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Post by hayleysmith on Aug 6, 2018 10:09:24 GMT -6
Both H and I are only children so this whole sibling dynamic thing is going to be a whole new ball game for us! This child is made up of 90% bacon gouda breakfast sandwiches from Starbucks. The rate at which I am achieving a free item reward is alarming. My child is 1/3 egg mcmuffins, 1/3 sausage egg & cheese biscuits, and 1/3 ham, egg & cheese croissants. I got to either McD or BK every morning for a breakfast sandwich...I wish they had rewards for those lol
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Post by Diordra on Aug 6, 2018 10:12:58 GMT -6
Both H and I are only children so this whole sibling dynamic thing is going to be a whole new ball game for us! This child is made up of 90% bacon gouda breakfast sandwiches from Starbucks. The rate at which I am achieving a free item reward is alarming. My child is 1/3 egg mcmuffins, 1/3 sausage egg & cheese biscuits, and 1/3 ham, egg & cheese croissants. I got to either McD or BK every morning for a breakfast sandwich...I wish they had rewards for those lol I think McDonald's has some sort of rewards program if you use there app. Not sure about BK but now I may need a crossanwich tomorrow.
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Post by hayleysmith on Aug 6, 2018 10:14:12 GMT -6
My child is 1/3 egg mcmuffins, 1/3 sausage egg & cheese biscuits, and 1/3 ham, egg & cheese croissants. I got to either McD or BK every morning for a breakfast sandwich...I wish they had rewards for those lol I think McDonald's has some sort of rewards program if you use there app. Not sure about BK but now I may need a crossanwich tomorrow. Good to know! I will look into it! Thank you!
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Post by jillywilly on Aug 6, 2018 10:35:43 GMT -6
I wonder if I am broken? I have no feels about not having a girl, like at all. 2 boys sounds good to me. But I also have no feels on any combo of sex my kids happen to be. I just look at it as this thing I have ZERO control over, and it's what it's meant to be. Sounds corny but there you have it. I've had a fleeting moment of thinking about how I'll never have a daughter, and thinking about things I've done/do with my mom - like the wedding dress shopping, mother/daughter pedis, etc. But that went by really fast, and I'm really excited to have two little boys. Even before we got pregnant, I kind of pictured having another boy in the family, and when it turned out that's what it is, it did have a little bit of the that's what this is meant to be for our family feeling to it.
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Post by sarcaztic10 on Aug 6, 2018 10:50:32 GMT -6
I wonder if I am broken? I have no feels about not having a girl, like at all. 2 boys sounds good to me. But I also have no feels on any combo of sex my kids happen to be. I just look at it as this thing I have ZERO control over, and it's what it's meant to be. Sounds corny but there you have it. I won’t lie, I had feelings about having 3 boys and never getting the chance to raise a girl. I always wanted to raise a kick ass feminist girl who would be close to me. I am super close to my mom and kind of mourned the potential loss of having a relationship like that with a daughter of my own even though logically I know that was never a guarantee. Instead I will be raising 3 kick ass feminist boys who will respect women and take on the patriarchy from the inside.
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Post by quijibo on Aug 6, 2018 11:31:12 GMT -6
I wonder if I am broken? I have no feels about not having a girl, like at all. 2 boys sounds good to me. But I also have no feels on any combo of sex my kids happen to be. I just look at it as this thing I have ZERO control over, and it's what it's meant to be. Sounds corny but there you have it. Not broken, just not an overly emotional hot mess who hates change and tends to catastrophize like me 🤪 I had feels about DD being a girl and now I’ve totally switched sides and I’m panicking over a boy. I panic and cry. It’s what I do. And then everything turns out just fine and I side-eye myself.
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 6, 2018 11:32:47 GMT -6
I had the worst RLP yesterday. Holy crap, like it took my breath away and had me in tears. That was me two nights ago. I have to be super careful to be slow when getting out of bed or it feels like a charlie horse. I was doing some lamaze breathing to get through the pain!
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Post by notelsie on Aug 6, 2018 11:38:37 GMT -6
Hey ladies, I just wanted to apologize for not being around lately. I’ve been dealing with some anxiety and just feeling overwhelmed more than I expected. I’ve been communicating with my OB so we can have a game plan. I had really bad PPA after having B so I’m a little worried it’s going to happen again since I’m already blah.
It may just be because things have been so hectic and unorganized here. Life seems to be getting back on track now, and I’m seeing progress in different areas so hopefully I’ll feel more normal again soon.
