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Post by Cher on Jan 30, 2018 18:53:56 GMT -6
I have no doubt that there are times that the age gap works, but if one of my sons comes home at 30 with a 19 year old and says he’s marrying her I will be biting my tongue so so hard. So my young 30’s Brother has been dating/living with a chick that just turned 21. They’ve been dating since she was 18/19. My mother is sooooo accepting of it, mainly Bc she’s probably pumped my brother has a gf. There’s a lot of “she’s so mature for her age!” Talk. And I get in trouble when I call her his “child Bride” or referred to her as a teenager ... when she was a teenager. Mature or not, it’s weird AF when she talks about watching shows my son watches “when she was little.”
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Post by miawallace on Jan 30, 2018 18:58:56 GMT -6
I’m more than a little creeped out by a youth pastor marrying a teen from his church. I mean I guess they must be soulmates who happened to join the same church and now they’re happy, but that’s a sketchy start. I guess. They did have a brief relationship. I think from start to finish it was 9-10 months. I also went to a 100% Hispanic church and marrying off at 19 to an older dude wasn't seen as weird. It's typical actually. I'm not saying I agree. Im just explaining another layer to this. I obviously chose another path for my life. But when they had announced their wedding not a ton of people freaked.
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Post by wasabi on Jan 30, 2018 19:02:15 GMT -6
I keep starting posts about how I had a thing about 22 year olds and younger when I was dating from 26-29, but it’s not coming out right. Let’s just say... I had a rule.
I had a kid so it was a little different but still.
ETA: in case anyone is reading this the way I just read it, the “thing” was that I didn’t, lol
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Post by wasabi on Jan 30, 2018 19:05:48 GMT -6
And my thing had nothing to do with it being gross, I don’t think an age difference of 7 years is gross. But at 26, a 19 year old was just on a whole other level than me. Like I need someone to have at least a couple more years experience out of high school.
I also realize this is different from a female perspective. I didn’t want to be the older one.
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Post by enchanted on Jan 30, 2018 19:06:41 GMT -6
Dude. Not cool. The message part.
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Post by wasabi on Jan 30, 2018 19:07:37 GMT -6
AND ALSO, Maya’s dad is 10 years older than me and I thought a lot about how on his 21st birthday getting wasted I was probably organizing my American Girl dolls, lol
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Post by marygracerich on Jan 30, 2018 19:10:44 GMT -6
My brother is 10 years older than me. His wife is a month younger than me. I always thought it was weird but they have been together for at least 12 years or so now. I am surprised but I like her a lot so 🤷🏻♀️.
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Post by tinyjoys on Jan 30, 2018 19:13:57 GMT -6
Dude. Not cool. The message part. In his (slight) defense, he’s currently stationed in Korea and Facebook messenger has been our means of communication for the last year, so that part isn’t completely horrible. But yeah....
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Post by hardlyluck on Jan 30, 2018 19:16:08 GMT -6
My youngest brother is almost 30 and has never and I mean NEVER had a girlfriend. It would not shock me at all if he is still a virgin. I kinda worry that his chances of meeting someone reasonably close to his age are narrowing. Even if he does find someone “age appropriate” I fear they will be turned off by his woeful lack of relationship experience.
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Post by bunnyfungo on Jan 30, 2018 19:17:09 GMT -6
I could not date a 19 year old. My oldest stepson is going to turn 16 in a month and the thought of dating someone only 3 years older than him gives me the squicks. Nope nope nope.
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Post by willow on Jan 30, 2018 19:39:31 GMT -6
I keep starting posts about how I had a thing about 22 year olds and younger when I was dating from 26-29, but it’s not coming out right. Let’s just say... I had a rule. I had a kid so it was a little different but still. ETA: in case anyone is reading this the way I just read it, the “thing” was that I didn’t, lol I get you. I’m 29 and when I was on various online dating sites last year, the youngest I went for my “looking for” filter was 27, I think. Again knowing I have a young child and my priorities and lifestyle are different than a mid 20s guy. I ended up with a guy 6 years older, and only talked to guys my age or older on the sites anyway, so I probably should have just eliminated those 2 younger years from my profile lol.
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Post by leatherpants on Jan 30, 2018 19:44:07 GMT -6
Jesse Williams is with Kirsten Dunst?! Didn’t he just break up with Minka Kelly? I’m not up on the gossip I guess. lol, you'd think I'd get the name right. Jesse Plemons Is that the poor mans Matt Damon from Breaking Bad?
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Post by Jesslfar on Jan 30, 2018 19:45:12 GMT -6
lol, you'd think I'd get the name right. Jesse Plemons Is that the poor mans Matt Damon from Breaking Bad? Yes, that guy.
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Post by betches on Jan 30, 2018 19:47:23 GMT -6
My H is 10 years older than me. We started dating my junior year of college when he had already graduated law school and had a legit career. It was rough at times and we ended up breaking up for a while because our lives were on completely different pages at the time. I’d be drunk dialing him after Tuesday night ladies night and his alarm would be going off a few hours later to go into the office. We got back together after I graduated had a legit job/apartment/life of my own and it was much better (obviously, since we’re married now). People who meet us are surprised when they learn our age difference, but it’s still a little awkward whenever the “where were you when...” type conversations come up.
