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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 8, 2018 15:57:07 GMT -6
My mom just texted that my grandpa is in the hospital with pneumonia. It doesn't look good and she's driving to them tonight or tomorrow morning. They live in Houston. Prayers would be welcome. He has been in congestive heart failure for quite awhile so I'm not sure he will pull through. I’m sorry.
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Post by angelashly on Jan 8, 2018 15:57:34 GMT -6
My mom just texted that my grandpa is in the hospital with pneumonia. It doesn't look good and she's driving to them tonight or tomorrow morning. They live in Houston. Prayers would be welcome. He has been in congestive heart failure for quite awhile so I'm not sure he will pull through. T&P for your family
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Post by brux on Jan 8, 2018 15:57:40 GMT -6
I don't think a kid is repeating the n-word becuse he heard it from a song. Kids aren't that good at picking out words in songs at that age unless they already know the words.
He's hearing it from STBXH, his GF, or from the neighbor girl's mouth.
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Post by hawkward on Jan 8, 2018 15:57:50 GMT -6
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Post by angelashly on Jan 8, 2018 15:58:17 GMT -6
I emailed the teacher. I wasn't super thrilled with her explanation (his lower score is based on speed of his answers, not his actual answers), but I didn't ask to meet or anything. #growth I am confused. So she gave him a lower score because he got them to fast?
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Post by angelashly on Jan 8, 2018 15:59:07 GMT -6
I don't think a kid is repeating the n-word becuse he heard it from a song. Kids aren't that good at picking out words in songs at that age unless they already know the words. He's hearing it from STBXH, his GF, or from the neighbor girl's mouth. This
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Post by hawkward on Jan 8, 2018 15:59:49 GMT -6
I emailed the teacher. I wasn't super thrilled with her explanation (his lower score is based on speed of his answers, not his actual answers), but I didn't ask to meet or anything. #growth I am confused. So she gave him a lower score because he got them to fast? Not fast enough. She said "his knowledge is adequate but his fluency is low and as he builds speed his score will improve."
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jan 8, 2018 16:01:59 GMT -6
My mission for the day is to finish DS1’s shutterfly baby book!
He’s 2 and a half so I really need to finish it.
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Post by brux on Jan 8, 2018 16:02:16 GMT -6
I don't think a kid is repeating the n-word becuse he heard it from a song. Kids aren't that good at picking out words in songs at that age unless they already know the words. He's hearing it from STBXH, his GF, or from the neighbor girl's mouth. Fair point. I know it has to be one of those three. I just don't know how to find out which to put a stop to it. If you ask him where he heard it from, he just says sorry he said a bad word. Tell him that now that he knows it's a bad word, he shouldn't use it. That it's a word that hurts many people. Tell him that if he stops using the word, you are not mad at him. You're mad at the person who says such a bad word to your DS. Maybe that can prompt him to tell you where he's hearing it. You have to jedi mind trick little kids.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 8, 2018 16:02:24 GMT -6
Well you were married to him, is your ex racist? Yes, he was/is (a major contributor to our divorce), which is why I can't be sure either way from where it is coming. He swears it's not from their house, but I have no proof from which house it is coming, I just know it isn't mine. This is a huge problem when raising a child together. Does your lawyer know they’re racist?
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jan 8, 2018 16:03:25 GMT -6
Do none of those people watch 48 Hours Mystery Lord Disick? So much fail.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jan 8, 2018 16:03:30 GMT -6
I’m sorry goldenbird, thinking of you and your family and hoping for good news
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Post by McBenny on Jan 8, 2018 16:03:58 GMT -6
I just got DS1's report card, and he's suddenly below grade level in a subject he's always been ahead. H and I disagree whether asking to meet with the teacher is extra. Is it extra? No, not extra.
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Post by McBenny on Jan 8, 2018 16:05:06 GMT -6
I used to get poor marks in sharing until my mother told the teacher off.
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Post by brux on Jan 8, 2018 16:06:25 GMT -6
@shiny it also reminds me about this class I took this fall - talking about racism with kids. Little kids learn to be prejudiced early, so much earlier than you'd think.
