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Post by starbuck on Jun 19, 2019 18:12:01 GMT -6
As a kid I once found a black widow spider and my dad let me keep her in a jar...until we noticed she had laid an egg sack that hatched about a million billion babies. That was the end of that. I have so many questions about your pet black widow lol but also omg.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 19, 2019 19:03:32 GMT -6
These extra large ads on mobile are KILLLLLLLING me.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 19, 2019 19:03:44 GMT -6
As a kid I once found a black widow spider and my dad let me keep her in a jar...until we noticed she had laid an egg sack that hatched about a million billion babies. That was the end of that. I have so many questions about your pet black widow lol but also omg. so many questions.
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Post by starbuck on Jun 19, 2019 19:04:40 GMT -6
These extra large ads on mobile are KILLLLLLLING me. Yes! What the hell
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Post by goldenlove on Jun 19, 2019 19:05:40 GMT -6
These extra large ads on mobile are KILLLLLLLING me. They are seriously overkill. I'm about to ask H to turn on our adblocker again because wtf.
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Post by sarahwithanh on Jun 19, 2019 19:27:26 GMT -6
waitwhat Why would she say no? That would freak me out! By me there are a bunch of crazies who are against any chemical sprays for bugs or lawn treatments. Worried about how it harms kids and dogs. I get both done because we had a mouse and aunt problem and I want curb appeal 🤷
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Post by kleigh on Jun 19, 2019 19:54:14 GMT -6
I was once cutting down brush at a new house we had moved into, wth like hedge clippers. I cut one and a million billion trillion not so baby, black spiders came crawling out all over the place. Those little assholes apparently have a shitton of babies at once. And now I’m remembering that I just killed an itty bitty tiny baby spider on my car window so naturally his brothers and sisters are around somewhere.
Also also, the summer before I graduated college, I drove from home to my place of employment (~1hr commute) in a skirt, apparently with a fucking wood (or huntsman?) spider on me the whole time. Did not know this until I was at work, opening the vault at the bank and someone creeped up to me, knocked the fucker off with his foot, and started stomping and was like “I didn’t want to scare you!!!” I carried it in wth me from car and from home, and I know this bc that summer these spiders were EVERYWHERE at our house all of a sudden, every time I’d look out a window there was one just sitting there on the other side of the window pane (we lived in a v v wooded area). Do yourself a favor and do not google huntsman spider, they can be up to a foot in size. The less intimidating wolf variety is like half a foot. And thick.
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Post by kleigh on Jun 19, 2019 20:15:49 GMT -6
And hi :-) I’ve been trying to keep up. Not entirely sure why I’m not participating more, maybe the shy part of me is taking a turn again in life? But I just wanted to let you all know that I’m listening, I’m here... I hope you enjoyed dinner tgrimes !!! And I hope the prophylactic antibiotics, if it’s determined to be the SIGAD, finally helps prevent some of this! danib I’m sorry your H is delayed until July!! That sounds so long for you to be without him, but also, for the kids to have to miss out when they thought he’d be home :-( cookswithwine I didn’t get a chance to respond to last weeks comment in regards to O’s story time/bedtime becoming a nightmare. Ours is a nightmare too, or has/had been. Is better when they don’t nap bc they’re tired enough that they’re actually interested in sleeping. But still, it’s always “I don’t want to go to bed” and who starts jumping on the bed, the other taking their clothes off, or one crying, the other asking for ten hundred things trying to delay the inevitable, fighting over books, fighting over laps, refusing to brush teeth, wanting to wear huge fluffy princess dresses to bed, singing the ABCs or some other out of the blue stuff while the other is trying to relax and fall asleep, etc . It’s just such a challenge. But, in general, I have started meaning what I say, and say what I mean. They get one shot at things, and then I have to stick to my word and deal with the crying, otherwise they just keep going and going. Not just at bedtime but during the day too. They’re old enough IMO that they comprehend that mommy means what she says the first time she says it. I’m done with raising my voice, pleading, taking things away, etc.. the only thing that’s worked with them is sticking to my word. And I never ever did CIO (I just couldn’t bc of my own anxiety issues).. but now? I know they’re ok, they’re being dramatic, and the crying ended pretty quick after about a week of being firm, but I did start by talking to them “mommy asked you to please lay down while I change your diaper... “AV do you hear mommy’s voice getting a little louder, please lay down while I change your diaper”... “AV mommy’s voice is getting even louder and that she’s starting to get angry,” and at that point I’d give two options like “so you can let me change your diaper on the bed r on the floor, you pick, but we’re doing it now”. And then she’d move. And then the following week+- I just went straight for “AV it’s time to change your diaper and clothes, we can do it on the bed or the floor but we’re doing it now” and she’s move right away, almost always (same idea works on him but he’s slightly behind her so he still tantrums a bit more). I hope the past few nights have been better?? jubilantsquirrel I’m glad to hear the new jobs going ok, albeit slow and boring since you can’t do much yet. I don’t like hose half-wall cubes or those like cluster desks. Man, that would seriously cut imo my personal work and I’d have to talk to people and stuff? No way. goldenlove Girls names are way easier!!!! Tgrimes threw out some good options... I hear Adeline is a pretty cool name ☺️ I like sibset names, not sure if that’s your style, but if so I’ll also throw out:: Cadence Cloe Connie Caroline Constance Clea Carolyn Cecelia
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Post by elle on Jun 19, 2019 20:18:58 GMT -6
These extra large ads on mobile are KILLLLLLLING me. What is going on? I have an ad at the top and bottom. It must be happening all over proboards because I have the same issue on gbcn.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 19, 2019 20:42:25 GMT -6
Hiiii kleigh! Come and play more often!
