people will likely be unable to come as they’ll be on tour. His entire family lives on the other side of the world and are extremely unlikely to come. We expect to have around 150 guests. Knowing a good portion of the responses will be no’s, how many invites would you send out?
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Sept 4, 2018 16:40:21 GMT -6
I am generally against a B list but am strongly considering it in this case.
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Post by Pistol on Sept 4, 2018 16:51:52 GMT -6
I invited people even though I knew the response would be no. I wanted them to know that we did want them there. But my family is a bunch of old people who like to complain about not getting invited to stuff they didn’t want to go to anyhow.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2018 16:54:12 GMT -6
If you expect 150 guests, how many are you inviting but not expecting? That’s a lot of people. I’m always firmly in the camp that you expect to host as many as you invite and then curb your expectations once the responses come in.
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Post by brux on Sept 4, 2018 16:54:51 GMT -6
I don't quite follow. How many invites should you send out to end up with 150 guests, assuming many won't show?
Do you have a 150 guest limit on the venue?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2018 16:55:08 GMT -6
Oh, do you mean send invites to guests you expect to say no? Cause I’d definitely still send them one.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2018 16:57:01 GMT -6
I’m also confused by the question.
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Post by brux on Sept 4, 2018 16:57:24 GMT -6
Are we playing wedding invite algebra or nah?
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Post by reginaphalange8 on Sept 4, 2018 16:58:09 GMT -6
Is there space/budget on the off chance they are actually able to go? If you can accommodate I would as a nice gesture.
ETA: added a word
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Post by regal on Sept 4, 2018 16:58:31 GMT -6
You'd be surprised how many people use the opportunity to travel.
Do you have a minimum amount of guests that you will need to pay for at the venue/caterer?
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Sept 4, 2018 16:58:44 GMT -6
If you expect 150 guests, how many are you inviting but not expecting? That’s a lot of people. I’m always firmly in the camp that you expect to host as many as you invite and then curb your expectations once the responses come in. SO has roughly 25 on his list that are guaranteed no’s, but that warrant an invite (family, very close friends). Most of his people live in New Zealand and are definitely not dropping $$$$ to come. He’s probably got another 25-30 on his list that are maybes but probably 50% no’s. Right now we have a list of people who are definite yes’s and maybe yes’s (counting every maybe as a yes) that is roughly 150. But a total list of 200 in case we get more no’s than anticipated.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2018 16:59:11 GMT -6
Are we playing wedding invite algebra or nah? I feel like we need another number. Number of invitations sent - number of expected no’s = 150?
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Post by Pistol on Sept 4, 2018 16:59:19 GMT -6
If you expect 150 guests, how many are you inviting but not expecting? That’s a lot of people. I’m always firmly in the camp that you expect to host as many as you invite and then curb your expectations once the responses come in. We had 150. We only invited 175. I was surprised by the turnout.
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Post by Pistol on Sept 4, 2018 17:01:06 GMT -6
I think when I was wedding planning the “magic number” was 50%. Expect 50% of invites to show. I think that was after subtracting the ones you knew were no.
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Post by regal on Sept 4, 2018 17:01:43 GMT -6
I'm not following. Why 150? Why isn't 100 people alright?
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Post by brux on Sept 4, 2018 17:02:11 GMT -6
What category is Brux being counted in this list?
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Post by brux on Sept 4, 2018 17:02:26 GMT -6
I'm not following. Why 150? Why isn't 100 people alright? or 200?
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Post by regal on Sept 4, 2018 17:02:35 GMT -6
I think when I was wedding planning the “magic number” was 50%. Expect 50% of invites to show. I think that was after subtracting the ones you knew were no. Methods would have screwed me over. Invited 220, 225 showed up.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2018 17:03:03 GMT -6
If you expect 150 guests, how many are you inviting but not expecting? That’s a lot of people. I’m always firmly in the camp that you expect to host as many as you invite and then curb your expectations once the responses come in. SO has roughly 25 on his list that are guaranteed no’s, but that warrant an invite (family, very close friends). Most of his people live in New Zealand and are definitely not dropping $$$$ to come. He’s probably got another 25-30 on his list that are maybes but probably 50% no’s. Right now we have a list of people who are definite yes’s and maybe yes’s (counting every maybe as a yes) that is roughly 150. But a total list of 200 in case we get more no’s than anticipated. I could sort of understand the NZ guests to not come, but you are definitely b listing if you are inviting more people expecting more No responses than just the NZ guests. Are you planning on sending out all the invites at once? Or staggering them depending on when you get other responses?
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Post by brux on Sept 4, 2018 17:03:09 GMT -6
Well, I need a Brux Plus One so I can bring Cher.
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Post by regal on Sept 4, 2018 17:03:23 GMT -6
What category is Brux being counted in this list? We can be the B-List for you to get to 150.
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Post by reginaphalange8 on Sept 4, 2018 17:05:05 GMT -6
You'd be surprised how many people use the opportunity to travel. This is exactly what happened for my sister’s wedding. She had it on another continent and everyone in my extended family went there for a week for the wedding and then went at least another week to a neighbouring country. She knew though.
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Post by Pistol on Sept 4, 2018 17:08:19 GMT -6
I think when I was wedding planning the “magic number” was 50%. Expect 50% of invites to show. I think that was after subtracting the ones you knew were no. Methods would have screwed me over. Invited 220, 225 showed up. I think you did something wrong. lol It would have screwed me up too. Luckily we had the space and means to host all of the ones we invited so it didn’t matter.
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Sept 4, 2018 17:08:33 GMT -6
So, basically none of his family will come.
Most of his friends work on music tours and are very unlikely to come but if they can we want them there.
All told we’re talking 40ish people and their plus ones.
Which is a significant portion of our guest list. We’re fine with some fluctuations, but I don’t want to invite too many because budget.
I have extended family that my parents would like me to invite but that I’m not kicking people off the list for.
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Sept 4, 2018 17:10:13 GMT -6
Maybe I’ll invite 150, and do an open invite to HIH to make up the difference 😉
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2018 17:11:26 GMT -6
I guess it depended on how many extra guests I was inviting. If I thought 5 guests were a for sure no and had already confirmed that with me, then I’d be ok with inviting 5 more. Any more than that and I’d feel uncomfortable.
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Post by emma on Sept 4, 2018 17:12:31 GMT -6
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Post by Pistol on Sept 4, 2018 17:14:18 GMT -6
If 150 is your max then I would not send more than 150 invites. Just in case.
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Post by Tlex on Sept 4, 2018 17:15:51 GMT -6
So, basically none of his family will come. Most of his friends work on music tours and are very unlikely to come but if they can we want them there. All told we’re talking 40ish people and their plus ones. Which is a significant portion of our guest list. We’re fine with some fluctuations, but I don’t want to invite too many because budget. I have extended family that my parents would like me to invite but that I’m not kicking people off the list for. And who are the “B listers”? Extended family, more friends? Local friends?
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Sept 4, 2018 17:17:14 GMT -6
Tlex extended family my parents want me to invite.
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