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Post by ripper on Jan 3, 2018 11:48:37 GMT -6
No, we are all turning 40 this year. I think that makes you too old to pout about your friends making really rational decisions about their own time and finances. I can't pout in private? Please. I'm watching you now. Can't wait until you pout online about something trivial.
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Post by theseaword on Jan 3, 2018 11:50:00 GMT -6
I think that makes you too old to pout about your friends making really rational decisions about their own time and finances. I can't pout in private? Please. I'm watching you now. Can't wait until you pout online about something trivial. You can now look forward to that instead of your cool Iceland trip!
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Post by ripper on Jan 3, 2018 11:50:45 GMT -6
It's one thing if it started out as a mini-break to an all inclusive. it's an entirely other thing when we talk for 2 years about the "big trip" and discuss a number of ideas only to have one or two people say that they can only take 3 days off or their husband doesn't want to watch the kids or that their husband doesn't agree to them spending so much money.
It was a giant trip tease and now I am bummed, ok?
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Post by shadows on Jan 3, 2018 11:52:48 GMT -6
My ideal getaway is equal parts active and leisurely.
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Post by wasabi on Jan 3, 2018 11:56:36 GMT -6
I think that makes you too old to pout about your friends making really rational decisions about their own time and finances. I can't pout in private? Please. I'm watching you now. Can't wait until you pout online about something trivial.
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Post by chickenonsunday on Jan 3, 2018 11:56:47 GMT -6
Next year I turn 40. My bestie turns 50. We are both have January birthdays. We have told our husbands to plan a trip and if they don't we will plan a trip and leave them home with the kids.
I don't need/want a two week trip to Iceland. They need to find us a spot somewhere tropical for a few days getaway.
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Post by helenahhandbasket on Jan 3, 2018 11:57:08 GMT -6
Um. Did you tell them in the olden days people boiled water for bathing? Neat trick. Yea, she said oh yea they were going to do that with their DD tonight since school starts back tomorrow. No comment on doing it for herself, tho. They aren't super clean people anyways. She has terrible BO thats an issue I am trying to figure out how to address as nicely as possible. She just threw it out there so casually, like it was NBD OMG. I would absolutely ask to work remotely in this case. Or drive to a friends house to shower. You are in HR, right? How do you tell someone they stink?
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Post by angelashly on Jan 3, 2018 12:00:14 GMT -6
It's one thing if it started out as a mini-break to an all inclusive. it's an entirely other thing when we talk for 2 years about the "big trip" and discuss a number of ideas only to have one or two people say that they can only take 3 days off or their husband doesn't want to watch the kids or that their husband doesn't agree to them spending so much money. It was a giant trip tease and now I am bummed, ok? I say a lot of things are cool when I think it is just that talk. My sister and I have talked about trips and yet nothing has ever come from it because time, money, kids etc
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Post by Pizzaslut on Jan 3, 2018 12:05:27 GMT -6
It's ok to feel a bit bummed ripper. Even though I'm surprised that all of you actually had thought a two week trip was doable. I've done my fair share of complaining about petty stuff. Sorry you have vacation blue balls.
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Post by leahcar on Jan 3, 2018 12:06:27 GMT -6
readyornot, I got to have a super fun discussion about BO with someone in my very first management position. Pull her in private and let her know it's an issue. I would suggest a couple of places where she can fix the issue (the Y, a gym, a truck stop even).
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Post by littlechevy on Jan 3, 2018 12:06:56 GMT -6
Yea, she said oh yea they were going to do that with their DD tonight since school starts back tomorrow. No comment on doing it for herself, tho. They aren't super clean people anyways. She has terrible BO thats an issue I am trying to figure out how to address as nicely as possible. She just threw it out there so casually, like it was NBD OMG. I would absolutely ask to work remotely in this case. Or drive to a friends house to shower. You are in HR, right? How do you tell someone they stink? Excuse me miss, you smell like ass.
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Post by filingjointly on Jan 3, 2018 12:10:08 GMT -6
The BFing hunger is even worse for me than pregnant hunger. I didn't think I could possibly eat more in a day, and here I am. BF hunger is the most primal of all hungers. Like, would actually eat a horse. MH loves to tell people about the day I ate two Chipotle burritos and a Rice Krispie treat the size of my face for dinner. We moved that day and I was nursing a 4 month old. I’m not even ashamed.
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Post by misskilljoy on Jan 3, 2018 12:11:04 GMT -6
There are good airfares to Iceland and it's not super pricey. I would be annoyed that a cool trip got downgraded to 3 days in the Bahamas. Yes, especially when everyone was on board in the first place. I'd be disappointed if everyone was into it and then changed their minds dramatically.
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Post by gingy on Jan 3, 2018 12:12:21 GMT -6
BF hunger is the most primal of all hungers. Like, would actually eat a horse. MH loves to tell people about the day I ate two Chipotle burritos and a Rice Krispie treat the size of my face for dinner. We moved that day and I was nursing a 4 month old. I’m not even ashamed. mm... burritos.
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Post by gimmeaQ on Jan 3, 2018 12:12:56 GMT -6
readyornot aren't you HR? Sorry but it's kind of your job to tell her to go take a shower. Yes this is pretty much what my boss said too, when he handed me a can of Fabreez & told me my office stinks & to handle it. This is not the part of my job I'm good at, or have a lot of experience with.
