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Post by benandjerrys on Mar 4, 2018 20:58:00 GMT -6
Bumping this because today was rough. I don't think I have PPD/PPA, but today I had two meltdowns and cried a lot. That's pretty out of character for me. I'm not even sure what I was upset about. My 6w visit is next week and I'm interested to do the questionnaire again. hugs. I’ve been feeling similar, except very short tempered. I don’t know if my short temperedness is just PPD manifesting itself as rage? Or if it’s due to the lack of sleep and just being human trying to deal with a moody toddler. I’m a pretty impatient person at baseline, but i usually have it in check. Lately i just havent been feeling like myself in regards to that. My gut tells me it’s not PPD, but I plan on bringing it up to my OB at my apt on Tuesday. Im sorry you're feeling that way too. Youre right, the thing is- even without the hormone shift, this shit is hard! These babies are hard, we are exhausted, and this time around we have toddlers too! I think it's probably just all those things making me emotional, but I'm watching closely. I get the impression H is on high alert now too.
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Post by maddisonrose on Mar 5, 2018 13:24:22 GMT -6
Sorry your having a hard time benandjerrys! FWIW, everyone has bad days, some a few days in a row. But I *think* that if your not having those bad days every day for more than 2 weeks it might just be normal? I think that's what they use as a guideline but always good to talk to your doctor about it. Hope today is better for you. Hugs
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Post by maddisonrose on Mar 5, 2018 13:27:26 GMT -6
amesie, with my first, my anxiety manifested itself with rage and irritability soo bad. I am a pretty type A structured person and I think the chaos of life with a newborn really really set my anxiety off. It's so hard to add in a tiny human to your life when you pretty much have your own routines and schedules etc, let alone with a toddler in there too. Don't be hard on yourself this is a seriously crazy phase of life and your definitely not the only one. FX it gets easier soon
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Post by sunfrogger on Mar 5, 2018 13:36:44 GMT -6
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Post by amesie on Mar 6, 2018 11:08:27 GMT -6
I had my 6w pp visit today. Sure enough I was “positive” for PPD according to the screen they have you fill out beginning of the apt. But after talking to my dr, she assured me that everything I’m feeling is completely normal. The irritability, the crying, the feeling overwhelmed. It made me feel better that it’s normal and to be expected to a certain extent.
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Post by maddisonrose on Mar 6, 2018 11:43:05 GMT -6
amesie, Glad your feeling better about it all!
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Post by sunfrogger on Mar 6, 2018 11:56:46 GMT -6
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Post by benandjerrys on Mar 6, 2018 12:12:17 GMT -6
Sending love and empathy amesie. I hope you start to feel better soon. Your feelings are real and justifiable .
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2018 8:11:54 GMT -6
I am bumping this again. How is everyone doing?
I had a rough weekend. I was really overwhelmed and weepy. J was a fussbucket and I was so touched out, then my husband was all up in my business wanting sex and I just couldn't handle it.
DH also had all three kids by himself for a few hours for the first time and it was a total disaster.
I love having 3 kids and I generally feel like I handle caring for them when I am on my own pretty well but I have this anxiety about leaving them with other people and DH's few hours watching them did nothing to help my anxiety. I just want a night to myself or a date out with DH 😭
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Post by maddisonrose on Mar 26, 2018 12:00:08 GMT -6
I am bumping this again. How is everyone doing? I had a rough weekend. I was really overwhelmed and weepy. J was a fussbucket and I was so touched out, then my husband was all up in my business wanting sex and I just couldn't handle it. DH also had all three kids by himself for a few hours for the first time and it was a total disaster. I love having 3 kids and I generally feel like I handle caring for them when I am on my own pretty well but I have this anxiety about leaving them with other people and DH's few hours watching them did nothing to help my anxiety. I just want a night to myself or a date out with DH 😭 I’m sorry you had a rough weekend. I think that’s totally acceptable. Managing three kids would be so overwhelming I imagine. Do you guys have a babysitter you trust or close family members that could watch them while you guys got away? I know this is hard to put in practice but my CBT therapist always tells me that when I have anxiety about a certain thing I MUST go and do it to challenge the thought process and end the cycle. But believe me I know how hard this can be. I hope you get a break soon. Hugs!