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 20, 2019 7:59:08 GMT -6
So much rain today. So I’m taking the kids to the gymnastics place for some open play. Then I am stopping at this butcher shop on the way back to grab some sausage and steaks and other stuff for this weekend. My dad is coming over to celebrate Father’s Day since we didn’t get to see him last weekend. I’ve never been but it has good reviews. It’s closed Friday-Sunday which I think is super weird so I have to go today.
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Post by danib on Jun 20, 2019 8:48:52 GMT -6
I don't know what's up with the weather here lately. Like the actual temperature isn't that high. It's nice, but definitely not high. Like number wise I would expect to wear a light sweater or spring jacket. But it feels hot as hell.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 20, 2019 13:01:36 GMT -6
I got a jury summons in the mail. Dammit!
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Post by starbuck on Jun 20, 2019 13:05:02 GMT -6
I got a jury summons in the mail. Dammit! woo!!
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Post by elle on Jun 20, 2019 14:49:53 GMT -6
Picked up Jake and the Neverland Pirates, and Mickey Mouse Clubhouse to change it up from Thomas but also to start getting him into the Disney mindset! Cruise activities have been booked so now things are feeling real. DH has 2 more trips (this and the next) and then we go!!! elle, is A afraid of the characters? It's a 10-day cruise and my plan is to give him time like in Hawaii to adjust to them. So no character pics til day 2! I have booked a Character Breakfast and the Princess Gathering so hopefully, we'll be watching some princess movies to get him in the mood. Didn't sign him up for the Frozen Gathering. I've played that and he doesn't seem interested! Still loves Ariel though! She's not afraid of the characters at all, but she's also probably not your typical 2 1/2 year old. When in Batuu (Star Wars land) earlier this month she kept saying that she wanted to hug the stormtroopers. 😂 Most kids around that age are just super shy with characters. Hopefully Liam enjoys the character meet and greets at least a little. How did he do with Santa and the Easter Bunny?
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Post by cookswithwine on Jun 20, 2019 15:41:12 GMT -6
WFH today so I got to catch up on some laundry. Baby clothes NB - 3mo is all washed and put away. I like looking at it all neat and organized. I have all of Os old clothes stored except, I’m missing sizes 12-18mo... I think that box might be in our attic. I need to get H up there to look.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Jun 20, 2019 16:59:05 GMT -6
Picked up Jake and the Neverland Pirates, and Mickey Mouse Clubhouse to change it up from Thomas but also to start getting him into the Disney mindset! Cruise activities have been booked so now things are feeling real. DH has 2 more trips (this and the next) and then we go!!! elle, is A afraid of the characters? It's a 10-day cruise and my plan is to give him time like in Hawaii to adjust to them. So no character pics til day 2! I have booked a Character Breakfast and the Princess Gathering so hopefully, we'll be watching some princess movies to get him in the mood. Didn't sign him up for the Frozen Gathering. I've played that and he doesn't seem interested! Still loves Ariel though! She's not afraid of the characters at all, but she's also probably not your typical 2 1/2 year old. When in Batuu (Star Wars land) earlier this month she kept saying that she wanted to hug the stormtroopers. 😂 Most kids around that age are just super shy with characters. Hopefully Liam enjoys the character meet and greets at least a little. How did he do with Santa and the Easter Bunny? Didn’t do Easter Bunny! Put would give Santa a high five but not sit by himself. I’ve been showing him pictures of him with Mickey and us with Mickey and Daisy and Goofy. He’ll be almost 3 so I’m hoping! 🤞🏽
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Post by Cheshie6 on Jun 20, 2019 18:58:36 GMT -6
Does anyone else’s tot just not try? L won’t try to do anything on his own, until he feels like he’s mastered it completely. First sign of struggle, “help!?!” He’s great at asking for help but he doesn’t try.
