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Post by ovenrack on Feb 12, 2018 20:51:30 GMT -6
+1 for punching that effing nurse in her effing nose.
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 12, 2018 20:51:54 GMT -6
Apparently I've become one of those people who prefers to have her belly hanging out whenever possible. This never happened in previous pregnancies.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Feb 12, 2018 21:08:21 GMT -6
Rama Everyone else has already said what I would like to say (except much better than I can, because I suck at words). My heart goes out to you though and I'm angry that the nurse ruined that experience for you. Piling on all the hugs and reiterating that your feelings are very valid and justified. ā¤
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Post by cp3 on Feb 12, 2018 21:42:06 GMT -6
I just want to +1 what everyone else said Rama. You are completely justified in how you are feeling. Your birth choice was stolen from you by a careless nurse and it's not fair. I wish it could be changed and I'm sorry that it happened so close to your due date. And don't feel guilty about sex disappointment. I've had it this pregnancy and still have my moments when I'm sad about never having a boy and getting to have that experience. Take your time to process and feel what you need to feel and we are here for you.
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Post by cp3 on Feb 12, 2018 21:45:03 GMT -6
It's only Monday and I'm already exhausted from this week. We are starting to get super busy into tax season at work on top of my regular responsibilities while training my replacement everything. The only positive is it will make my last month at work go by super fast.
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Post by auri on Feb 12, 2018 22:03:07 GMT -6
leatherpants, How did the moving go? I know you were a little stressed about your SO moving in this weekend.
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Post by leatherpants on Feb 12, 2018 22:22:48 GMT -6
leatherpants, How did the moving go? I know you were a little stressed about your SO moving in this weekend. My house is stuffed. The ānurseryā is literally packed to the ceiling with boxes and belongings and my living room is a sea of furniture. But the move went well, his house goes on the market tomorrow and weāre hoping for a quick sale. I wonāt get all maudlin about it but the timing of this is pretty ironic. Itās been almost exactly 3 years since I left him in the first place so itās a bit of a weird time. I told my bff this morning that itās overwhelming but the good is outweighing all the bad/hard stuff right now so Iām really focusing on that.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Feb 13, 2018 3:47:52 GMT -6
Rama donāt feel bad about the sex disappointment. I was Team green for DS1 but felt certain at the end he was a girl. In my head the way to avoid my children having the same not good dynamic that H and SIL have was to have a girl first. I felt disconnected from the baby and kind of in denial that there would be a baby at the end of that makes sense. I focused so much on getting and staying pregnant as the goal that the idea of a take home baby was not something I could think about in case something went wrong. It took until we were at home after I had him to feel that connection. Now, I know Iām having another boy. I donāt know how I feel about that because I donāt know if this is my last baby or not. I donāt know if I really even care if I donāt end up having a girl ever. And maybe one of my boys will actually identify as a girl anyway. I think you have been through a lot, particularly lately, that is just not fair and absolutely a lot to deal with (especially kind of by yourself). I would encourage you to talk about it with your tech and others involved in your care. It might not undo or fix some of the things that happened (that nurse, she needs a definite TP) but those are the sort of feelings that will just amplify especially in the post partum hell emotion stage. So many hugs to you.
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Post by polson on Feb 13, 2018 5:17:22 GMT -6
just catching up here! Rama i donāt think i can say anything better than anyone else has already said. huge hugs. i do think you should talk to your mfm about what exactly you dealt with especially if you feel comfortable with them. they could provide insight about how to go about filing a complaint, etc and iām sure it would be cathartic to talk it out with a reasonable medical professional. +whatever to not beating yourself up about the sex disappointment. nuggetrn good luck today. i just want to say i was completely blindsided when they told me about inducing me, so i totally understand how your feeling with the amount of stuff you still want to get done before baby comes. fwiw, i had an awesome induction experience and and my type a self would sign up for it again if i was guaranteed the same thing this time around. if they decide to go ahead with it, baby is pretty much full term at this point and should be ok. thinking of you! i had my regular ob appt yesterday and h was able to come. just a gbs swab, but he was able to ask some questions about what the possibilities are and what the plan going forward could be with this baby. my mom is coming with me to the mfm today, so i will at least have a second set of ears, i just have no idea what to expect and this limbo is the absolute worst. eta: Rama reading comp fail! i thought your appointment was today...i hope it went well
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Post by calendula on Feb 13, 2018 7:38:52 GMT -6
Happy birthday nuggetrn! Hope you are feeling okay!
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Feb 13, 2018 7:45:11 GMT -6
Happy Birthday nuggetrn! Keep us posted with how your appointment goes today and what your OB decides to do!
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Feb 13, 2018 7:47:33 GMT -6
polson I hope the ultrasound and appointment with the MFM goes well, gives your more insight, and provides some peace of mind too. Will be thinking of you. Update us when you can.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Feb 13, 2018 8:01:26 GMT -6
Happy birthday nuggetrn! Any news today?