So we as parents have to do the hard work to teach kids about differences and help them not become little racists. Because kids are surrounded by messages that white is best and white is normal and anything different is scary and lesser than.
My DS is almost five and we are decidedly not racist. But I already have a lot of work to do to make sure DS has a true and deep understanding of race and racism as he grows into a young adult.
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Post by piratecat on Jan 8, 2018 16:09:04 GMT -6
goldenbird oh no sending good thoughts to your grandpa.
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Post by McBenny on Jan 8, 2018 16:10:33 GMT -6
I would bet it was STBXH then. I would be like, "Yeah bitch I know you said it motherfucker so stop it." Cause I am a lady I guess.
That's like the time I picked my DS up and we were in the car and he was like, "Mommy do you know you are a white woman?"
I made one phone call and was like it stops or you don't get access to him anymore.
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Post by Lord Disick on Jan 8, 2018 16:11:26 GMT -6
Do none of those people watch 48 Hours Mystery Lord Disick? So much fail. Right? I'm appalled on so many levels. I'm also very sad that the post has now been deleted.
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Post by pobre on Jan 8, 2018 16:11:33 GMT -6
He's racist but you think DS is repeating it because he hears it in music?
Girl.
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Post by Jesslfar on Jan 8, 2018 16:12:04 GMT -6
My mission for the day is to finish DS1’s shutterfly baby book! He’s 2 and a half so I really need to finish it. Crap, were we supposed to do that? Can't I just buy one and leave it in a closet?
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 8, 2018 16:13:31 GMT -6
He's racist but you think DS is repeating it because he hears it in music? Girl. This is where I am. And I’ll leave it at that.
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Post by Jesslfar on Jan 8, 2018 16:14:35 GMT -6
I listen to unedited music on the radio which my kids have heard. No way have they caught the n word being said or would ever know that is what is being said unless I clearly sang it along with it nor would they have any context for when to use it. Someone is saying it around the kid, and saying it a lot.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 8, 2018 16:18:48 GMT -6
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Post by imapenguin on Jan 8, 2018 16:22:44 GMT -6
I’m having Snoo FOMO because 2 super expensive sleeping devices will never happen on my life. I will miss you, sweet sleep—may we meet again! Well you don't live too far from me, right? When are you due again? July. If your baby is a fabulous sleeper or outgrows it by then....let a bitch know.
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 8, 2018 16:24:41 GMT -6
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Post by brux on Jan 8, 2018 16:25:07 GMT -6
@shiny it also reminds me about this class I took this fall - talking about racism with kids. Little kids learn to be prejudiced early, so much earlier than you'd think. So we as parents have to do the hard work to teach kids about differences and help them not become little racists. Because kids are surrounded by messages that white is best and white is normal and anything different is scary and lesser than. My DS is almost five and we are decidedly not racist. But I already have a lot of work to do to make sure DS has a true and deep understanding of race and racism as he grows into a young adult. My hardest part of this is trying to avoid the whole "ignore color" mentality that has become so prevalent, because it ignores the actual issues. It is definitely something I need to research more to have the right conversations. it's tough. You're trying to teach while also trying to overcome your own childhood and prejudices. to start, here's some books the teacher suggested we buy (or check out from the library) and read: www.amazon.com/Colors-Us-Karen-Katz/dp/0805071636www.amazon.com/Skin-You-Live-Michael-Tyler/dp/0975958003www.amazon.com/gp/product/160554079X
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Post by Deleted on Jan 8, 2018 16:30:13 GMT -6
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Jan 8, 2018 16:35:27 GMT -6
This is a huge problem when raising a child together. Does your lawyer know they’re racist? Most of America is. I don’t think that will matter. Yes and I realize this. It’s just my first reaction to this is hell no my kid ain’t being around that.
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Post by Jesslfar on Jan 8, 2018 16:36:08 GMT -6
Tonight is my first session of the White Ally Training at school, this seems related to the topic.
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Post by Tlex on Jan 8, 2018 16:36:58 GMT -6
Tonight is my first session of the White Ally Training at school, this seems related to the topic. That name is... 🤔 well I feel there is room for improvement
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