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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 1, 2018 7:19:15 GMT -6
In the interest of continuing this convo from the MOTN thread..
What's your plan now that /once baby arrives?
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Post by sarahh on Feb 1, 2018 7:36:02 GMT -6
I’ve only ever been on oral BC and the last time was probably 8 years ago. Original plan was for DH to get a V but now I’m not so sure so I don’t know what to go on. I don’t have a ton of time before I’m 40 so I don’t want a long term option in case we decide to go for another. I’m interested to hear what everyone else is doing.
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Post by helloerrbody on Feb 1, 2018 7:37:18 GMT -6
We had unexplained infertility with our first, so I never got on BC after having him. That led to this “surprise” baby (got pregnant 13 months postpartum on my 4th period). We basically have the same plan this time. To live dangerously/loosely chart and know we could get pregnant early. Once we are done (most likely after 3rd baby), DH will get a vasectomy.
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Post by flippinchica on Feb 1, 2018 7:38:57 GMT -6
We are done now. I plan on getting and IUD but am not sure if I want Mirena or paraguard.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Feb 1, 2018 7:46:57 GMT -6
I took the mini-pill after DD but I didn’t like it. DH is deploying in a few months so I won’t have to take any for awhile which is good but then I’ll have to take it again when he gets home bc we don’t want to get pregnant for awhile haha.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 1, 2018 7:47:03 GMT -6
I am so torn and have no idea. I have hated all hormonal BC I have ever been on, including Mirena. It took us almost 2 years to get pregnant with DD1, DD2 we conceived almost immediately, and DD3 we were using condoms, so I am a little terrified of how fertile we are 😜 I may try Paraguard but use condoms exclusively while I am nursing - I don't want anything screwing with my supply.
DH will be getting a vasectomy as soon as we agree we are done, the problem is that he thinks that is right now and I think that is one kid from now.
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Post by watermelonseed on Feb 1, 2018 8:04:10 GMT -6
We are two and through so I’ll be getting back on the pill. H will also be getting a V as well. I like knowing when to expect my period and won’t be BF so my doc is having me start the pill 2 weeks pp.
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Post by benandjerrys on Feb 1, 2018 8:06:56 GMT -6
I'm following for ideas. I don't think we are done, I also hate hormonal BC. Before dd I had the paragaurd, but it was painful to insert and remove and my periods we're so heavy. Between DD and this pregnancy we just used condoms, which was fine, but obviously not as convenient or ideal. I can't remember to take a pill every day.
I plan to ask the midwife about it at my 6week check and if she doesn't have other ideas I guess we will do condoms again 🤷
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Post by bassa on Feb 1, 2018 8:29:12 GMT -6
Last time it was a loooong time before I was ready to have sex again, and it was very painful when we did, so it basically didn’t happen. And then as soon as my period came back (14 months pp) we started TTC.
This time I definitely do not want to get pregnant again; undecided whether we’ll eventually want a third or not. So we’ll probably use condoms until I get my period, then i’ll chart to avoid. Hormonal bc did bad things to me so I won’t be doing that again.
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Post by sparky85 on Feb 1, 2018 8:49:29 GMT -6
DH is planning to get a vasectomy, and we will use condoms in the meantime. Due to my pcos, I have had bad luck with breakthrough bleeding on hormonal birth control.
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Post by jessijean on Feb 1, 2018 8:51:41 GMT -6
We have decided that we are done with babies. My seizure med makes hormonal bc less effective so last time my dr suggested paraguard. DH is terrified at the idea of me having complications frying a IUD so I told him it's condoms until he gets a V. He's hesitant but joked "well, then I could sorad my seed anywhere and no consequences" You have to know my husband to know that was a joke. I rolled my eyes and told him tart I delivered the kids, he can do this much.
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Post by mrsp84 on Feb 1, 2018 8:54:15 GMT -6
I’m big into charting. It took us 18 months to get pregnant with DD1 so charting for me became like second nature. It took us basically one month to get pregnant with this one. I refuse to go back on the pill. I’m pretty sure we’re done after this baby. MH refuses to get a V. His reasons make me 🙄. I’m hoping he’ll just wake up one day and agree with me. LOL
I may chart to avoid and see how it goes, but then I’m also tossing around the idea of getting Mirena. Clearly, I’m all over the map with this.
