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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 12, 2017 9:21:34 GMT -6
I think S is holding his pee. Yesterday, he peed when he woke up (at 6:15), peed around noon right before lunch, woke up from his nap (around 3:00) and was screaming like he was in pain and looked to be doubled over like he had to pee. I finally got him in the bathroom and he went then. Then he didn't go again until right before bed (around 8 PM). He never had an accident, and woke up with a dry diaper. But that's weird right? 4 times in 14 hours? I think that's pretty common among this age group. They're still learning how it feels when they need to go. Plus so busy ALL THE TIME playing and learning new things, they don't want to stop just to use the bathroom. Unlike me who uses any excuse to use the restroom just to get away from my desk! E will be running around, playing whatever, then just grab herself and say 'i have to go potty bad.' If she gets sidetracked on her way to the bathroom, it's like it never happened and I have to remind her to go! LO does this at daycare sometimes. He went they whole day from 700 to 500 without going. As soon as we turned the corner he would yell. I gotta go pee! He did this 3 days in a row. He now just goes in his pull-up at daycare. I'm hoping he starts using her restroom soon. The preschools we're looking at require him to be potty trained.
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Post by guster on Jun 12, 2017 9:22:32 GMT -6
Guys work has already had a problem. They didn't reach out but I saw the emails. I know I can fix it quickly but at the same time they won't learn. I'm torn at what I should do STOP CHECKING EMAILS! There, decision made. I wouldn't be able to not check my email, but I also don't think you should respond, @chrissy. Unless it's a real emergency that's going to create panic at work, I would stay in vacation-mode.
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 12, 2017 9:27:34 GMT -6
chrisy01 Get on that plane and don't look back. Sink or swim time for everyone else, you do enough hand-holding and they're going to need to figure it out. And enjoy your trip! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 12, 2017 9:30:32 GMT -6
I've turned the work phone off. 10 more minutes before we board.
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Post by mwhip on Jun 12, 2017 9:31:27 GMT -6
chrisy01 Get on that plane and don't look back. Sink or swim time for everyone else, you do enough hand-holding and they're going to need to figure it out. And enjoy your trip! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk +1 You bail them out regularly when people call out. When I had a job that I got email on my phone, if I felt the need to check it, I would look when I first woke up, then middle of the afternoon and ONLY answer stuff only I knew the answer to. Vacation time is your time, to rest and enjoy the people you are around. And hopefully to forget how stressful your daily life is.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 9:34:00 GMT -6
I think that's pretty common among this age group. They're still learning how it feels when they need to go. Plus so busy ALL THE TIME playing and learning new things, they don't want to stop just to use the bathroom. Unlike me who uses any excuse to use the restroom just to get away from my desk! E will be running around, playing whatever, then just grab herself and say 'i have to go potty bad.' If she gets sidetracked on her way to the bathroom, it's like it never happened and I have to remind her to go! LO does this at daycare sometimes. He went they whole day from 700 to 500 without going. As soon as we turned the corner he would yell. I gotta go pee! He did this 3 days in a row. He now just goes in his pull-up at daycare. I'm hoping he starts using her restroom soon. The preschools we're looking at require him to be potty trained. I already paid 1st months tuition at a preschool that requires him to be potty trained to start in August.. Fuck.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 12, 2017 9:38:47 GMT -6
Guys work has already had a problem. They didn't reach out but I saw the emails. I know I can fix it quickly but at the same time they won't learn. I'm torn at what I should do Let them figure it out and quit checking your emails!
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 12, 2017 9:40:03 GMT -6
We took Sinny for his senior well visit and they said he's in excellent health based on his physical exam. We're still waiting on the labs but unless something has changed in the last 6 months I think they'll be good. I always imagine he's getting thinner (he's crazy skinny) but his weight is always the same. I don't know why I get so anxious about it.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 12, 2017 9:43:37 GMT -6
LO does this at daycare sometimes. He went they whole day from 700 to 500 without going. As soon as we turned the corner he would yell. I gotta go pee! He did this 3 days in a row. He now just goes in his pull-up at daycare. I'm hoping he starts using her restroom soon. The preschools we're looking at require him to be potty trained. I already paid 1st months tuition at a preschool that requires him to be potty trained to start in August.. Fuck. Everyone is different but I will tell you my opinion. You obviously don't have to do what I say either. I think that once you start potty training you can't turn back, you have to commit. It'll just confuse them. That's why I like the method where you take away the diapers and that's it forever. Diaper or pull up for nap and bed only. Yes, accidents suck but hopefully it's a couple of days and then no more diapers!
