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Post by charlotte on Sept 22, 2021 5:51:49 GMT -6
I have to go to the dentist tomorrow. Cue me panic flossing today to try to make up for the last 6 months.
Also, I saw this video of a woman who rubs bananas on her skin. For skincare. I wonder if she eats them after? 🤢
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Post by tj on Sept 22, 2021 7:21:01 GMT -6
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Post by sarenu on Sept 22, 2021 8:00:05 GMT -6
I like bananas and I still had this reaction. I do not want to smell like bananas.
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Post by rugger on Sept 25, 2021 11:50:36 GMT -6
Hey peeps that have a septic system... Is it normal to have these septic tank things (the green domes) so close to the house? They were like right by the deck. I'm trying to decide if that's a concern or not.
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Post by violajack on Sept 25, 2021 11:59:28 GMT -6
My clean out is similarly close to the house. As long as the leech field is downhill and heads away from the house, and far away from a well if you have that too, I think it's fine. In my limited experience of one.
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Post by rugger on Sept 25, 2021 13:03:30 GMT -6
My clean out is similarly close to the house. As long as the leech field is downhill and heads away from the house, and far away from a well if you have that too, I think it's fine. In my limited experience of one. Ooh, thanks for the info on the well. It is well water, but I'm not sure if it's a community or private well.
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Post by violajack on Sept 25, 2021 14:42:04 GMT -6
My clean out is similarly close to the house. As long as the leech field is downhill and heads away from the house, and far away from a well if you have that too, I think it's fine. In my limited experience of one. Ooh, thanks for the info on the well. It is well water, but I'm not sure if it's a community or private well. I think that's the more important piece. As long as the leech field drains away from the house, the septic should work without harming the foundation or anything like that. But you don't want your water source downhill from your septic. Our well head is on the complete other side of our house and uphill from the septic.
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Post by sarenu on Sept 26, 2021 11:44:39 GMT -6
My heat gun comes today.
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Post by Speedy on Sept 26, 2021 14:17:30 GMT -6
My heat gun comes today. I'm so excited for you! I was looking at one at the fabric store the other day and was like "I could do so much with this!" and then realized "I'll never do those things" lol
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Post by stringy on Sept 28, 2021 7:45:45 GMT -6
TIL how to induce vomiting in a dog.
Easier than I expected but also so gross.
Dogs are gross.
But I love her.
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Post by tj on Sept 28, 2021 8:07:16 GMT -6
TIL how to induce vomiting in a dog. Easier than I expected but also so gross. Dogs are gross. But I love her. What did she eat? Did you use hydrogen peroxide? Is she ok?
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Post by stringy on Sept 28, 2021 8:09:18 GMT -6
TIL how to induce vomiting in a dog. Easier than I expected but also so gross. Dogs are gross. But I love her. What did she eat? Did you use hydrogen peroxide? Is she ok? She ate a piece of raisin bread that was pretty full of raisins. Yes, HP, came right up. Ew. She's sleeping happily.
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Post by tj on Sept 28, 2021 8:13:44 GMT -6
What did she eat? Did you use hydrogen peroxide? Is she ok? She ate a piece of raisin bread that was pretty full of raisins. Yes, HP, came right up. Ew. She's sleeping happily. Bless her heart. And yours. You’re a good mom. Also, even after hearing this story, would currently smash some raisin bread. Ooh with butter.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 30, 2021 18:31:21 GMT -6
Idk why Amazon advertised this lil guy to me. But now I need him.
