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Post by king26 on Sept 5, 2018 16:07:25 GMT -6
J has slept well the last 5 nights. Yay! However he hasn't been feeling well. Today hes been cranky. He had a good first nap ( 2 hours) then crappy 2nd nap ( 30 min). I'm pretty sure he is teething and his eczema is flaring on face and legs so hes itchy too. Plus it's hot as hell and we dont have air.
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Post by king26 on Sept 5, 2018 16:08:04 GMT -6
Also, tapatalk is not working for me right now. I'm getting no notifications and have trouble getting on...grrr
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 5, 2018 17:41:36 GMT -6
I’m very sorry muscari. Marriage is hard enough and then adding a baby in the mix makes it that much harder. Have you thought about counseling either individually or together? Big hugs, thinking of you 💕
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 5, 2018 19:10:02 GMT -6
Please know this is a safe place (at least in my mind) to vent or lean on somebody in tough times @starzia. I don’t want you to feel like you can’t share your struggles here. This place to me is somewhere I love to go to share the happy times but also the really fucking tough and shitty times too. If anybody feels differently, I hope they would just scroll past my post and not engage.
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Post by addymac on Sept 5, 2018 21:43:25 GMT -6
Please know this is a safe place (at least in my mind) to vent or lean on somebody in tough times @starzia. I don’t want you to feel like you can’t share your struggles here. This place to me is somewhere I love to go to share the happy times but also the really fucking tough and shitty times too. If anybody feels differently, I hope they would just scroll past my post and not engage. +1 to this. Love you ladies.
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Post by addymac on Sept 5, 2018 21:53:59 GMT -6
muscari sending you lots of love and hugs. I hope it’s just a patch and things can get fixed. Is counseling an option at all? Dh and I went through a rough patch where we sat down and looked at counseling options but didn’t end up going - but even just doing that helped us open up and laid things out and actually TALKED. it’s so much harder when there’s a baby (toddler?!?) and you’re exhausted and not sleeping and have limited time to have a discussion. Either way, we are here for you to vent. Sometimes writing things out helps. And sometimes it makes me angrier! But whatever you decide, remember that you deserve to have an equal partner and to be happy. And ppd is a bitch that you have been kicking ass against. Oh, and, one thing I remember reading is don’t make any big life decisions within the first year or so of your child’s birth. Cuz, as we all know, it’s a hell of a fucking year.
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Post by bsouls on Sept 6, 2018 5:15:26 GMT -6
Relationships are harder with babies/kids. It definitely brings out differences and makes things tough.
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Post by pennylane on Sept 6, 2018 12:39:51 GMT -6
muscari Ditto everyone’s sentiments above. Life is HARD sometimes, especially so with small kids and little sleep. I hope you are able to get back into a good place in life soon, whatever that may mean for you. Hugs.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 6, 2018 14:05:42 GMT -6
Hugs muscari!! I hope things get better for you. Dh and I have been bickering alot lately too, and talking past each other. We've found "the five love languages" book really helpful when we've had time to listen to the audio version together.
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Post by king26 on Sept 6, 2018 17:39:02 GMT -6
Guys j is sick. 101 fever, sweating, vomiting, rash. Took him to the doctors, they think maybe a food allergy. Trying something else first with lots of tylenol but we may need to see an allergist. Cant catch a break.
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Post by bsouls on Sept 6, 2018 19:02:25 GMT -6
Guys j is sick. 101 fever, sweating, vomiting, rash. Took him to the doctors, they think maybe a food allergy. Trying something else first with lots of tylenol but we may need to see an allergist. Cant catch a break. That sucks and seems odd. But, maybe with allergy testing it’ll show some environmental cause for his eczema?