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Post by jewels on Jun 12, 2017 9:44:36 GMT -6
Guys work has already had a problem. They didn't reach out but I saw the emails. I know I can fix it quickly but at the same time they won't learn. I'm torn at what I should do don't do it!!! Take it from the person who always used to respond. It is NOT healthy for you!! They need to work it out. You are on vacation. Enjoy your relaxation time. Check in only a few times a day and only respond if it's ABSOLUTELY necessary. I was so tied into my workplace that I was answering questions from the hospital after I had my N13 baby. I realized how unhealthy this was for me and I pulled WAY back. And guess what? They survived without me! And I am so much happier for it.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 9:51:28 GMT -6
I already paid 1st months tuition at a preschool that requires him to be potty trained to start in August.. Fuck. Everyone is different but I will tell you my opinion. You obviously don't have to do what I say either. I think that once you start potty training you can't turn back, you have to commit. It'll just confuse them. That's why I like the method where you take away the diapers and that's it forever. Diaper or pull up for nap and bed only. Yes, accidents suck but hopefully it's a couple of days and then no more diapers! I would love to do that. But I can't send him to the sitters with 20 pair of underwear and wish her good luck. After 3 days of only underwear he still wouldn't tell me before/during peeing/pooping. Always after. He screams about sitting on the toilet and tells me he's scared. I'm at a stand still until he gets more ready. I think he knows when he has to go but is so afraid of the toilet he won't tell us. I have no idea why he's afraid of the toilet and potty chair. He's never had any negative experiences with either and is always in there with me when I use it. He flushes it for me everytime. So I know it's not the noise. I have no idea. I have the potty chair in the main play area of the house and it's been there for weeks so he can get used to it.
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Post by jewels on Jun 12, 2017 9:54:12 GMT -6
I already paid 1st months tuition at a preschool that requires him to be potty trained to start in August.. Fuck. Everyone is different but I will tell you my opinion. You obviously don't have to do what I say either. I think that once you start potty training you can't turn back, you have to commit. It'll just confuse them. That's why I like the method where you take away the diapers and that's it forever. Diaper or pull up for nap and bed only. Yes, accidents suck but hopefully it's a couple of days and then no more diapers! I agree - for my kid at least. I started and stopped a bunch of times and it just didn't work for him. When I finally got my act together and stopped sending him mixed messages, it worked. We've had a few accidents, but mostly he's been trained since the first day I REALLY tried. For us, I realized I was more the problem then him. I was dreading the mess so much that I kept half assing it. I think I shared this before peachsmama, but here is what we did: 1) Talked it up for a few days, let him pick out multiple treats to choose from when he goes (we did a bag of miniature chocolates ie kisses, rolos, etc, little gummies, and mini oreos), and pick out what "Big" treat he wants when he goes 3 days full time on the potty (he picked a transformer) 2) Friday after DC - set up reward chart and explain it to him, set potty watch for every 30 minutes and make him sit on it till bedtime. Give reward if pees. Give stars for everything. 3) Saturday morning - start with pull ups and going every 30 minutes. After a bit (we did after nap) put on underwear and keep timer to every 30 minutes. If he has an accident, still take him to potty. Praise like crazy for any success. 4) When he starts going more regularly remove the timer. (for us it was only a few hours after the first time he peed on the floor b/c it upset him so much) 5) For us, he was afraid of pooping so we told him he could ask for the pull up to poop. This lasted 1 week, now he poops in the potty too. I know this is a lot. I just remember how overwhelmed I felt, so I was hoping maybe this would help a little. Feel free to ask more questions or PM me since I am only 2 weeks out from the experience.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 9:57:03 GMT -6
But he literally screams/cries/flails at the suggestion of using the potty chair or toilet. I thought being gross and wet would switch something for him. It didn't. I'm just waiting a few weeks and hoping something clicks.
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Post by jewels on Jun 12, 2017 9:57:27 GMT -6
Sorry peachsmama - I typed up my long post before I read yours, so I guess it's not too helpful.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 9:58:56 GMT -6
peachsmama I work at a law firm so I can not delete anything. Everything has to be in writing.
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Post by jewels on Jun 12, 2017 10:00:08 GMT -6
peachsmama, are you also bribing him? That helped a lot in our house. The transformers are something he REALLY wanted. And I kept reminding him that he could only get them when he went potty. Is there anything that he would go crazy for?
