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Post by cmb on Mar 6, 2019 17:06:55 GMT -6
So basically trying to get pregnant now and potentially having a new baby when J turns 3 is a terrible terrible idea? Cool cool cool. I mean, I have less than a 2.5 year gap and will again so it’s not that bad 🤣
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Post by billyhorrible on Mar 6, 2019 18:37:54 GMT -6
Yes. Fuck age 3. DD is very much a horrible 3. It happened almost overnight but my sweet girl turned into a defiant, angry monster. Just wait until 4... it’s worse No way. 4 is the beginning of the best! My first turned into the world's easiest child at 4. To make up for the absolute worst year ever when he was 3.
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Post by quinstar on Mar 6, 2019 19:42:02 GMT -6
I'll have a 25 month gap, I hope it works well. It's scary going from 1 to 2. I feel like DS is starting to be able to keep himself mildly happy for short stretches, even though he's deep in tantrums. I don't think he'll give a hoot about the baby for a while, he's too busy. I'm hoping we can all just play outside all summer.
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Post by cmb on Mar 6, 2019 19:48:25 GMT -6
Just wait until 4... it’s worse No way. 4 is the beginning of the best! My first turned into the world's easiest child at 4. To make up for the absolute worst year ever when he was 3. I think part of our issue is we have the threenager attitude and not listening. Considering he was mostly nonverbal, he’s probably playing catch up 😪
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Post by lupincat on Mar 6, 2019 21:22:58 GMT -6
No way. 4 is the beginning of the best! My first turned into the world's easiest child at 4. To make up for the absolute worst year ever when he was 3. I think part of our issue is we have the threenager attitude and not listening. Considering he was mostly nonverbal, he’s probably playing catch up 😪 I’m amazed at how bossy DS1 at home is despite his apraxia. I’ve lost count how many times I’ve had to remind him who’s actually in charge here.
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Mar 6, 2019 21:52:39 GMT -6
My oldest is 4 and she's amazing. My 3 year old is crazy AF. I dread my baby turning 2.... I assume it's personality related so there is hope! Right?!?
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 7, 2019 7:31:35 GMT -6
Girl. Where you been? What have you been up to? How is the family? Helloooo! I’ve been trying to navigate the whole breadwinner with small human to take care of world. Some days I pass some days I fail Family is wonderful, I just need to find the pause button! No clue where these 18 months went. How about you? I need to stalk for pictures! We are good. DD just turned 3. I feel like these are both the longest and shortest days of my life. lol.
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Post by pepperpottsj on Mar 7, 2019 9:16:48 GMT -6
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Post by piratecat on Mar 10, 2019 19:52:39 GMT -6
Girl. Where you been? What have you been up to? How is the family? Helloooo! I’ve been trying to navigate the whole breadwinner with small human to take care of world. Some days I pass some days I fail Family is wonderful, I just need to find the pause button! No clue where these 18 months went. How about you? I need to stalk for pictures! I bet you are actually killing it.
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Post by gingy on Mar 11, 2019 8:41:53 GMT -6
I took DS to his 18mo well check this morning. We stopped at Panera after since he missed breakfast at school. When he decided he was done, he tried to push the high chair away and instead knocked over the entire table. Spilled my huge coffee and the dishes. Another mom walked by and saw it and said, "Oh, momma, happy daylight savings," and gave me a hug lol. They gave me a new coffee, thank GOD. I was so happy to take him to school.
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Post by piratecat on Mar 11, 2019 8:53:58 GMT -6
I took DS to his 18mo well check this morning. We stopped at Panera after since he missed breakfast at school. When he decided he was done, he tried to push the high chair away and instead knocked over the entire table. Spilled my huge coffee and the dishes. Another mom walked by and saw it and said, "Oh, momma, happy daylight savings," and gave me a hug lol. They gave me a new coffee, thank GOD. I was so happy to take him to school. Oh my! Our daycare is closed for teacher training today. H and I are both home, taking turns with the kid and working half days. H's watching him for the morning while I work and my gosh, the non-stop whine-talking is too much. And my poor H has to stay home with him again tomorrow.