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Post by mintyblueair on Sept 30, 2021 18:52:13 GMT -6
charlotte that is bizarre! Maybe you should order one lol
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Post by tj on Oct 1, 2021 8:48:43 GMT -6
Y’all. I am sooooo tiiiiiired of the bedtime struggles with E. We have literally struggled with bedtimes with her since she was born. It’s been 9.5 years y’all. And it’s still a struggle. I’m just exhausted of it. And now with her having covid. Her tantrums at bedtime lead to even worse uncontrollable coughing to the point of puking and it’s just so overwhelming for all of us. Why can’t she just go to bed??? Why has she been so fucking hard her whole life? Will she ever be able to go to bed on her own? Am I going to have to move into her college dorm with her to put her to bed every night? \endrant
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Post by stringy on Oct 1, 2021 9:15:47 GMT -6
Y’all. I am sooooo tiiiiiired of the bedtime struggles with E. We have literally struggled with bedtimes with her since she was born. It’s been 9.5 years y’all. And it’s still a struggle. I’m just exhausted of it. And now with her having covid. Her tantrums at bedtime lead to even worse uncontrollable coughing to the point of puking and it’s just so overwhelming for all of us. Why can’t she just go to bed??? Why has she been so fucking hard her whole life? Will she ever be able to go to bed on her own? Am I going to have to move into her college dorm with her to put her to bed every night? \endrant M is like this. And always has been, she never napped easily and rarely STTN as a baby/toddler. She's 8 - she stays up til 10 every night. We force her to her room at 8 or 830 or 9 (was 9 in summer, moved up for school) and she plays in there, in the dark, or reads, or whatever until 930/10 when she finally goes to sleep. SHe's a night owl. I sometimes have to wake her up at 730 for school. I figure I cannot make her fall asleep, but I can make her be in her room (mostly). On the days I don't, sometimes its nice to watch a bigger kid show or movie that her sister can't watch too. As long as she's making it through her days with enough energy - I'd release it.
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Post by tj on Oct 1, 2021 9:52:27 GMT -6
Y’all. I am sooooo tiiiiiired of the bedtime struggles with E. We have literally struggled with bedtimes with her since she was born. It’s been 9.5 years y’all. And it’s still a struggle. I’m just exhausted of it. And now with her having covid. Her tantrums at bedtime lead to even worse uncontrollable coughing to the point of puking and it’s just so overwhelming for all of us. Why can’t she just go to bed??? Why has she been so fucking hard her whole life? Will she ever be able to go to bed on her own? Am I going to have to move into her college dorm with her to put her to bed every night? \endrant M is like this. And always has been, she never napped easily and rarely STTN as a baby/toddler. She's 8 - she stays up til 10 every night. We force her to her room at 8 or 830 or 9 (was 9 in summer, moved up for school) and she plays in there, in the dark, or reads, or whatever until 930/10 when she finally goes to sleep. SHe's a night owl. I sometimes have to wake her up at 730 for school. I figure I cannot make her fall asleep, but I can make her be in her room (mostly). On the days I don't, sometimes its nice to watch a bigger kid show or movie that her sister can't watch too. As long as she's making it through her days with enough energy - I'd release it. Oh I would take that in a heartbeat strings. It’s screeching. For hours. Every night. If someone doesn’t spend an hour putting her to bed, she scream-cries for 2 hours. If something doesn’t go right during that hour long bedtime routine - 2 hours of scream-crying. I would say that she screams herself to sleep 5 out of 7 nights a week. It’s not normal.
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Post by rugger on Oct 1, 2021 9:55:42 GMT -6
I'm sorry you're struggling tj 😔 I remember you thought about looking into therapy for her... Did you end up going that route?
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Post by tj on Oct 1, 2021 10:12:26 GMT -6
I'm sorry you're struggling tj 😔 I remember you thought about looking into therapy for her... Did you end up going that route? So, she talked to a counselor once in a group setting at school. And told the counselor that she thinks about death all the time, and what will happen to her things when she dies and that is why she can’t sleep is Bc she is worrying about death. And the counselor whispered into her ear “I do that too.” And suddenly E was like wait, that’s normal? I didn’t know it was normal to worry about death! I thought it was a problem! This is great news! So once again we quit worrying about her momentarily. And in the mean time, P started exhibiting some significant depression symptoms and we have been full force taking care of her issues Bc it has been really rough and I’ve been really worried. So she is now seeing a counselor solo and in a group setting along with an iep for certain things in class and a list of things we do at home. This was all very sudden and severe and shocking. And then E got covid and now we’re all quarantined at home and I’m at a loss as to how to maintain everyone’s mental health without their tools and also suffering with extreme guilt that I gave one of my kids my anxiety and one of my kids my depression and mh doesn’t even believe in mental health and so it all falls on me and I’m already an unstable basket case. Plus oh yeah working from home full time and teaching my kids from home and also just life. So yeah. Maybe I’ll email E’s counselor while I’m home today.
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Post by sarenu on Oct 1, 2021 10:18:38 GMT -6
Sorry TJ.
Could you maybe sit down and have her agree on a set bedtime routine.
