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Post by wedding on Mar 19, 2018 13:37:11 GMT -6
lfig a few weeks back I couldn’t log into Tapa and had to delete and reload the app.
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Post by flamingo on Mar 19, 2018 13:40:37 GMT -6
FX on the house tallb. Sounds promising! Also team Zillow stalker here...we're 2 years away and I check obsessively. My sister and BIL put in an offer yesterday on a house in my hometown, and after some back and forth they've got a verbal agreement. It's beautiful and exactly what we'll be looking for in 2 years, same size, area, price and everything. I'm thrilled for them but get so anxious-feeling like, what if there isn't one for us when we move?? Crazy, I know.
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Post by mwhip on Mar 19, 2018 13:46:24 GMT -6
tallb I hope the house is perfect and works out for you guys! We also check zillow regularly, like daily. And I don't want to move, I just like to look at houses! I just got off the phone with the director of the Preschool that Evie will attend in the fall. I feel much better now that I know a spot is being held for her, although now I have to figure out how to get her there with my work schedule. I'll probably talk to my boss about changing my work schedule so I can drop her off daily, then have grandparents pick her up since it's a 2.5 hour day for her. The director also lives in our neighborhood so I'm sure I've seen her around numerous times.
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tallb
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Post by tallb on Mar 19, 2018 13:51:25 GMT -6
FX on the house tallb. Sounds promising! Also team Zillow stalker here...we're 2 years away and I check obsessively. My sister and BIL put in an offer yesterday on a house in my hometown, and after some back and forth they've got a verbal agreement. It's beautiful and exactly what we'll be looking for in 2 years, same size, area, price and everything. I'm thrilled for them but get so anxious-feeling like, what if there isn't one for us when we move?? Crazy, I know. Oh exciting for them!! There will be, but I am sure it's stressful thinking about what will be available then.
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Post by guster on Mar 19, 2018 13:56:00 GMT -6
tallb, keeping everything crossed for you. When do you think you'll see it? flamingo, how close would you like to live to your sister? My husband and two of his siblings have an ongoing fantasy that they can find a street with just three houses on it so they can basically create their own compound.
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Post by wedding on Mar 19, 2018 14:03:07 GMT -6
tallb I hope this is the one! How does your H feel about it?
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Post by tallb on Mar 19, 2018 14:13:20 GMT -6
tallb I hope this is the one! How does your H feel about it? he said he's interested to see updates and price. He's the stickler about schools and location though, so he knows he has to be interested since it fits our hardest criteria. guster our agent is trying to get more info on if/when we could see it early.. sounds like they got an offer accepted to buy a new house and now talking about listing theirs, so I'm sure they want a quick sale, but that's kind if the norm here.
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Post by dapostrophe on Mar 19, 2018 14:13:46 GMT -6
Guys, I just went to change Theo and he said "Watch this, Mama" and then eeked out a little toot at me and grinned!
I now recall that my H has been in charge of most of his diaper changing lately, so this must be his doing. I recognize his work.
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Post by wedding on Mar 19, 2018 14:15:03 GMT -6
Not infected!! If I could do a happy dance I would.
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Post by vino on Mar 19, 2018 14:25:48 GMT -6
Not infected!! If I could do a happy dance I would. Great news!
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Post by guster on Mar 19, 2018 14:27:53 GMT -6
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Post by peachsmama on Mar 19, 2018 14:42:07 GMT -6
So my brother talked to me a little yesterday at the dinner and played with my boys. My SIL acted like I was see through and barely talked to my kids, but did actually acknowledge them. My parents were given an invitation to their son's birthday party almost 3 weeks ago. My brother called my dad today to have him tell me that it was a mistake and that we were supposed to be invited. So I have 2 theories.
1. My SIL was in charge of the guest list and didn't invite me. When they talked about it at dinner yesterday and I didn't say anything, I'm assuming my brother asked her about it and she told him I didn't get one. And now he's inviting me.
2. It's all bull shit and he knew. But after seeing our sons together decided it wasn't right and now wants us to come.
WTF do I do? Not go and look petty? Go to their house where she treated me like a plague?
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Post by vino on Mar 19, 2018 14:49:19 GMT -6
peachsmama Honestly, I think this is one of those times that you have to kill them with kindness. You know that you didnt do anything wrong, so my advice would be to not be petty (like not going at all) as a reaction to them being petty about the whole thing. Go, keep the relationships, be nice, and they will come around, IMO the grudge isnt worth it and the cycle wont ever end.
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Post by wedding on Mar 19, 2018 14:55:15 GMT -6
peachsmama Honestly, I think this is one of those times that you have to kill them with kindness. You know that you didnt do anything wrong, so my advice would be to not be petty (like not going at all) as a reaction to them being petty about the whole thing. Go, keep the relationships, be nice, and they will come around, IMO the grudge isnt worth it and the cycle wont ever end. +1 to all of this.
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Post by dapostrophe on Mar 19, 2018 15:23:51 GMT -6
peachsmama You may have already tried this, but is there any way you can reach out for repair before then? Either call your brother or SIL or both and say your relationship with them is important to you and you understand that you both view the dog bite thing differently, but maybe there's room for disagreement AND an ongoing relationship? You can even tell them you've noticed you're getting the cold shoulder, and that you don't want family GTGs to be uncomfortable for either of you. Maybe even put it on them and ask what they would like your relationship to look like moving forward? I would have a hard time showing up to something where I was fairly certain I might be made to feel uncomfortable and just acting like there was no problem, but I think not going at all would just be delaying the inevitable.
