athn64
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Post by athn64 on Jul 6, 2022 18:43:59 GMT -6
I dropped DD1 at her first ever over night camp. She's only going for two nights, but it's so weird to have her gone. DD2 is having her own special time with my parents (DD1 will get hers next week while DD2 is at day camp). Everyone had to have a negative covid test to drop off, so that's not a major worry, at least.
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Post by klw on Jul 6, 2022 19:10:04 GMT -6
DD is doing such a good job PT. She even pooped on it Monday and Tuesday! Life could be a lot simpler if we were all happy with a reward of freeze pops. 😉
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Post by enchanted on Jul 6, 2022 19:46:33 GMT -6
elle You know your kids better than anyone else. If you think having them there to say goodbye was best, then it was. Sending hugs for you and your family.
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Post by enchanted on Jul 6, 2022 19:46:55 GMT -6
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Post by clucky on Jul 6, 2022 19:53:09 GMT -6
I’ve also made it so that family members can’t see me in their feed. They have to put in effort to come to my page and see my children - don’t post enough for them to have ever missed me. Oh! I didn’t know this was an option! Do you remember how you did that? Go to their profile. Click “Friends”. Click “Edit Friends List”. Scroll to the bottom select “Restricted”.
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Jul 6, 2022 21:38:10 GMT -6
So tonight I was texting someone I work with (I work for an association and this is a member). We stopped talking about work and were texting about random stuff. I sent a message about my kid and laundry.
At the same time something glitched with DHs phone and he somehow texted her about clean towels. Her response was “depends on how you define clean”.
I’m dying.
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Post by jaygee on Jul 6, 2022 21:46:27 GMT -6
elle that’s so hard. I know I’m going to be dealing with that soonish and I’m dreading it. I’ve had my girl for 15 years and she is at least 16 years old. So I know what you mean about just always having her there. And navigating that loss with children is so difficult. There is not an easy way to make their pain go away and that’s hard as a mom. Continuing to send you all love.
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Post by oreobitsy on Jul 6, 2022 21:47:30 GMT -6
elle Ugh, there’s never a good way to go about dealing with this… I think you made the best decision for your family. I’m sorry for the pain that you all are feeling and hope each day gets a little easier.
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Post by blurnette989 on Jul 7, 2022 5:21:13 GMT -6
I am struggling today. I know I've talked about behavioral issues with my oldest but his scout leader called to talk to me about gim and his therapy and to see if he's been assessed for an autism spectrum disorder. (This was done in the gentlest of ways and with all the good intentions so don't take it as weird). Basically she said she remembers his first day of scouts and how he acts now and it's a totally different child and she is right.
And then today the day camp Dd1 and dd2 are going to called and said we needed to pick him up because he's been running away multiple times a day. He did it yesterday at the beach and we had a serious talk with him about how he can't do that and can't fight with his brother and i just don't know how to help him. And it's all too much.
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Post by dc2london on Jul 7, 2022 7:07:29 GMT -6
It looks like we're going to have to put down our 16 year old iggie today. She has kidney disease and stopped eating yesterday and we still can't get her to eat today, all she wants to do is sleep. 😔 I know it's for the best, moving her with us across the country was going to be a challenge to say the least, but I'm still sad. She's such a sweet dog and she will be missed. So we have a call in to the vet who makes house calls and helped us when Luna's cancer got to be too much. Hopefully she'll have room for us today or tomorrow. Oh I'm so sorry 😞
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byjove
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Post by byjove on Jul 7, 2022 7:13:12 GMT -6
blurnette989, big hugs to you! <3 He's about 8, right? I know this has been a very challenging year for those of us with that age group around here! I don't know what things are like in Portugal, but what kind of therapy is he in? Are you able to get therapy for you guys to help parent him? Has he had any evaluations? It could be a lot of things, and I don't know him, but autism doesn't usually present itself out of the blue, ya know? I know that overwhelmed feeling that you are having right now! and there is hope.
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Post by blurnette989 on Jul 7, 2022 7:40:17 GMT -6
blurnette989, big hugs to you! <3 He's about 8, right? I know this has been a very challenging year for those of us with that age group around here! I don't know what things are like in Portugal, but what kind of therapy is he in? Are you able to get therapy for you guys to help parent him? Has he had any evaluations? It could be a lot of things, and I don't know him, but autism doesn't usually present itself out of the blue, ya know? I know that overwhelmed feeling that you are having right now! and there is hope. thanks. He has a psychologist and a psychiatrist in the same practice working together. I don't actually think he is on the spectrum, but it just made me sad that others who are in his life (and care very much about him) felt strongly enough to ask. Like I'm his mom so i know i see the changes, but others seeing it makes it harder i think ya know? And yes it has been challenging. 8 year olds man. Who knew. I am trying to look into some options for my and I. We def need more tools.
