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Post by snowmoon on Mar 14, 2018 7:45:52 GMT -6
I'm really struggling with my kid. He's almost 3 and the most defiant little shit ever. It's a fight to get him dressed every single morning and We can never make it anywhere on time. We usually both end up crying and its turning me into a yeller. Like, it's 9:45 and I've been trying to get out the door since 7:30. I had to reschedule my counselling appointment and we're going to miss playgroup.
I know that he knows there's a baby coming and it's going to get worse so I really need to figure out how to get through to him.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Mar 14, 2018 7:54:18 GMT -6
I'm really struggling with my kid. He's almost 3 and the most defiant little shit ever. It's a fight to get him dressed every single morning and We can never make it anywhere on time. We usually both end up crying and its turning me into a yeller. Like, it's 9:45 and I've been trying to get out the door since 7:30. I had to reschedule my counselling appointment and we're going to miss playgroup. I know that he knows there's a baby coming and it's going to get worse so I really need to figure out how to get through to him. Ugh. My 3 year old has been acting very similar. I'm sorry. I have no advice, but just here to commiserate. Know that it does get better!
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Post by cornpop on Mar 14, 2018 7:58:31 GMT -6
snowmoon I'm sorry, my 2.5yo is in a similar place. What I've found to make it better is try to make it a game, like how quickly can we get your pants on? And we count. It helps...some...
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Post by snowmoon on Mar 14, 2018 8:12:25 GMT -6
Thanks for the commiseration cornpop and mattsgirl2004. It's incredibly frustrating. I feel like I've tried everything-timers, bribery, making it a race... Just waiting it out. Nothing works. We went back and forth to time out for 45 minutes because he ended up kicking and hitting me and it just kept going.
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Post by polson on Mar 14, 2018 8:38:29 GMT -6
cornpop fx for progress! i had my first outing with the girls and we all survived! having no coffee left in the house was a great motivator to get to the grocery store
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Post by alwayscheese on Mar 14, 2018 9:31:13 GMT -6
Just in case this helps someone else or someone had a better idea for me: I keep a cotton sleep bra hanging in my shower and soak it first then wear it while I'm showering. Big NO to water hitting my nipples! 🤤
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Post by babybean on Mar 14, 2018 10:45:49 GMT -6
snowmoon DS will be 3 in May and has his moments as of late. The age, combined with being heavily pregnant and them knowing a baby is on the way is a recipe for disaster sometimes. I wish I had a magical answer for all of us. 😭
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Post by ArielMermaid on Mar 14, 2018 10:47:36 GMT -6
I have a regular appointment today. I’m nervous because I still feel like death and my regular OB is out sick today. I’m sure this midwife I’m seeing is fully qualified, it’s just new to me. I’ve only ever seen my doctor. I’m hoping I’m not super dehydrated. But I think I might be. Poor midwife doesn’t know the mess she’s about to see.
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Post by mrsmonogrammed on Mar 14, 2018 12:20:10 GMT -6
Hugs snowmoon. My almost 3yo dd was a real peach last night. Anything I asked she did the opposite and there was lots of crying/yelling (from her). The only thing that ended up “resetting” us was a hug. I just felt like all my usual tricks to get her to behave weren’t working and I had no idea what was making her so defiant (besides being 2, lol). This age is so tough!
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Post by snowmoon on Mar 14, 2018 12:39:04 GMT -6
It's definitely a tough age. Plus new siblings. I think so much of it is personality too. Taurus much? I hope this baby is on time or a little early so I can have a mellow Pisces instead of an Aries.
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Post by yianna on Mar 14, 2018 14:56:19 GMT -6
I have a regular appointment today. I’m nervous because I still feel like death and my regular OB is out sick today. I’m sure this midwife I’m seeing is fully qualified, it’s just new to me. I’ve only ever seen my doctor. I’m hoping I’m not super dehydrated. But I think I might be. Poor midwife doesn’t know the mess she’s about to see. How did it go?