Create a check list of items she wants to do before she goes to bed each night. Then agree on a bed time. You can work back from that time so that you have a start for the bedtime process? Maybe this will make her realize how demanding it is for you. Especially if you have an activity that night. Maybe express that if she wants a 2 hour process, she can’t fit activities in to her evening.
Other than that I am so so sorry that it is hard.
I’m also here counting down the days the kids their own rooms. E complains about the others keeping her up. F and C will play together until 10. And then E is dragged out of bed at 6:45 to catch a 7:30 bus.
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Post by charlotte on Oct 1, 2021 10:18:47 GMT -6
Ugh tj you have so much going on. Hugs. I know this is probably a dumb obvious suggestion, but have you tried melatonin gummies for E? I get the sense that her upset is more related to her strict bedtime routine than falling asleep itself (?) but maybe it would at least help her fall asleep if she’s laying in bed crying? Or, just ignore me. It’s something I use to help me fall asleep at night despite anxious thoughts.
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Post by rugger on Oct 1, 2021 10:21:04 GMT -6
Oh tj big virtual hugs to you guys. You are a strong and amazing momma and those girls are lucky to have you as their advocate ❤️
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Post by tj on Oct 1, 2021 10:27:05 GMT -6
Sorry TJ. Could you maybe sit down and have her agree on a set bedtime routine. Create a check list of items she wants to do before she goes to bed each night. Then agree on a bed time. You can work back from that time so that you have a start for the bedtime process? Maybe this will make her realize how demanding it is for you. Especially if you have an activity that night. Maybe express that if she wants a 2 hour process, she can’t fit activities in to her evening. Other than that I am so so sorry that it is hard. I’m also here counting down the days the kids their own rooms. E complains about the others keeping her up. F and C will play together until 10. And then E is dragged out of bed at 6:45 to catch a 7:30 bus. Have done. Many times. And rational daytime E can make this ok. Lunatic nighttime E is lunatic.
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Post by tj on Oct 1, 2021 10:29:12 GMT -6
Ugh tj you have so much going on. Hugs. I know this is probably a dumb obvious suggestion, but have you tried melatonin gummies for E? I get the sense that her upset is more related to her strict bedtime routine than falling asleep itself (?) but maybe it would at least help her fall asleep if she’s laying in bed crying? Or, just ignore me. It’s something I use to help me fall asleep at night despite anxious thoughts. You know, we have not. For exactly that reason - Bc it has always been more an issue with routine frustration than with actual sleep. She loves sleep. She loves to sleep in. But I guess her brain just can’t stop at bedtime. But you are right, maybe melatonin is worth at least trying. I’ve just seen so much research back and forth over it without a definitive answer.
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Post by rugger on Oct 1, 2021 10:36:52 GMT -6
What about a mindfulness podcast to help get brain focus on something else? Peace Out podcast is a kids' mindfulness podcast that my girls like listening to at bedtime.
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Post by tj on Oct 1, 2021 10:51:46 GMT -6
She might be ready to try that again rugger. We had done a bedtime meditation for a short period and she loved it. But one night it didn’t work, and then it changed or was discontinued or something. And all hell broke loose. But if it is a podcast that changes regularly, and she knows that and is prepared for it to change, maybe she will be ok with it. I just hate to add another thing to her routine Bc I worry that it would be adding another thing, not replacing something ya know?
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Post by stringy on Oct 1, 2021 11:34:12 GMT -6
Ugh I’m sorry TJ. That is all much too much and I’m sorry you are all struggling. This pandemic needs to be over. Hugs.
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Post by mintyblueair on Oct 1, 2021 15:41:16 GMT -6
I don't have any advice tj but that sounds so hard and draining for all of you. I hope that when E is back in school and can talk to the school counselor again that the counselor will have some ideas for her/you. I've always read conflicting stuff about melatonin, too. Have you talked to your family doctor to get his/her opinion on it?
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Post by tj on Oct 1, 2021 15:44:27 GMT -6
I don't have any advice tj but that sounds so hard and draining for all of you. I hope that when E is back in school and can talk to the school counselor again that the counselor will have some ideas for her/you. I've always read conflicting stuff about melatonin, too. Have you talked to your family doctor to get his/her opinion on it? Ugh, no. I need to. Family doc time is so hard in these days. Like we have been there so many times Bc of covid testing and her weird skin issues and this and that and I feel like I never have an opportunity to address things like her food issues, her anxiety, her sleep issues, etc with her regular doc.
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