I actually think this is easier now!
"Hey, Hilda. I know you are having an issue with your home. I have a list of 10 places for you and your children to shower for free. It is now becoming a workplace issue and I am asking you professionally to consider the comfort of your coworkers/your children's classmates regarding your personal/your families hygiene."
This is easier than when she normally smells.
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Post by Pizzaslut on Jan 3, 2018 12:14:05 GMT -6
Yes this is pretty much what my boss said too, when he handed me a can of Fabreez & told me my office stinks & to handle it. This is not the part of my job I'm good at, or have a lot of experience with.
I actually think this is easier now!
"Hey, Hilda. I know you are having an issue with your home. I have a list of 10 places for you and your children to shower for free. It is now becoming a workplace issue and I am asking you professionally to consider the comfort of your coworkers/your children's classmates regarding your personal/your families hygiene."
This is easier than when she normally smells.
This is really good. Except I would not bring up the children or school. I would strictly to the workplace.
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Post by pobre on Jan 3, 2018 12:14:11 GMT -6
There was a guy here I work with who took off from Thanksgiving to NY every year.
If you can do that, and no one misses you, why do you have a job?!
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Post by gimmeaQ on Jan 3, 2018 12:15:50 GMT -6
I actually think this is easier now!
"Hey, Hilda. I know you are having an issue with your home. I have a list of 10 places for you and your children to shower for free. It is now becoming a workplace issue and I am asking you professionally to consider the comfort of your coworkers/your children's classmates regarding your personal/your families hygiene."
This is easier than when she normally smells.
This is really good. Except I would not bring up the children or school. I would strictly to the workplace.
Yeah you're right. I just started typing that without thinking too much. Definitely leave that part out.
In my head I was like "AND WASH YOUR CHILD TOO" but it should not be brought up at work.
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Post by gimmeaQ on Jan 3, 2018 12:17:42 GMT -6
There was a guy here I work with who took off from Thanksgiving to NY every year. If you can do that, and no one misses you, why do you have a job?!
this is less time than people "take" for maternity leave....
the long vacation is fairly common (in my experience) with people who are originally from Asia (India mostly) and go to visit their families. I used to work with VPs who would do this, and just like anything else people just cover for you since you have the time to use.
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Post by ripper on Jan 3, 2018 12:19:50 GMT -6
I can't pout in private? Please. I'm watching you now. Can't wait until you pout online about something trivial. what is this for
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Post by klw on Jan 3, 2018 12:20:59 GMT -6
Today has been so hectic and I'm exhausted. I've already texted that message to H. Taking bets on whether he gets the hint and offers to bring home dinner or if I need to suggest it?
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Post by littlechevy on Jan 3, 2018 12:21:18 GMT -6
It tells you in the meme...
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Post by pobre on Jan 3, 2018 12:21:51 GMT -6
There was a guy here I work with who took off from Thanksgiving to NY every year. If you can do that, and no one misses you, why do you have a job?!
this is less time than people "take" for maternity leave....
the long vacation is fairly common (in my experience) with people who are originally from Asia (India mostly) and go to visit their families. I used to work with VPs who would do this, and just like anything else people just cover for you since you have the time to use.
Right. But if someone can cover for you for 6 weeks, why does your position exist? And I'm not talking about a VP.
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Post by ripper on Jan 3, 2018 12:22:31 GMT -6
There was a guy here I work with who took off from Thanksgiving to NY every year. If you can do that, and no one misses you, why do you have a job?! Woah. I think this is industry dependent - it's conceivable that one works in a industry where the holidays are slower than the rest of the year. Also, I get almost 9 weeks a year off, and I don't take it all at once but if I did, how does mean that I'm not missed. It's the same principle of taking a week or two off, if I'm not here, someone else will pick up the slack as I do when they are on vacation.
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Post by pobre on Jan 3, 2018 12:22:38 GMT -6
I have 4 weeks but my boss would LOL no me if I asked to use it consecutively.
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Post by ripper on Jan 3, 2018 12:23:03 GMT -6
this is less time than people "take" for maternity leave....
the long vacation is fairly common (in my experience) with people who are originally from Asia (India mostly) and go to visit their families. I used to work with VPs who would do this, and just like anything else people just cover for you since you have the time to use.
Right. But if someone can cover for you for 6 weeks, why does your position exist? And I'm not talking about a VP. Who says they are covering everything? I can't tell if you are being purposely obtuse.
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Post by Pizzaslut on Jan 3, 2018 12:23:34 GMT -6
OMG to 9 weeks off. I assume it's paid ripper?
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Post by pobre on Jan 3, 2018 12:23:48 GMT -6
I said what I said. If you can take 9 weeks off in a row, they probably aren't missing you that much.
Obviously, as with everything, there is room for outliers.
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Post by ripper on Jan 3, 2018 12:24:11 GMT -6
I have 4 weeks but my boss would LOL no me if I asked to use it consecutively. I took 4 weeks off a few years ago to do an Asia trip. My boss was like, ENJOY! I mean, don't we all just work in order to travel or spend time with our family and friends? Your boss and your job sucks.
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Post by ripper on Jan 3, 2018 12:24:39 GMT -6
OMG to 9 weeks off. I assume it's paid ripper ? ETA: oops, I meant yes. Paid.
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