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Post by quinstar on Jun 21, 2019 14:17:18 GMT -6
I forgot that I got a couple stys with DS1 when he was a baby. They' happened again and I currently have two, on my right eye, top and bottom.
It hurts.
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Post by courtniko on Jun 22, 2019 7:02:25 GMT -6
DH's company is having a summer party at a beach club today. I am 6 weeks pp today, but don't have my 6 week check till Tuesday. I have not had any bleeding for about 3 weeks. I am guessing that to be safe I should not go in the pool or the ocean above my thighs? I know I am probably ok, but risking an infection would not be worth it.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 24, 2019 11:51:15 GMT -6
DH's company is having a summer party at a beach club today. I am 6 weeks pp today, but don't have my 6 week check till Tuesday. I have not had any bleeding for about 3 weeks. I am guessing that to be safe I should not go in the pool or the ocean above my thighs? I know I am probably ok, but risking an infection would not be worth it. I would probably go in.. idk that's a tough one right on the border.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 24, 2019 11:52:50 GMT -6
Is everyone breastfeeding? I'm going back and Forth with switching to formula. I breastfed my son until he weaned at 42 months so I feel such tremendous guilt over the decision. But our life is so much different now and I want some freedom back and to escape the isolation and dread I have been feeling thinking about nursing.
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Post by sunny75 on Jun 24, 2019 14:48:10 GMT -6
Is everyone breastfeeding? I'm going back and Forth with switching to formula. I breastfed my son until he weaned at 42 months so I feel such tremendous guilt over the decision. But our life is so much different now and I want some freedom back and to escape the isolation and dread I have been feeling thinking about nursing. Yes I'm breastfeeding but I feel the same way a lot of the time. Do you not like breastfeeding in public? I've done it a few times but it's not something I feel super comfortable with. I find myself not wanting to go places I'll have to breastfeed at but then I also don't want to start missing out on the activities I do with my older DD. Being able to just give DS a bottle would be nice. I'm thinking about seeing how DS does with the bottle after I go back to work and then just going from there. Whichever you decide you definitely don't need to feel any guilt over though! That's amazing that your BF your older one for that long but your baby will be just fine with whatever you choose to do this time around.
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Post by mamabear02 on Jun 24, 2019 18:29:20 GMT -6
Is everyone breastfeeding? I'm going back and Forth with switching to formula. I breastfed my son until he weaned at 42 months so I feel such tremendous guilt over the decision. But our life is so much different now and I want some freedom back and to escape the isolation and dread I have been feeling thinking about nursing. I ff ds1. Currently I’m bfing O but the cluster feeding and needing a boob to sleep is killing me. We’ll probably keep it up but it’s definitely a different experience. The worst part of formula was all the bottles that wouldn’t have been necessary otherwise since I sah.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 24, 2019 19:12:40 GMT -6
Is everyone breastfeeding? I'm going back and Forth with switching to formula. I breastfed my son until he weaned at 42 months so I feel such tremendous guilt over the decision. But our life is so much different now and I want some freedom back and to escape the isolation and dread I have been feeling thinking about nursing. Yes I'm breastfeeding but I feel the same way a lot of the time. Do you not like breastfeeding in public? I've done it a few times but it's not something I feel super comfortable with. I find myself not wanting to go places I'll have to breastfeed at but then I also don't want to start missing out on the activities I do with my older DD. Being able to just give DS a bottle would be nice. I'm thinking about seeing how DS does with the bottle after I go back to work and then just going from there. Whichever you decide you definitely don't need to feel any guilt over though! That's amazing that your BF your older one for that long but your baby will be just fine with whatever you choose to do this time around. It's not so much that I don't like to do it in public.. it's that it takes so damn long. I feel like people are going to think I'm nuts if I take F to his 45 minute karate lesson and the baby is breastfeeding the entire damn time lol. I feel like wth FF it's much more flexible and on the go. I actually Bought a can of formula so I can use it when I want and try to let go of some of my self imposed mom guilt over it. I was crazy over BF DS1 so I feel weird about being so ok with formula this time around. Like I have to give her the same benefits or I'm selfish or something. If things go like they did last time I will get my period back super early and my supply will take a hit. I feel like that will be the perfect get out of jail card for myself lol.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 24, 2019 19:14:50 GMT -6
