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Post by flippinchica on Jan 16, 2018 11:27:23 GMT -6
Add me to the hell no to MIL in the delivery room. Speaking of which DH parents are planning on coming to visit in February so I asked yesterday when. He said, sometime after the 8th. I really would like to know when they are coming. Plus I plan to binge watch the Olympics. I hope they don't mind.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Jan 16, 2018 11:31:07 GMT -6
aprilz81 , you are very gracious for asking your MIL to be in the room during delivery. For me, I DNW anyone in the delivery room except for MH and the nurses/doc. Not even my own mom. It was the same with DD1. I doubt my MIL would even accept if I asked her. As for the rest—deep breaths. It will all work out the way it’s supposed to. Can your H intervene if they overstay their welcome and politely ask them to not spend every waking hour during the day with you guys? You’re almost there! My mom will be in there, as will my sister. My mom is more of a support person than DH (or at least it was that way with Ava) and my sister will be taking pictures for us. I asked MIL both times mostly so she didn't feel left out and if she wanted to be in the room I would have asked her to stay above my head. As much as she can get under my skin she is a nice woman, just takes things too literally/personally sometimes. Like the conversation we had last night. Why would I be offended that she didn't want to be in the delivery room while I have my legs up in stirrups and everyone all up in my business? One of the biggest reasons I don't want a c-section is because that means that my Mom won't be able to be there with me... Not so much the pain or longer recovery. #priorities Anyway, I think one of the reasons she frustrates me so much is that she never really says what she wants, even when I ask her specifically, and the whole "we can always leave the house and go to a hotel" crap would strike me as passive aggressive except I don't think she intends it to be that way. I really do think she is trying to be considerate and not be in the way, but the wishy washy lack of decision making is actually more inconsiderate in my opinion. But then, I'm a pretty decisive person so I just don't understand people who can't make fairly simple decisions. I think we’ve said this before but my MIL is almost exactly how you describe in your last paragraph. Trying so hard to be helpful but in the least helpful way. My personality is much more “intense” & straightforward than hers too so she gets her feelings hurt by me A LOT. I’ve started to go through H instead— tell him what I want & he makes sure she understands. As far as their visit— your H should tell them how long you want them there & that is the end of it.
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Post by aprilz81 on Jan 16, 2018 11:36:22 GMT -6
My mom will be in there, as will my sister. My mom is more of a support person than DH (or at least it was that way with Ava) and my sister will be taking pictures for us. I asked MIL both times mostly so she didn't feel left out and if she wanted to be in the room I would have asked her to stay above my head. As much as she can get under my skin she is a nice woman, just takes things too literally/personally sometimes. Like the conversation we had last night. Why would I be offended that she didn't want to be in the delivery room while I have my legs up in stirrups and everyone all up in my business? One of the biggest reasons I don't want a c-section is because that means that my Mom won't be able to be there with me... Not so much the pain or longer recovery. #priorities Anyway, I think one of the reasons she frustrates me so much is that she never really says what she wants, even when I ask her specifically, and the whole "we can always leave the house and go to a hotel" crap would strike me as passive aggressive except I don't think she intends it to be that way. I really do think she is trying to be considerate and not be in the way, but the wishy washy lack of decision making is actually more inconsiderate in my opinion. But then, I'm a pretty decisive person so I just don't understand people who can't make fairly simple decisions. I think we’ve said this before but my MIL is almost exactly how you describe in your last paragraph. Trying so hard to be helpful but in the least helpful way. My personality is much more “intense” & straightforward than hers too so she gets her feelings hurt by me A LOT. I’ve started to go through H instead— tell him what I want & he makes sure she understands. As far as their visit— your H should tell them how long you want them there & that is the end of it.My mom said the same thing about having DH be the one to relay messages. The problem with that is that DH doesn't really talk to his parents (not to say they are estranged or don't get along, they just don't TALK). So for DH to suddenly call them and say, "hey, this is the plan" or "hey, we need this" would be VERY out of character and they would know that I'm the one who told him to reach out, not to mention he probably wouldn't phrase it well. MIL even reaches out to me with all the news, not DH and I'm relaying messages all the time. It is kinda strange but maybe only because I'm so very close with my parents that we talk 3-4 days a week "just cause". She called me with the news that her post-chemo blood work was clear, she didn't call her son, so it isn't just the small things.