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Post by gingy on Mar 11, 2019 9:20:24 GMT -6
I took DS to his 18mo well check this morning. We stopped at Panera after since he missed breakfast at school. When he decided he was done, he tried to push the high chair away and instead knocked over the entire table. Spilled my huge coffee and the dishes. Another mom walked by and saw it and said, "Oh, momma, happy daylight savings," and gave me a hug lol. They gave me a new coffee, thank GOD. I was so happy to take him to school. Oh my! Our daycare is closed for teacher training today. H and I are both home, taking turns with the kid and working half days. H's watching him for the morning while I work and my gosh, the non-stop whine-talking is too much. And my poor H has to stay home with him again tomorrow. Bless y'all. I love that because his daycare is university-affiliated, they follow the same schedule as us. They'll never be out while I have to work. But that also means the reverse is true. So once a month or so, I take a day off to be home alone.
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 11, 2019 9:24:34 GMT -6
I took DS to his 18mo well check this morning. We stopped at Panera after since he missed breakfast at school. When he decided he was done, he tried to push the high chair away and instead knocked over the entire table. Spilled my huge coffee and the dishes. Another mom walked by and saw it and said, "Oh, momma, happy daylight savings," and gave me a hug lol. They gave me a new coffee, thank GOD. I was so happy to take him to school. That is one strong 18 month old!
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Post by gingy on Mar 11, 2019 9:31:13 GMT -6
I took DS to his 18mo well check this morning. We stopped at Panera after since he missed breakfast at school. When he decided he was done, he tried to push the high chair away and instead knocked over the entire table. Spilled my huge coffee and the dishes. Another mom walked by and saw it and said, "Oh, momma, happy daylight savings," and gave me a hug lol. They gave me a new coffee, thank GOD. I was so happy to take him to school. That is one strong 18 month old! He is pretty impressive. He has a hell of a grip when trying to pry away something he's not supposed to have. I told his teacher when we finally got to school, and they started calling him Superman.
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Post by cmb on Mar 13, 2019 12:16:48 GMT -6
DS1’s tonsil reduction surgery is on Friday. They’re fully aware that he’s not going to cooperate with getting the IV or being taken from us while awake. It’s normal to be a complete nervous wreck about this, right?
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Post by piratecat on Mar 13, 2019 12:22:12 GMT -6
DS1’s tonsil reduction surgery is on Friday. They’re fully aware that he’s not going to cooperate with getting the IV or being taken from us while awake. It’s normal to be a complete nervous wreck about this, right? Can/will they give him something to relax first? Will you be able to stay with him during pre-op?
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 13, 2019 12:25:14 GMT -6
DS1’s tonsil reduction surgery is on Friday. They’re fully aware that he’s not going to cooperate with getting the IV or being taken from us while awake. It’s normal to be a complete nervous wreck about this, right? I know I would be. Even if it's routine it's normal to be worried about the "what ifs".
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Post by gingy on Mar 13, 2019 12:25:17 GMT -6
DS1’s tonsil reduction surgery is on Friday. They’re fully aware that he’s not going to cooperate with getting the IV or being taken from us while awake. It’s normal to be a complete nervous wreck about this, right? I have absolutely no experience with this, but I would be a nervous wreck too! Love to you and your DS.
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Post by cmb on Mar 14, 2019 4:01:55 GMT -6
DS1’s tonsil reduction surgery is on Friday. They’re fully aware that he’s not going to cooperate with getting the IV or being taken from us while awake. It’s normal to be a complete nervous wreck about this, right? Can/will they give him something to relax first? Will you be able to stay with him during pre-op? They’ll give him something once there. We won’t be able to go back once it’s time for him to go under general. My H will be taking him. We still don’t know the time, which I think also has my anxiety even higher (we have to fast him starting at midnight no matter the procedure time, and if he doesn’t have an early morning procedure, it’s going to be a nightmare). I’ll be joining up once I take DS2 to daycare or via separate car since I’ll need to pick up DS2.
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Post by piratecat on Mar 14, 2019 6:33:07 GMT -6
Can/will they give him something to relax first? Will you be able to stay with him during pre-op? They’ll give him something once there. We won’t be able to go back once it’s time for him to go under general. My H will be taking him. We still don’t know the time, which I think also has my anxiety even higher (we have to fast him starting at midnight no matter the procedure time, and if he doesn’t have an early morning procedure, it’s going to be a nightmare). I’ll be joining up once I take DS2 to daycare or via separate car since I’ll need to pick up DS2. Ugh, I hope they can take him first thing in the morning. How would they expect a small child to go without food? Not knowing when the procedure is and being able to plan around it would make me anxious too. We'll be thinking of you tomorrow - please keep us posted when you can.