Is everyone breastfeeding? I'm going back and Forth with switching to formula. I breastfed my son until he weaned at 42 months so I feel such tremendous guilt over the decision. But our life is so much different now and I want some freedom back and to escape the isolation and dread I have been feeling thinking about nursing. I ff ds1. Currently I’m bfing O but the cluster feeding and needing a boob to sleep is killing me. We’ll probably keep it up but it’s definitely a different experience. The worst part of formula was all the bottles that wouldn’t have been necessary otherwise since I sah. I ended up having to use a pacifier. She loves to just comfort nurse and my nipples were so raw and cracked bc her damn mouth is so small that I couldn't do it. I was literally crying everytime she latched for like 3 days and I was snapping at H lol
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Post by mamabear02 on Jun 24, 2019 19:23:40 GMT -6
I ff ds1. Currently I’m bfing O but the cluster feeding and needing a boob to sleep is killing me. We’ll probably keep it up but it’s definitely a different experience. The worst part of formula was all the bottles that wouldn’t have been necessary otherwise since I sah. I ended up having to use a pacifier. She loves to just comfort nurse and my nipples were so raw and cracked bc her damn mouth is so small that I couldn't do it. I was literally crying everytime she latched for like 3 days and I was snapping at H lol The raw and cracked nipples is exactly why I quit with DS1, and that was with a pacifier. I’m trying to wait the 4 weeks “they” recommend for the pacifier this time, but have been very tempted to see if it helps the constant feeding for 5 seconds just to fall asleep and then wake up and do it over again as soon as I put my boob away.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 24, 2019 19:29:12 GMT -6
I ended up having to use a pacifier. She loves to just comfort nurse and my nipples were so raw and cracked bc her damn mouth is so small that I couldn't do it. I was literally crying everytime she latched for like 3 days and I was snapping at H lol The raw and cracked nipples is exactly why I quit with DS1, and that was with a pacifier. I’m trying to wait the 4 weeks “they” recommend for the pacifier this time, but have been very tempted to see if it helps the constant feeding for 5 seconds just to fall asleep and then wake up and do it over again as soon as I put my boob away. I introduced in the hospital this time. Then she lost 11% of birth weight and I took it away lol. But once I got home it was ether use a pacifier and still try and protect supply as best I can or quit altogether bc the pain was that severe. She doesn't have any ties from what I can see. Her mouth is just small and I cannot get her to latch deep for the life of me. So now what I do is let her nurse until the active suck and swallow is consistently more comfort suckling and sleeping and then I unlatch her and replace with pacifier. She is peeing and pooping a ton so hopefully her weight will be ok when we go in a couple weeks. If not, it is what it is and we will go to formula. I just can't be prisoner to the couch and constant feeding like I did with F. Back then I didn't have anything to stop me from camping out on the couch for 6 weeks lol.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 24, 2019 19:30:52 GMT -6
On a side note, I'm sad our board is so slow already.
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Post by courtniko on Jun 24, 2019 19:32:20 GMT -6
Is everyone breastfeeding? I'm going back and Forth with switching to formula. I breastfed my son until he weaned at 42 months so I feel such tremendous guilt over the decision. But our life is so much different now and I want some freedom back and to escape the isolation and dread I have been feeling thinking about nursing. That is awesome you breastfed your DS for so long! I am breastfeeding. For me it is easier than dealing with making and cleaning bottles and such. At about 2 weeks it got A LOT easier, no longer painful at all, and quicker. But I also have my other 2 in daycare, so I can concentrate on the baby. And my work is very supportive of pumping, so hopefully I can continue once I go back to work. I do hate breastfeeding in public, and always fear someone making a comment, but I try to not let that stop me.
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Post by mamabear02 on Jun 26, 2019 17:39:44 GMT -6
sammysam, today was the day for you, right? I hope all went/is going well!
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Post by courtniko on Jun 27, 2019 19:43:36 GMT -6
The post partum hair loss has started. I dont remember it starting this early before.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 28, 2019 13:06:27 GMT -6
On a side note, I'm sad our board is so slow already. I used to be a PW. But Lordy lord 2 kids is hard man. But they are BOTH asleep. Hi errrrbody Girl hard is an understatement!! I feel like I'm drowning. I wanna get back to my busy on the go life and it just doesn't seem possible.
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Post by mamabear02 on Jun 28, 2019 14:00:27 GMT -6
I used to be a PW. But Lordy lord 2 kids is hard man. But they are BOTH asleep. Hi errrrbody Girl hard is an understatement!! I feel like I'm drowning. I wanna get back to my busy on the go life and it just doesn't seem possible. Agreed. I have even had mil here the whole time and as much as I hate guests, I am terrified for her to leave because even with her help of entertaining the big kid, I still feel like I’m failing. We have been able to get out with her help though so that has helped my mood I’m sure.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 28, 2019 14:29:47 GMT -6
I'm glad I'm not alone. I feel like such a shit mom honestly.