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Post by tiffrobot on Jan 16, 2018 11:45:43 GMT -6
Morning!
N and I slept most of the morning away haha, as we work on days and nights and me dealing with engorgement and getting her up to eat, but I think our hard work paid off because I’m much more comfortable today! Thankful H is home for a little bit so I can focus on getting me and baby back on track a bit while we keep the big kids schedules as uninterrupted at possible.
DS’s hockey team has professional team pics tonight at practice. They are all 4. I’m so excited to see the pics lol! And he’s so excited he gets to wear a real team jersey tonight. They didn’t order their own since they may only play a game or two next month, they otherwise are just set up to just be a learn to play team.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jan 16, 2018 12:30:17 GMT -6
Does the membrane stripping hurt a lot amesie?
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Post by amesie on Jan 16, 2018 12:31:41 GMT -6
Does the membrane stripping hurt a lot amesie? it was uncomfortable but didn’t really hurt. It didn’t hurt any more than a typical cervical check does, it just lasted a bit longer. ETA I’m also already 2cm dilated, so not sure if that added to the lack of pain during it all?
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Post by tiffrobot on Jan 16, 2018 12:37:39 GMT -6
amesie my dr also said “hopefully see you tonight!” When she did mine, fingers crossed that works for you too! (Though she didn’t get to see me until about an hour or two after I delivered due to the fact the hospital hadn’t even been able to register I was there or call her by the time she came out hahaha) easternshoregirl I wasn’t dilated when she did mine and it didn’t hurt either, was just uncomfortable. She gave it a stretch to a cm or 2 and then did the sweep. peachesncream happy birthday and EDD! I hope it’s not much longer for you!
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Post by amesie on Jan 16, 2018 12:38:40 GMT -6
amesie my dr also said “hopefully see you tonight!” When she did mine, fingers crossed that works for you too! (Though she didn’t get to see me until about an hour or two after I delivered due to the fact the hospital hadn’t even been able to register I was there by the time she came out hahaha) easternshoregirl I wasn’t dilated when she did mine and it didn’t hurt either, was just uncomfortable. She gave it a stretch to a cm or 2 and then did the sweep. peachesncream happy birthday and EDD! I hope it’s not much longer for you! I thought of you after she said that haha... I literally thought, well hopefully the baby isn’t falling out of me when you see me like tiffrobot! 😂
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Post by pippiann on Jan 16, 2018 12:46:06 GMT -6
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Post by snowyowl on Jan 16, 2018 13:28:01 GMT -6
Spent a few hours doing an NST yesterday and an ultrasound today, so everything seems to be fine with the baby after falling. Lots of sore muscles and bandaids today, but nothing too dramatic. I was meant to have a U/S tomorrow to check the size anyway, so now I don’t have to do that. The only thing that gives me pause that apparently there is a foot and a hand between the baby’s head and the exit. The tech said she wasn’t sure if that meant she should list him as breech or head down since it was an unusual position. Hopefully it’s not anything that’s going to prevent a VB. I’ve already done that once and I want to know what to expect 😛 Happy birthday peachesncream!
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Post by benandjerrys on Jan 16, 2018 13:34:03 GMT -6
The biggest hell no you've ever heard to having anyone other than H in the delivery. That sounds terrible. I'm a very private person though.
So get a load of this. My mom arrived yesterday, which is great because she's my childcare. She's already told me that I look like I'm having twins, I'm so much bigger than the last time she saw me (Thanksgiving), then criticized the quantity of Ben and Jerry's pints I brought home from the grocery store and the candy bars I brought for the hospital bag for post delivery.
Then I went out for a bit and now there is an ice cream bowl in the sink. Insert all the side eye.
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Post by watermelonseed on Jan 16, 2018 14:17:11 GMT -6
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Post by watermelonseed on Jan 16, 2018 14:19:27 GMT -6
Happy Tuesday y’all!
I could never let anyone but H in the delivery room.
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Post by snowyowl on Jan 16, 2018 14:23:11 GMT -6
I honestly think that if DH couldn’t make it to the delivery due to illness or anything like that, I’d rather have nurses helping than anyone I actually knew. I’m close to my family, but not in that particular way.
