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Post by pinkcat on Jan 17, 2018 10:44:05 GMT -6
And maybe harsh was the wrong word there mrsp84 ! I just think as a FTM the expectation of something vs. the reality of it can be very different. I completely get what you’re saying! Phew- I was worried I wasn't coming across right! And now I'm glad I know about clots weeks after delivery, ha. I had heard up to 10 days but didn't realize they could last weeks! The joys of pregnancy
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Post by ajetter on Jan 17, 2018 10:51:26 GMT -6
There are so many unknowns with delivery and recovery. Just go in expecting the worst and who knows. I’m lucky that I have never torn, and aside from some soreness In my back, I’ve always felt ‘back to normal’ days after coming home from the hospital. It’s possible. You just can’t predict how your body will handle it.
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Post by tiffrobot on Jan 17, 2018 10:55:04 GMT -6
Looove all the new babies and all the bumps are looking great! I admittedly had a huge breakdown the night we got home from the hospital as it finally hit me this is our plan for a last baby. But I think hormones and everything hit me at once and I’ve started to come back around to the idea of being done again, and I’ll just awww everyone else’s bellies ☺️
I can’t remember what I shared here already for pics! But today would have been my due date!
First pic as 3!
First pic as 5!
So many sleepy smiles from this one
My biggest proudly wearing a real team jersey for the first time last night at practice.
H and DD1 busy this morning.
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Post by sunfrogger on Jan 17, 2018 11:05:05 GMT -6
So last night I got a text from a friend who just had her first baby. She is surprised that she is in a lot of pain and that there was tearing and swelling and it still hurts a few days later. So I know we don't have many ftms, but here's a psa for you. Your vag is going to hurt a lot for a while then hurt a little for a really long time. You're going to push a baby out of it. This made me giggle.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2018 11:06:47 GMT -6
Doc: "We can discuss induction if you'd like." Me: "Usually I am pretty unfavorable to induce since nothing really happens down there until I go into labor." Doc: "*scoffs* that is EXTREMELY rare for third time mothers, I have only seen it once before."
*few seconds later*
Doc: "Wow, you were right... even if I wanted to induce you today I couldn't."
😂😂 still just fingertip dilated and no sweep. He did put an induction on the books for Monday that I will need to think about. Not sure I want to be induced but we will see.
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Post by sunfrogger on Jan 17, 2018 11:07:21 GMT -6
So last night I got a text from a friend who just had her first baby. She is surprised that she is in a lot of pain and that there was tearing and swelling and it still hurts a few days later. So I know we don't have many ftms, but here's a psa for you. Your vag is going to hurt a lot for a while then hurt a little for a really long time. You're going to push a baby out of it. I don’t get what she thought recovery was going to be like. You pushed a baby out of your vagina. I remember I wasn’t able to use tampons for a couple of months because it was so uncomfortable. I never expected to feel 100% right away. I gave all the tampons to my sister. I had some skid mark tearing with DD1 and it's way too uncomfortable to use them.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jan 17, 2018 11:12:59 GMT -6
Loving all the baby pics!
Not only are you guys having babies, so are my friends IRL! My BFF at work just had hers last Friday and a good friend in the neighborhood might be delivering today! Her EDD is 2 days before mine but she has twins and her blood pressure is high so....we are just waiting for more news. They are having a boy and a girl, I am so excited. She is terrified. She already has a 2yo and the early PP days were especially tough for her so she is nervous about how to handle 2 newborns. But she'll do great and they have an awesome support network.
Everything checked out fine at my appt today. I brought up my exercise induced anaphylaxis and the OB said I should get an early epidural. OK, but why didn't anyone say that for my first labor/delivery!!???? Although my intention then was to go med-free, I did end up getting the epidural with no complications from the EIA. I really haven't had any "incidents" in years and as long as I can avoid wheat (the allergy is food-linked), I should be good to go but still.
Doc is putting me on a zpack since I am still coughing up gross stuff (and I have been since November!). Hoping to not also get a yeast infection but he put in a script for diflucan too just in case. I hate taking antibiotics when I don't know if they will work but I'm willing to try this time!
ETA: I just realized I already posted some of this like an hour ago. Pregnancy brain and all that?
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Post by sunfrogger on Jan 17, 2018 11:13:01 GMT -6
peachesncream ugh. Hugs lady. amesie also hugs, I hope your prodromal labor turns into something today! 35w today and I am so over it. She is so high and in my ribs that it's painful. I can't. I just can't. I can't even work because when I sit up enough to reach my keyboard she knees me in the ribs some more. I have my GBS swab today and maybe an internal check? Who knows. This is sassy DD1. Oh, the sass. We had a difficult morning this morning and in the car en route to work I laughed at my husband that he wanted a third. He said "yeaaaa... I don't know right now". So.. Maybe our last. I'll treasure what I can for sure but I'm very over the rib kicks!
