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Post by slenle on May 8, 2018 14:39:37 GMT -6
You guys... I’m in a pickle.
There is a conference In Vegas in June that my boss wants me to go to. He wanted me to go last year but I had previous commitments so two of my coworkers went. This year I have no excuse not to go and he is trying to get it sponsored by one of our distributors.
Another coworker was going to go too but now he can’t, so i tried using the excuse that I didn’t want to go alone. And now my boss who once said he had zero Interest in going says he’ll go with me.
I’m sure you can recall many stories of what a slimy person he is. I DON’T WANT TO GO WITH HIM! I don’t know what to do. He’s giving me the option so I could just say no, but I know he’ll make me feel guilty.
And aside from traveling with him, My introvert self is freaking out about the thought of a huge 4 day conference. Like my heart is racing thinking about it.
Help!
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Post by tgrimes on May 8, 2018 14:40:46 GMT -6
slenle Any chance you can have someone watch the kids & YH can tag along?
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Post by mwhip on May 8, 2018 14:42:20 GMT -6
slenle Ugh, I can't imagine. I sometimes hate going to lunch or dinner, anything that butts into 'my' time away from work. I mean, I love free food, but my day is between certain hours. I would find any excuse available not to go...I always use that my H is travelling, even when he isn't, to get out of work related functions.
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Post by tgrimes on May 8, 2018 14:43:13 GMT -6
Try vodka instead. Martini's don't make me tired. Ever the problem solver, this one... I really am. Earlier today my coworker was trying to get a wine cork out of a bottle. I got it out because I'm awesome. (FTR she lives in the country and her neighbor is making peach wine from her peach tree. Apparently it's a thing out there. I provided her with my used wine bottles so she can sterilize them to use for the peach wine.)
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Post by inthekitty on May 8, 2018 14:43:33 GMT -6
FYI Costco has 10 mg off brand Zyrtec tabs on sale for $10 for 365. It's a hell of a deal and works just as good as name brand. It's recommended for age 6+. Cass' doc was fine with her taking it because she's the size of a 6 yo. I suppose you could cut pills too if you wanted a smaller dose. They both struggled with swallowing the pills at first, but then we covered them in nasty Kraft cheese like we do with the cats and they go down easily. My dad, and his BFF who's a pharmacist, both swear by this stuff. I probably need to go get some for DH, he's a bit sniffly lately. I had severe allergies for years. Like totally effing miserable and they'd turn into a sinus infection all the every damn time. Allegra worked for a while then it wasn't as effective. Zyrtec was a game-changer for me. I felt so much better with it. Oof, but I remember that it grounds you from flying...or at least it used to. My last flight physical was years ago but back then the flight surgeon told me it makes you a no-go. YH will have to look into that.
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Post by tgrimes on May 8, 2018 14:44:11 GMT -6
slenle Ugh, I can't imagine. I sometimes hate going to lunch or dinner, anything that butts into 'my' time away from work. I mean, I love free food, but my day is between certain hours. I would find any excuse available not to go...I always use that my H is travelling, even when he isn't, to get out of work related functions. This is better than my idea.
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on May 8, 2018 14:50:07 GMT -6
I'm sorry for your loss guster. And that everything's been really challenging lately with no break in sight. That's the worst when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. :/ slenle, ugh. It would be so much better if it was just a peer you didn't like because you could blow him off. Hard to blow off your boss the whole time. Maybe say you adjusted to the idea of going solo and you can handle that now or that your spouse is coming with you (even if that's not true--it's none of his business) so you'll have plenty of company. Or if you'd have to do a lot of presenting and are really not comfortable with that, I don't think there's anything wrong with saying as much. You can always offer up that you'd rather help with x,y,z because you're better suited for that but that public speaking isn't your strong point.
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Post by slenle on May 8, 2018 14:53:26 GMT -6
slenle Any chance you can have someone watch the kids & YH can tag along? My boss keeps telling me to invite mh along, but I don’t think dh would want to. I may have told my boss that mh has a business to run to can’t take off for that... my passive aggressive way of telling him he doesn’t run his company the same way. Lol. And from what I heard, if the distributor pays for us to go they jam pack our day full of things and there is zero free time. No thanks.