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 1, 2018 9:09:55 GMT -6
We had unexplained infertility with our first, so I never got on BC after having him. That led to this “surprise” baby (got pregnant 13 months postpartum on my 4th period). We basically have the same plan this time. To live dangerously/loosely chart and know we could get pregnant early. Once we are done (most likely after 3rd baby), DH will get a vasectomy. We dealt with IF as well, so our plan after this one is the same as yours- I'm not going to go back on BC and we will basically just see what happens. If I don't get pregnant again on our own in the next 1 or 2 years, we will go back to the RE and do a FET. Eventually DH plans to get a vasectomy and I'm hoping to never have to go back on BC.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 1, 2018 9:25:42 GMT -6
peachesncream can Paraguard screw with supply? Since it's non hormonal I assumed not?
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Post by ajetter on Feb 1, 2018 9:27:27 GMT -6
Between kids we didn’t use birth control. Nursing generally kept my cycle at bay and then I was irregular. We had hoped our kids would be a little closer together. And as my emotional vomit said in the MOTN thread, DH is getting a V today. He was eager to sign up for it so he would be healed by my 6 week appt. 🙄
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 1, 2018 9:29:29 GMT -6
bassa I am on your bus re : hormonal bc doing bad things to me. I was on the pill before DD1 and then stopped for TTC. It took my body 6 mo to figure out how to ovulate again. And then we conceived DD1 in month 2 after a regular cycle. After DD1 I scheduled an IUD but chickened out and took the mini pill instead. That lasted about 5mo before I started to feel the side effects, and then I started charting TTA. It worked really well actually until one night we.. Made an indiscretion.. And that was when we conceived DD2. So while TTA worked really well I am hoping for something that requires less work.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 1, 2018 9:31:22 GMT -6
Also, once we decide we are done (we are undecided on a third) I am going to ask MH to get a V. I don't think it'll be hard to convince him because his best friend got one when they were done w kids tbh. And he knows I'm a much nicer person while not on BC.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 1, 2018 9:32:07 GMT -6
Between kids we didn’t use birth control. Nursing generally kept my cycle at bay and then I was irregular. We had hoped our kids would be a little closer together. And as my emotional vomit said in the MOTN thread, DH is getting a V today. He was eager to sign up for it so he would be healed by my 6 week appt. 🙄 Eye roll at the healed by 6w. Men are so single minded. Hugs to you today ❤️ we are here to lean on!
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Post by tiffrobot on Feb 1, 2018 9:32:48 GMT -6
We are pretty much sure we are done, and H wants to get a V but I just haven’t been able to agree as to when that can happen. He was ready to book the appt the day she was born, lol.
I’ll maybe talk to my dr at my 6 week about options. The only birth control we’ve used since being together (9 years ago this month we started dating) condoms and timing. So I don’t know how I feel about starting on something myself either.
I probably just need to accept we are done.
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Post by Queen Mamadala on Feb 1, 2018 10:08:33 GMT -6
He'll be making an appt. for a vasectomy in the coming weeks. I'm done after six pregnancies/births.
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Post by amesie on Feb 1, 2018 10:19:49 GMT -6
We are done now. I plan on getting and IUD but am not sure if I want Mirena or paraguard. the Paraguard is the non-hormonal one right? I’m thinking about that as an option. I had a terrible experience with the mirena with all the hormones, so MH is a little wary about me even going for any IUD. For now, we will prob just use condoms in the middle of my cycle
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Post by snowyowl on Feb 1, 2018 10:24:13 GMT -6
I will probably try a IUD because they have such good stats, but I’m prepared for it to be a disaster because I have usually had crazy periods that I took BC pills to control. I’m over the pill, I don’t get bad side effects from most I’ve tried, but it’s annoying to remember and I want something that is as near 100% reliable as possible that I don’t have to think about.
