inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on May 24, 2018 20:15:12 GMT -6
kim22 and guster wow. Sadly can't say I'm surprised. I realize I come from the place of being a school nerd, but by middle school my mom never went through my schoolwork. I knew what was assigned and I did it. And I don't throw any shade towards helping with certain topics a kid is struggling with or helping them be on top of organization if they have ADHD, but collecting essays to proof read gets a side eye from me. My mom didn't have the educational background to help me with school work past middle school anyway. From that point on I had to ask the teachers during their office hours if I needed extra assistance.
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tgrimes
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Post by tgrimes on May 24, 2018 21:24:27 GMT -6
inthekitty My parents never helped us either. It was my responsibility to get my work done and to do it correctly. If I needed help, I had to ask a teacher.
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on May 24, 2018 22:09:53 GMT -6
I feel like parents do the most and coddle their kids these days. My parents were very uninvolved in my schooling and sports. They showed up to conferences and a few of my games but otherwise it was all on me. I plan to be more involved than that but no to basically doing my kid’s homework.
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on May 24, 2018 22:12:09 GMT -6
It was so humid at work tonight. We were supposed to get a thunder storm but it never happened. At one point the wind picked up and blew over some plants but that was it. We are in a heat wave starting tomorrow through Monday, highs of 90s and above. I am working tomorrow night and it’s going to suck so hard. My friend text me while I was at work asking if I could babysit her 4 kids while she goes to the dentist tomorrow so that’ll be fun.
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chrisy01
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Post by chrisy01 on May 25, 2018 6:22:01 GMT -6
My parents helped me early, kindergarten/1st grade. But when I got older they would only help if I had already been trying for a long time and struggling.
One time I was doing a science paper and was using encyclopedias to answer the questions. My mom asked where my science book was. I told her the school didn't have enough and the person I had to share with hadn't finished yet. She got very angry at the school.
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Sunny41
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Post by Sunny41 on May 25, 2018 6:44:44 GMT -6
I think helping kids with homework depends on the child's learning style and abilities and the match of teaching style in the school. My mom was stay at home, good at math, and I am slightly dyslexic and hyperactive. She took time teaching me skills or different ways to learn the answer that were better than just the answer. I'm sure she did proofreading for me though. ETA I also just didn't do homework a lot of the time so she had to bug me about it
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klong11
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Post by klong11 on May 25, 2018 7:23:18 GMT -6
I don't recall my parents helping me with my homework at all unless I was completely stuck and even then I would likely go to my brothers first, then my Dad. I do remember when my brother (2 years older than me) was learning multiplication my Dad sat us both at the table to teach us at the same time, so that when it came time for my class to learn it I already knew how. We had encyclopedias and such to look things up or they would take us to the library if we needed to write papers. They did not proofread our papers. I did have my Dad read over my Spanish homework and he and my teacher butted heads quite a few times over the "right" way to say things.
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tgrimes
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Post by tgrimes on May 25, 2018 7:37:01 GMT -6
I don't recall my parents helping me with my homework at all unless I was completely stuck and even then I would likely go to my brothers first, then my Dad. I do remember when my brother (2 years older than me) was learning multiplication my Dad sat us both at the table to teach us at the same time, so that when it came time for my class to learn it I already knew how. We had encyclopedias and such to look things up or they would take us to the library if we needed to write papers. They did not proofread our papers. I did have my Dad read over my Spanish homework and he and my teacher butted heads quite a few times over the "right" way to say things. LOL!
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tgrimes
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Post by tgrimes on May 25, 2018 7:40:03 GMT -6
I think helping kids with homework depends on the child's learning style and abilities and the match of teaching style in the school. My mom was stay at home, good at math, and I am slightly dyslexic and hyperactive. She took time teaching me skills or different ways to learn the answer that were better than just the answer. I'm sure she did proofreading for me though. ETA I also just didn't do homework a lot of the time so she had to bug me about it Obviously if my kid has a learning disability, I would help them. That should go without saying... But my parents literally wouldn't be able to help me with chemistry or calculus so it was on me to get my shit done & understand it.
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tgrimes
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Post by tgrimes on May 25, 2018 7:40:55 GMT -6
My parents helped me early, kindergarten/1st grade. But when I got older they would only help if I had already been trying for a long time and struggling. One time I was doing a science paper and was using encyclopedias to answer the questions. My mom asked where my science book was. I told her the school didn't have enough and the person I had to share with hadn't finished yet. She got very angry at the school. We had this issue at my high school, too. Such a pain in the ass.
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Sunny41
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Post by Sunny41 on May 25, 2018 8:15:28 GMT -6
I think helping kids with homework depends on the child's learning style and abilities and the match of teaching style in the school. My mom was stay at home, good at math, and I am slightly dyslexic and hyperactive. She took time teaching me skills or different ways to learn the answer that were better than just the answer. I'm sure she did proofreading for me though. ETA I also just didn't do homework a lot of the time so she had to bug me about it Obviously if my kid has a learning disability, I would help them. That should go without saying... But my parents literally wouldn't be able to help me with chemistry or calculus so it was on me to get my shit done & understand it. Right. I don't disagree with the sentiment posed before
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joelies
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Post by joelies on May 25, 2018 10:13:51 GMT -6
My parents certainly never helped me with my homework but I DO remember my Mom forcing me to TRY to help my little sister with math. That... did not go well.
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nam2013
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Post by nam2013 on May 25, 2018 10:42:13 GMT -6
Very little homework here before starting middle school (>12yo). My parents always helped when needed, even during middle and high school, plan on doing the same 🤷🏼♀️.
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wedding
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Post by wedding on May 25, 2018 11:17:29 GMT -6
My parents didn’t help with homework but when I would get in trouble my dad would make me write an essay about why I was in trouble and what I would do to correct it. He would proofread that and give it back for corrections. He treated us like his military cadets. I will say that proofreading helped me learn a lot.
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guster
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Post by guster on May 25, 2018 11:24:03 GMT -6
Very little homework here before starting middle school (>12yo). My parents always helped when needed, even during middle and high school, plan on doing the same 🤷🏼♀️. I wish the United States would follow some of Europe's designs on less homework. Some elementary schools are getting much about it, though. I will help my kids, as well. I won't do the work for them, but I can be a sounding board and a second set of eyes.
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Post by flamingo on May 29, 2018 6:27:38 GMT -6
flamingo What ever happened to your end table that missed the truck? I'm way late to respond but we are still waiting! 11 weeks and counting :angry emoji: I just sent an email this morning asking for a status report. Having been in the furniture business, this is not normal (for two of the same item to not ship together/simultaneously).
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