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Post by ArielMermaid on Mar 14, 2018 15:18:49 GMT -6
I have a regular appointment today. I’m nervous because I still feel like death and my regular OB is out sick today. I’m sure this midwife I’m seeing is fully qualified, it’s just new to me. I’ve only ever seen my doctor. I’m hoping I’m not super dehydrated. But I think I might be. Poor midwife doesn’t know the mess she’s about to see. How did it go? After my fundal height caught up last appointment I am now 3 weeks behind this one (should be 34 measuring 31.) Literally everything else seems fine, but she was concerned enough she wants me to come back in a week instead of my usual two and I might end up with a NST or Ultrasound or both. I asked if maybe it was because I was so dehydrated but she says (just from groping me a bit) that my fluid feels fine. She said it could be a 100 things that are all fine, or maybe my placenta has given up and we will have to deliver soon. I am trying to be zen about it but I am immediately in my head about my BFF. I'm usually so much more chill but after witnessing something like that, I've lost my chill. I'm in a weird space. Ironically my usual OB is out due to the stomach flu.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Mar 14, 2018 15:21:56 GMT -6
It's like, my brain knows everything is probably fine. But it wont accept that and wants to cry instead.
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Post by auri on Mar 14, 2018 15:28:17 GMT -6
I'm sorry ArielMermaid. I really hope that it was just because you were so dehydrated.
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Post by cornpop on Mar 14, 2018 15:45:28 GMT -6
I'm sorry ArielMermaid. Did they do a growth us or is this all based on fundal height?
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Post by ArielMermaid on Mar 14, 2018 15:51:40 GMT -6
I'm sorry ArielMermaid. Did they do a growth us or is this all based on fundal height? It’s just fundal height, which is why I’m trying to keep calm. I am not sure if I will get an ultrasound next week or what. She couldn’t really say since I’ll be seeing my regular OB then.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Mar 14, 2018 16:01:40 GMT -6
The neurology department called and I have an appointment next week for injections. There's an end in sight for this horrible carpal tunnel! The nurse said they have to do some testing first, but it's noted in my paperwork to get the injections (especially before my RCS). They had a cancellation for tomorrow, but I can't bring my kids and have nobody to watch them. 😣 So I have to wait until next week now. Either way, just glad to have some relief soon!
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Mar 14, 2018 16:02:56 GMT -6
I'm sorry ArielMermaid. I hope it's just from being dehydrated and maybe the way baby is positioned too. Hoping you get some peace of mind next week.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Mar 14, 2018 16:05:30 GMT -6
The neurology department called and I have an appointment next week for injections. There's an end in sight for this horrible carpal tunnel! The nurse said they have to do some testing first, but it's noted in my paperwork to get the injections (especially before my RCS). They had a cancellation for tomorrow, but I can't bring my kids and have nobody to watch them. 😣 So I have to wait until next week now. Either way, just glad to have some relief soon! Ahhh! You’re so close! I wish I could watch your kids for you. I hope you can get relief soon.
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Post by babybean on Mar 14, 2018 16:51:28 GMT -6
ArielMermaid hugs, lady. I’ve measured 3 weeks behind numerous times and baby’s looking good still. I feel like I’m carrying wider than last pregnancy so maybe that’s why. I’m sure you know all the ins and outs and that it’s likely all fine, but I get being in a difficult headspace with everything that happened with your BFF. I hope you get reassurance soon.
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Post by katietopaz on Mar 14, 2018 17:02:20 GMT -6
I'm really sorry for the toddler troubles, snowmoon and everyone who is struggling. It's like they know what's coming and they're acting out in anticipation. It's exhausting, I wish I had an easy fix for all of us. ArielMermaid It's okay to cry. You've had so, so much on your plate mentally and emotionally with what happened with your BFF. I hope that it's just one of the 100 possibilities that are all nothing to worry about, and I'm glad they have you coming back next week instead of in two.