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 28, 2019 14:31:17 GMT -6
My H texted me today that MiL was going to come over in the morning to take over so I could sleep and to make some bottles for her. Which I responded to with what why? I haven't decided what I am doing feeding wise and so I don't want to do a bunch of formula and I also don't want to pump. So now he's all grumpy bc he was trying to help me and I rejected it. I feel bad.
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Post by sunny75 on Jun 29, 2019 10:00:48 GMT -6
My H texted me today that MiL was going to come over in the morning to take over so I could sleep and to make some bottles for her. Which I responded to with what why? I haven't decided what I am doing feeding wise and so I don't want to do a bunch of formula and I also don't want to pump. So now he's all grumpy bc he was trying to help me and I rejected it. I feel bad. I wouldn't feel bad! I appreciate help but no thanks to somebody giving a bottle to my baby before I'm ready. I would just let your H know other ways he and his mom can help.
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Post by sunny75 on Jun 29, 2019 10:07:52 GMT -6
Add me to the feeling like a shit mom club lol. My mom came go pick up my DD the other day to give me a break and DD was so excited to leave she didn't even tell me bye, just walked out the door so fast. I know she's been really bored and it makes me feel so guilty.
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Post by sunny75 on Jun 29, 2019 10:10:35 GMT -6
The only plus side to being insanely busy and constantly breastfeeding is I'm already back to my pre pregnancy weight and actually a little below that. I had a really hard time losing weight after my first baby so this has been nice!
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 29, 2019 10:17:24 GMT -6
The only plus side to being insanely busy and constantly breastfeeding is I'm already back to my pre pregnancy weight and actually a little below that. I had a really hard time losing weight after my first baby so this has been nice! Me too and I've been eating carbs like crazy so I'm going to enjoy this while it lasts lol.!
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Post by lolacachia on Jun 29, 2019 10:18:15 GMT -6
My H texted me today that MiL was going to come over in the morning to take over so I could sleep and to make some bottles for her. Which I responded to with what why? I haven't decided what I am doing feeding wise and so I don't want to do a bunch of formula and I also don't want to pump. So now he's all grumpy bc he was trying to help me and I rejected it. I feel bad. I wouldn't feel bad! I appreciate help but no thanks to somebody giving a bottle to my baby before I'm ready. I would just let your H know other ways he and his mom can help. I need to let go and just start combo feeding at this point. I miss struggling with mental health and feeling overwhelmed and trapped. I just feel some weird obligation to BF right now.
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Post by bonzo on Jun 30, 2019 16:43:38 GMT -6
Hey everyone! Sorry I’ve been MIA from here this month. This first month has been hard, and I’m only recently starting to feel like I can take a mental break to go online.
We struggled with breastfeeding a lot at first, but H has been really supportive and encouraging. It’s getting a lot easier now. It helps that DS is finally sleeping slightly longer stretches at night, instead of needing to eat every 2 hours round the clock. The cluster feeding is the hardest thing during the day.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 1, 2019 7:01:08 GMT -6
I started combo feeding right from the start. I was really worried my milk wasn't going to come in again and I didn't want LO to suffer like DD1. I was using a tube attached to my beast but magically my milk came in so I switched over to a bottle yesterday when she started fighting the tube and it went perfectly! I love knowing LO will take a bottle of formula if I can't BF her for some reason. I only give formula during the day if she just isn't being satisfied by the amount of milk I have, but I fully intend to continue giving formula for MOTN feeding. That way both she and DD1 (and me and anyone else in the house) get a good night sleep.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 1, 2019 7:05:14 GMT -6
mamabear02 Sorry for not seeing your post earlier (I am slowly emerging from my RCS recovery cocoon). Things went really well on the 26th. She is a little peanut compared to DD1...around 19" and 7.5 lbs at 39+2 but super calm and super sweet with the best temperament...at least so far:)
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Post by courtniko on Jul 1, 2019 9:29:46 GMT -6
bonzo, glad you are getting some longer stretches of sleep, and your husband is being supportive! I fully understand being overwhelmed at first, and not keeping up with being online. Glad to see you back though!
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Post by courtniko on Jul 1, 2019 9:31:12 GMT -6
sammysam, sounds like you have a great feeding plan that works for you! That is so awesome, and so good for releasing some mental load.
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Post by sunny75 on Jul 1, 2019 12:58:25 GMT -6
bonzo, I'm glad to see you back! That's great that breastfeeding is getting better!
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Post by sunny75 on Jul 1, 2019 13:01:31 GMT -6
sammysam I'm glad to hear the combo feeding is working well for you! I'm going to try to move to combo feeding as well since I go back to work in a couple of weeks. I'm actually planning on giving DS a bottle for the first time tonight so fingers crossed it goes smoothly! How did your RCS go?
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