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Post by danib on Jun 20, 2019 19:11:26 GMT -6
Does anyone else’s tot just not try? L won’t try to do anything on his own, until he feels like he’s mastered it completely. First sign of struggle, “help!?!” He’s great at asking for help but he doesn’t try. H was like this when I started potty training "I can't do it. It's too hard". In all seriousness though yes. Both my boys go through phases of this. C started washing dishes this week. He was legit pumped to do it. We made a big deal, lots of praise, etc. I was monitoring him, showing him how to get corners, best way to hold, all that. It was going great. Then day 3 he missed a spot and I was like "ohh we gotta redo this one, this is bigger so we have to go around it a few times to get it all". He immediately put the cloth down and said he was tired and didn't want to do it anymore. I reassured him a million times that it was ok, I miss spots sometimes, blah blah. Has refused to do it since.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Jun 20, 2019 19:57:55 GMT -6
danib, I’m just getting frustrated and I have to relax! I just don’t like that he doesn’t try. I think it worries me that I’m doing too much for him! Does that make sense?
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Post by danib on Jun 21, 2019 4:11:34 GMT -6
danib, I’m just getting frustrated and I have to relax! I just don’t like that he doesn’t try. I think it worries me that I’m doing too much for him! Does that make sense? I get it. I think it's a fairly normal behavior. But if you're finding he's like it all thee time, then it definitely wouldn't hurt to push him a little bit. Even just 1 thing a day, insist that he has to try first and then you can help.
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Post by danib on Jun 21, 2019 4:15:24 GMT -6
Ohh and I just had another thought Cheshie6. Is he the same for YH? DH gets so frustrated because every time he tries to get C to read, C gets sookie and says he can't and don't know the words and won't sound, etc. But then I'll sit down and he'll read an entire book to me. I don't know if it's our approaches or somethng else... But it drives DH bonkers.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 21, 2019 7:36:40 GMT -6
Cheshie6 You worry too much. You're going to give yourself an ulcer.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 21, 2019 7:51:50 GMT -6
The kids are spending the night with my in laws. I think we're going out for sushi!
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Post by Cheshie6 on Jun 21, 2019 8:41:53 GMT -6
Ohh and I just had another thought Cheshie6. Is he the same for YH? DH gets so frustrated because every time he tries to get C to read, C gets sookie and says he can't and don't know the words and won't sound, etc. But then I'll sit down and he'll read an entire book to me. I don't know if it's our approaches or somethng else... But it drives DH bonkers. I think in certain activities, I’m not patient enough! But in others I’m the most patient.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Jun 21, 2019 10:17:22 GMT -6
Cheshie6 You worry too much. You're going to give yourself an ulcer. I admit I do! And I get mad at myself after...
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Post by starbuck on Jun 21, 2019 10:59:36 GMT -6
Cheshie6 You worry too much. You're going to give yourself an ulcer. I admit I do! And I get mad at myself after... Everyone does this sometimes, they key is to not heap all this anxiety on the minutia of L's development and give him some kind of complex lol The milestones are an average, meaning that normal is a wide range. Skills can appear on either side of that average and everything is still normal. Kids' abilities are a constellation. There are big ability differences between the twins. The luxury of having two (aha! finally a benefit) is that I can see a lot of these differences are driven by personality. By all accounts, he's making great strides. Don't get caught up in how many months/days/minutes behind he is in some areas. Progress is happening! If your team tells you he is catching up and doing well and they are happy, try to accept that. The laziness is just a thing kids do. W tries to tell me he "doesn't know" where his back teeth are and can't brush anything but the front. And he still can't reliably wipe his ass. But I mean my husband pulls this "idk how to do that" shit too, so...
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Post by elle on Jun 21, 2019 11:40:34 GMT -6
A asks for help all.the.time, especially when she doesn't need it. Like when I ask her to put her blocks away, there's a lot of whining "heeelllllppp" because she doesn't want to do it all. Little stinker. There are other times when she's feeling insecure or unsure and wants help too, even when I know she's perfectly capable. Sometimes I gently push to get her to try on her own because I know small successes will build her confidence. But it's definitely a balancing act.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 21, 2019 15:36:37 GMT -6
Yes. Toddlers are lazy AF.
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Post by cookswithwine on Jun 21, 2019 15:49:54 GMT -6
Not helpful Cheshie6 but O is the opposite. He wants to do EVERYTHING himself even if he doesn’t have the ability. It’s frusterating in a diff way bc I’m just like let me help you! And if I do help he freaks out and we have to reset so he can do it all by himself.
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