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Post by sunfrogger on Jan 17, 2018 11:13:47 GMT -6
Also my gf is a FTM due about 2wks before me and she is going so crazy right now over making sure they're all ready and I'm over here like.. Oh.. I might want to put the crib back together, huh?
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Post by sunfrogger on Jan 17, 2018 11:14:32 GMT -6
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jan 17, 2018 11:15:56 GMT -6
Time erases memory. I do not even remember the vag pain. And I did have a tear and stitches, not severe but I do remember they worked on me for quite awhile after delivery so not particularly minor either. I do remember being nervous to pee and using the peri bottle for probably way longer than I needed to but I felt like that thing was my best friend.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jan 17, 2018 11:18:25 GMT -6
Also my gf is a FTM due about 2wks before me and she is going so crazy right now over making sure they're all ready and I'm over here like.. Oh.. I might want to put the crib back together, huh? I am 37 weeks today and I am finally feeling like we've gotten all the baby stuff out. Oh except for the co-sleeper, I should do that today so I can wash the sheets that go with it. And DH still needs to put our car seat bases in the car. I have a feeling he will be installing those in the hospital parking lot before we leave....he's good at it though. I got them checked after he installed them the first time and the police officer that checked them was all like "your husband is strong, huh? he's got them in here good!" So I feel confident in his abilities, at least.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2018 11:29:11 GMT -6
This baby has decided to stretch himself out and is putting pressure on my bladder and stuck in my ribs at the same time. It’s rather unpleasant and my stomach looks so lopsided as a result.
I know I still have 4ish weeks to go (can’t get to 40 weeks because of the gd) and it seems like an eternity but feels so short at the same time. I keep reminding myself how many weekend days to get stuff done I actually have and that’s if he decides to stay out until 39 weeks.
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Post by ajetter on Jan 17, 2018 11:35:13 GMT -6
tiffrobot I’m having lots of feels about being done too. I know financially and logistically 4 is our number, but even with the sleep deprivation and everything involved with having babies, I still want a million. Doesn’t help that my delivery did not go at all how I expected and I’m struggling to come to terms with that. Stupid, but true. Kinda want a do over. Lol.
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Post by aprilz81 on Jan 17, 2018 11:39:16 GMT -6
I had a rough delivery with Ava (breech and forceps) with a small tear that required a few stitches (not sure how many but probably less than 5 and maybe only 1 or 2). My vaginal discomfort was gone within a few days (and it was never bad) but maybe it was overshadowed by the SEVERE pain stemming from my tailbone? I'm not sure if it got broken or just a bad bruise during the forceps delivery but that shit hurt for months after delivery. I would wince every time I stood up or sat down for a good 8 weeks. Then only if I was sitting on a hard surface for a few more weeks. Even coming back from a vacation in February my tailbone started hurting on the plane and that was around 2 1/2 months after she was born. I'm really hoping that Faith's birth doesn't reinjure it.
My post partum bleeding lasted about 3 1/2 weeks, I had a few decent sized cloths but that all went away about a week and a half or so after delivery. The worst of the bleeding was done in about 2-3 days and then it was a moderate flow period for a week or so, then just enough to be annoying until it stopped.
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Post by tiffrobot on Jan 17, 2018 11:40:11 GMT -6
Oh and how could I forget, I should share this one! PDQ but here is my grandma and N at 2 days old. Birthday buddies 84 years apart ☺️ my grandma is being spoiled by attention from her friends that she got to have a great grandbaby born on her birthday. Poof
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Post by sunfrogger on Jan 17, 2018 12:06:09 GMT -6
tiffrobot that is the sweetest picture in the whole world!!!!!
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Post by helloerrbody on Jan 17, 2018 12:16:58 GMT -6
So last night I got a text from a friend who just had her first baby. She is surprised that she is in a lot of pain and that there was tearing and swelling and it still hurts a few days later. So I know we don't have many ftms, but here's a psa for you. Your vag is going to hurt a lot for a while then hurt a little for a really long time. You're going to push a baby out of it. I didn’t even tear but my vagina was definitely sore awhile. It burned to pee for quite a while just because of the tiny micro tears that happen all over. Not looking forward to that again...
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Post by helloerrbody on Jan 17, 2018 12:20:36 GMT -6
Meh, I think this seems kind of harsh. As a FTM I "know" that recovery is going to hurt and I'm going to be in pain, but even knowing that beforehand I can imagine still being surprised by how MUCH it hurts, or how long it's going to hurt. I think beforehand it's more conceptual and you know that it's going to hurt, but actually experiencing that level of pain can still be surprising even if you are expecting it. That’s true-the level of pain can be surprising. Like, how much it hurts. I was surprised with the passing of clots happening weeks after delivery. No one told me about that before. Umm yeah when they told me to only call if a clot was larger than an ORANGE, I was like DAFUQ!?!? So lemon size is normal!?!? Luckily I didn’t have any clots really.