I just wanted to let y’all know I still keep up with y’all and think of y’all. Hopefully I’ll get back into the mix here soon <3
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Post by ladybrienne on Aug 6, 2018 12:40:26 GMT -6
I wonder if I am broken? I have no feels about not having a girl, like at all. 2 boys sounds good to me. But I also have no feels on any combo of sex my kids happen to be. I just look at it as this thing I have ZERO control over, and it's what it's meant to be. Sounds corny but there you have it. I won’t lie, I had feelings about having 3 boys and never getting the chance to raise a girl. I always wanted to raise a kick ass feminist girl who would be close to me. I am super close to my mom and kind of mourned the potential loss of having a relationship like that with a daughter of my own even though logically I know that was never a guarantee. Instead I will be raising 3 kick ass feminist boys who will respect women and take on the patriarchy from the inside. The bolded is one of the reasons I don't really care either way.....I can still raise a feminist, because who says boys can't be?
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Post by ladybrienne on Aug 6, 2018 12:48:33 GMT -6
I wonder if I am broken? I have no feels about not having a girl, like at all. 2 boys sounds good to me. But I also have no feels on any combo of sex my kids happen to be. I just look at it as this thing I have ZERO control over, and it's what it's meant to be. Sounds corny but there you have it. Not broken, just not an overly emotional hot mess who hates change and tends to catastrophize like me 🤪 I had feels about DD being a girl and now I’ve totally switched sides and I’m panicking over a boy. I panic and cry. It’s what I do. And then everything turns out just fine and I side-eye myself. Why the panic though? If you don't want to expand further, feel free to tell me to shove it and mind my business. I hate to see the sex of your baby causing you panic and making you cry.
As I said before, I have always resounded myself to the fact that I have no control over it, and at the end of the day, the sex of the baby doesn't matter. They each come out with different personalities and traits in general. That's what it's all about, and the sibling dynamics are often dictated more by personality than sex.
I look at N, he is CRAZY, never stops, headstrong (thankfully very lovey and snuggly, too).....he's everything I was as a kid, energy-wise especially. Even before I knew the current gestating one was a boy, I thought more of the personality. Will it be like N? Be more relaxed?
Maybe try shifting your thinking to something along those lines, because their little personalities, that's what makes it all such an adventure. Anyway, I hope my rambling helped. I hope you start to feel less anxious soon.
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Post by foxtober on Aug 6, 2018 13:04:49 GMT -6
Hey ladies, I just wanted to apologize for not being around lately. I’ve been dealing with some anxiety and just feeling overwhelmed more than I expected. I’ve been communicating with my OB so we can have a game plan. I had really bad PPA after having B so I’m a little worried it’s going to happen again since I’m already blah. It may just be because things have been so hectic and unorganized here. Life seems to be getting back on track now, and I’m seeing progress in different areas so hopefully I’ll feel more normal again soon. I just wanted to let y’all know I still keep up with y’all and think of y’all. Hopefully I’ll get back into the mix here soon <3 I'm glad you're feeling on the right track, anxiety sucks. We moved in June and I had stopped taking my anxiety medicine like two weeks before (it was giving me headaches) and I thought I could go back to being off it because it had only been a couple months... holy hell. I spent our housewarming party (my husband planned it) mostly in my bedroom with our more nervous dog laying on the bed. Anxiety is no joke. And now I'm not a tiny dose of Zoloft to prevent headaches but keep the anxiety in check so I'm easing back into life 😉
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Post by quijibo on Aug 6, 2018 16:48:16 GMT -6
ladybrienne I worry about who he will be as an adult. Like, my H showed me a group text he’s in and the comments one of the guys made was just gross. In my head, I’m screaming and wondering if my son will talk like that one day. Or I’ll remember the smell of the boy’s dorm rooms and wonder if a room in my house is going to smell like a sweat locker. Am I capable of raising him to be a gentleman who bathes regularly? And, since I’m not a boy, I wonder if we’ll be able to connect and have things in common beyond the baby and toddler years. I have anxiety, untreated at the present time, and my brain just goes to weird, weird places. I’m fully aware of how absolutely ridiculous all of this sounds. But my anxious side has been running rampant with random thoughts that are making my chest hurt.
