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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 7:44:58 GMT -6
me this morning
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 8:03:47 GMT -6
TL;DR DS was all good to go this morning, even AT the freaking soccer field/gazebo thing where they congregate at first at the picnic tables. We were talking about the days left & he had it in his head that tomorrow was the last day & I clarified that it was two days left after today. A minute or two later after other random conversations, they said ok everyone get your ball & let's head out, he started getting upset about it not being the second to last day & wanted me to stay & didn't want to go out there & said what they do there is boring, then his "stomach hurt" all of a sudden. Then I convince him to go, he comes back, "wipe my tears." I think he's going out, he comes back & cries. Like w.t.a.f. He was so freaking emotional for no reason whatsoever. Then through the whining/crying he says he'll go out there once they're done exercising/doing these mini drills as a big group. They split up into their groups after that. I was thinking this was going to be like a 10 minute thing. I felt like I was sitting out there forever. I kept telling him can you just go out to your "coach" (maybe a 15-16yo girl) & stand by her, it doesn't matter if you participate. No, no, no. They finally ended & it was a water break at the shelter where they congregate again. He said, you can go now. I walk to my car, text dh. Maybe a few minutes, I'm thinking they would be back to soccer at this point. Still no. Wtf kind of break is this? So when I got to the car it was 9:25. They did 20 minutes of this exercise bs that honestly I know he wouldn't be thrilled about. I mean, I know that other kids were kind of participating so it might be an "us" problem vs a "they" problem but it's a whole group activity, this camp is 5-13, most of the shit this guy was doing was targeted for the older kids, let's be real. They should just exclude the little kids from that. Then this "water break" was like 10 minutes long. I wasn't going to sit there & see how long it was going to take them to get back to playing. I wasted enough time with DS' fit so I left. I'm not really sure how I feel about this soccer camp. Then also you'd think the coach would come over & try to get him motivated to come out & join. Nope. Probably because the coach herself is a kid & kids are kids. Lol I'm ready for this week to be over.
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Post by yellowwallpaper on Jun 14, 2017 8:03:58 GMT -6
I have a facial scheduled for this afternoon. I can't wait!
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Post by helenahhandbasket on Jun 14, 2017 8:33:26 GMT -6
Ugh sorry NamasteBirches. I hope he's ok the rest of the day. It's end of the quarter here at work so everyone is running around like crazy. I wish I could sleep through the next two weeks work wise!
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Post by pennyandthejets on Jun 14, 2017 9:18:33 GMT -6
NamasteBirches poor thing, I hope his day has been getting better! yellowwallpaper that sounds like heaven! Enjoy! helenahhandbasket I hope quarter end goes smoothly. Glad it's Wednesday! There's a BBQ at work today so I'm excited about that for some yummy food. I will probably end up working late though so that's not fun but, only about a week until vacation so I have that to look forward to!
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Post by yellowwallpaper on Jun 14, 2017 10:05:03 GMT -6
Sorry for the rough drop off NamasteBircheshelenahhandbasket Hopefully the next couple of weeks fly by without getting too crazy! pennyandthejets the BBQ sounds good! I would love some BBQ as I'm sitting here eating pretzel goldfish lol
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 10:51:52 GMT -6
Soccer pick up was good & he ended up hugging the coach while we were leaving. Like... where's that love when we first get there kid?????????????????? I brought him a sandwich & he took a few bites on the way to playground camp (which is literally less than a mile & a half away from there) so at least he ate something today. It's not as humid as it was yesterday so I'm not too worried about him. I just wish this morning would have went better. Two more days of this schedule! *I think I can, I think I can*
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Post by LED on Jun 14, 2017 10:56:51 GMT -6
Hey, sorry I've not really been around much. I just haven't really felt like myself in a while. I've been trying to keep up but failing.
The family that's been living with us is moving out next week. I keep trying to remind myself about all the good things about having my apartment back and peace and quiet back, but all I can think about is how lonely R will be without all the kids here to play with her. Every morning she gets so excited and climbs out of bed before H or I are up to go to their bedroom for a little bit before coming out to the living room to cuddle with B on the couch before he leaves for school. Then she and F play together all day. They've been really into attack hugs and holding hands for no reason as they play together. R follows him around and wants to do everything that he's doing. The two older girls and their mom are always fighting over her and who gets to hold her and who gets to give her a bath and who gets to carry her to the park or the store. And D reads to her and dances with her and constantly has her laughing at something.
This is the closest she's ever going to get to having a living sibling, and it's just going to feel so empty when they move out.
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 11:00:25 GMT -6
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Post by misspeansmama on Jun 14, 2017 11:20:12 GMT -6
Hugs LED! Maybe the kids could still come over and visit her from time to time. NamasteBirches - Sorry you had another rough time with soccer. Do you think your DS has been acting this way because he really does not enjoy it? The kids are so young, it seems odd to me that they focus so much on the exercise stuff. It seems like something they'd do with older kids. But I have no experience with it so maybe that is normal.