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Post by helloerrbody on Jan 17, 2018 12:21:32 GMT -6
tiffrobot that is so special! My great grandmother is not still alive but I was named after her and her birthday is Jan 28 so sounds like a good day for me to have this baby.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Jan 17, 2018 12:25:35 GMT -6
So last night I got a text from a friend who just had her first baby. She is surprised that she is in a lot of pain and that there was tearing and swelling and it still hurts a few days later. So I know we don't have many ftms, but here's a psa for you. Your vag is going to hurt a lot for a while then hurt a little for a really long time. You're going to push a baby out of it. Oh my haha. Poor thing! I had so much pain in my recovery w my first. Like that was far worse than labor for me. This time it’s been like nothing at all BUT I went into it expecting hell haha.
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Post by mrsp84 on Jan 17, 2018 12:26:41 GMT -6
That’s true-the level of pain can be surprising. Like, how much it hurts. I was surprised with the passing of clots happening weeks after delivery. No one told me about that before. Umm yeah when they told me to only call if a clot was larger than an ORANGE, I was like DAFUQ!?!? So lemon size is normal!?!? Luckily I didn’t have any clots really. LOL! TMI alert—I passed one that was literally the size of a softball and almost made me pass out from just looking at it. I don’t get queasy over much, especially bodily functions. But this. This was a whole new level of WTF. I called (because they said to call if I passed anything larger than a golfball) and they were all, oh totally normal. No. This should not be normal. I will never get that image out of my head. Ever.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jan 17, 2018 12:28:39 GMT -6
Omg mrsp84! That sounds traumatizing!
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Post by dragonflyinn on Jan 17, 2018 12:29:47 GMT -6
And maybe harsh was the wrong word there mrsp84! I just think as a FTM the expectation of something vs. the reality of it can be very different. Also I was lucky to have a friend who “kept it real” with me after she had her baby (9mo before I had my first). So I had a better idea of what to expect. Like I remember her telling me about episiotomies after her labor class & I was like OMG WHAT. Not everyone has someone like that!
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Post by dragonflyinn on Jan 17, 2018 12:30:34 GMT -6
That’s true-the level of pain can be surprising. Like, how much it hurts. I was surprised with the passing of clots happening weeks after delivery. No one told me about that before. Umm yeah when they told me to only call if a clot was larger than an ORANGE, I was like DAFUQ!?!? So lemon size is normal!?!? Luckily I didn’t have any clots really. Ok they told me to call if it was bigger than a golf ball. Haha doctors 🤦🏻♀️
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Post by dragonflyinn on Jan 17, 2018 12:32:10 GMT -6
Just got back from DS’s followup! He had lost 5oz by the time we left the hospital & he has gained it all back!! My milk is in but it’s so different from DD— I had terribly painful engorgement with her. This time I basically didn’t even know it was in except for how it looks & I can tell by how he is feeding. It also came in a lot quicker this time (he is 3 days old— w her it was about day 5). Anyway we have a relaxing day planned (read: no plans lol) so hopefully more napping & eating Here are my babies— both wiped out after our first outing!
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Post by watermelonseed on Jan 17, 2018 14:21:35 GMT -6
Umm yeah when they told me to only call if a clot was larger than an ORANGE, I was like DAFUQ!?!? So lemon size is normal!?!? Luckily I didn’t have any clots really. LOL! TMI alert—I passed one that was literally the size of a softball and almost made me pass out from just looking at it. I don’t get queasy over much, especially bodily functions. But this. This was a whole new level of WTF. I called (because they said to call if I passed anything larger than a golfball) and they were all, oh totally normal. No. This should not be normal. I will never get that image out of my head. Ever. I also passed a soft ball sized clot a day after birth! They shoved a catheter back in me without a choice. Life was hell
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Post by ajetter on Jan 17, 2018 14:36:24 GMT -6
That’s true-the level of pain can be surprising. Like, how much it hurts. I was surprised with the passing of clots happening weeks after delivery. No one told me about that before. Umm yeah when they told me to only call if a clot was larger than an ORANGE, I was like DAFUQ!?!? So lemon size is normal!?!? Luckily I didn’t have any clots really. They told me larger than an orange too and I had the same reaction. Then the next day I was trying to poop and a clot, probably lemon sized, came out. It was terrifying. But apparently totally fine. Lol.
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Post by pippiann on Jan 17, 2018 15:56:08 GMT -6
Today is L’s due date! We had an appointment with the kidney doc and everything is normal and no more UTI. He is also up to 8lb 6oz, more than a lb in 2 weeks! Hopefully his pedi will let me start nursing L more!
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Post by sunfrogger on Jan 17, 2018 16:40:08 GMT -6
Ugh, the clots. I constantly passed clots that were huge. It was pretty gross. That reminds me, I need to get with MH in a couple weeks to shave the underworld so that clotting doesn't get all caught up in the forest 😂
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