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Post by Nonniedee on Aug 23, 2018 16:09:26 GMT -6
So I had my first session. I think it went well. I was honest and just let everything out.
The only problem I'm having is I'm now anxious AF. I'm literally shaking from head to toe, and I almost pooped myself. My heart is racing,I feel breathless, and I just feel.... on edge.
I'm not the most forthcoming person usually, and laying everything out took was huge for me.
I guess I'm asking if this feeling is normal, or should I go back and speak to someone before my next appt (in 2 weeks]
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Post by rvasc on Aug 23, 2018 16:15:29 GMT -6
It is normal. Therapy is a huge amount of hard work and baring your soul to a stranger really makes you feel exposed.
But it doesn’t mean you should just deal with it. I would call and see if you could maybe see someone next week.
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Post by foxmulder on Aug 23, 2018 16:16:01 GMT -6
I have kind of an adrenaline dump or something after going. Like I get SO anxious that when I get home I feel weird. So I vote normal.
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Post by rvasc on Aug 23, 2018 16:16:25 GMT -6
I see @icedtea and I are drinking from the same pitcher.
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Post by Sweetjane on Aug 23, 2018 16:21:02 GMT -6
I would slow down and take some breaths, do this today and tomorrow. If you feel the same tomorrow I would call.
Good for you for going.
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Post by enchanted on Aug 23, 2018 16:22:03 GMT -6
It happens. Therapy, especially in the beginning, is hard. It can be amazing, but it's exhausting opening up to someone.
Like the others said, if you want to go back before two weeks or think you need to, call.
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Post by foxmulder on Aug 23, 2018 16:23:34 GMT -6
I just started going and I’m going once a week for the time being. My therapist said if we needed more or less to just let her know. I had to reschedule this week and I REALLY wish I could have gone. I think every other week is a bit long for me at the moment.
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Post by Sweetjane on Aug 23, 2018 16:25:41 GMT -6
I have kind of an adrenaline dump or something after going. Like I get SO anxious that when I get home I feel weird. So I vote normal. That's what i was trying to say. Breathing exercises can get me past a rough minute but much more and I need a second line of defense.
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Post by Cher on Aug 23, 2018 16:26:18 GMT -6
I’m so glad you went.
I sometimes get like that after a really emotional event. I call it an anxiety hangover. It’s like all those emotions have no where to go. Can you take the kids for a walk? Sometimes moving around and getting some fresh air takes me out of it a bit.
Are you going to go back?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2018 16:27:09 GMT -6
I have no advice, but glad you are going Nonnie! I’m sure the first time is intense and I hope it becomes easier the more you go.
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Post by foxmulder on Aug 23, 2018 16:28:51 GMT -6
I am also really tired after going. It’s interesting how exhausting it is.
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Post by DavidRose on Aug 23, 2018 16:33:30 GMT -6
I’m so glad you went. I sometimes get like that after a really emotional event. I call it an anxiety hangover. It’s like all those emotions have no where to go. Can you take the kids for a walk? Sometimes moving around and getting some fresh air takes me out of it a bit. Are you going to go back? This is what I was going to say. I usually feel hungover after therapy, a big fight or emotional event. I usually try to focus on my breathing, as cheesy as that sounds.
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Post by Nonniedee on Aug 23, 2018 16:34:52 GMT -6
I’m so glad you went. I sometimes get like that after a really emotional event. I call it an anxiety hangover. It’s like all those emotions have no where to go. Can you take the kids for a walk? Sometimes moving around and getting some fresh air takes me out of it a bit. Are you going to go back? Definitely going back. I took the kids out after (the appt was this morning), being out with them definitely helped.
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Post by miawallace on Aug 23, 2018 16:45:12 GMT -6
The first time I went, I think I slept the whole day. My emotions were at peak and driving back home I got hit with a wave of tiredom. I also got a bit of a headache. The release is cathartic for the brain so it sends that message to your body. I also couldn’t eat next day. It eventually settled once I learned that I was all tied. I do try not to book anything after my appointments. I let that be my sole activity for the day. I need to process all I let out and received. So I rather be home for that.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2018 16:48:58 GMT -6
I’m glad you went. Anytime I’ve ever gone I feel the same way. I cry like .5 seconds into the session and never let up. I think what you’re feeling is normal. ❤️
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Post by Tlex on Aug 23, 2018 17:06:53 GMT -6
I have this experience with every new therapist. I do find it gets better after a handful of sessions. I hope you find the same. Good for you for going, the first appointment is by far the hardest.
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 23, 2018 18:11:21 GMT -6
I will sometimes zone out in the therapy session out of sheer mental exhaustion. My therapist is really good about catching these times and insisting on taking a two minute break. It's a lot sometimes.
I'm really glad you went.
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Post by kmkd on Aug 23, 2018 18:14:10 GMT -6
I’m glad you went. Anytime I’ve ever gone I feel the same way. I cry like .5 seconds into the session and never let up. I think what you’re feeling is normal. ❤️ Me too. As soon as I open my mouth I cry. Nonniedee I’m glad you went. I think like everyone says, this sounds normal and it’s exhausting to be emotional. I hope you’re feeling a bit better. Lots of love. ❤️
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Post by rayann on Aug 23, 2018 18:33:10 GMT -6
I’m glad you went. No other advice, sending hugs.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2018 18:45:54 GMT -6
It is so common. It means you did hard work. ❤️
While you are experiencing this panicked feeling, try to just focus on your breath and being present with your kids. Do the least and let your body and mind rest.
Definitely talk to your therapist about the after effect. He or she should be able to give you some advice for dealing with it. While you’re in therapy, be gentle with yourself in other parts of your life. Pace yourself and take a break when you need it.
