muscari
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Post by muscari on Sept 2, 2017 6:20:46 GMT -6
Dunno about you all but I am still really sad over the impact on the AL community of the turn of events over at TCF. CAL is pretty much dead (I think the FB group is relatively active still - I don't do FB really so honestly not sure).. and it just upsets me to see. Without my AL (and IF) ladies I for one would have been utterly lost navigating the psst years.. So in an attempt to at least keep some of us together I thought it may be nice to do monthly All AL check-ins here on HIH. Maybe someone could even post a link on the FB group for those who don't realize there ARE some people here still as well?
So tell us, how are you doing and what's going on with your life?
**Just a reminder that losses, pregnancies, and living children will be discussed in here.**
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Post by lahmajunwithlemon on Sept 2, 2017 14:36:03 GMT -6
Hi Guys! I posted on the FB group but a reminder I changed my name from TCF I was Music.box.dancr there. I have been doing good! We were all (H, Tig, myself, and baby belly) in a pretty bad car accident that totaled my car (thankfully we were all relatively ok) and it's been over a month and a half dealing with stupid insurance stuff and I FINALLY just picked up my new-to-me beautiful car today it's the same as my old one (a Honda Pilot) but newer, less miles, super clean, and a lot more features. I'm so excited to not have to drive H's huge truck around any more lol We are so busy this month, we have a few big markets and a wedding so I have a feeling September is gonna go by fast! I'm 33 weeks pregnant today, feeling large but doing good! Dealing with my low iron problems and other normal 3rd tri stuff but everything else has been fine and baby boy (naming him Sev.ak) is doing good! We just officially finished getting the last few things we needed for him (we got a stash of newborn sized cloth diapers, can't wait to use them!) so we are set and ready for arrival! Tig.ran is 20 months and just this last few weeks starting to use a lot more words. He's bilingual (English and Armenian) so it's so neat watching him understand and start to use words in both languages. Contrary to that he's been peeing his pants at least once a day this past week, hoping it's just a regression since he's been progressing in language skills but that's kinda been annoying moving backwards in potty training, but I know it's totally normal and he should get back on track soon hopefully. We also put him in a toddler bed recently and that transitions gone well, can't believe he's getting so big. Glad to check in here looking forward to reading what everyone else has been up to!
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Post by lahmajunwithlemon on Sept 2, 2017 14:42:23 GMT -6
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Post by flippinchica on Sept 2, 2017 14:56:25 GMT -6
I hear you muscari. One of the girls on my bmb had a loss and I hated not being able to send her to the community that helped me so much in that time. AFM DS turned 2 last month and is a bundle of energy. He is getting more verbal every day. He is obsessed with sand and digging and trucks. He also loves to do "art" with crayons glue sticks and construction paper. We have the usual toddler issues with boundaries and tantrums. I am 22 weeks tomorrow with another boy and all seem well so far. Thankfully I don't have near as much nausea as I had last time which was terrifying in the early days. We moved about a year ago now and are feeling fairly settled in but do miss Nola a good bit.
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Post by sarcaztic10 on Sept 2, 2017 16:51:24 GMT -6
Hello all, I had to take a step back from the boards after the exodus. Too much went down and things just aren't what they used to be.
Silas is developmentally on track as far as meeting all of his milestones but his growth stalled at about 6-7 months and he has only grown 1/2 an inch. He is hovering at the 1st percentile for height and the 12th for weight.That's a drop from the mid 20s at his 6 month appt. At 13 months he is still in 9 month clothes. He eats really great and will try/devour anything that is put in front of him so I am at a loss as to what to do for him. His next check-up is at 15 months and the pedi has told us that if he doesn't grow a good bit then we will be referred for testing. I am worried about him and hate that I can't just make him grow taller.
Just before he turned 1 he had a severe allergic reaction to trying a pancake made with eggs and we had to rush him to the ER. We have since had his allergy confirmed with an allergist and we have an epi pen Rx. They will retest him at 4 or so but right now it's a severe allergy. Since big brother has a severe allergy to tree nuts we can probably plan for that in his future too.
Otherwise he is babbling and says a few words like kitty, dog, that, his word for brother, and all done. He is pulling to a stand and cruising around while holding on to things but not walking yet. Teething is a drag on our sleep but he has his 5th tooth coming in now. He only wants to nurse at night now and still wakes 2-3 times a night for that but I don't mind.
Sending everyone lots of hugs and love.
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muscari
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Post by muscari on Sept 3, 2017 4:17:30 GMT -6
Ahh I dont think I ever got around to check-in in August oops. What a crazy month that was for us.
Late July my mum had a heart infarct while on holiday in Switzerland and spent a week in the hospital there before she was released to come home. At 37wks pregnant I wasn't allowed to travel and being so far away while mum was so poorly was really really hard. Luckily by now she s doing much better although it's going to be a while till she is recovered.
