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Post by dashook on Feb 8, 2019 21:02:59 GMT -6
thelittleredm tomorrow there will be wine! This is so pathetic but I have to have it during the day or not at all, since V’s bedtime is my bedtime (because he won’t sleep anywhere but with me in my bed). But since tomorrow is Saturday and DH will be around to help with the kids, I definitely plan to open a bottle of sauv blanc. I’m also thinking about a pedicure tomorrow morning. I last got one 2 days before V was born and it’s definitely time to refresh.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 8, 2019 21:08:00 GMT -6
dashook, Ooh, yes. Get the pedicure! I always get one and pay extra for extra leg massage time.
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Post by k on Feb 9, 2019 7:58:32 GMT -6
Our friends graciously just picked up the boys to take them to the children’s museum 🙌. I should be cleaning the house for my aunt and uncle who are coming over later...but I’m just laying in bed drinking coffee.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 9, 2019 8:11:26 GMT -6
Our friends graciously just picked up the boys to take them to the children’s museum 🙌. I should be cleaning the house for my aunt and uncle who are coming over later...but I’m just laying in bed drinking coffee. I wish I could do that. I have to work again this weekend and I'm so tired. So, in a half-assed attempt to see how my body would respond to sex at this stage in the game, H and I stayed up late and had sex. To be fair, I was also starting to feel guilty knowing we haven't had sex in 2 months and there would be none for at least 6 weeks after A arrives. Anyway. I expected to be crampy with a contraction or two afterward based on previous experiences but that was not the case this time. My contractions were on top of each other and I had to walk around and focus my breath for a good 30 minutes before they paced out and finally died out. Maybe it got me to a 5 LOL But in the moment, all I could do was question whether I was actually ready to be in labor or not. Answer. I am.
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Post by dashook on Feb 9, 2019 10:02:10 GMT -6
Update on MH snd the kids clothing bins fiasco.
It came up organically this morning and I was very calm saying that I had been down there and dug through all the bins for the 3 month stuff. I also mentioned that I would need to reorganize them at some point because they’re all mixed together. He responded that it’s because he had washed all of them. I said, okay but when they were in the boxes they were organized by gender and age. He said, yes they were very organized but then I had to wash them all and I only had 4 weeks.
So. This MF is acknowledging that the clothes *were* organized but that he just didn’t GAF and purposely comingled them for washing purposes. And apparently washing them one box at a time would have taken more than 4 weeks 🤔
Somehow this didn’t devolve into a fight. I think it’s because I’ve accepted that it’s not even worth talking to him about this anymore. He clearly thinks what he did was logical and fine.
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Post by dashook on Feb 9, 2019 10:11:18 GMT -6
Oh okay so apparently he is going to fix this himself. By doing something that is going to take 5 x’s as long and not actually help that much.
I FUCKING CAN’T WITH THIS.
He just told me he is going to go through the bins and sort them into girl stuff, boy + neutral stuff, and “right now” stuff (guess he missed the part where I told him I already got the 3 month stuff out). I told him that it would be more helpful if he sorted everything by size—even if boy and girl stuff were still mixed—because then at least I only have to dig through one bin and can easily extract the boy stuff without having to look at every tag.
Nope. Apparently that will be his second step after he does this completely asinine first stage of reorganization. So now I get to look forward to having to search through several bins marked “boy” with every size from newborn to 3T any time I want clothes for V, until DH gets around to stage two (assuming he ever does) which I’m telling him makes more sense to do now.
Really it shouldn’t even matter what he wants to do because he is never going to be the one who has to actually put his shitty “system” into practice. It’s all going to fall on me so the very least he could do would be to make it easier for me as I am communicating to him that I wish he would do.
I’m starting to understand why the divorce rates climb when kids arrive.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 9, 2019 10:29:21 GMT -6
@amc perfect GIF usage. dashook I’m sorry! My parents took DD for the weekend so I can rest and hopefully get over my cold and cough before this baby comes. I had big plans to do our taxes and make freezer meals but instead I’m going to spend as much time as possible relaxing. So far I’ve only gotten up off the sofa to eat. My body really needed this!