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Post by pennyandthejets on Jun 14, 2017 11:42:40 GMT -6
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 11:43:19 GMT -6
NamasteBirches - Sorry you had another rough time with soccer. Do you think your DS has been acting this way because he really does not enjoy it? The kids are so young, it seems odd to me that they focus so much on the exercise stuff. It seems like something they'd do with older kids. But I have no experience with it so maybe that is normal. soccer in itself he likes. He's been doing it since he was 3. Today was the first time I heard about him not enjoying anything about the camp in particular & that they do this exercise drills or whatever you want to call it. I mean, it's not too serious it's just that he is not the most athletic so I think he feels like because he doesn't know how to do things, he's doing it wrong or something who knows. Soccer during the year is just an hour practice, this camp is 3 hours so I think because it requires endurance, he's just being lazy/complainer. Minus the first day which was super super hot (I suspect he wasn't get enough water), he had good reports of having a fun time. I even watched him for a few minutes & he was participating a decent amount. He can just be so wishy washy & unnecessarily emotional. Like what would happen is let's say he freaks out about something & says "I want to go home." I would take him home. Guaranteed he would cry about wanting to go back. I know him more than he knows himself. Lol
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 11:57:51 GMT -6
I need a vacation, I feel like we haven't gone anywhere in a while. Probably because we haven't. Chicago in January was the last getaway besides the PA trips for DH's grandma.
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Post by misspeansmama on Jun 14, 2017 12:07:03 GMT -6
NamasteBirches - Sorry you had another rough time with soccer. Do you think your DS has been acting this way because he really does not enjoy it? The kids are so young, it seems odd to me that they focus so much on the exercise stuff. It seems like something they'd do with older kids. But I have no experience with it so maybe that is normal. soccer in itself he likes. He's been doing it since he was 3. Today was the first time I heard about him not enjoying anything about the camp in particular & that they do this exercise drills or whatever you want to call it. I mean, it's not too serious it's just that he is not the most athletic so I think he feels like because he doesn't know how to do things, he's doing it wrong or something who knows. Soccer during the year is just an hour practice, this camp is 3 hours so I think because it requires endurance, he's just being lazy/complainer. Minus the first day which was super super hot (I suspect he wasn't get enough water), he had good reports of having a fun time. I even watched him for a few minutes & he was participating a decent amount. He can just be so wishy washy & unnecessarily emotional. Like what would happen is let's say he freaks out about something & says "I want to go home." I would take him home. Guaranteed he would cry about wanting to go back. I know him more than he knows himself. Lol Oh good! I am glad he does like it. I can see how 3 hours is a lot though, esp on a hot day. Hopefully he will become more confident about how he is doing. Oh and I understand having the overly emotional kid. It's very frustrating sometimes!
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Post by misspeansmama on Jun 14, 2017 12:53:09 GMT -6
So today is DH's birthday and he is stuck working late. I was going to cook him a nice dinner, but since he won't be home until about 8:00 that plan is shot. We are going out to eat Friday night to celebrate anyway, so I guess that makes up for it. Hopefully his day hasn't been going too poorly. He's pretty much had it with that place.
He did have a screen interview and internal phone interview for the job he applied to recently. He goes for an in-person interview to meet with the client tomorrow. Before scheduling the in-person, he expressed concerns to the internal hiring manager about the hours and was told that if the client picks him the hours can be negotiated. FX this all works out for him!
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Post by csho on Jun 14, 2017 13:11:07 GMT -6
Hey ladies, just checking in during naptime I can't wait for this week to be over, but I'm also not ready at all for Father's Day this weekend.
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Post by stitch on Jun 14, 2017 13:38:26 GMT -6
DS had his first vision therapy session Monday and I'm in a weird place. They started by testing the five primitive motor skills that infants learn and he failed every.single.one. I feel like such a shit parent. He's 8 years old and didn't develop primitive reflexes. How did I not see it? Why didn't his doctor catch it?
I was venting to a friend and she commented that they give papers with developmental milestones at well visits. Well, yes, they do. But DS could roll over/crawl/transfer toys from hand to hand. They didn't observe him on his belly, bracing himself on his elbows, or arching his back like a cat like the vision therapist did on Monday. How was I to know my gangly, awkward kid wasn't just gangly and awkward.
I'm in a weird head space, like I said. I just feel like a failure. I know I'm not, that I couldn't know, that we're correcting it now, but I should have advocated sooner.
I may step back from the boards for a bit (not that I post much). IDK WTD TO DO.