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Post by jaygee on Jul 7, 2022 7:43:36 GMT -6
blurnette989 I’m sorry. That’s so stressful. I broke down and cried at the dinner table last night (not my finest moment) because I’m so tired. DS’s behaviors have regressed so much and I just am struggling with it. I know it’s his ADHD and probably covid lack of socialization but it’s really draining to deal with a bigger kid that is having toddler like behaviors. Sending you a big hug.
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Post by blurnette989 on Jul 7, 2022 7:51:55 GMT -6
blurnette989 I’m sorry. That’s so stressful. I broke down and cried at the dinner table last night (not my finest moment) because I’m so tired. DS’s behaviors have regressed so much and I just am struggling with it. I know it’s his ADHD and probably covid lack of socialization but it’s really draining to deal with a bigger kid that is having toddler like behaviors. Sending you a big hug. Big hug right back at you.
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Post by carmensandiego on Jul 7, 2022 8:01:48 GMT -6
blurnette989, aww it's so tough to have other folks not appreciate just how hard your kiddo worked. It's really a challenge to get people to see beyond the behaviors sometimes.
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Post by carmensandiego on Jul 7, 2022 8:03:22 GMT -6
jaygee, I am sorry. I try and remind myself that this is similar to their baby development spurts. They still get out of sorts for reasons they don't understand. Big hugs, it's wearing.
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Post by jaygee on Jul 7, 2022 8:04:59 GMT -6
blurnette989, big hugs to you! <3 He's about 8, right? I know this has been a very challenging year for those of us with that age group around here! I don't know what things are like in Portugal, but what kind of therapy is he in? Are you able to get therapy for you guys to help parent him? Has he had any evaluations? It could be a lot of things, and I don't know him, but autism doesn't usually present itself out of the blue, ya know? I know that overwhelmed feeling that you are having right now! and there is hope. thanks. He has a psychologist and a psychiatrist in the same practice working together. I don't actually think he is on the spectrum, but it just made me sad that others who are in his life (and care very much about him) felt strongly enough to ask. Like I'm his mom so i know i see the changes, but others seeing it makes it harder i think ya know? And yes it has been challenging. 8 year olds man. Who knew. I am trying to look into some options for my and I. We def need more tools. This I relate to a lot. For better or worse all of DS’s challenges have always been at home. They are just starting to seep into other environments and it’s so much harder for me. I know it’s just the natural course of these things but it’s hard as a mom.
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Post by byjove on Jul 7, 2022 8:08:07 GMT -6
blurnette989 , big hugs to you! <3 He's about 8, right? I know this has been a very challenging year for those of us with that age group around here! I don't know what things are like in Portugal, but what kind of therapy is he in? Are you able to get therapy for you guys to help parent him? Has he had any evaluations? It could be a lot of things, and I don't know him, but autism doesn't usually present itself out of the blue, ya know? I know that overwhelmed feeling that you are having right now! and there is hope. thanks. He has a psychologist and a psychiatrist in the same practice working together. I don't actually think he is on the spectrum, but it just made me sad that others who are in his life (and care very much about him) felt strongly enough to ask. Like I'm his mom so i know i see the changes, but others seeing it makes it harder i think ya know? And yes it has been challenging. 8 year olds man. Who knew. I am trying to look into some options for my and I. We def need more tools. Gotcha. I couldn't remember at what point you were at in the process. Just more hugs <3 DH and I have been meeting with a psychotherapist for us to help manage our DD and it has really helped a lot (in combo with her meds).
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Post by willow on Jul 7, 2022 8:49:05 GMT -6
Sending you love elle. My soulmate dog passed last November and even now when I think about her, I tear up and my chest feels heavy and hollow with how much I miss her and wish I could snuggle her again. It’s so hard.
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Post by GameNight on Jul 7, 2022 9:40:56 GMT -6
Wishing you the best nelzie. I'm sorry elle. My daughter struggled when we had to say goodbye to our dog, so we planted a tree for her. The kids will sometimes take a treat out and leave it at the tree or my daughter will go to the tree to talk to our dog when she's really missing her. All kids are different of course, but it helped her. I'm sorry for the struggles blurnette989 and jaygee. We were called to pick our son up from day camp twice last week. I relate to not knowing what to do and worrying what people think of my child. Someone told me though, it's ok to be frustrated and to keep in mind that the others who interact with him (school, camp, etc.) are only frustrated or reaching out because they're trying to help and also haven't figured out the best way to do that yet. Everyone is hopefully working towards the same goal of our kids being happy and thriving in the environment they're in and sometimes it unfortunately takes time to figure out how to get there.
