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Post by flippinchica on Mar 27, 2018 21:18:21 GMT -6
yellow711 another here whose hubby can’t keep it together with both kids. It took until DD was like 1yo before he felt really comfortable just being with her longer than an hour or two. It’s ridiculous but oh well. Now he’s amazing with her. He is really clueless with the baby though & while he is much more comfortable handling him than he was when DD was new, he still asks me why I think he is crying or what I think he needs. Soooo still clueless lol. Sorry your night went sour— it sounds like he really felt bad! I’d give him a second chance to redeem himself!  This is my H. Incredible with our toddler but just really nervous with them when they’re babies. Same. Great with the toddler and nervous with the baby. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2018 22:06:24 GMT -6
I caught whatever crud DS1 and H have/had and feel like garbage. I’m just hoping it’s not the flu. We hit DS2’s tongue tie clipped tonight and it’s already made a world of difference with bottles and pacifier. Now to see if we can actually nurse.
H tells me all the time I can go out but honestly it’s more work than it’s worth. More than likely I’d come home to DS1 in tears and h yelling. They are very much oil and water.
I have strap Ds2 in because he flails so much. He’s a very restless baby.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Mar 28, 2018 0:41:28 GMT -6
yellow711 another here whose hubby can’t keep it together with both kids. It took until DD was like 1yo before he felt really comfortable just being with her longer than an hour or two. It’s ridiculous but oh well. Now he’s amazing with her. He is really clueless with the baby though & while he is much more comfortable handling him than he was when DD was new, he still asks me why I think he is crying or what I think he needs. Soooo still clueless lol. Sorry your night went sour— it sounds like he really felt bad! I’d give him a second chance to redeem himself! This is my H. Incredible with our toddler but just really nervous with them when they’re babies. Yep! I’m not resentful at all about it (no sarcasm here— I mean this) which is good bc I’m aure I could be. I’m so glad he and DD are thick as thieves bc it takes a lot of “work” off my plate (3 year olds, man). And if I really wanted to dip out for a few hours I know he would be ok, he would just be so incredibly worn out when I got back lol. |
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Post by sunfrogger on Mar 28, 2018 6:10:09 GMT -6
Early confession, I don’t strap DD into the swing or bouncer yet. Maybe I need to rethink this. I have never strapped my kids into the swing. I strap into the bouncer just because they tend to slump right off, especially when they fall asleep in there 😂 it wouldn't hurt them to fall off but it would sure be a shock! I also never understood why RNPs have straps. That would have to be some serious rocking and playing. I think some people use them well beyond the guidelines.. Like kids who can move on their own |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2018 10:18:26 GMT -6
helloerrbody your husband is not willing to be home alone with your kids?? Like... ever?? Right now when one is 7 weeks and the other is 23 months? No, he strongly prefers not. He is home alone with the toddler all the time but he isn’t yet confident enough to be with both of them alone for an extended period of time. Ahh okay, I read unwilling as aggressively opposed to it. I mean, I prefer not to be alone with my kids either, but I'm a parent, so I have no choice 😂 ETA: sorry if that sounded bitchy. I need more coffee. I just mean I don't have a choice. Y'all that let your husbands have a choice are just nicer than me I guess haha. |
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Post by helloerrbody on Mar 29, 2018 20:26:33 GMT -6
Right now when one is 7 weeks and the other is 23 months? No, he strongly prefers not. He is home alone with the toddler all the time but he isn’t yet confident enough to be with both of them alone for an extended period of time. Ahh okay, I read unwilling as aggressively opposed to it. I mean, I prefer not to be alone with my kids either, but I'm a parent, so I have no choice 😂 ETA: sorry if that sounded bitchy. I need more coffee. I just mean I don't have a choice. Y'all that let your husbands have a choice are just nicer than me I guess haha. Every relationship/marriage/parenting team has to do things how it works best for them. My husband is not an asshole, I promise you that. I married him knowing that he is nervous around babies and wouldn't be gung-ho about parenting an infant. He does so many amazing things for our family, so I'm totally okay not leaving him home alone with both kids when one is tiny. He is very supportive of me paying babysitters so I can get away and have "me" time - which I do 3 weekdays every week lol. |
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