A V for DH is a consideration I guess, but I know he’d have more kids if I would agree to it (never ever). It just feels really final to deny him that if anything happened to me or our marriage (dramatic and unlikely, but you never know!) And reversals don’t always work. I also know two people who have had a surprise baby after their husbands got a V. Super anecdotal and against the odds, but still a little disconcerting!
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Post by amesie on Feb 1, 2018 10:25:55 GMT -6
I am so torn and have no idea. I have hated all hormonal BC I have ever been on, including Mirena. It took us almost 2 years to get pregnant with DD1, DD2 we conceived almost immediately, and DD3 we were using condoms, so I am a little terrified of how fertile we are 😜 I may try Paraguard but use condoms exclusively while I am nursing - I don't want anything screwing with my supply. DH will be getting a vasectomy as soon as we agree we are done, the problem is that he thinks that is right now and I think that is one kid from now. this is literally exactly me, except it took us 1 year for DD1. Then we had an oops which ended in a MC last November, and DS2 actually was also not completely planned. We were pretty much NTNP for her, but was kinda trying to avoid sex during my FW and I miscalculated. I also hated the mirena and all hormonal BC. Ugh. I hate having to think about BC
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Post by amesie on Feb 1, 2018 10:33:16 GMT -6
Has anyone tried the nuvaring? I considered trying that after I had DD1 but never filled the prescription for it. I’ve heard mixed things about it
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Post by marygracerich on Feb 1, 2018 10:40:17 GMT -6
I had the Skyla IUD after G. The reason I had that one is that my dr said you can get pregnant right away once you take it out. It was true. I got pregnant the month after I took it out. Because this is our last baby, I am going to do mirena this time. I don’t need to worry about being able to get pregnant after so it seems like the best option. It lasts longer than Skyla which is ideal. I would never consider Paraguard even though it has no hormones. The big time heavy periods are a big no for me. When I had my previous IUD I had some spotting for the first 12 weeks and then I had very very very light periods. It was glorious. It was barely more than spotting every month.
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Post by flippinchica on Feb 1, 2018 11:43:18 GMT -6
Has anyone tried the nuvaring? I considered trying that after I had DD1 but never filled the prescription for it. I’ve heard mixed things about it I used the Nuva ring for years before DS1 and liked it. I don't have issues with hormonal birth control though just issues with forgetting to take a pill every day.
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Post by flippinchica on Feb 1, 2018 11:48:34 GMT -6
We are done now. I plan on getting and IUD but am not sure if I want Mirena or paraguard. the Paraguard is the non-hormonal one right? I’m thinking about that as an option. I had a terrible experience with the mirena with all the hormones, so MH is a little wary about me even going for any IUD. For now, we will prob just use condoms in the middle of my cycle The paraguard is the non hormonal one but it does make you have heavy periods. I know mirena is not supposed to affect supply but I worry about that. We just used condoms between babies but I knew I wanted a second eventually. Now I definitely don't want to be pregnant again so I want something a bit more sure.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Feb 1, 2018 12:06:46 GMT -6
I'm working the V into conversations, hoping DH will go for it. I don't think he is opposed. It will just be a matter of when I guess. I don't know what to do until then. I do NOT want to go back on the pill. It took me 12 months to get my period back after DS so I don't know. We def do not want more kids.
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Post by kyzo on Feb 1, 2018 12:32:44 GMT -6
I'll be going back on the mini pill at 6 weeks pp. I did okay with it after DD. I hate how I have to take it at the exact time every day. But, considering we dealt with IF with both pregnancies I doubt I'll get pregnant if I'm late with a dose. We plan on having one more (5 embryos left). I'll have to do birth control with an FET anyway so it's no big deal to do it pp. When I have that last c-section I plan to get my tubes tied because "the shop is open." DH was actually planning on a V but I don't know why he would want one if it's a simple add-on for me.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 1, 2018 13:01:03 GMT -6
I’m horrible on hormonal birth control so it’s not an option. H is going to get the v done but until then it will continue to be condoms(although I’m nervous because we were using condoms this time). I’ve said from the beginning that we needed something permanent since we would be done and now I’m second guessing it a little bit as I get closer to my due date.
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