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Jul 25, 2018 12:34:13 GMT -6
Post by jillywilly on Jul 25, 2018 12:34:13 GMT -6
jillywilly I absolutely refuse to wait so long to start formula this time if things aren’t working right again. I will definitely seek out help first but last time I had such guilt about formula. Once we switched, DS and I were so much happier and he started putting on weight the way he was supposed to. Yes! I still remember how I felt a million times better once we switched to formula. Every time I start worrying about our feeding situation, my mantra is just, "it's great if it works out, but make sure to buy a few cans of formula in case it doesn't."
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Jul 25, 2018 12:40:41 GMT -6
Post by jillywilly on Jul 25, 2018 12:40:41 GMT -6
meeggaannw, I'm sorry for your loss. To echo others, absolutely start talking about it with your husband now. I don't blame you on the two week rule for no visitors. My BFF also didn't want visitors that stayed the night the first couple weeks, and she also has in-laws that live far away. Their compromise wound up being her IL's stayed at a hotel for one night the weekend after her baby was born so they could at least meet him, and then they came for a longer visit a few weeks after that. Not sure if something like that would work out/be an acceptable compromise for you? Either way, I definitely think if you and your H can agree on some plan before you go into labor, so once all the PP crazy hits, his main role is to be the enforcer of said plan.
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Post by quijibo on Jul 25, 2018 17:03:54 GMT -6
I’m afraid of having a boy. They just seem so rambunctious and boys are gross and I don’t want pee in my eye! And the thought of getting rid of DD’s clothes that we saved has me up in my feels.
I do feel much more attached to this one. I keep staring at today’s ultrasound pictures. I’m so in love! With DD, it was definitely a deep love that grew over time. I was in so much shock from the life change that I was just 😳 for awhile.
And, of course, I’m worried about DD feeling included. She’s such a clingy love bug. I don’t want her to feel replaced and bitter.
I will say that I’m NOT afraid of lactation consultants this time around. They can bug right off. If my milk takes four days to come in again, you best believe the formula is coming out ASAP. COME AT ME, BRO.
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Post by charlotte on Jul 25, 2018 17:15:27 GMT -6
quijibo Haha! FWIW I think DS only peed while I was changing him like once. No peepee teepee was needed!
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Jul 26, 2018 6:41:56 GMT -6
Post by hayleysmith on Jul 26, 2018 6:41:56 GMT -6
quijibo Haha! FWIW I think DS only peed while I was changing him like once. No peepee teepee was needed! DS never peed on me! He peed on MH every time MH changed a diaper though! I was like dude when will you learn to cover him with the clean diaper first thing?!
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Jul 26, 2018 6:43:07 GMT -6
Post by hayleysmith on Jul 26, 2018 6:43:07 GMT -6
quijibo also boys are insane, but I know as a kid I was just as rowdy & gross as my DS is Lol I mean I still make burp/fart/poop jokes with him and laugh my ass off.
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Jul 26, 2018 7:20:16 GMT -6
Post by Dramaphile on Jul 26, 2018 7:20:16 GMT -6
quijibo, I'm with you on the boy thing, I feel like I know what to expect with DD, and was so sure this baby was a girl that it threw me for a loop at the anatomy scan when we found out. Also, girls' clothes are way cuter than boy clothes, or I just need to find cuter boy clothes lol. I gave away a bunch of DD's 0-3m clothes to a friend who just had a baby girl, and need to go through the rest and purge. And yes, not looking forward to all the peeing! I'm still excited, and it'll be a new adventure, but I do worry a little about it.
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Jul 26, 2018 12:15:03 GMT -6
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Post by meeggaannw on Jul 26, 2018 12:15:03 GMT -6
Thank you ladies, I know I need to talk to mh but I'm a little worried about how it will go so I'm avoiding it for now, we've got time. And I have thought about a doula, maybe I'll do some googling this afternoon to see what is available in my area.
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Jul 26, 2018 13:16:51 GMT -6
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Post by Argyle on Jul 26, 2018 13:16:51 GMT -6
My boy is in a playgroup full of girls. He's maybe the least rambunctious of the bunch. Whatever you get, I bet the individual variation is going to be a lot bigger factor than gender variation.
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Post by quijibo on Jul 26, 2018 14:48:16 GMT -6
I realize I’m generalizing boys and shouldn’t do that. It’s just my anxiety wreaking havoc. I don’t do change super well. I’ll be the one going, “Oh. This isn’t so bad. Why did I even worry?” I also panicked about having a girl because I’m such a Tom Boy. DD is a pretty princess and I love it and we’re still alive.
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Jul 26, 2018 15:45:07 GMT -6
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Post by jense927 on Jul 26, 2018 15:45:07 GMT -6
quijibo did you find out at your A/S that you are having a boy or are you waiting until the reveal? When I found out DS was a boy there was an initial disappointment but he is such a little mamas boys and I seriously love having my snugly little boy.
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Post by quijibo on Jul 27, 2018 10:50:35 GMT -6
quijibo did you find out at your A/S that you are having a boy or are you waiting until the reveal? When I found out DS was a boy there was an initial disappointment but he is such a little mamas boys and I seriously love having my snugly little boy. 😊 Waiting for the reveal! We have “The Envelope.” We’ll find out with everyone tomorrow! I’m pretty convinced it’s a boy. I keep referring to “him” and “he” and all that. Will be SHOCKED if it’s a girl.
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Jul 30, 2018 10:21:41 GMT -6
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Post by sarcaztic10 on Jul 30, 2018 10:21:41 GMT -6
DS2 was my rainbow miracle baby (4.5 years in the making and then a near fatal car accident at 23 weeks that could have killed us both) and I instantly bonded with him in a different way than with DS1. I love DS1 to death but know that my bond with him is so different than with DS2. I worry about what kind of bond I will have with DS3 and how DS2 will take not being the baby anymore. It’s going to change things and that’s scary.
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