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Post by babybean on Aug 10, 2017 7:57:12 GMT -6
Mh's cousin announced right away on FB. I wasn't annoyed, I just prayed everything would be okay for her. I think some people don't have the same experiences or proximity to loss so they're more open with stuff. It's very exciting finding out your pregnant, people are entitled to their joy, so I'm a little meh on this type of thing. We see a higher rate of loss on forums (I assume) so I'm definitely very paranoid even though I'm not having spotting like my last pregnancy.
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Post by mrsmonogrammed on Aug 10, 2017 8:43:23 GMT -6
Lol cornpop and sammysam, proving me very wrong! I've been testing morning and evening since finding out about this pregnancy- mostly because I have tests to use up but also because I get satisfaction of seeing the lines darken. Still haven't brought any to work yet though😬😂
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Post by sammysam on Aug 10, 2017 8:59:11 GMT -6
Lol cornpop and sammysam, proving me very wrong! I've been testing morning and evening since finding out about this pregnancy- mostly because I have tests to use up but also because I get satisfaction of seeing the lines darken. Still haven't brought any to work yet though😬😂 I was peeing on sticks up until last week. I still have a bunch left so I might still use them up... I don't recommend peeing on one at work. Staying in the stall for the requisite amount if time and then trying to hide the stick/packaging after is not fun. I kept thinking the custodian was going to find it and know through her obvious psychic powers that it was me and call me out in front of everyone.
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Post by clementine on Aug 10, 2017 9:51:51 GMT -6
I've wanted to test at work before, but I'm nowhere near graceful enough to do it quietly and efficiently in a stall. It is crazy that she tested and told people at work right away though. My coworkers, with the exception of one who is a really good friend, are not high on my list of people to tell right away. I'm trying to wait as long as possible to tell work, but with this growing bump I know it won't be much longer. I already caught a coworker checking out my belly. Although I could just be paranoid about that...
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Post by sweetc129 on Aug 10, 2017 10:35:17 GMT -6
I'm a total work tester. I have tests in my desk. I got my first BFP this time and last pregnancy at work. I have no shame and I pee on all the things all the times.
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Post by sweetc129 on Aug 10, 2017 10:38:17 GMT -6
My mom is out of town for a bit so I'll throw DD in a "awesome sister" shirt we got at target before dinner one day next week. I had to ask DH if he could see a squinter so there's no big surprise there. He doesn't have big reactions to stuff so any thoughtful surprise announcement is a waste on him. He was REALLY excited when he saw the line though which was a hiusand times better. My closest IRL and HIH know. I have one close coworker at work I'd like to tell - mostly bc I want one person to know in case of emergencies or if I need some one to back up my lame excuses for missing happy hour. I think we'll wait until we're ready to tell the world (12-15 weeks maybe) before really talking to DD about it. She's just turned 2 so you never know what info she holds onto/repeats and I don't want her to blow our cover.DH insisted our kids were the first to know, obviously our 1 year old I'm not very worried about, but our almost 4 year old just keeps talking and talking about the baby in my belly. I'm sure a million more people know and are just being polite than we realize. My biggest concern with telling her is if something happens she isn't going to understand where the baby is and if she says something to somebody and I have to politely tell them. It was important to DH, so I let him tell her.
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Post by sweetc129 on Aug 10, 2017 10:39:11 GMT -6
Since this time I'm not coming back after the baby I'm going to hold off telling work as long as possible because I'm not ready to have that conversation.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Aug 10, 2017 11:00:24 GMT -6
My mom is out of town for a bit so I'll throw DD in a "awesome sister" shirt we got at target before dinner one day next week. I had to ask DH if he could see a squinter so there's no big surprise there. He doesn't have big reactions to stuff so any thoughtful surprise announcement is a waste on him. He was REALLY excited when he saw the line though which was a hiusand times better. My closest IRL and HIH know. I have one close coworker at work I'd like to tell - mostly bc I want one person to know in case of emergencies or if I need some one to back up my lame excuses for missing happy hour. I think we'll wait until we're ready to tell the world (12-15 weeks maybe) before really talking to DD about it. She's just turned 2 so you never know what info she holds onto/repeats and I don't want her to blow our cover.DH insisted our kids were the first to know, obviously our 1 year old I'm not very worried about, but our almost 4 year old just keeps talking and talking about the baby in my belly. I'm sure a million more people know and are just being polite than we realize. My biggest concern with telling her is if something happens she isn't going to understand where the baby is and if she says something to somebody and I have to politely tell them. It was important to DH, so I let him tell her. Yeah he can deal with any aftermath because it was his idea. We do keep asking her how she feels about a baby living with us and she likes the idea. She LOVES the infant at her DC so I'm hoping that's true with her sibling. She's a huge mama's girl so this is going to rock her world.