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Post by cagoldi on Mar 19, 2018 15:26:35 GMT -6
peachsmama Honestly, I think this is one of those times that you have to kill them with kindness. You know that you didnt do anything wrong, so my advice would be to not be petty (like not going at all) as a reaction to them being petty about the whole thing. Go, keep the relationships, be nice, and they will come around, IMO the grudge isnt worth it and the cycle wont ever end. Agree with this. Go and feel it out. If she continues to be passive aggressive then that's annoying and immature but pretty harmless. If she is downright rude and mean to you, A, or the boys during the party then I would probably still play it off unless it's way OTT then address it at a later date. Maybe you and her could have a one on one lunch date to talk it out. If you don't feel you can come to an agreement about the dog/insurance situation, fine, but I would emphasize we don't have to be best friends but we must to act like adults when we're together for the sake of all the kids.
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Post by cagoldi on Mar 19, 2018 15:27:51 GMT -6
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Post by peachsmama on Mar 19, 2018 16:17:33 GMT -6
peachsmama You may have already tried this, but is there any way you can reach out for repair before then? Either call your brother or SIL or both and say your relationship with them is important to you and you understand that you both view the dog bite thing differently, but maybe there's room for disagreement AND an ongoing relationship? You can even tell them you've noticed you're getting the cold shoulder, and that you don't want family GTGs to be uncomfortable for either of you. Maybe even put it on them and ask what they would like your relationship to look like moving forward? I would have a hard time showing up to something where I was fairly certain I might be made to feel uncomfortable and just acting like there was no problem, but I think not going at all would just be delaying the inevitable. 5 minutes after I posted, my brother called. He wants the 4 of us to meet and talk on Wednesday. I'm assuming my dad called him and told him I wasn't sure we would go. So I guess that's happening. Idk how it will go honestly.
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Post by vino on Mar 19, 2018 16:25:13 GMT -6
Peach, they’re coming around. Just meet and listen to what they have to say, listen to their feelings on what they’ve been through with this; new baby, dog bite, PPD ( right? You were questioning this), hurting their family member, fate of their dog and the money was just the fact that they can blame it on cause it’s easier than admitting feelings.
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Post by peachsmama on Mar 19, 2018 16:37:21 GMT -6
Peach, they’re coming around. Just meet and listen to what they have to say, listen to their feleings on what they’ve been through with this; new baby, dog bite, PPD ( right? You were questioning this), hurting their family member, fate of their dog and the money was just the fact that they can blame it on cause it’s easier than admitting feelings. I'm going to read this repeatedly until Wednesday.
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Post by kim22 on Mar 19, 2018 16:51:38 GMT -6
Hi! I spent all day cleaning. While we were away, my nephew had a hockey tournament in our area so they stayed at our house which I didn't mind at all until he came down with a stomach bug right after they got back home. While he wasn't sick in my house, between that and DS having the flu, I scrubbed the whole house. Then I went grocery shopping, made dinner, and took the boys for haircuts. Waiting for DH to get home to eat then we are voting on a name for the puppy.
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Post by wineallthetime on Mar 19, 2018 17:06:01 GMT -6
Not infected!! If I could do a happy dance I would. Woohoo! Sorry about the awkwardness at work though!
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Post by jewels on Mar 19, 2018 17:11:44 GMT -6
Great news wedding! peachsmama do you think it would be better if you and your brother met first to talk, before bringing the spouses in?
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Post by wedding on Mar 19, 2018 17:30:27 GMT -6
When do you get the puppy kim22? When do we get pics?
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Post by flamingo on Mar 19, 2018 18:11:17 GMT -6
tallb , keeping everything crossed for you. When do you think you'll see it? flamingo , how close would you like to live to your sister? My husband and two of his siblings have an ongoing fantasy that they can find a street with just three houses on it so they can basically create their own compound. This is also basically my fantasy. We joke that we'd love to buy a big piece of property and build a mega-mansion and each family (mine, my sister's and my parents) gets a wing, a la "Dallas". My husband and BIL aren't so sure we are joking ;P Realistically, we'd love to end up in the same neighborhood. I definitely think we have a good shot!
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Post by peachsmama on Mar 19, 2018 18:21:39 GMT -6
Great news wedding! peachsmama do you think it would be better if you and your brother met first to talk, before bringing the spouses in? I have no idea.
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Post by kim22 on Mar 19, 2018 18:30:23 GMT -6
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Post by flamingo on Mar 19, 2018 18:37:17 GMT -6
So looks like Mr. Flamingo is our neighborhood's newest Little League t-ball assistant coach.
We got a text from the coordinator that after the rosters were finalized last night, our team's coach backed out, and was there any way we could help (I'm sure everyone got the same msg). I replied that I would check with my H tonight and let her know. I guess in the meantime another parent stepped up to the plate (ha!) so while I was at my friend's birthday dinner, a mom called and introduced herself as the new coach and said she understood one of us was going to be her assistant. LOL, guess that is what's known as the "assumptive close"!
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Post by flamingo on Mar 19, 2018 18:37:55 GMT -6
oh my goodness kim22 what a cutie-pie.
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Post by tgrimes on Mar 19, 2018 18:46:09 GMT -6
So I had 2 dead mice in my office this morning. I had to dispose of those, then clean the office because it stunk soooo bad after being closed up all winter and having dead mice in it. Yuck! Omg gross.
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