The rest of August passed by waiting for baby. 🤗 Daphne finally made her appearance at 40wk6d on August 23rd! I was in labor for what feels like foreverneverending and ended up with a c-section as after 30h of labor she just had to come out stat. Daphne had a bit of a rough start and spent her first day in NICU but has been doing great since.
My recovery from the CS (and labor) was nothing like I expected (not that I had any expectations but still) and I found the first days really really tough. Especially not being able to get up for D. but only being able to look at her in her see thru crib and needing assistance to hold/nurse her sucked balls. Since friday I am finally feeling a lot better and seem to have most of my mobility back.
D. is absolutely perfect and we are so in love. 😊😍 We are still adjusting to our life as a trio though at the same time it is as if she never not as with us. So weird. BF took a few extra days but now is going okay though we do still supplement once a day. She has her witching hours in the middle of night unfortunately but apart from that is real easy going and such a sweet baby. 💛
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Post by lizblue on Sept 3, 2017 5:49:33 GMT -6
Hiya AL family! I love reading all of your updates and miss our tight knit community too.
Ruby just turned two last week. It's hard to believe two years have gone by since we received a surprising phone call that we had a daughter. We had zero baby things. Literally did not own a diaper!
Two is fun and challenging. Ruby is in a fiercely independent stage and it simultaneously makes me proud and also want to tear my hair out. "Me do it!!!"
I got a new job at the end of last year and it's still kicking my ass. Trying to soak up as much relaxation as possible before September arrives in earnest. I have a month full of events and big meetings.
Sending love to y'all. Xo
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Post by LED on Sept 3, 2017 12:42:12 GMT -6
Hey everyone! I'm sad this community is fading away. You guys have helped me so much. Hopefully it never disappears completely.
Ridley is doing well. I've been having a lot of ugly emotions about being OADNBC and missing Jackson. His birthday is coming up in 2 months and as R gets older I'm not sure if I want to change how I handle it. Usually I make a cake and cry a lot while eating my emotions. But I'm not sure binging on sweets is the best way to teach R to honor him, you know? I don't know. Not that it really matters this year, but it might next year.
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Post by addymac on Sept 3, 2017 14:22:02 GMT -6
Thanks for this, muscari. It really makes me sad as a relatively new member of this community; I can only imagine how much more frustrating /sad/angry those of you who have been a part of It for much longer must feel. AFM, I had my rainbow on 8/20- his name is Noah and I am so smitten with him. He's just the cutest and I can't even. And I'm exhausted. No sleep is no joke! DH has been amazing so far and I got a good two naps in back to back last night so today I feel better than I had in a long time. I usually crash in the evening though. I've been having a lot of mixed emotions re: loss baby and Noah because our one year loss dates and his birth all happened in the same week- he was born 8/20, we found out about loss baby on 8/22 and my d&c was 8/25, and we were so exhausted and focused on N that I barely had time to think about loss baby and couldn't do anything to commemorate him/her. I felt awful about it and I still feel crummy. And I get so frustrated when my mom says things like "you're a mom now!" Like fuck off. I just want to scream at her. I KNOW it's different but my love as a mother didn't start when N was born- it started with loss baby's first positive hpt. Sigh.
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Post by snowyowl on Sept 3, 2017 19:02:35 GMT -6
Hi ladies! I was Vivela on TCF. I too am saddened by our much diminished loss community. I'm always sorry that the women having losses on the current BMBs don't have what I had when I was going through it. Those of you who are participating here are great! It's just such a small group it's not what it was.
DS is about to be 15 months. He's still only rocking two teeth, doesn't have much interest in walking though he'll take a step here and there, and while he makes a lot of noise not much of it is recognizable words. But all those things will get there!
Because DS took a year with two losses and three rounds of Femara, we decided to TFAS when he was just a year. I was honestly thinking that the longer we'd been trying when I had my yearly appointment in July, the sooner we could start the interventions I was so sure we would need. We did NTNP in May because my BCP were giving me trouble, then planned to launch into tempting and such in June. You could have knocked me over with a feather when I decided to POAS just in case and it turned out May was all we needed. I'm 16 weeks now and so happy to be out of first tri for all the usual reasons.
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Post by Speedy on Sept 4, 2017 8:31:37 GMT -6
Hey ladies. I've been running TTCAL over on GKU. I know it's not exactly the same, but it helps to keep me feel still connected.
We adopted a kitten last month and he's super cute. Pretty chill as far as kittens go, and so far *knock on wood* not getting into the usual kitten trouble.
We're in the last countdown (10 days!!!) for me to get my IUD out, and then my uterus is back in the babymaking business! I'm terrified but feeling optimistic about our chances this time. We're both healthier and we've got a doctor helping us who we can turn to if we need. Fingers crossed for a nice sticky rainbow baby sooner rather than later.