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Post by flamingo on May 8, 2018 15:38:39 GMT -6
My dad, and his BFF who's a pharmacist, both swear by this stuff. I probably need to go get some for DH, he's a bit sniffly lately. I had severe allergies for years. Like totally effing miserable and they'd turn into a sinus infection all the every damn time. Allegra worked for a while then it wasn't as effective. Zyrtec was a game-changer for me. I felt so much better with it. Oof, but I remember that it grounds you from flying...or at least it used to. My last flight physical was years ago but back then the flight surgeon told me it makes you a no-go. YH will have to look into that. Good thing to check. He's not in a flying job right now so he'd be OK by Navy standards, but not sure if it would have an effect on the flying he is doing privately. Funny, the stuff that is a no-go. Meanwhile they deploy and are flying insane hours and the flight docs are giving them uppers and downers as needed. But no allergy meds!!eleventy!!
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Post by flamingo on May 8, 2018 15:45:34 GMT -6
slenle This may be one of those things you have to suck up and do. First choice, I'd take my husband (great news! H is able to get away after all!). If that's a no-go, is there another coworker you could sweet-talk into going now that your boss's offer to go with is on the table? Maybe he won't be able to get a distributor to cover it and you'll be off the hook? With all this said, I used to have to attend [Furniture] Market up in NC--which is way more insane than it sounds--and have done two and three-week junkets of corporate training at company HQ with two different companies, and yes it's intense and I was beyond ready for a break from socializing afterwards, but I survived Just make sure you have your own room, preferably way far away from your boss's!
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Post by trtlcrzy on May 8, 2018 15:47:35 GMT -6
Mil was late coming over to watch S so we were late for the field trip. Luckily we were only 7 minutes late. The field trip was fine, I would have rather taken a nap instead. Meanwhile at home S apparently never fell asleep for her nap so MIL got her up and let her play. After we got home and both girls were crabby I made the executive decision that they both needed to nap for an hour so that’s what’s happening right now. I’m making tacos for supper and will start that in a little bit. guster I’m sorry for your loss mwhip I’m glad your installer showed up today!
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Post by lahdeedah on May 8, 2018 16:03:29 GMT -6
I'm sorry for your loss guster.
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Post by cagoldi on May 8, 2018 16:32:56 GMT -6
I'm sorry about your grandma, guster. Is there any end in sight with your H's schedule? Does he stay busy during summer break?
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Post by yummeecookee on May 8, 2018 16:38:55 GMT -6
I’m sorry about your loss guster.
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Post by inthekitty on May 8, 2018 16:44:07 GMT -6
When we left WalMart yesterday Cass said, "The next time you're in the super market and you hear the beep *beep beep beep,* think of the fun you could have on Super Market Sweep!"
Cass insisted on taking Blonda to the park last night. I didn't want her to lose it so I said to bring Blonda in her stroller so she'll have a safe place to be when Cass is playing. This thrilled her. Madison told me, "Cassidy has not been taking care of Blonda well at all. She's been flinging her around and swinging her upside down. I think that's what she'll be like when she has a real baby."
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Post by flamingo on May 8, 2018 16:50:19 GMT -6
My H took B to t-ball (sadly, the rain gods did not cooperate) and I'm home solo with C. I fed her early, she played for a bit, and now she's playing nicely in the tub and I'm about to get her out and put her to bed. I've forgotten what it's like to only have one to deal with. WHAT DID I DO WITH ALL MY FREE TIME?
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Post by wedding on May 8, 2018 16:53:56 GMT -6
slenle I agree with flamingo that you may need to suck it up. I had to travel solo with my former boss when I went to Omaha. It was three nights and one night I told her I needed a solo night and I got room service and read a book. It was the best. Then I did a night with her and her friends. The last night I met trtlcrzy and it was great. You could make up fictional friends to meet to get free evening time. I love Work travel. It’s a great way to get away from the mom gig for a bit.
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Post by wedding on May 8, 2018 16:54:55 GMT -6
My H took B to t-ball (sadly, the rain gods did not cooperate) and I'm home solo with C. I fed her early, she played for a bit, and now she's playing nicely in the tub and I'm about to get her out and put her to bed. I've forgotten what it's like to only have one to deal with. WHAT DID I DO WITH ALL MY FREE TIME? I meant to reply earlier to your 16 t ball games. That’s insane! We have 7 games and 7 practices.