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Post by ladybrienne on Aug 6, 2018 18:10:27 GMT -6
ladybrienne I worry about who he will be as an adult. Like, my H showed me a group text he’s in and the comments one of the guys made was just gross. In my head, I’m screaming and wondering if my son will talk like that one day. Or I’ll remember the smell of the boy’s dorm rooms and wonder if a room in my house is going to smell like a sweat locker. Am I capable of raising him to be a gentleman who bathes regularly? And, since I’m not a boy, I wonder if we’ll be able to connect and have things in common beyond the baby and toddler years. I have anxiety, untreated at the present time, and my brain just goes to weird, weird places. I’m fully aware of how absolutely ridiculous all of this sounds. But my anxious side has been running rampant with random thoughts that are making my chest hurt. I understand. I admit I’ve worried about how my boys will treat women or say gross things - but I know and feel in my heart that certain topics that maybe used to be deemed uncomfortable, will need to be talked about early and often in my house. I’m going to raise good men. It starts at home and it starts early. You will raise a young boy who will turn out to be a good man. You have a good head on your shoulders - be confident in your abilities. The unknown is scary, but you’re already a mother and you’ve got the hard part figured out! Granted my son is only three, but being his mom is the best. He’s so much like me and we really connect. I know he’s still young, but I feel the strong connection and I know it will be an everlasting one.
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Post by hayleysmith on Aug 7, 2018 6:56:31 GMT -6
summerrain is your scan today? Sending move bitch vibes to you if so!
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Post by summerrain on Aug 7, 2018 8:32:33 GMT -6
summerrain is your scan today? Sending move bitch vibes to you if so! Thank you! Mine is tomorrow, but I’ll take the vibes anytime!
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Post by hayleysmith on Aug 7, 2018 8:33:33 GMT -6
summerrain is your scan today? Sending move bitch vibes to you if so! Thank you! Mine is tomorrow, but I’ll take the vibes anytime! Totally thought today was Wednesday Lol
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Post by eleephant on Aug 7, 2018 9:02:54 GMT -6
I have a brother and a sister, and I'm the youngest. My brother and I fought a ton but once we turned into teenagers we became best friends and have been very close ever since. My sister is 7 years older and while we were close I am way closer to my brother who is 5 years older than me.
I hope all of my kids are close, but I worry less about my oldest son being close to the new baby because of my own relationship with my brother. I can't control it but I do express the importance of family and siblings and try to help the growth of a close relationship.
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Post by charlotte on Aug 7, 2018 19:32:30 GMT -6
Dramaphile I just ordered my first ring sling, from SBP! 🤗
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Post by hayleysmith on Aug 8, 2018 6:45:14 GMT -6
summerrain good luck today! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!
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Post by LoisLoan on Aug 8, 2018 6:49:56 GMT -6
Ugh this is the worst time of year for me at work right now and I am just so busy. Trying to keep up with reading here but haven't been able to post much. Good luck today, summerrain!
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 8, 2018 7:01:32 GMT -6
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Post by hayleysmith on Aug 8, 2018 7:05:12 GMT -6
Dramaphile I didn't see that one. It's making me laff.
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 8, 2018 7:05:41 GMT -6
I am having the weirdest effing dreams. Thanks, pregnancy hormones.
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Post by hayleysmith on Aug 8, 2018 7:15:02 GMT -6
I am having the weirdest effing dreams. Thanks, pregnancy hormones. I keep having scary ass dreams relating to DS. I must be like subconsciously worrying about him with the baby and all that.
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Post by ladybrienne on Aug 8, 2018 7:20:12 GMT -6
Someone tell me to stop buying 0-3 month sleepers on Amazon pleaaaaaaaaasssseeeeeeee
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Post by ladybrienne on Aug 8, 2018 7:25:42 GMT -6
I am having the weirdest effing dreams. Thanks, pregnancy hormones. One of my earliest weird dreams in this pregnancy was having sex with all of the Queer Eye guys at my bachelorette party.
Antoni was the best.
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 8, 2018 7:26:18 GMT -6
I am having the weirdest effing dreams. Thanks, pregnancy hormones. I keep having scary ass dreams relating to DS. I must be like subconsciously worrying about him with the baby and all that. Mine aren't scary right now (although MH has been having scary apocalyptic dreams recently), more bizarre and kind of disturbing.
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 8, 2018 7:27:53 GMT -6
I am having the weirdest effing dreams. Thanks, pregnancy hormones. One of my earliest weird dreams in this pregnancy was having sex with all of the Queer Eye guys at my bachelorette party.
Antoni was the best.
Mine was a sex dream, too, but involved someone I would never in a million years be attracted to IRL.
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Post by hayleysmith on Aug 8, 2018 7:29:42 GMT -6
Someone tell me to stop buying 0-3 month sleepers on Amazon pleaaaaaaaaasssseeeeeeee But they're sooooooo cute! I have a shopping problem right now with baby clothes too.
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Post by ladybrienne on Aug 8, 2018 7:34:26 GMT -6
Someone tell me to stop buying 0-3 month sleepers on Amazon pleaaaaaaaaasssseeeeeeee But they're sooooooo cute! I have a shopping problem right now with baby clothes too. Agreed - like how am I supposed to ignore this level of cute?
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