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Post by Nonniedee on Sept 6, 2018 15:51:52 GMT -6
Just wanted to update
I've been prescribed Zoloft for depression and anxiety. I'm pretty nervous, so any anecdotes of feeling better after being medicated are welcome.
After I told her about last session, she changed my schedule to weekly sessions.
She wants to do monthly med checks just to make sure I'm acclimating well to it.
Besides that it was more of the same. I boo hoo sobbed for an hour.
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Post by Tlex on Sept 6, 2018 15:59:20 GMT -6
So for me I did not feel better from the meds for about a month. I felt quite terrible in a lot of ways, as I adjusted and felt the crappy side effects. However, once those levelled out I felt so much better. And I think it took me a while to realize how much better, because it’s not like I suddenly felt like skipping and dancing - I just didn’t feel like an anxious mess. I realized I was better able to monitor my own thoughts and feelings, and they didn’t have such a hold on my brain. I felt more level. I hope you have a good fit with Zoloft but be honest with your person about how it’s going, different meds work for different people. Keep up the hard work, it does get better.
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Post by kmkd on Sept 6, 2018 16:14:30 GMT -6
Opposite of Tlex, I felt better almost instantly. Which maybe is a placebo edefect, but either way. It worked. Extremely well. I just recently came off of Zoloft after about 1.5 years and I’m feeling pretty good. I’m not against going back on if I have to, but for now I’m ok. I say this because I didn’t like the idea of being dependent forever - and now I know I’m not. BUT I also know how much better it made me feel and I would never hesitate again. Love.
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Post by Minerva on Sept 6, 2018 16:17:13 GMT -6
I’m glad you are being proactive and taking care of yourself. I have limited experience with therapy, but I can give you a positive anecdote about meds. I’ve always been a high anxiety person and was an emotional mess after DS was born 5 years ago. From the outside it looked like I was holding it together, but I felt overwhelmed by life all the time. It was affecting both my personal and professional relationships. It took a long time to seek out help and I got the brush off from a few doctors in the process when I wasn’t ready to advocate for myself.
Once I found a doctor who really listened and saw that my mood swings were messing w/ my life and were clearly linked to hormones, things turned around. She prescribed a low dose of generic Prozac. It has made all the difference. My anxiety is in check 95% of the time now. I am able to be more socially outgoing and I have higher self-esteem. I take better care of myself physically because I feel like I’m worth it. And my relationship w/ my H has improved because I am less grumpy and can let myself go and have fun with him in more ways than one.
The first few weeks of adjusting to the meds were a bit rough. I ramped up over a two week period by taking a half dose the first week, then full dose the second week. I was so sleepy during the day, but my mind would race at night. I started noticing major improvements in mood about a month in, the same time that I stopped feeling any side effects. Not like euphoria, more like “oh, I haven’t cried or yelled at DH in a week, this stuff must be working.”
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Post by wedding on Sept 6, 2018 16:20:23 GMT -6
Everything Tlex said. Sometimes you need a higher dose and sometimes you need to try a different medication. Try it for a couple of weeks and call if you need an adjustment. I just started back on Zoloft. I was on it for years pre child and went on Citalopram a year or so after. It wasn’t working for me anymore so I warned off and started back on Zoloft. I’ve had some Gi upset but otherwise been ok. I just titrated up to 100mg, which is what I used to be on.
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Post by angelashly on Sept 6, 2018 16:38:57 GMT -6
Just wanted to update I've been prescribed Zoloft for depression and anxiety. I'm pretty nervous, so any anecdotes of feeling better after being medicated are welcome. After I told her about last session, she changed my schedule to weekly sessions. She wants to do monthly med checks just to make sure I'm acclimating well to it. Besides that it was more of the same. I boo hoo sobbed for an hour. Nonnidee, you deserve to be happy. Not for A, A or K but for you. They are just the bonus. And if this helps to bring you peace and less anxiousness then you owe it to yourself to try. You got this. So much this I'm glad you are going and getting to boo hoo sob to someone because you deserve to have some listen
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2018 18:41:31 GMT -6
+1 to what everyone else has said. Good luck with the Zoloft, you’re doing great. ❤️
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Post by mishy on Sept 6, 2018 18:44:04 GMT -6
If I had known I could feel so much better after starting Zoloft I would have done so a lot sooner. It took about 2-3 weeks to notice that anxiety/stomach butterfly feeling wasn’t happening anymore. I was discouraged when I felt more anxious for a few days but then one day it was so much better. Some people need to try different dosages or meds so try not to feel discouraged if this first try isn’t working. It was such a relief for me when I realized that there was something that helped me. I hope you’re able to feel relief soon ❤️
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Post by Pizzaslut on Sept 6, 2018 20:44:30 GMT -6
Nonniedee, I recently got on Zoloft at 6 weeks PP. It was one of the best decisions of my life. I never really share this stuff here but before DD was born I was in a terrible place. I pretty much hated everyone/everything and I wished I had a different life. I would snap at H and my son daily. I would have rage and anger that in my head I knew was ridiculous but I couldn’t stop myself from feeling it. After, I am the happiest I have been in YEARS. I feel like I am where I am supposed to be in life. I’ve stopped wishing I could go back and have a different life and I have really embraced my life as it is. Seriously, I understand how you feel. It took me almost a week to actually take the first dose. I was embarrassed. But now I want to be a spokesperson for them!
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Post by smiley on Sept 6, 2018 21:30:07 GMT -6
I totally felt like this when I first started going Nix your first (few) sessions were like mine, you dug up deep emotions and memories and some unpleasant things. You tapped into part of your brain that you’re used to having shut off. This is totally normal to feel this way afterwards. Give it a day or two. If you still feel like this, maybe go back sooner. Are you prescribed any medication for anxiety?
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