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Post by easternshoregirl on Feb 26, 2018 14:05:24 GMT -6
Baby just napped for at least 2.5 hours in the RNP! I changed out our sheets, cleaned a bathroom thoroughly, pulled and sorted size 4T clothes from the attic (for DS), had lunch and folded/put away laundry. I should have rested some. She woke and gulped down a ton of milk and had a big poop. I think she could use a bath now!
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 26, 2018 14:07:43 GMT -6
Thank you so much marygracerich and bassa! That is so helpful to hear <3 So glad we have so many moms on our board who have been there before and have babies already- you guys have such good advice! Mom-ing is hard!
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 26, 2018 14:19:37 GMT -6
I think DS was so good the first two weeks and spoiled me- he basically only cried if we changed his diaper or he was hungry. He has been soooo fussy the past 24 hours and had a few hours today where he would just not stop crying. My mom had to keep reminding me that this is what babies do and that I wasn't doing anything wrong, but I am not good at this! I felt so bad that I couldn't figure out what was wrong. But he's 2 weeks old right? I have a friend IRL with a DD in the same age range and I reminded her that they hit a huge growth spurt between 2-3wks. You're OK! Just Su the best you can. This is what they do. And in a year you'll miss when you could put them down, walk away and they would still be where you left them! 😂 No but really. Like the other ladies said.. This stage doesn't last forever. You are doing AMAZING!
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 26, 2018 14:21:32 GMT -6
I'm getting anxious over what to do once I'm alone with them both. When I put DD1 down for her nap should I just let DD2 hang in her crib or something? I'm going to need to really shorten the nap time thing for DD1 I think.
And she's not even here yet!
Crap. I need to take something out for dinner. Maybe I'll just make it a leftover night so we get rid of it.
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 26, 2018 14:32:33 GMT -6
I think DS was so good the first two weeks and spoiled me- he basically only cried if we changed his diaper or he was hungry. He has been soooo fussy the past 24 hours and had a few hours today where he would just not stop crying. My mom had to keep reminding me that this is what babies do and that I wasn't doing anything wrong, but I am not good at this! I felt so bad that I couldn't figure out what was wrong. But he's 2 weeks old right? I have a friend IRL with a DD in the same age range and I reminded her that they hit a huge growth spurt between 2-3wks. You're OK! Just Su the best you can. This is what they do. And in a year you'll miss when you could put them down, walk away and they would still be where you left them! 😂 No but really. Like the other ladies said.. This stage doesn't last forever. You are doing AMAZING! Thank you so much! I didn't know about the growth spurt- that is good to know!
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Post by rebeccabunch on Feb 26, 2018 14:33:39 GMT -6
pinkcat my DS1 cried all day everyday from pretty much birth. It was suffocating and he was my first so I had no personal experience that it gets better. I used to walk him around the house, bopping up and down all day talking about absolutely nothing (this is the coffee maker, here’s the refrigerator, omg) because I didn’t know what else to do. Your mom is right, this is what babies do. They can only cry, there’s no other way for them to communicate. There’s no positive feedback on how you are doing from your baby right now. It was really satisfying for me when they start to smile. Anyway,PP’s mentioned it, but prep yourself for 3 week growth spurt. It’s real. DS2 was much easier but this baby wants to be held and eat all day and I need the reminding that it gets better. With DS1 I would tell myself it must get better. Most people have multiple children on purpose! Even though this is my third time I’m having freak out moments daily. I seem to do better when I lean into the fact nothings going to get done and I just let her nurse all the time and I binge shoes or read a book. Rewarding myself w a glass of wine at night helps too.
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Post by pippiann on Feb 26, 2018 14:38:13 GMT -6
I was told I could drive right away. I was not swollen at all so maybe that’s why there was no concern for slow braking. +1 to being told I could drive right away (even after a cs) as long as I wasn’t on pain meds.
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Post by pippiann on Feb 26, 2018 14:46:28 GMT -6
I'm getting anxious over what to do once I'm alone with them both. When I put DD1 down for her nap should I just let DD2 hang in her crib or something? I'm going to need to really shorten the nap time thing for DD1 I think. And she's not even here yet! Crap. I need to take something out for dinner. Maybe I'll just make it a leftover night so we get rid of it. Most of the time DS2 is sleeping when I need to put DS1 down for a nap, or chilling in his swing. I was worried before too but it always seems to work out.
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 26, 2018 15:03:00 GMT -6
Thank you rebeccabunch! I'm sorry it was so tough with your first but thank you for sharing so I don't feel so alone in this! So many props to you for how well you are doing with 3, you're a rockstar! 💕 You always have great advice and I always appreciate it.
