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Post by notagoddess on Feb 5, 2019 8:13:56 GMT -6
@amc it’s been 115-120 just sitting there doing nothing. Normally it’s been around 100-105.
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Post by k on Feb 5, 2019 9:55:59 GMT -6
We are also 99% sure we done, funny how many of us are 99%! No permanent BC here yet. DH will get a V eventually-probably when B is 1-2. Until then we will use nursing ,condoms and my personal favorite-abstinence as BC.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 5, 2019 10:00:03 GMT -6
k, right!? H told me to get rid of my maternity clothes that don't fit anymore, but I'm not ready. I would hate to end up in that 1% and need to buy all of them again!
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Post by k on Feb 5, 2019 10:14:01 GMT -6
I think no matter what we choose, I'm always going to feel the pull to have "just one more baby." It's so bittersweet thinking about closing the pregnancy/tiny babies chapter of our lives forever. 😭 Agreed. I know I will always feel that way. That’s why I cried when her stump fell off last night 💔. Every milestone will be a last.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Feb 5, 2019 10:52:53 GMT -6
I’m still waiting! They broke my water around 3am and I switched to the full epidural. I’ve been having some spells of feeling super sick and shaky. Thank goodness for the drugs she gave me. I’m almost an 8.
The baby doesn’t like it when I get too many contractions back to back. He’s had a few scary episodes where his heart rate dropped too low and I had nurses everywhere flipping me around trying to make it to back down. It was so scary. 😪
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Post by k on Feb 5, 2019 10:57:35 GMT -6
Hugs strawberrykiki, B had some decels too and it made my HR go up. baby will be here soon I hope!
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Post by TashaLa on Feb 5, 2019 11:13:04 GMT -6
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 5, 2019 11:22:25 GMT -6
strawberrykiki, best wishes for this last part of labor. I'm sorry it's taken forever and been scary at times. I hope you're holding your son very soon!
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Post by sunshiney on Feb 5, 2019 12:07:06 GMT -6
strawberrykiki thank you for the update!! Been thinking of you! Wow 8 is nothing to sneeze at, sounds like your body has been doing a ton of work to help get this baby out. I hope it goes smoothly and baby tolerates it well from here on out! Hang in there little guy, almost time to meet your family in person!
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Post by Tlex on Feb 5, 2019 12:39:12 GMT -6
You’re doing great strawberrykiki, you’re so tough! Wishing all the best for you and baby boy!
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Post by tngrl3 on Feb 5, 2019 13:10:54 GMT -6
strawberrykiki, you are getting close!!!! You got this momma! I hope you are snuggling that sweet boy very soon. Those decels can be scary, but sound like you are in good hands.
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 5, 2019 13:22:17 GMT -6
MH is getting a vasectomy for sure. After me spending the last 20 years coordinating my BC and fertility needs, it’s his turn. 🙃 And it’s the best fit for us as far as options go. strawberrykiki You’re doing an amazing job!! I hope you’re enjoying the snuggles ASAP.
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Post by redhead610 on Feb 5, 2019 13:29:36 GMT -6
We are for sure done having kids. 3 is enough for us, plus I was soo, so sick with ds2, I don't want to go through that again. Of course, people are already asking if we will "try for a girl". Hopefully dh will schedule a v soon. I am hanging onto my maternity clothes, but only to pass on to my SIL.
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Post by cch on Feb 5, 2019 13:44:19 GMT -6
strawberrykiki Hang in there momma! 8cm is so close!! You’ll have your baby boy in your arms in no time. FX the rest of your laboring and delivery goes smooth 💙
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Post by cch on Feb 5, 2019 13:47:46 GMT -6
MH is for sure getting a vasectomy. The plan is to schedule it when LO is 6 weeks old. We’ve both always wanted two kids and while it is sad knowing this baby will be our last, it also feels perfect for us and we’re so excited to complete our family in the next 10 days or so. Still feels surreal some days!
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 5, 2019 13:49:57 GMT -6
strawberrykiki, Thank you for the update! Hopefully, things have picked up and smoothed out since you updated. We're 90% sure about this being the last one. Well, I'm 85% sure and H is 99% sure. No permanent fixes for us until we're on the same page but H has been pushing for getting a V. He did compromise finally that I'd just get an IUD and we'll make a decision about him getting a V in a colle years.
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Post by tngrl3 on Feb 5, 2019 14:04:41 GMT -6
I thought I'd for sure feel done after 3 but currently I'm open to a 4th. It probably won't happen as I'm almost 37 and would want to wait a couple of years mostly likely. Also I'm pretty sure my OBs would advice against it since I have 3 complicated pregnancies with the 3 early babies and 3 csections. Nothing permanent will be done. I don't mind BCP and will probably just go that route when I finish BFing.