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Post by flamingo on May 8, 2018 17:21:59 GMT -6
My H took B to t-ball (sadly, the rain gods did not cooperate) and I'm home solo with C. I fed her early, she played for a bit, and now she's playing nicely in the tub and I'm about to get her out and put her to bed. I've forgotten what it's like to only have one to deal with. WHAT DID I DO WITH ALL MY FREE TIME? I meant to reply earlier to your 16 t ball games. That’s insane! We have 7 games and 7 practices. Yeah, that’s about what we had with soccer last year so I foolishly assumed this would be similar. 8 weeks —>8 practices/8 games. Turns out it’s 2 games a week, plus practice if a game doesn’t fall on a Wednesday. Had I known the level of commitment required I would have looked around for a other league, I just think it’s way too much for this age.
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Post by slenle on May 8, 2018 17:47:23 GMT -6
We just went to an event with a bunch of the MN gopher head coaches. P.j. Fleck is one handsome man. And he called my kids the cutest kids ever so I might be crushing on him. Lol Here’s N and Goldy. H was terrified
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Post by tallb on May 8, 2018 17:49:14 GMT -6
Ugh, j was a pill at pickup and ended up needing his teacher to help get us off the playground. Then we hit random construction traffic and I literally ran in at 5:59 to get N. So I cancelled free cone night much to my chagrin 😡. Now j seems to be on his best behavior and N lightened the mood with some serious toots in the tub, so got some laughs in.
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Post by tallb on May 8, 2018 17:51:19 GMT -6
guster I'm sorry about your grandma and that things are hard. Hoping things are looking up soon
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Post by lfig on May 8, 2018 18:28:10 GMT -6
guster I’m sorry for your loss. I hope things perk up soon for you. dapostrophe I’m sorry for the situation with your X.
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Post by lfig on May 8, 2018 18:37:03 GMT -6
Today’s work day was considerably less stressful than yesterday. We took a vehicle to get a recall notice fixed in a town 2 hours away. Then got pedicures, did some work shopping for supplies, and then personal shopping for us. I ended up getting a new dress for this weekends wedding.
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Post by inthekitty on May 8, 2018 18:44:41 GMT -6
Someone on local FB mom's group asked for suggestions of what to do while staying in a hotel after toddler goes to bed at 7:30. Someone suggested using a baby monitor and then hanging out at the lobby or hotel bar. She kept doubling down about how it's no different than leaving them alone in their room at home even when someone directly made the Madeline McCann reference. I'm far from a helicopter mom, but there's no much WTF about that situation.
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Post by tgrimes on May 8, 2018 18:53:25 GMT -6
Y’all....H has goo coming out of his other ear. I swear this is the one the ENT said had already closed up.
WHAT THE FUCK UNIVERSE?!?!?!?!?!
His 18 mo appt is tomorrow so I’ll ask the pedi and obviously call the ent. But I am so sick of this shit. My poor baby.
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Post by tgrimes on May 8, 2018 18:55:02 GMT -6
Someone on local FB mom's group asked for suggestions of what to do while staying in a hotel after toddler goes to bed at 7:30. Someone suggested using a baby monitor and then hanging out at the lobby or hotel bar. She kept doubling down about how it's no different than leaving them alone in their room at home even when someone directly made the Madeline McCann reference. I'm far from a helicopter mom, but there's no much WTF about that situation. What a fucking idiot.
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Post by lahdeedah on May 8, 2018 19:22:21 GMT -6
I meant to reply earlier to your 16 t ball games. That’s insane! We have 7 games and 7 practices. Yeah, that’s about what we had with soccer last year so I foolishly assumed this would be similar. 8 weeks —>8 practices/8 games. Turns out it’s 2 games a week, plus practice if a game doesn’t fall on a Wednesday. Had I known the level of commitment required I would have looked around for a other league, I just think it’s way too much for this age. Like wedding, I meant to mention this, too. But I just thought about something else. We have 2 games a week for 7 weeks, but two of the weekends we only have 1 game, so 12 total. BUT, we did have 4 weeks of practice before games started. Two per week so I guess in all it’s 8 practices and 12 games. The kids have a blast though. It is way more organized than I thought and the 4-5 year olds are way more focused than I thought they would be, too. Our last games are this Friday and Saturday.
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Post by klong11 on May 8, 2018 19:22:25 GMT -6
I'm sorry for you and your family's loss guster.
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Post by klong11 on May 8, 2018 19:23:07 GMT -6
Cadence just asked if she could have a joke cracker. Ends up she wanted a fortune cookie. LOL
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