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 12, 2017 10:00:13 GMT -6
Everyone is different but I will tell you my opinion. You obviously don't have to do what I say either. I think that once you start potty training you can't turn back, you have to commit. It'll just confuse them. That's why I like the method where you take away the diapers and that's it forever. Diaper or pull up for nap and bed only. Yes, accidents suck but hopefully it's a couple of days and then no more diapers! I would love to do that. But I can't send him to the sitters with 20 pair of underwear and wish her good luck. After 3 days of only underwear he still wouldn't tell me before/during peeing/pooping. Always after. He screams about sitting on the toilet and tells me he's scared. I'm at a stand still until he gets more ready. I think he knows when he has to go but is so afraid of the toilet he won't tell us. I have no idea why he's afraid of the toilet and potty chair. He's never had any negative experiences with either and is always in there with me when I use it. He flushes it for me everytime. So I know it's not the noise. I have no idea. I have the potty chair in the main play area of the house and it's been there for weeks so he can get used to it. H was terrified of the big potty so I got a little potty chair and that seemed to be fine for her. I wouldn't wait for him to tell you he needs to go potty. I would take him and make him sit every 20 or 30 minutes until he figures out the signs for himself. Potty training is the worst, but for me once I decided to do it there was no turning back.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 10:04:03 GMT -6
But he literally screams/cries/flails at the suggestion of using the potty chair or toilet. I thought being gross and wet would switch something for him. It didn't. I'm just waiting a few weeks and hoping something clicks. I'm with trtlcrzy that you can't turn back once you start. I had to send M to daycare with lots of panties. I hate to be harsh about it but, that's what they get paid for. Do you have July 3rd off? If not,take the day off. Then you'll have a 4 day weekend to do nothing but potty train. Try the watch vino used. But whatever you do, do not give up! You have the next couple weeks to prepare your sitter for potty training. It's possible if she starts talking about it with him that he'll go while he's there.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 10:04:44 GMT -6
I'm sitting at my desk stuffing my face with ketchup chips, courtesy of vino . They're delicious even though I thought they sounded disgusting. I need to catch up on my emails and voicemails. Yes!!!! I'm so happy you like them, I was on pins and needles waiting for the verdict! I ate the whole bag...
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:09:42 GMT -6
peachsmama , are you also bribing him? That helped a lot in our house. The transformers are something he REALLY wanted. And I kept reminding him that he could only get them when he went potty. Is there anything that he would go crazy for? Yes. He doesn't care.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:10:59 GMT -6
I would love to do that. But I can't send him to the sitters with 20 pair of underwear and wish her good luck. After 3 days of only underwear he still wouldn't tell me before/during peeing/pooping. Always after. He screams about sitting on the toilet and tells me he's scared. I'm at a stand still until he gets more ready. I think he knows when he has to go but is so afraid of the toilet he won't tell us. I have no idea why he's afraid of the toilet and potty chair. He's never had any negative experiences with either and is always in there with me when I use it. He flushes it for me everytime. So I know it's not the noise. I have no idea. I have the potty chair in the main play area of the house and it's been there for weeks so he can get used to it. H was terrified of the big potty so I got a little potty chair and that seemed to be fine for her. I wouldn't wait for him to tell you he needs to go potty. I would take him and make him sit every 20 or 30 minutes until he figures out the signs for himself. Potty training is the worst, but for me once I decided to do it there was no turning back. I tried that. I couldn't get him to go near it so I physically held him on it. He screamed and cried that he was scared, that it was going to hurt him. I should continue that? I fear that'll make him MORE afraid of it. If thats even possible.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:14:23 GMT -6
But he literally screams/cries/flails at the suggestion of using the potty chair or toilet. I thought being gross and wet would switch something for him. It didn't. I'm just waiting a few weeks and hoping something clicks. I'm with trtlcrzy that you can't turn back once you start. I had to send M to daycare with lots of panties. I hate to be harsh about it but, that's what they get paid for. Do you have July 3rd off? If not,take the day off. Then you'll have a 4 day weekend to do nothing but potty train. Try the watch vino used. But whatever you do, do not give up! You have the next couple weeks to prepare your sitter for potty training. It's possible if she starts talking about it with him that he'll go while he's there. She's been talking it up and encouraging him to use the potty for a year. She's on board with helping. But I can't send him if he won't even attempt to go. He's just treating them like diapers. The other little girl thats his age at the sitters is trained and when she started going there I was sure that would be what he needed. Someone his age, his size that can be a big kid! But nothing. He stands outside the bathroom door while she goes, and the sitter tells him everything she's doing but he won't try.