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Post by king26 on Sept 6, 2018 19:12:42 GMT -6
Guys j is sick. 101 fever, sweating, vomiting, rash. Took him to the doctors, they think maybe a food allergy. Trying something else first with lots of tylenol but we may need to see an allergist. Cant catch a break. That sucks and seems odd. But, maybe with allergy testing it’ll show some environmental cause for his eczema? They said eczema and food allergies go hand and hand so maybe that is it? I dont know. The rash isn't his normal eczema rash but they said it's probably that. Ugh I hate this for him but maybe it is something environmental causing his eczema
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 6, 2018 20:25:01 GMT -6
Poor J king26, that sounds awful. I hope he feels better soon ☹️
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Post by addymac on Sept 6, 2018 20:51:35 GMT -6
king26 I’m sorry. That’s rough. I’m surprised you hadn’t taken him to an allergist yet bc of his eczema! Hopefully going now will help on this sickness front and his eczema stuff, too.
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Post by addymac on Sept 6, 2018 21:09:40 GMT -6
Today Noah made three babies cry at storytime because he was too excited and hugged them either too hard or just surprised them with a bear hug or knocked them over while trying to hug them or accidentally got his hand caught in their hair while he tried to hug them.
I felt awful. One mom- whose 3yo was BFing (so don’t @ me with judgment lady!) gave me a terrible stink eye and I felt terrible. Two moms laughed it off, one mom laughed it off the first time but then he made that kid cry a second time by going in for a hug from behind, and then she got upset I think. I don’t blame them, but how am I supposed to control him? I try to grab him before he goes in, but sometimes he wiggles away or is too fast, esp during storytime when I’m sitting and have to hop up and chase him. Like, he’s a giant- he was literally the biggest kid there minus the 3yo despite being the youngest of the group except for one other boy. And he just likes to hug and kiss kids when he meets them, and it’s so sweet. But I constantly say no hugs and not only do I feel bad for trying to squash his caring loving feelings but I am also frustrated bc he’s 12mo! He doesn’t really know what I’m saying or what I mean, so wtf am I supposed to do?
I felt so bad I made us leave. 😔 what do I do? Like I know it’s not ok for him to barge in and touch other kids. I’m always yelling PERSONAL SPACE NOAH! And pulling him away or scooping him up and away before he lays his hands on them but today I was just constantly a second too late. But like. He’s a baby. And while I don’t care if other kids were to do it to him- in fact I hope they would so he could see what it’s like lol - I get that lots of parents are like don’t touch my kid. Sigh.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 7, 2018 4:12:57 GMT -6
king26 Oh no, I hope he's okay and it's something simple. I will say my little nephew had egg allergies and a milk allergy when he was around this age, and they are gone now that he's almost four. Hopefully it's temporary. addymac I had to laugh. Baby h is disruptive at library events too, and his brother never was, so it's been eye opening. Mine is less hugging and more crawling everywhere and taking everyone's toys. Maybe sit in the back and then pick him up each time he gets too close. I definitely don't think you'll crush his loving nature by setting limits, although like you said, he's one and it will probably take a long time to sink in. I wouldn't mind if another kid hugged mine--the kisses I would not want, esp since hand-foot-mouth goes around so frequently here. My kids are both 90-some percentile in height, and people always assume your kid is older and think they are acting immature or wonder why they aren't talking more.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 7, 2018 5:58:42 GMT -6
addymac, I get it about personal space but Jesus the parents can GTFO with judgement. He is ONE years old, hasn’t a clue about boundaries so I say just keep trying and doing what your doing. Your doing great! He will figure out when he actually is at an appropriate age to do so 🙄 The only thing might be I’m assuming they think he is older since his size but that’s still irritating with the stink eye. At least he is trying to be loving 🤷🏻♀️ I mean my nieces are 5 1/2 and they are constantly touching M’s face or trying to kiss her or whatever and I keep saying no guys and it’s annoying but they are FIVE not one. It makes a huge difference in my opinion.
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Post by addymac on Sept 7, 2018 10:33:58 GMT -6
Thanks ladies. I felt so bad yesterday! Dh tried to talk me down but I was so bummed 😔. Oh when I say kissing I mean he just nuzzles his head/face against your shoulder or face bc he doesn’t actually know how to kiss. It’s really cute. My sister suggested I try to redirect by saying “hugs at home not here” but we will see how that sticks. thinkchocolate05 haha yes. He never sits still for me during library storytime but my nanny sends me pics every week of him sitting patiently in the circle. I’m like WHAT IS THIS SORCERY!!