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Post by cakewench on Jul 7, 2022 10:45:09 GMT -6
I am so sorry, elle - sending all of you my love and hugs. FX for you, nelzie! I'm sorry your kiddos are struggling blurnette989 and jaygee - I wish I had advice or something better to offer than hugs, but they are all yours in whatever quantities you need them. <3
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Post by Ls2012 on Jul 7, 2022 11:03:40 GMT -6
overboard, are you alright? Haven't seen you on in awhile and just hoping you're keeping busy in a positive way.
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Post by Minerva on Jul 7, 2022 11:36:14 GMT -6
Hugs blurnette989, jaygee, and GameNight. I’m right there with you all with the struggling 8-9 year olds. ❤️ We were 30 minutes late to camp today because A refused to wear any of his shoes. The pair he wanted to wear was soaking wet from camp yesterday and he just completely refused to wear the others for reasons he couldn’t verbalize. They were all just wrong and we couldn’t work through the feelings with him, so we had to dry the wet pair in the dryer before he’d put them on. He is on the spectrum with an anxiety dx, so we have a good idea of what is going on. But it’s been a long time since he’s been quite this inflexible. And it’s really hard not to get cross when it’s making us late, even though it’s not like A wants things to be difficult any more than me or H and ultimately he’s a pretty sweet, sensitive kid. When we got to camp, he immediately apologized to his counselors for being late and explained what had happened with way more self-awareness than I’d realized he had about the situation and it honestly just about broke my heart.
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Post by willow on Jul 8, 2022 7:00:54 GMT -6
I'm just really excited for my brother so I have to put this somewhere. He just got a job as a Performance Medicine Trainer with Cirque du Soliel!!! I'm so proud of him. What a freaking cool job to have. He's been working really hard to get a job in his field in Vegas and now he finally has!
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Post by dc2london on Jul 8, 2022 7:23:11 GMT -6
The kids will sometimes take a treat out and leave it at the tree or my daughter will go to the tree to talk to our dog when she's really missing her. This is so so sweet
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Post by dc2london on Jul 8, 2022 7:24:52 GMT -6
Minerva my 2013 baby is also really struggling with inflexibility. It's pretty hard on all of us but I can see how he tries to internalize and hide guilt/shame and it's so upsetting.
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Post by byjove on Jul 8, 2022 7:56:54 GMT -6
Minerva my 2013 baby is also really struggling with inflexibility. It's pretty hard on all of us but I can see how he tries to internalize and hide guilt/shame and it's so upsetting. Do you think there is something with the pandemic that has really affected this age group? Or is it just the age? Because literally every one I know with a 2013 kid is struggling with anxiety and behavior. And it seems like more than just early tween stuff.
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Post by dc2london on Jul 8, 2022 8:34:53 GMT -6
Minerva my 2013 baby is also really struggling with inflexibility. It's pretty hard on all of us but I can see how he tries to internalize and hide guilt/shame and it's so upsetting. Do you think there is something with the pandemic that has really affected this age group? Or is it just the age? Because literally every one I know with a 2013 kid is struggling with anxiety and behavior. And it seems like more than just early tween stuff. I do think the pandemic has exacerbated existing problems
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Post by Minerva on Jul 8, 2022 9:35:52 GMT -6
Minerva my 2013 baby is also really struggling with inflexibility. It's pretty hard on all of us but I can see how he tries to internalize and hide guilt/shame and it's so upsetting. Hugs, lady. It’s so hard when they struggle. The bigger kids, bigger problems thing has been hitting home lately.
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Post by jaygee on Jul 8, 2022 10:21:02 GMT -6
Minerva my 2013 baby is also really struggling with inflexibility. It's pretty hard on all of us but I can see how he tries to internalize and hide guilt/shame and it's so upsetting. Do you think there is something with the pandemic that has really affected this age group? Or is it just the age? Because literally every one I know with a 2013 kid is struggling with anxiety and behavior. And it seems like more than just early tween stuff. Yesterday I took DS and his friend to an amusement park. We didn’t go to the main one - we went to the one that is really target audience for toddlers and younger kids. Some of the rides were what I would consider below their age range and I thought they would start to complain even though neither kid likes big rides. But they really didn’t. They had so much fun. And watching them it hit me that they missed the ages they would have been experiencing this had it not been for Covid. It just hit me how much they missed and how in some ways they are just going to be in a weird mismatched development stage for probably awhile. Obviously amusement park rides is much more trivial but it reminded me to remember this across all areas of development. The kids always seem resilient on the surface but there’s a lot going on.
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