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Post by k on Feb 9, 2019 10:30:35 GMT -6
dashook I think this means you should just start over and buy all new clothes.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 9, 2019 10:42:55 GMT -6
dashook, I know I keep saying that we have the same H but seriously. That is exactly what mine would think would be the best process for fixing the organization. For. Real. Part of me wants to be happy that at least he plans on fixing it but.....why be so dumb??
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Post by dashook on Feb 9, 2019 11:26:50 GMT -6
@amc lol exactly 😂 notagoddess that sounds amazing—enjoy the R&R!
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Post by dashook on Feb 9, 2019 11:29:45 GMT -6
I think V might be hitting another growth spurt. He hit the 3 week one early so I guess it would make sense that he’d hit this one early too.
I thought they were supposed to eat more AND sleep more though. He’s been awake almost the entire morning though. Looks like he might be one of those babies that you have to encourage/enforce naptimes for.
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Post by k on Feb 9, 2019 11:32:42 GMT -6
I just weighed B and she is 10.4 lbs 😳. This growing business is bittersweet.
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 9, 2019 12:41:33 GMT -6
How's your boy this morning, CharlieB? Last night DD's symptoms crossed the line from "probably fine to wait and see" to "better go get her checked out to be on the safe side," so we went to the children's hospital ER last night after my boys went to bed. Thankfully her swabs for flu and RSV came back negative, and her breathing and O2 sats were ok, so we were cleared to go home after a couple of hours. Ah, I’m so sorry that you guys had to visit the ER, but what a relief that her swabs were negative and she didn’t need to be admitted. Is she doing ok today? Good news from our trip to the pedi: B is back up to birth weight plus half an ounce! 🎉 Bad news: He had to be suctioned which breaks my heart for him. His O2 looked great after, but we have to go in if he has more rapid breathing or if he stops eating. I’m packing an overnight bag just to be prepared this time. He couldn’t sleep flat last night and he’s still too small for his swing and rnp (he gets all slouched and makes me nervous), so it looks like we have some evenings of sleeping in the glider ahead of us.
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Post by wildflowers on Feb 9, 2019 12:47:49 GMT -6
I am having a rough day. DS was up what seemed like all night fussing and couldn't get comfortable. He hates the swing, anything else that isn't my body, and apparently the moby wrap.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Feb 9, 2019 13:27:52 GMT -6
Sorry ladies that are having unhelpful husbands right now. I hope your husband’s step up! Newborn life is tough enough with two people both sharing equally.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 9, 2019 13:52:46 GMT -6
Working on Saturdays always sucks but at least I have most of my thank you cards written and only a few left to write that I didn't get done because I'm missing a list.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 9, 2019 16:22:55 GMT -6
Hahahahaha! I saw this and thought of you dashook.
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Post by sunshiney on Feb 9, 2019 16:39:46 GMT -6
Love tits for support! Oh my goodness so much love to you guys dealing with unhelpful husband's who think they're helpful and sick babies!!
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 9, 2019 16:44:42 GMT -6
What’s everyone watching these days? I’m almost done with The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel (highly recommend) and I need something new in the lineup.
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Post by sunshiney on Feb 9, 2019 16:45:35 GMT -6
Got dolled up this morning and spent hours taking maternity photos...DH is a great amateur photographer, and we were both nervous it would be stressful but it turned out to be the sweetest, non rushed experience. He made me feel really pretty and sexy (this from the guy who told me a month or two ago that sorry he just doesn't see me as sexy anymore at this point in the pregnancy) and made me wish we'd done it earlier too, I think he really was able to appreciate the beauty of pregnancy finally and I'm really excited to see the results when he finishes editing! I will say that it was a massive work out at 37.5 weeksto even stand in place or sit cross legged and whatnot! We're going to try some more when the lighting's good ahead with some cute props and maybe his hands in them.