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Post by king26 on Sept 7, 2018 10:58:16 GMT -6
Thanks ladies. I felt so bad yesterday! Dh tried to talk me down but I was so bummed 😔. Oh when I say kissing I mean he just nuzzles his head/face against your shoulder or face bc he doesn’t actually know how to kiss. It’s really cute. My sister suggested I try to redirect by saying “hugs at home not here” but we will see how that sticks. thinkchocolate05 haha yes. He never sits still for me during library storytime but my nanny sends me pics every week of him sitting patiently in the circle. I’m like WHAT IS THIS SORCERY!! Yeah hes too young to know better. Heck, I have to teach our 4 year olds at school about personal space and hugging/touching. I still have 5th graders that feel the need to hug into me half the day. It happens
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Post by king26 on Sept 7, 2018 11:01:04 GMT -6
I think J fever broke. He was up 4 times last night just wanting to be held then up at 515 for the day. I just went in and held him since hes sick. Poor guy was a sweaty mess around 3 but hopefully that was his fever breaking because hes only around 99 this morning and dh said he ate a ton for lunch
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Post by yellowcat on Sept 7, 2018 19:05:01 GMT -6
Wow this looks like a rough week all around. muscari I am so sorry you are having a tough time. And what is wrong with all the babies? J is possessed this week, he just fusses and cries...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2018 16:01:49 GMT -6
I hope J is feeling better king26! addymac, don’t get hard on yourself, N is a lover! The other parents really need to pump the brakes on their judgement, they’re doing their LOs no favors by being overprotective like that. It’s not like N is biting or hitting.
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Post by bsouls on Sept 9, 2018 14:35:20 GMT -6
R had small red bumps around her face after her first nap. Of course, H didn’t really notice or care. Now, after her Second nap they’re really noticeable and on her face, neck and chest. She doesn’t feel warm, but I don’t know what they’d be.
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Post by addymac on Sept 9, 2018 14:49:15 GMT -6
bsouls oh no! Allergy to something new she ate? Heat rash? Was she sweaty from her sleeping position? 🙁 It’s one of my pet peeves when N gets a rash or bumps or dots and dh is like oh idk when they showed up but I’m sure it’s fine 😒 like. What. Pay attention to our baby dude!
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Post by bsouls on Sept 9, 2018 15:14:23 GMT -6
bsouls oh no! Allergy to something new she ate? Heat rash? Was she sweaty from her sleeping position? 🙁 It’s one of my pet peeves when N gets a rash or bumps or dots and dh is like oh idk when they showed up but I’m sure it’s fine 😒 like. What. Pay attention to our baby dude! I’m thinking maybe from the vaccines? I don’t know, she had a few days where she feels warm - but today she doesn’t feel warm.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 9, 2018 15:47:35 GMT -6
bsouls oh no! Allergy to something new she ate? Heat rash? Was she sweaty from her sleeping position? 🙁 It’s one of my pet peeves when N gets a rash or bumps or dots and dh is like oh idk when they showed up but I’m sure it’s fine 😒 like. What. Pay attention to our baby dude! I’m thinking maybe from the vaccines? I don’t know, she had a few days where she feels warm - but today she doesn’t feel warm. They did say sometimes a rash from MMR is common. When was her shots? I thought it could even appear like up to 2 weeks later.
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Post by bsouls on Sept 9, 2018 17:42:19 GMT -6
I’m thinking maybe from the vaccines? I don’t know, she had a few days where she feels warm - but today she doesn’t feel warm. They did say sometimes a rash from MMR is common. When was her shots? I thought it could even appear like up to 2 weeks later. August 26th. I guess I’ll see how she’s acting tomorrow and call the doctor, if she’s not normal?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 11, 2018 8:11:46 GMT -6
They did say sometimes a rash from MMR is common. When was her shots? I thought it could even appear like up to 2 weeks later. August 26th. I guess I’ll see how she’s acting tomorrow and call the doctor, if she’s not normal? The nurse told me that rashes mmr and chicken pox vaccines could show up to 30 days later.
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