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Post by hawkward on Sept 5, 2017 5:30:09 GMT -6
Hi, everyone! There's not much new around here. It seems like we're busy all the time lately between H's work and DS1's schedule. I'm slowly working toward getting back into school full time (maybe after soccer season is over). I'm still struggling with the not TFAT thing, especially since DS2's favorite phrase is "I'M NOT A BABY!" now, but really, things are good.
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Post by oldbaylover1024 on Sept 5, 2017 9:29:14 GMT -6
Hi, everyone! Things here are busy as can be! J (DD) is 4.5YO now and started pre-K this week. She's so excited! And C (DS) is almost 7 months already! He's so close to crawling and is a generally happy boy. Our family is complete, and I'm 100% okay with that. Work is busy as can be. We're coming up to end-of-year deadlines, so I'm knees-deep in work. And MH got a promotion earlier this year, so he's been super busy, too. It feels like we're constantly running and on a schedule, but it is what it is I guess.
As for this community, I feel sad that it's not more active. I tried for a while with the Monday Meal Plan and Thankful Friday threads, but the participation just wasn't there. And I'm barely on FB, so it's hard to keep up. I wish new folks here had a place to come that was more active.
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Post by aprilz81 on Sept 11, 2017 8:21:41 GMT -6
Hello all! We are rushing towards what would have been (is?) Ava's first birthday on November 17th. I can't believe it is almost been a year already and even harder to think that I'm only 3 weeks "behind" her pregnancy with our rainbow.
Our 20 week anatomy scan is Wednesday (at exactly 20 weeks) and so far all of our testing and scans have been 100% normal, so we don't anticipate any surprises. Even though I'm pretty confident that everything is fine I'm ready for it to be over with to get the all clear.
My sister and Mom are planning my shower, I have maternity pictures booked and our nursery is coming along. I have an anterior placenta but I'm still feeling some movement which is reassuring. I'm still ready for her to get bigger so I feel more and more frequent movements.
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Post by agpjt413 on Sept 14, 2017 19:41:47 GMT -6
Hi ladies! So many hugs all around...I miss you girls. I know I try to stay in touch with many of you via IG, but I do miss the board interaction. I can't believe how quickly these rainbows are growing!! M just turned 1 last month (she'll be 13 months this Saturday) and is super spunky & sassy as ever! She's not quite confident walking on her own just yet but loves to have us hold her hands up & walk with her. She had a rough reaction to her 12 month appt shots while having a couple of teeth surface at once - luckily her discomfort was short lived. H is currently deployed to assist folks impacted by Irma so I've got my mom helping me some. It's been a bit of a challenge but we're doing ok I know I haven't been as active - especially after TCF - but I try to check back here as much as I can. I hope this place keeps going...you ladies were all I had after each loss. Love you guys 💜
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Post by Radley on Sept 16, 2017 6:49:31 GMT -6
Hello, I posted on TTCAL on TCF and still post in the TTCAL Check in on TTC. I have two sons and we miscarried earlier this year. What should have been my Due Date is coming up in a month. I'm nervous because it's sandwiched between a gender reveal and a baby shower. I'm planning on going to the Bicentennial Garden in a near by city, they have an area dedicated to children gone too soon. It has a little wrought iron dancer girl and people leave flowers in her skirt in memorial. I think I'm going to go do that and then I'm going to get a massage. The kids are doing okay. DS1 still asks if we're going to have another baby, his Aunt is pregnant he told us that he is worried her baby will die too. Otherwise we're doing good. DS1 is starting Pre-k and DS2 is progressing in therapy, which is great.
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Post by cattynattyrn on Sept 21, 2017 19:50:12 GMT -6
Hey ladies, I'm randomly popping in here, for once, so I'll update!
Our rainbow, Henry, is 16 months old and the biggest joy to DH and I. H recently started daycare, and I'm now full time with my new job, so we've had a lot of change recently! It's so crazy how time slows and speeds along.. I can't believe last month it was 3 years since our loss of Tucker. It just blows my mind to think that I could have had two babies under 3 right now.
As it is we are happy and content, but we will start TTC probably in the next 6 months or so. I hope that when the time comes that this community will still be here, as just THINKING about TTC gives me all the feels. I miss the active boards, but I am so thankful for IG and FB. Love you all!!
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Post by fancynewbeesly on Sept 23, 2017 19:37:47 GMT -6
Hi everyone *waves* I am new here. Our daughter is 6 and last January we started TTC, I had an early loss in June. We started trying again, which is stressing me out. I think more so due to our age (37 years old) and the age gap between kids now. Plus, DD keeps on begging for a baby and it breaks my heart each time. So we will see. I know I need to relax more though.
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