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Post by helloerrbody on Feb 18, 2018 17:13:17 GMT -6
I do all MOTN stuff now. DD1 was a lot harder of a baby so he definitely helped a lot with her MOTN. I would tag him in for a bottle feeding if it was a real rough night and i couldn’t stand nursing her. We also got down to a routine of side-lie nursing and he would change her diaper while she fed. It was pretty convenient actually. IMO just because you SAH doesnt mean you’re not working. You might not be “working” but it still requires you to have some sleep. Just bc MH works out of the home and I’m SAH for now taking care of the kids doesnt mean he can’t help! I know that’s not what you are saying benandjerrys but I totally agree that being at home and taking care of kids/house is work. I’ve said this before, but I think taking care of the kids all day alone and getting everyone where they need to be is harder than my outside if the house job. When you are working outside if the house in most jobs (yes, there are exceptions) you get little mental breaks here and there. People may need you but you can exert some control over when you interact with them (again, yes, exceptions). I work with some jerks but they are so much easier to handle than both of my boys fighting at the same time the baby’s crying. I think SAH is major work, but I also think that every couple just needs to do what works for them. For us, there is really not much H could help with in the night. Our toddler STTN 100% of the time so no one has to deal with him, and baby is EBF (I supplement at the breast and not usually at night). He has already seemed to stop pooping in the night so I don't even do diaper changes MOTN. So it's really just waking and putting baby on boob. And H's job is high-stress and high-stakes so him being rested is important. Of course I need sleep, too, but I can stay in my PJs all day and doze when toddler naps.
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 18, 2018 17:47:06 GMT -6
Thank you so much! The baby blues have hit hard but mostly things are going very well 💙 I need to learn how to get over the insomnia I've been having because I'm running on only a few hours of sleep for the past week and am struggling! Hope all is well for everyone here!! I will get caught up again this week! Please don't hesitate to reach out if you need someone else to talk to. I struggled a lot with baby blues and I think it borderline walked PPD. It doesn't hurt to ask for help. ❤️ Thank you so much!!
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 18, 2018 17:48:12 GMT -6
My mom and DH have both been huge helps. I think if I could just get a few hours of sleep I would feel so much better!! Thank you💕 Good, I'm glad you have some support! One thing I did when I had DS was that I would sleep in the guest room (with ear plugs) from 3am or 4am until like 7 or 8 on the weekends when DH didn't have to go to work. That gave me a chance to get a few hours. DH could give DS a bottle if needed and then I would pump when I woke up. I also highly recommend guided meditations if you can, it was the only way I could wind down for a nap during the day when DS was sleeping. www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations/www.dartmouth.edu/~healthed/relax/downloads.htmlGood news...when/if you have another, you are just so exhausted falling and staying asleep is super easy! No, but really, first borns are really tough. Thank you, I appreciate it!! 💕Those meditations look great, I am going to try them tonight.
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 18, 2018 17:51:32 GMT -6
pinkcat you probably haven’t slept much since before labor started. I can’t imagine how tired you are. Eastern shore girl said it, but I’d suggest trying to get some sleep where you don’t feel like you’re still first person on duty. I do this now. I have an eye mask and ear plugs and H is first point on hearing everyone. You are also in that 5-7 day post partum range where there’s a huge hormone drop. Sounds like you have support and you are asking for help. Keep it up. If you haven’t watched it yet, in the season finale from Friday Paula sings a song about birth and legit says you feel great right after then feel awful for awhile due to baby blues! Feel free to PM me if you ever want to. I definitely went through something hormonal after my D&C last spring. How I was feeling was out of my control and it helped that I was super open about it with people in my life. I was having a hard time w everything and it was the first time I felt like I didn’t have control over how I was feeling. This is all so helpful to hear....thank you! I'm sorry you went through such a hard time, but really appreciate the advice 💕 and you reminded me we have the finale to watch!!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2018 18:31:08 GMT -6
pinkcat I’m glad you have good support. I’ve just hit the 7 day horomones drop and it’s been rough. If you continue to feel like you are though please make sure to reach out for help.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2018 22:35:17 GMT -6
I joined the HA group but am overwhelmed. Someone tell me the easiest way to shop for the size(s) I am looking for.
Also those collages of a bazillion items have me like 😮😮
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2018 22:39:30 GMT -6
Also if you ladies would be up for it, tomorrow maybe I will start a PPA/PPD check-in. It doesn't need to be a weekly thing, maybe just one long ongoing thread like the GD one. I have been having some struggles myself and figure we can support each other as much as possible.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 19, 2018 6:34:14 GMT -6
I joined the HA group but am overwhelmed. Someone tell me the easiest way to shop for the size(s) I am looking for. Also those collages of a bazillion items have me like 😮😮 This is also me which is why I want to go to the actual store and look at the sizes in person. My H just dressed DD1 today but in a shirt and leggings that are too small that I hoped would fit thru spring 😳
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