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Post by Jesslfar on Jan 30, 2018 19:47:30 GMT -6
January 16, 2018 So, back in the day this singer was A list. His group was A list. He did that rock star thing and dated an at the time A list mostly television actress. All of you know her. He then moved on to her best friend who was at the time an A list mostly television actress. All of you know her. Apparently the couple broke up because he kept comparing the sex between the two friends and which one would do certain things and which didn't. Apparently he kept wanting a threesome with them both too. Adam Duritz/Jennifer Aniston/Courteney Cox I never understood his relationship with Courtney. Didn't he also date Emmy Rossum? He must be amazing in bed.
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Post by willow on Jan 30, 2018 19:48:27 GMT -6
lol, you'd think I'd get the name right. Jesse Plemons Is that the poor mans Matt Damon from Breaking Bad? Don’t you talk that way about Landry! (Though I agree he’s meh looking lol) (FNL anyone?!)
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Post by thatgolfb on Jan 30, 2018 20:15:45 GMT -6
I have no doubt that there are times that the age gap works, but if one of my sons comes home at 30 with a 19 year old and says he’s marrying her I will be biting my tongue so so hard. Lol this is fair and I would be too.
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Post by thatgolfb on Jan 30, 2018 20:21:42 GMT -6
lol, you'd think I'd get the name right. Jesse Plemons Is that the poor mans Matt Damon from Breaking Bad? Laughing because H and I call him wannabe Matt Damon.
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Post by McBenny on Jan 30, 2018 20:59:52 GMT -6
My stepson came home dating a 46 year old and he was 22. It didn't bother me as she clearly wanted her back knocked out. Not if they were talking marriage.
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Post by McBenny on Jan 30, 2018 21:01:29 GMT -6
My mother's new husband is younger than me. They're celebrating their second wedding anniversary in March I think.
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Post by hardlyluck on Jan 30, 2018 21:11:48 GMT -6
See this is where the ages do kinda matter. My Grandfathers 5th wife (yep 5th) is younger than my father. But they were 50 and 69 when they met and married. No1curr about two people 50+ with a large age gap hooking up. 19 to 38=🤨🤔 49 to 68=🤷♀️ Ultimately it’s not the age difference that makes me hesitate.
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Post by peachtree on Jan 30, 2018 21:27:28 GMT -6
Is that the poor mans Matt Damon from Breaking Bad? Don’t you talk that way about Landry! (Though I agree he’s meh looking lol) (FNL anyone?!) Yes!
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Post by Yogurt on Jan 30, 2018 21:35:23 GMT -6
Holy shit I just read about the Mark Salling stuff. How disgusting.
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Post by brux on Jan 30, 2018 21:46:40 GMT -6
I’m more than a little creeped out by a youth pastor marrying a teen from his church. I mean I guess they must be soulmates who happened to join the same church and now they’re happy, but that’s a sketchy start. I guess. They did have a brief relationship. I think from start to finish it was 9-10 months. I also went to a 100% Hispanic church and marrying off at 19 to an older dude wasn't seen as weird. It's typical actually. I'm not saying I agree. Im just explaining another layer to this. I obviously chose another path for my life. But when they had announced their wedding not a ton of people freaked. for me, it’s mostly someone in a position of authority and respect who is in charge of children that really gets me. Like a teacher marrying a former student who graduated last year. It’s a crossing of a boundary that is creepy.
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Post by brux on Jan 30, 2018 22:56:43 GMT -6
Beyoncé is all of us.
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Post by Sundae on Jan 30, 2018 23:17:52 GMT -6
I guess. They did have a brief relationship. I think from start to finish it was 9-10 months. I also went to a 100% Hispanic church and marrying off at 19 to an older dude wasn't seen as weird. It's typical actually. I'm not saying I agree. Im just explaining another layer to this. I obviously chose another path for my life. But when they had announced their wedding not a ton of people freaked. for me, it’s mostly someone in a position of authority and respect who is in charge of children that really gets me. Like a teacher marrying a former student who graduated last year. It’s a crossing of a boundary that is creepy. this happened with our band director. He was our teacher from 6th grade through graduation and six months later he married a classmate. He was really flirty and weird with all of us, so I’m guessing the first one that said yes “won”. At our ten year reunion she brought him and was complaining about people calling him Mr. Smith that night. Uh, he was our teacher for seven years.
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Cher
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Post by Cher on Jan 30, 2018 23:28:30 GMT -6
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Post by Cher on Jan 30, 2018 23:29:11 GMT -6
January 16, 2018
This wannabe A list talk show host has some clauses in her contract that let her pass on things her colleagues can't. She has no interest in being away from home for several weeks so she took a pass. Plus, she knows if anything happens, she will be in line to be a much bigger star and make her mark.
Megyn Kelly/Winter Olympics
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Post by Cher on Jan 30, 2018 23:40:20 GMT -6
I agree, hardlyluck. As you get older, the age difference doesn’t really matter. I also agree with McBenny, that if you’re just in it for the D, do you. And I think there are people like Nonniedee who are old souls. But when you have Dane Cook calling some teenage backup singer his soulmate, it’s kind of like .... lol k.
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Post by bobyn on Jan 30, 2018 23:42:41 GMT -6
I don't like his facial hair here. It's too concentrated, nearly entirely on his chin.
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