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Post by sarahh on Mar 26, 2018 12:41:29 GMT -6
Thanks for bumping the check in peachesncream! I think we’ve talked about “visions” here. Having a flash of something bad happen which increases anxiety. I wasn’t having many with this baby, just general anxiety but I’ve started having them recently. Mostly with imagining that we didn’t put the baby in the car. So I catch myself checking constantly. I haven’t been very good about taking my prescription so I know that’s probably why I’m having them more now. These pills are twice a day and I’m lucky to remember to take one. I may send my doctor a message to see if there is a one a day option because I can’t let this start to take over my life again this time.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Mar 26, 2018 17:38:57 GMT -6
sarahh, it is much milder for me but I had it bad with my first....this time, it is more a fleeting fear of "oh no, I'm going to drop her here in the garage"or random stuff like that but occasional, not frequent.
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Post by amesie on Mar 26, 2018 19:47:22 GMT -6
I am bumping this again. How is everyone doing? I had a rough weekend. I was really overwhelmed and weepy. J was a fussbucket and I was so touched out, then my husband was all up in my business wanting sex and I just couldn't handle it. DH also had all three kids by himself for a few hours for the first time and it was a total disaster. I love having 3 kids and I generally feel like I handle caring for them when I am on my own pretty well but I have this anxiety about leaving them with other people and DH's few hours watching them did nothing to help my anxiety. I just want a night to myself or a date out with DH 😭 i tooootally hear you on having anxiety about leaving them. I find myself so uptight about who I leave the girls with. This is mostly why I haven’t gone back to work yet. MIL is our childcare and I just have such a pit in my stomach leaving them for 8.5-9hrs a day with her. We’ve left them with her for an hour or 2 a couple times which has been great but I freak out over the thought of any longer. Ugh.
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Post by amesie on Mar 26, 2018 19:49:28 GMT -6
sarahh I also have those feelings sometimes. It was a lot worse with my first. I’d have those random awful thoughts that would make me soooo anxious all the time. I’ve had a few here and there this time. Something popped in my head MOTN the other night and I can’t remember what it was, but it left me sooo unsettled for so long. I had such a hard time shaking the anxiety. I hate when that happens!!
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Post by sunfrogger on Mar 27, 2018 1:30:09 GMT -6
I'll +1 that the intrusive thoughts and anxiety have not nearly been as bad this time. Its been a welcome surprise.
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Post by sweetsurprise on Mar 27, 2018 19:04:17 GMT -6
Hey guys. I may be in the PPA boat. I can't tell if it's normal or not. I have a doctor's appointment coming up to discuss it. I felt anxious during maternity leave and thought it was just hard being cooped up at home. Now I'm working and I am anxious because I miss LO. Soooo. I figure I'll chat with the doctor.
Does anyone know what doctors do for PPA?
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Post by sarahh on Mar 27, 2018 23:31:49 GMT -6
Hey guys. I may be in the PPA boat. I can't tell if it's normal or not. I have a doctor's appointment coming up to discuss it. I felt anxious during maternity leave and thought it was just hard being cooped up at home. Now I'm working and I am anxious because I miss LO. Soooo. I figure I'll chat with the doctor. Does anyone know what doctors do for PPA? I’ve had PPA with both kids. After my first they put me on a medicine for PPD which worked pretty well. This time around I’m on an anti-anxiety medicine that I really like. It’s pretty low dose which I like but seems to be doing the trick and no real side effects. Another option would be counseling. I did that after my first. I felt that it helped somewhat to get my feelings out but this time around I don’t really have the time to commit to it.
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Post by sunfrogger on Mar 28, 2018 6:02:20 GMT -6
Hey guys. I may be in the PPA boat. I can't tell if it's normal or not. I have a doctor's appointment coming up to discuss it. I felt anxious during maternity leave and thought it was just hard being cooped up at home. Now I'm working and I am anxious because I miss LO. Soooo. I figure I'll chat with the doctor. Does anyone know what doctors do for PPA? I had really bad pregnancy (antenatal) anxiety and my dr told me that first they suggest talk therapy, then medication. Good luck I had PPD/PPA with DD1. The anxiety at work being away from her was awful.. And she was only with my mom who constantly sent me pictures. Hugs ❤️
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