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Post by cp3 on Mar 14, 2018 17:06:41 GMT -6
I'm sorry ArielMermaid. I hope your OB will do a growth ultrasound as that will probably provide more information and they can check the cord and placenta to make sure they are both functioning well. I hope baby is just in an awkward position and that is throwing off the measurements.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Mar 14, 2018 17:22:08 GMT -6
I’m sorry ArielMermaid cry all you need, you’ve been through a lot with a huge emotional toll. Im a hypocrite because I’m telling you not to worry when I’m doing the same thing lol! But hoping the scan and monitoring gives you peace of mind. Babies just keeping us on our toes.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Mar 14, 2018 18:14:00 GMT -6
ArielMermaid I’m so sorry, friend. A growth scan and/or US will be good and hopefully help to call your (totally legit) anxiety. Extra monitoring can’t hurt and hopefully will just show you a happy baby growing at its own pace. I think I’ve said t before but DD always measured a little behind and she was 9.5lbs at birth. Fundal height is one factor of many that they’ll use to figure stuff out and not always the best one. @mattsgirls2004 yay for having an end in sight!! Hopefully the injects get you back to anlace where things are tolerable at least. And big hugs to everyone dealing with toddlers. I swear they are just tiny crazy people. DD is my greatest joy but also my biggest challenge. Im thankful she finally decided that time out is a bad place to be so that threat is what works best for us now. It was so so hard to find her currency thoughnand for awhile there just wasn’t anything I could say or do (or take away or offer) to get her to follow directions.
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Post by cp3 on Mar 14, 2018 18:17:31 GMT -6
Mh took today off to go with me to an ENT appt for DD today. She had ear tubes put in when she was about 9 months old in 2015. They "fell" out about a year ago. They were still in her ear but no longer in the ear drum so they are considered out and her ENT said they wouldn't fully remove them. She started having issues with them last fall and hee pediatrician removed one while I had to hold her down screaming because it was starting to get embedded in her ear drum. The other ear he couldn't even see inside because it was impacted with black ear wax. Her first ENT mostly brushed it off so her pediatrician gave me a referral to a pediatric ENT in another city. We weren't able to get in until last month and she had us do olive oil drops for a month to help loosen the build up.
Today she was finally able to take out the ear tube that was stuck in her ear and so much black wax. Dd did so good during it but half of her eardrum has scar tissue because of it so now we have to do a hearing test to make sure it didn't cause any hearing damage. I'm pissed that her old ENT just brushed my concerns aside last year when I took her in but I'm glad it's finally out and hoping for no damage.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Mar 14, 2018 19:34:38 GMT -6
DS is testing us hard core too, intermixed with moments of absolute sweetness which can be a mind fuck!
I’m home with him tomorrow and he has requested that we make a cake so I’m going to get the ingredients today. I’m so nervous about how he’ll go while I’m in the hospital. I’m a bit salty at my MIL, despite us telling her our plans numerous times she thought she would have DS the whole time I’m in hospital. MH was like oh my god imagine how bad the nana hangover would be (she does not say no to him ever and he is always foul after spending time alone with her). She forgets that he has other grandparents too and it pisses me off.
I want to split the time up between my mum and MIL (preferably ending with my mum to reduce the effects of nana hangover).
Wow sorry for the wall of text, I’m quite the craxly pregnant lady today!
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Mar 14, 2018 19:35:29 GMT -6
Yikes cp3 I’d be pissed too, glad they’re out now though! Hoping there’s no effect on her hearing!
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Mar 14, 2018 19:46:55 GMT -6
nevertoomanyshoes I haven’t even brought up if my ILs will be watching DD. The transition back to normal life would be a shit show. I just hope I have this baby on a Monday so she can go to DC and have it be a non-issue. This is not the time for them to spend quality time with DD - they can do that another time. Is your MIL local to you?
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Post by smilesp on Mar 14, 2018 20:38:04 GMT -6
ArielMermaid I’m in the same position with the measurements. I’m 36 weeks and measuring 33. A couple weeks ago when I was 34w I was measuring 30ish. I had an u/s yesterday and everything is fine.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Mar 14, 2018 21:41:56 GMT -6
nevertoomanyshoes I haven’t even brought up if my ILs will be watching DD. The transition back to normal life would be a shit show. I just hope I have this baby on a Monday so she can go to DC and have it be a non-issue. This is not the time for them to spend quality time with DD - they can do that another time. Is your MIL local to you? Kind of local. She’s about half an hour away (but it takes her at least an hour to get to our place- we can’t figure out why). My mum is fifty minutes away.
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