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Post by auri on Aug 10, 2017 11:04:59 GMT -6
DH told his mom yesterday. He specifically told her not to tell DD since she was spending the night, and we don't want her to know until at least my first appointment next month. I picked DD up this morning and mil told me she was so excited she told everyone, but then amended it to just telling her sister. But, her sister can't keep a secret, so it's practically like she told everyone.
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Post by smilesp on Aug 10, 2017 11:33:44 GMT -6
smilesp Being annoyed is definitely irrational but I suppose I get it. Her pregnancy doesn't take away from yours, just think how fun it'll be to tell your coworkers being further along. My boss and I were due 11 days apart last time, it was nice. The first thing I did was laugh but then I realized we're going to have very close EDD. I just don't want people comparing us the whole time. Also, I hate the idea of her being in the hospital at the same time as me. She's obviously very attention hungry and is the type of person who wants a parade of visitors. I don't want people who know us both to come see her and then think it's ok to see me too. ETA Side note to my original post...She claims she had a period 2 weeks ago. She also took a blue dye test so I'm not even sure she's pregnant. She's...not the brightest.
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Post by sammysam on Aug 10, 2017 11:46:06 GMT -6
smilesp I would be so annoyed if I was forced to see work people while in the hospital. I only let one friend come and visit me last time and I was in the hospital for a week.
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Post by cornpop on Aug 10, 2017 12:05:17 GMT -6
We told our 2yo that there is a baby in mommy's belly. She says "hi baby" and waves at my belly and then she said "kiss baby" and kissed my belly.
I didn't think she actually got it but the past 2 weeks she's been obsessed with reading our "You Were the First" book which is about being the first baby. She other night she was "reading it" to herself and the only page she skipped was the page about "one day there may be second...or a third". LOL.
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Post by babybean on Aug 10, 2017 12:25:53 GMT -6
I showed our 2 year old the ultrasound. He sniffed it and said "p.u. baby" then said "cool baby" and walks around saying "brudder, seester". My stepson comes home next week and I know he's curious so I'll probably fill him in soon.
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Post by babybean on Aug 10, 2017 12:26:53 GMT -6
I'm sorry auri. That happened to me last time and it became somewhat malicious.
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Post by calendula on Aug 10, 2017 13:18:12 GMT -6
DS will be thrilled. He is older and fully understands that other kids have siblings and he does not. His prayer request at preschool mass? A baby. His imaginary friends are his "siblings". His drawings of our family sometimes include siblings that do not exist. Last year's request to Santa was for a baby.
That said, we haven't told him and I won't until I literally cannot hide my stomach from him any more. I don't want him to go through the heartbreak of loss if I can help it. So I'm going to wait as long as possible.
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Post by cp3 on Aug 11, 2017 13:59:44 GMT -6
I accidentally let it slip to our 2 yo about two weeks ago. She will not stop talking about it so we told our families because we knew she would give it away. This week she has told two of the directors at her daycare and three teachers. Two of which are not her teachers. She tells everyone "we have a new baby" and when they ask where the baby is she says in my tummy. She's also named the baby Margaret because of Daniel Tiger and tells everyone about baby Margaret.
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Post by auri on Aug 11, 2017 15:24:39 GMT -6
cp3 Aww that's so sweet! I hope my DD is just as excited when we finally tell her.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Aug 11, 2017 21:17:25 GMT -6
We told some family. One of the first comments we got (not from my parents thank goodness) was "maybe this one will be a boy!" Oh. Ok.
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Post by polson on Aug 12, 2017 3:06:51 GMT -6
We told some family. One of the first comments we got (not from my parents thank goodness) was "maybe this one will be a boy!" Oh. Ok. 🙄
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Post by alwayscheese on Aug 12, 2017 8:01:15 GMT -6
I sent my sister this pic while I was talking to her on the phone. She's really excited. 😊
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Post by ovenrack on Aug 12, 2017 11:00:50 GMT -6
I cannot tell H. He's going to be such a blabbermouth. He's 3.5 and we've mentioned it in front of him, but nothing direct.