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Post by tiffrobot on Feb 26, 2018 15:18:24 GMT -6
pinkcat I just wanted to add another pat on the back and hug! So many stages are HARD. And then you forget as they move onto a new one. Along with physical, babies have so much mental growth they quickly go through. Fussy stages can quickly turn into new skills or strengths. Or sometimes babies just cry, and you’ll never know why. And it’s ok. And they won’t cry like this forever. And then you miss the squishy little stage because you forget the bad parts. So you have more babies and go through it all again. Baha.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 26, 2018 15:37:45 GMT -6
But he's 2 weeks old right? I have a friend IRL with a DD in the same age range and I reminded her that they hit a huge growth spurt between 2-3wks. You're OK! Just Su the best you can. This is what they do. And in a year you'll miss when you could put them down, walk away and they would still be where you left them! 😂 No but really. Like the other ladies said.. This stage doesn't last forever. You are doing AMAZING! Thank you so much! I didn't know about the growth spurt- that is good to know! I really love the WonderWeeks app. It was so helpful with helping me understand why DD1 was crying when it wasn't totally obvious.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 26, 2018 15:40:28 GMT -6
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Post by snowyowl on Feb 26, 2018 15:49:35 GMT -6
rebeccabunch She ended up postponing until Wednesday, but if he is still doing it then I’ll definitely let you know what she suggests. I’m getting nervous for our pedi appt tomorrow. DS1 had jaundice and nearly had to be readmitted for lightbox treatment. I was hoping to avoid that whole testing repeatedly ordeal, but DS2 has gone quite yellow so I know they are going to be checking his bilirubin levels and then we will probably have to recheck at least once again to see if they are going down. I hate when the poor little things have to give blood samples.
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Post by jessijean on Feb 26, 2018 17:37:29 GMT -6
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 26, 2018 18:09:41 GMT -6
😭😭😭
Doing bed time with DD1 tonight and I'm going to get all the feels. It's our last night putting her to bed as an only since tomorrow, she'll go to bed at her grandparents while we head into L&D.
MH starts his time off tomorrow with a half day and he isn't going back to work until 3/22. It's been nice to plan it and get the extra time with DD1 and all that but I am so done. And yet terrified to add a second.
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Post by bassa on Feb 26, 2018 19:14:34 GMT -6
sunfrogger Woohoo! It’s your turn finally! Must be nice to feel like you have everything in order and ready.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2018 19:17:14 GMT -6
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Post by marygracerich on Feb 26, 2018 19:19:34 GMT -6
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Post by dragonflyinn on Feb 26, 2018 19:31:00 GMT -6
You’re doing great pinkcat!! It is SO hard. I have thought many times I wish I could go back & tell my FTM self not to beat myself up so much over being just that, a first time mom!! AND no matter how many babies you have, newborn stage is HARD. So many stages are hard! Once you figure them out, they change lol. So just know you’re not alone!! The only reason any of us STM’s sound like we know what we’re doing is simply bc we already know to expect the really shitty parts. It DOES get better, promise
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Post by easternshoregirl on Feb 26, 2018 19:35:26 GMT -6
Well said dragonflyinn. I seriously did not think I would survive DS's first month. Literally, I thought it was going to kill me.
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Post by snowyowl on Feb 26, 2018 20:17:55 GMT -6
The only reason any of us STM’s sound like we know what we’re doing is simply bc we already know to expect the really shitty parts. It DOES get better, promise So much this. I have more memories of how incredibly disoriented and overwhelmed I was during my first son’s newborn stage than I do of DS1 himself. This time I’m more functional in a way, but only because it’s easier to deal with misery you knew was coming (and that it will get better! More quickly than you think).
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Post by benandjerrys on Feb 26, 2018 20:37:45 GMT -6
sunfrogger do you have a Bjorn bouncer or equivalent? DDs naps and bedtimes were rough on me until I had the genius idea (just this week) that I could bring a bouncy seat into DDs room when I put her down. It has seriously been a game changer. pinkcat you're doing great. It is hard. And they change around 2 weeks and start crying more and being awake more land it's awesome and awful at the same time. Don't feel like you have to stop the crying, it's ok that they cry. It grates on us emotionally, but sometimes they are crying because that's physically or emotionally what they need to do. Like crying puts pressure on their belly to help them fart. And they are smart enough to know that. So you don't necessarily want to stop it. I highly recommend this book about infant crying and how to handle it. The Aware Baby www.amazon.com/dp/0961307374/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_eqmLAbNJNQZ8Z
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Post by helloerrbody on Feb 26, 2018 20:50:23 GMT -6
Today was brutal. DS1 was just melt-down/tantrum central over EVER.Y.THING.
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Post by helloerrbody on Feb 26, 2018 20:51:10 GMT -6
I also just realized it's been a long time since I bathed baby, and I feel guilty. #needmorewine
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 26, 2018 21:08:03 GMT -6
benandjerrys that's genius! We do have a bouncer and I could always drag in the RnP from my room down the hall!
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 26, 2018 21:08:41 GMT -6
sunfrogger Woohoo! It’s your turn finally! Must be nice to feel like you have everything in order and ready. I'm bringing up the rear! 😂😂😂
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 26, 2018 21:08:55 GMT -6
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Post by snowyowl on Feb 26, 2018 21:11:47 GMT -6
I also just realized it's been a long time since I bathed baby, and I feel guilty. #needmorewine My Mom is so much more sentimental than I am. She asked if I wanted her to give DS2 a bath when I was at her house yesterday, and I told her that would be great. When she realized it would be his first bath she kept saying, “are you sure? You don’t mind me giving him his first bath ever? You won’t be sorry you didn’t do it?” Lol, no. I’ll have to give him a trillion baths, I am not going to be romantic about it now.
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Post by flippinchica on Feb 26, 2018 21:17:17 GMT -6
Baby girl is here and arrived Sunday am. She posted on August '15.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Feb 26, 2018 21:29:07 GMT -6
I also just realized it's been a long time since I bathed baby, and I feel guilty. #needmorewine Wine makes me less annoyed with everything and everyone
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