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Post by vino on Jun 12, 2017 10:16:50 GMT -6
But he literally screams/cries/flails at the suggestion of using the potty chair or toilet. I thought being gross and wet would switch something for him. It didn't. I'm just waiting a few weeks and hoping something clicks. So dont suggest it in the moment, be talking with him about something and just start walking over there, keep the convo going, take his pants down, keep talking, put him on the toilet, keep talking and before you know it he'll go. I do this with B, all the time. And he's been fully trained since Sept. it's not a big deal, it's a fact, take the emotions out if it, good or bad and just go pee. End of story. Works for us. ETA: I don't even praise him when he's gone this way, he pees, gets off the toilet, i pull his pants up, and send his on his way to whatever he was doing
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Post by jewels on Jun 12, 2017 10:17:43 GMT -6
UGH peachsmama I'm sorry, that's terrible. I'm not sure what to tell you to do. Does your sitter have any ideas? I'd imagine she's been involved in Potty Training tons of kids.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 10:18:13 GMT -6
I'm with trtlcrzy that you can't turn back once you start. I had to send M to daycare with lots of panties. I hate to be harsh about it but, that's what they get paid for. Do you have July 3rd off? If not,take the day off. Then you'll have a 4 day weekend to do nothing but potty train. Try the watch vino used. But whatever you do, do not give up! You have the next couple weeks to prepare your sitter for potty training. It's possible if she starts talking about it with him that he'll go while he's there. She's been talking it up and encouraging him to use the potty for a year. She's on board with helping. But I can't send him if he won't even attempt to go. He's just treating them like diapers. The other little girl thats his age at the sitters is trained and when she started going there I was sure that would be what he needed. Someone his age, his size that can be a big kid! But nothing. He stands outside the bathroom door while she goes, and the sitter tells him everything she's doing but he won't try. I still don't understand why you can't send him. In a perfect world, the kids would magically potty train themselves and sleep through the night on their own. Unfortunately we live in reality and shit happens. Literally. So, do a long 4 day weekend to potty train. Starting and stopping will only make things worse.
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Post by flamingo on Jun 12, 2017 10:19:32 GMT -6
A hammock is an awesome gift! Would that be a weird anniversary present? Sent from my LG-K371 using Tapatalk I don't think so--we typically don't give individual gifts to one another for our anniversary, though. We either take a trip or get something we want for the house and that is our 'gift'.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:24:40 GMT -6
UGH peachsmama I'm sorry, that's terrible. I'm not sure what to tell you to do. Does your sitter have any ideas? I'd imagine she's been involved in Potty Training tons of kids. She thought the one weekend thing would work and he'd be just having accidents. I'll ask her if she has any other ideas. Yes she has. Idk what to do. I feel like I'm failing him.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:25:33 GMT -6
She's been talking it up and encouraging him to use the potty for a year. She's on board with helping. But I can't send him if he won't even attempt to go. He's just treating them like diapers. The other little girl thats his age at the sitters is trained and when she started going there I was sure that would be what he needed. Someone his age, his size that can be a big kid! But nothing. He stands outside the bathroom door while she goes, and the sitter tells him everything she's doing but he won't try. I still don't understand why you can't send him. In a perfect world, the kids would magically potty train themselves and sleep through the night on their own. Unfortunately we live in reality and shit happens. Literally. So, do a long 4 day weekend to potty train. Starting and stopping will only make things worse. Okay. I won't send him in underwear when he's not even the tiniest bit potty trained.
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Post by klong11 on Jun 12, 2017 10:27:03 GMT -6
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 12, 2017 10:29:33 GMT -6
H was terrified of the big potty so I got a little potty chair and that seemed to be fine for her. I wouldn't wait for him to tell you he needs to go potty. I would take him and make him sit every 20 or 30 minutes until he figures out the signs for himself. Potty training is the worst, but for me once I decided to do it there was no turning back. I tried that. I couldn't get him to go near it so I physically held him on it. He screamed and cried that he was scared, that it was going to hurt him. I should continue that? I fear that'll make him MORE afraid of it. If thats even possible. Obviously you know your kid more than I do. But here's my anecdote about that. H was scared to poop on the potty so I would sit in front of her and hold her in a big bear hug on the potty while she screamed and cried until she finally went. Maybe tell him he can only have his tablet while on the potty. That helped with H at one point.
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