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Post by k on Feb 9, 2019 16:55:39 GMT -6
Got dolled up this morning and spent hours taking maternity photos...DH is a great amateur photographer, and we were both nervous it would be stressful but it turned out to be the sweetest, non rushed experience. He made me feel really pretty and sexy (this from the guy who told me a month or two ago that sorry he just doesn't see me as sexy anymore at this point in the pregnancy) and made me wish we'd done it earlier too, I think he really was able to appreciate the beauty of pregnancy finally and I'm really excited to see the results when he finishes editing! I will say that it was a massive work out at 37.5 weeksto even stand in place or sit cross legged and whatnot! We're going to try some more when the lighting's good ahead with some cute props and maybe his hands in them. Pics?!
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 9, 2019 17:08:45 GMT -6
sunshiney, How wonderful! I'm so glad you guys had such a successful time together. CharlieB, What kind of shows do you like?
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Post by sunshiney on Feb 9, 2019 17:10:59 GMT -6
k DH is working on it!! Haven't posted a single picture of myself on this site yet but I'm really excited about them and I think it's time
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 9, 2019 18:10:27 GMT -6
A letter to my H,
Physicality is your love language and not mine. But I insisted on sex last night to help fill your love tank before I'm going to be recovering from shoving a baby out of my vagina and sex will definitely be off the table. Admittedly, I was also hoping it would motivate you to be more helpful around the house.
The fact that you called me to tell me you were going to go on a Pokemon Go raid with your mom instead of picking up the kids or even just cleaning the house without them there is proof that plan was fucking useless. How is that not something that crosses your mind to do when I've been doing it after work all week without you??
Sincerely, You have some serious ass-kissing to do tonight.
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 9, 2019 18:50:39 GMT -6
sunshiney, How wonderful! I'm so glad you guys had such a successful time together. CharlieB, What kind of shows do you like? I like a pretty wide variety, but nothing scary. Recently, we’ve watched The Magicians, Letterkenny, and The Resident.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 9, 2019 18:53:50 GMT -6
sunshiney, How wonderful! I'm so glad you guys had such a successful time together. CharlieB, What kind of shows do you like? I like a pretty wide variety, but nothing scary. Recently, we’ve watched The Magicians, Letterkenny, and The Resident. Have you checked out Single Parents? It's hysterical but so easy to relate to, even as married parents. Also, if you enjoy cop shows, Brooklyn 99 is on point for a good balance of funny and relatable and The Rookie is an excellent, more serious type.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 9, 2019 19:03:22 GMT -6
I’ve been having contractions for 3 hours now. They’re regular but not super painful. Last time, when they started, that was it and I knew right away. But this time, while they hurt, it’s not nearly as painful as last time. So IDK. Ahh!
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 9, 2019 19:20:37 GMT -6
I like a pretty wide variety, but nothing scary. Recently, we’ve watched The Magicians, Letterkenny, and The Resident. Have you checked out Single Parents? It's hysterical but so easy to relate to, even as married parents. Also, if you enjoy cop shows, Brooklyn 99 is on point for a good balance of funny and relatable and The Rookie is an excellent, more serious type. I started watching Brooklyn 99 a while ago and completely forgot, but it was funny. Thanks for the recommendations! I’ll have to check these out while I’m glued to this chair.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 9, 2019 19:21:55 GMT -6
notagoddess, How timeable are they? Dealing with mine starting and stopping over the last week, I've stopped caring about intensity and have decided just to care about timing. I've always been able to talk pretty well through contractions and I'm always scoring pain levels lower than they probably should be.
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 9, 2019 19:22:23 GMT -6
I’ve been having contractions for 3 hours now. They’re regular but not super painful. Last time, when they started, that was it and I knew right away. But this time, while they hurt, it’s not nearly as painful as last time. So IDK. Ahh! This is exciting!!
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