I am looking forward to getting the announcement over with. This will be kid #3 which is pretty rare around our families - mostly people have stuck to 2 children.
Of course, my MIL (deceased) was one of eight kids, but I know when I mention that to my husband's aunts, they'll say "THAT'S BECAUSE GRANNY WAS CATHOLIC WHICH I KNOW YOU ARE NOT!"
Hah. Oh well!
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Post by alwayscheese on Aug 14, 2017 19:18:49 GMT -6
Last night we told DH' s parents. It's was really neat how excited they were even though they have over ten grandchildren already. I got big hugs from both of them which isn't the morn since we see them once a week at least. These are the "very belated fathers day and mothers day cards" we gave them. 😀
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Post by alwayscheese on Aug 15, 2017 7:34:54 GMT -6
And yesterday I told my to IRL BFFs.(edit they are actually my SIL and cousin-in-law) They are both about 6 months pregnant and we spent the day together and I kept dropping hints and it was hilarious how long it took them to catch on!
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Post by girlmom on Aug 15, 2017 12:50:17 GMT -6
We have officially spilled the beans to everyone! I'm 11 weeks now and while I prefer to wait until the second trimester, it was good timing for seeing our families so we decided to just go for it. We told the girls first and they were so excited! Then we let the girls take the reign in telling family - my 2 year old tried so hard to tell everyone by pointing to me and saying "Baby! Baby! Baby!" but nobody got it until my 4 year old stepped in and explained. I'm so glad to have it out in the open, but still kind of holding my breath for a few more weeks hoping we didn't share too soon.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Sept 1, 2017 8:56:22 GMT -6
I'm sorry to resurrect this dead thread but I need to talk this out.
I'm only seven weeks but I'm so sick. I dont really want to announce yet, we don't have our first appointment for 3 weeks. I'm sick I am not sure I can hide it. I go on a girls trip with my mother and sister in law next weekend. I know she will know. I think we just need to tell. But I am not at peace with it. Last time we waited until after our first appointment but I just don't think it's possible this time. I am going to need support. Sorry I just need to vent.
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Post by yianna on Sept 1, 2017 9:05:45 GMT -6
ArielMermaid if you need to tell the gals on the trip, tell them!
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Post by ArielMermaid on Sept 1, 2017 9:11:17 GMT -6
ArielMermaid if you need to tell the gals on the trip, tell them! Then it spirals. If I tell MH mom I have to tell mine etc. I'm just so uncomfortable not knowing for sure how the baby is. But I know I'm going to have to. I don't like it.
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Post by calendula on Sept 1, 2017 9:20:39 GMT -6
ArielMermaid, its OK for you to take control of who you want to tell. Its your news to share. Just because one parent knows, doesn't mean the other does. Since it will make good logistical sense to tell your mom and SIL when you're away, can you couch the news with "I'm feeling cautious, since I haven't had my first appointment yet. Will you keep this between us until I feel more comfortable sharing with others, and can deliver the news in person?" And your MIL doesn't need to know that others knew before her. And if anyone gets bent out of shape about it, that's on them for being irrational and rude. Other people's shitty neurotic behavior doesn't need to be your burden, IMO. Don't carry around any more stress than you deserve to! Which is...zero
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Post by ArielMermaid on Sept 1, 2017 9:27:29 GMT -6
I think I'm just going to be a mess before we see a heartbeat. As per usual. I just don't want to tell my in laws and not tell my parents. But I just really don't want everyone to know and start worrying with me. I come from a long line of worriers and it makes me even more anxious knowing I'll be compounding the worry. I wish we could all be chill but it's not in our nature.
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Post by yianna on Sept 1, 2017 9:29:46 GMT -6
I think I'm just going to be a mess before we see a heartbeat. As per usual. I just don't want to tell my in laws and not tell my parents. But I just really don't want everyone to know and start worrying with me. I come from a long line of worriers and it makes me even more anxious knowing I'll be compounding the worry. I wish we could all be chill but it's not in our nature. Is there any way you can ask your OB to get you in for an ultrasound? Tell them you're going out of town and your anxiety is high - most will write a script to have it done. Unless that will cause you more anxiety? And maybe you could say you're getting over a stomach bug then? or you're taking heavy antibiotics and they miss with your stomach?
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