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Post by misspeansmama on Jun 14, 2017 13:57:30 GMT -6
HUGS stitch! You are right, you are not a failure! It's so difficult, how are we to know what is normal and what is not when the range is so wide. Without someone there to hold our hands through every single thing it's just impossible. I know it's a totally different scenario, but I have never thought DD to be lacking in her gross motor skills (other than when she was a preemie and delayed due to that) but when she went for her kindergarten screening they are saying she is far behind with gross motor skills. Fine motor for that matter too, but I had an inkling on that. Anyway, the doctors have never had any concerns related to this type of development. She has always passed the doctor's eval's with flying colors, so without them bringing it to my attention, how was I to know. We are going to work with her this summer and she'll be retested in the fall when school starts. I am doing my best to help her, and as parents, that is all we can do. You are getting him the help he needs now and that is what is important. I've learned not to "what if" and "I should have" myself....it only leads to a deep dark place. Try to stay away from that as best as you can. If you need to step back from the boards go for it. But please know that you have support here if you need it. Hang in there!
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Post by bellatrix on Jun 14, 2017 14:32:11 GMT -6
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 15:08:54 GMT -6
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 15:21:40 GMT -6
DS had his first vision therapy session Monday and I'm in a weird place. They started by testing the five primitive motor skills that infants learn and he failed every.single.one. I feel like such a shit parent. He's 8 years old and didn't develop primitive reflexes. How did I not see it? Why didn't his doctor catch it? I was venting to a friend and she commented that they give papers with developmental milestones at well visits. Well, yes, they do. But DS could roll over/crawl/transfer toys from hand to hand. They didn't observe him on his belly, bracing himself on his elbows, or arching his back like a cat like the vision therapist did on Monday. How was I to know my gangly, awkward kid wasn't just gangly and awkward. I'm in a weird head space, like I said. I just feel like a failure. I know I'm not, that I couldn't know, that we're correcting it now, but I should have advocated sooner. I may step back from the boards for a bit (not that I post much). IDK WTD TO DO. ::hugs:: DS got glasses last year for amblyopia & a little bit of astigmatism & sometimes I feel guilty for not taking him to a "real" eye doctor sooner. He had passed all his screenings & tests with his pedi & had no signs of issues so how were we supposed to know, you know? It took one last screening that actually scanned the eye that referred us to the ophthalmologist. None of the previous screenings or tests had that technology. Maybe if they did, we'd find out sooner. I didn't even know these nifty things existed. So I feel you. At first I had struggled with if we had caught it sooner would his prescription be less or would we be able to correct it but the eye doctor said not really. There's a lot about DS' life I think about what if we did this or what if that had happened but you're dealt with the cards you are given unfortunately. These things happen & sometimes things are out of our control. It's nothing on you. What's important is that you're taking the steps now & doing all that can now with the information you have. Your feelings are valid & normal.
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Post by helenahhandbasket on Jun 14, 2017 15:30:15 GMT -6
I am so sorry LEDstitch you are not a failure, did the therapist give you an idea of what you should do next>
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Post by stitch on Jun 14, 2017 15:34:46 GMT -6
I am so sorry LED stitch you are not a failure, did the therapist give you an idea of what you should do next> Yes, we have exercises to complete 2x a day for 30 days to help reach the first primitive milestone, then repeat with a new exercise for primitive milestones 2-5. It's good. I know it's good. It explains a lot, but I wish we'd caught it so much sooner. I'm afraid 3rd grade will be as challenging as 2nd and in 3rd grade they have to pass a mandatory state reading test to move on to 4th. Just a lot of challenges. Save
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jun 14, 2017 15:41:40 GMT -6
We're watching last night's Little People Big World. There's a scene where Matt is pretending to be Zach's wife going into labor. Too funny.
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Post by skategirl128 on Jun 14, 2017 16:13:17 GMT -6
Still no a/c... hopefully they will be out tomorrow. I'm so annoyed right now. This unit is less than a year old 😡
We went strawberry picking and hung out with my cousin, her kids (including her newborn baby) and my aunt. We had so much fun! I now have 25 pounds of strawberries- taking any and all suggestions! I know strawberry jam and crisp are on the menu but that's all I got!
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Post by skategirl128 on Jun 14, 2017 16:15:52 GMT -6
I'm sorry LED I feel the same way now that I have three extra kids this summer. It pulls at my heartstrings. Much love! stitch you're definitely not a failure! You're doing what your DS needs. At least you have a game plan now. Have you shared this with the school? They may be able to make accommodations to help him so that he isn't struggling. The 3rd grade test is a federal mandate. There's a lot you can do to prep though. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by bellatrix on Jun 14, 2017 18:19:59 GMT -6
Still no a/c... hopefully they will be out tomorrow. I'm so annoyed right now. This unit is less than a year old 😡 We went strawberry picking and hung out with my cousin, her kids (including her newborn baby) and my aunt. We had so much fun! I now have 25 pounds of strawberries- taking any and all suggestions! I know strawberry jam and crisp are on the menu but that's all I got! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Strawberry shortcake Strawberry ice cream
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Post by misspeansmama on Jun 14, 2017 18:27:10 GMT -6
skategirl128 that sucks about your a/c! Hope it gets fixed soon. I am jealous of your yummy strawberries. I want to go strawberry picking but we always seem to run out of time. Sent from my SCH-I545 using Tapatalk
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