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Post by benandjerrys on Jan 16, 2018 14:31:49 GMT -6
I honestly think that if DH couldn’t make it to the delivery due to illness or anything like that, I’d rather have nurses helping than anyone I actually knew. I’m close to my family, but not in that particular way. 100% agreed.
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Post by helloerrbody on Jan 16, 2018 15:04:07 GMT -6
My mom was in the room for my first delivery and will be in the room again this time assuming she can make it to town in time. She was a postpartum nurse and Lamaze instructor so she acts as a doula of sorts for me. DH actually likes having her in there to help.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 15:36:43 GMT -6
I am having a BMB friend take birth photos for me and I am really anxious about it. Like... hope we can still be friends after you see my vajayjay! Team DH only in the room here, too.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Jan 16, 2018 16:11:00 GMT -6
You guys I think I have a paci baby and I am SO happy about it!!! DD’s latch was not amazing so I didn’t try the paci for a long time & ended up regretting it later when she wouldn’t take ANYTHING.
But this guy... he’s a pro. Other than the initial “ouch” at first, it’s almost like he’s not even there when he’s nursing. So I’m oretty confident in his skills lol. So we tried the paci today & he loved it!
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Post by benandjerrys on Jan 16, 2018 17:05:47 GMT -6
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Post by dragonflyinn on Jan 16, 2018 17:07:24 GMT -6
My friend who is bringing dinner is almost an hour late. 😭 I’m so hungry. She doesn’t have kids so obviously doesn’t understand how you should not be late bringing a meal to a post partum mama. Also DH is being a grumpy butt. Super argumentative & defensive about everything. I know we’re both exhausted but I wish he would be nicer right now.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jan 16, 2018 17:13:42 GMT -6
I honestly think that if DH couldn’t make it to the delivery due to illness or anything like that, I’d rather have nurses helping than anyone I actually knew. I’m close to my family, but not in that particular way. 100% agreed. When my H had the stomach flu last week I remember thinking if I went into labor right now I think I’d ask my BFF if she could come but if not, I’d be fine by myself. So weird. Team no one but my H in the room. But... I think it’s nice that some people have that relationship when their moms. My mom and I don’t have a bad relationship by any means, I just think her presence would add stress instead of inspiring calm. She’d be freaking out!
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jan 16, 2018 17:18:39 GMT -6
I’m feeling restless and super hot like I’m having hot flashes. I don’t have a fever, not feeling sick, just hot and sweaty and ugh.
Anyone else?
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Post by yellow711 on Jan 16, 2018 17:32:36 GMT -6
My sister has an extra ticket for the movie "I,Tonya" tonight.
I know I will enjoy being out once I am at the theatre but right now, I just want to be curled up on the couch with a warm blanket.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 17:55:29 GMT -6
Thank you! And nope, no sign of a baby! I have an appointment tomorrow and am hoping for a membrane sweep but for now it looks like baby is staying put.
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Post by cake on Jan 16, 2018 18:03:42 GMT -6
Had another ultrasound this afternoon and my amniotic fluid is back to being in the low range. Therefore, being induced on Friday! I’ll be just under 39 weeks. Shit is getting real!
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Post by sparky85 on Jan 16, 2018 18:11:09 GMT -6
DD was discharged from the NICU today! She is 36 weeks today, so she only spent 41 days in there even though she was born at 30w1d. She has gained just under 2lbs since birth, and now weighs 5lbs 2.3oz.
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Post by amesie on Jan 16, 2018 18:20:06 GMT -6
sparky85 congrats!!!! I’m so happy for you guys. I can’t stand her cuteness in that sweater and bonnet!! 😍😍😍
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 19:01:27 GMT -6
sparky85 oh my gosh HOORAY!! She is too adorable!!
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Post by pippiann on Jan 16, 2018 19:06:22 GMT -6
My friend who is bringing dinner is almost an hour late. 😭 I’m so hungry. She doesn’t have kids so obviously doesn’t understand how you should not be late bringing a meal to a post partum mama. Also DH is being a grumpy butt. Super argumentative & defensive about everything. I know we’re both exhausted but I wish he would be nicer right now. Hugs! I hope she gets there soon! My hubs does this too, drives me batty!
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Post by pippiann on Jan 16, 2018 19:07:31 GMT -6
I’m feeling restless and super hot like I’m having hot flashes. I don’t have a fever, not feeling sick, just hot and sweaty and ugh. Anyone else? Pp sweats?
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