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Post by polson on Feb 13, 2018 8:03:39 GMT -6
nuggetrn i totally missed itās your birthday...hope you have a good one!š
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Post by mintyblueair on Feb 13, 2018 8:20:34 GMT -6
Happy birthday nuggetrn! I'm looking forward to hearing an update today!
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Post by auri on Feb 13, 2018 8:41:26 GMT -6
Happy birthday nuggetrn! Hope your feeling better. polson, I hope your appointment today goes ok!
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Post by cornpop on Feb 13, 2018 9:34:41 GMT -6
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Post by mintyblueair on Feb 13, 2018 9:34:47 GMT -6
polson, I hope your appointment today goes well and that you get enough information to get out of the limbo you've been in. I'm glad your mom is able to go with you today.
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Post by clementine on Feb 13, 2018 9:54:50 GMT -6
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Post by clementine on Feb 13, 2018 9:57:44 GMT -6
I am so done with my maternity pants. I only have one black pair that I wear to work 90% of the time. Either theyāre getting misshapen from lots of washes or my body is just too different now, but the legs are getting too short and the butt is always saggy. Not a good look.
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Post by polson on Feb 13, 2018 10:14:42 GMT -6
clementine i want to set fire to all of my maternity clothes!
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Post by clementine on Feb 13, 2018 10:19:13 GMT -6
clementine i want to set fire to all of my maternity clothes! I keep looking longingly at all the regular clothes in my closet. So many cute tops that I havenāt worn in forever.
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Post by cp3 on Feb 13, 2018 10:28:54 GMT -6
Happy birthday nuggetrn! Good luck at your appt.
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Post by cp3 on Feb 13, 2018 10:29:30 GMT -6
Good luck today polson. I hope you are able to get answers.
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Post by woodenshoes on Feb 13, 2018 10:37:50 GMT -6
clementine, I feel the same way about my maternity pants. I like my black pair, but my two khaki pairs need to go. nuggetrn Happy Birthday! I hope you have a good appointment today. polson, good luck at your appointment.
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Post by Rama on Feb 13, 2018 11:23:08 GMT -6
Thanks for all the hairpats and encouragement yesterday, everyone. I'm in a much better place after my appointment. I ended up getting a different tech (go figure), so I wasn't going to mention it because she was a student and I've never met her or the person she was training with. But it came up organically when the licensed tech stepped in to finish up measurements. She was aghast and really upset for me, made a note to tell her charge nurse so that they could call over to the clinic I have my NSTs at to talk to the offending nurse's charge nurse. I didn't have to bring up making a complaint at all, she just took the reins and ran. That made me feel a lot better. And we also decided together that maybe that nurse was just seeing things, so we're going to keep it all hush just in case she was wrong. Then I had my post-ultrasound appointment with my MFM (baby looks great, head down, wiggly as can be!) and the tech had apparently told her about it. Boy oh boy was she PISSED. She said she is ALSO going to call the charge nurse and request that I am never to have an appointment with this nurse again. If there are any problems, she told me to demand the charge nurse and use her (the MFM's) name to get some people's asses lit up. I love her so much. We also talked about delivery/induction and I'm clear to pick any date before my due date! Obviously, if baby comes before induction, great! We just need a Plan B in case labor doesn't start naturally because she doesn't want me going past my due date. We ALSO ALSO talked about setting an end date, which is something I'd had some anxiety about. I've been told before that they just don't really pull people early and I've been trying to put together a good case for why I should get an end date instead of a surprise date. She just straight up told me to pick a date and she'll write a letter and start the paperwork whenever I'm ready! Even better because I can use my STD to cover time starting from when I get pulled instead of just birth. Have I stated yet how much I love her? tl;dr I feel a million times better after my appointment yesterday, my tech and MFM are both putting in complaints to the nurse's supervisor on my behalf, and I get to choose my induction/end date for work!
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Post by Rama on Feb 13, 2018 11:23:41 GMT -6
nuggetrn Happy birthday! I'm thinking about you guys, I hope the appointment goes well!
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Post by polson on Feb 13, 2018 11:35:41 GMT -6
Rama i am so glad you had a good appointment yesterday and your other providers are in your corner - what a difference that makes! iām glad you are in a better place
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Post by auri on Feb 13, 2018 11:44:57 GMT -6
Rama I wish I could love your update more than once! I am so, so happy that the tech and your mfm are so firmly in your corner and that you never have to see nurse Ratchet again!
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Post by alwayscheese on Feb 13, 2018 11:49:00 GMT -6
Wonderful update Rama!! nuggetrn thinking of you and hoping everything is going well! And happy BIRTHDAY!!! ššš
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