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Post by cmb on Mar 14, 2019 13:49:35 GMT -6
They’ll give him something once there. We won’t be able to go back once it’s time for him to go under general. My H will be taking him. We still don’t know the time, which I think also has my anxiety even higher (we have to fast him starting at midnight no matter the procedure time, and if he doesn’t have an early morning procedure, it’s going to be a nightmare). I’ll be joining up once I take DS2 to daycare or via separate car since I’ll need to pick up DS2. Ugh, I hope they can take him first thing in the morning. How would they expect a small child to go without food? Not knowing when the procedure is and being able to plan around it would make me anxious too. We'll be thinking of you tomorrow - please keep us posted when you can. He won’t go back until 11am. Da fuq? They know he’s 4. They know he’s ASD. Who the hell schedules that kind of kid in the late morning when forced to fast after midnight
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Post by piratecat on Mar 14, 2019 14:18:27 GMT -6
Ugh, I hope they can take him first thing in the morning. How would they expect a small child to go without food? Not knowing when the procedure is and being able to plan around it would make me anxious too. We'll be thinking of you tomorrow - please keep us posted when you can. He won’t go back until 11am. Da fuq? They know he’s 4. They know he’s ASD. Who the hell schedules that kind of kid in the late morning when forced to fast after midnight Ugh, I'm sorry, that's awful. My kid wakes up starving so that would be really really hard.
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Post by piratecat on Mar 15, 2019 5:52:30 GMT -6
cmb thinking of you and your son! I hope all goes well with the procedure!
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Post by notblanche on Mar 15, 2019 6:08:25 GMT -6
I'm thinking of you all today, cmb!
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 15, 2019 6:18:13 GMT -6
Good luck today cmb. I hope the waiting time goes by fast.
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Post by cmb on Mar 15, 2019 8:56:53 GMT -6
They gave him Versed, and them taking him back was still so awful. He screamed and cried so much. The only saving grace is he isn’t going to remember doing so. We’re waiting now. He should be done around 11:30/11:45.
I complained to the patient relation director about his scheduling time. She promised to look into it and at their procedures about it.
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Post by cmb on Mar 15, 2019 12:34:40 GMT -6
We’re home. He doesn’t remember anything. He keeps asking “so, when are we getting my tonsils out?”
Waking up from the general was a nightmare. He was completely inconsolable until DH got on the interstate (we didn’t know how long we’d be there so we took separate cars in case I needed to leave to get DS2).
ENT said his throat was about 80% obstructed, so he’s hopeful this was the cause of his sleep apnea and that this will make things better for him
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Post by thechickencoop on Mar 16, 2019 11:27:11 GMT -6
cmb I'm glad it went well and you guys are home! How's he doing today?
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Post by cmb on Mar 16, 2019 13:18:15 GMT -6
cmb I'm glad it went well and you guys are home! How's he doing today? Thanks for asking! He seems to be doing okay as long as he lets us give him Advil. He fights meds so much, that adhering to a strict schedule is as difficult as expected. As long as he has pain meds in his system and working, he’s happy and playing. He is tiring easily, which is to be expected. He doesn’t seem to remember anything from getting to the hospital until after he woke from his nap, which is good, since it was a pretty awful experience on our end. I’m happy to report that he has already stopped snoring and that his speech is already more coherent! He looked more rested this morning, despite waking up and needing meds MOTN, than I’ve seen him in a long time (like, half of his 4 year old life).
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Post by cmb on Mar 17, 2019 4:50:08 GMT -6
@starzia thank you. If it helps, there was a little girl there that went in right before and got out shortly after DS1 that was as calm as can be. She happily left with the anesthesiologists and only cried at wake up when she saw DS1 thrashing about. I believe she had tubes done.
For most kids, Versed works really well and they’re basically asleep before being wheeled back. I just don’t have a typical child. It was clear the anesthesiologists didn’t expect him to still be so anxious when time came, but we’re talking about a kid with severe separation anxiety that relies on strict routine by the same people
They had warned me some kids wake up angry, but that didn’t prepare me in the slightest for what emergence delirium is like.
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