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Post by sunshiney on Feb 5, 2019 15:00:04 GMT -6
hrh. Ugh mom guilt! Already fighting it and no baby even here yet lol. That was a big wake up call that helped me know we'll be OAD, my reasons for a second basically all had to do with a feeling of duty to give baby a sibling. So learned that there are pros and cons either way and remind myself of the pros when I'm feeling guilty about the cons!
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Post by dashook on Feb 5, 2019 15:13:26 GMT -6
We’re not done for sure. We both want a fourth but I think the determining factor will be whether I’m healthy enough to go through another pregnancy. I’m going to turn 35 later this year so we don’t have unlimited time to decide. I might talk to my OB about it at my 6 week appointment. Honestly if she advises against it I think I will be crushed. At the same time I am really happy with our family right now (though I have days where I feel so sad/guilty that DD won’t have a sister).
Birth control is a very touchy subject for me. I do not ever want to take BCP again and IUDs scare me a lot. I recently found out though that I am allowed to have the Mirena (having previously been told no because of my BP) so I may reconsider. But honestly I resent the fact that it always has to be me to bear the burden with BC. I did it for so many years and I also am the one that had to destroy my body with 3 pregnancies and childbirths in less than 5 years.
MH is kind of a dick about it honestly. He has flat out said he will never get a vasectomy though we haven’t actually had a discussion about this ever, so I’m not sure what his reasoning is. He also doesn’t want to use condoms. Before I got pregnant with V we were using NFP and obviously it did not work. NBD because we wanted another baby so we were thrilled when I got KU, but I don’t need another “surprise” especially if my doctor tells me I should not bear more children. So H begrudgingly has said he’s open to condoms for now.
The V talk will happen at some point in the future once we’re settled on a fourth kid or not. I think it would make sense for us and want to at least try to talk him into it.
If all else fails I’m a big fan of abstinence 👌🏻
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 5, 2019 15:22:56 GMT -6
dashook, H was SO against getting a V before this 3rd surprise. Like, he was adamantly against it. I still don't get it but at least he's willing to do his part now when we decide we're done.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 5, 2019 15:30:46 GMT -6
I do still want a third kid. But pregnancy was rough, not just for me but for my family. And my DD went from an easy baby to a wild toddler, just as my ability to cope went down. I don't know if I have it in me to do it again, knowing what it costs. I also think the transition from 1-2 kids will be difficult for us all, and I don't want to be spread too thin. Hopefully things will be clearer in a couple of years.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 5, 2019 18:44:37 GMT -6
I am starving. Good thing we are headed to a Brazilian grill for H's late birthday dinner! Not that there's space inside me for that much food AND a baby so, you know. Guess that means A needs to pay attention to the eviction vibes I keep sending her.
Her check up is tomorrow and I am so tempted to ask for a sweep. I'm so tired of not sleeping and this SPD shit. But I'll only be 38 weeks Thursday so I doubt they'd do it.
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Post by redhead610 on Feb 5, 2019 18:51:18 GMT -6
dashook, I'm sorry to hear your husband is against a v. The other day, DH and I were talking about him needing to get talking to a dr and he said something about being under general anesthesia. I was like, uh, pretty sure its local. And then he gave me a look. And so I reminded him I've been on BC for 10+ years, been pregnant 4 times, had to have a d&c, 3 child births- he can handle a minor procedure.
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Post by redhead610 on Feb 5, 2019 18:54:51 GMT -6
Today was ds3's 1 month appt. He's still a peanut, only 1 lb above his birth weight. The last week his poop has been straight liquid, so we are going to switch his formula to see if that helps his tummy and maybe helps put on weight.
I ended up going back to the dr with ds2 later in the afternoon. He's been weirdly fussy and started not eating anything, and had fevers on and off. Turns out he has an ear infection in both ears.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 5, 2019 22:12:17 GMT -6
TMI probably but....
It's so uncomfortable, borderline painful, to go to the bathroom. A is so low in my pelvis, it causes crazy amounts of pressure to sit on a toilet or anything similar. Like, I feel like I could cough hard once and I'd hear a baby plop into the water. This reminds me of when they kept trying to have me pee during labor with DS1 (I kept myself fully hydrated, to say the least) but it hurt to labor on the toilet and I was miserable there.
Please tell me it's not just me.
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Post by tngrl3 on Feb 6, 2019 6:39:09 GMT -6
strawberrykiki woke up thinking about you this morning. I hope you are snuggling your sweet baby right now or at least are getting very close!
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Post by cch on Feb 6, 2019 7:05:33 GMT -6
redhead610 Hope the formula switch helps DS3 gain some more weight and his tummy issues clear up. My DD was in the 5th-6th percentile for a while and didn’t come up to even 10th until she was around 6mo so I understand how tough it is to not worry about weight when you have a small baby but as long as he’s gaining that’s progress! Hope DS2 feels better soon! strawberrykiki Thinking of you! ETA thelittleredm The pressure is worse some days than others for me but getting out of bed at night to pee has been more difficult due to pelvic pain. And I’ve felt a lot of pressure when sitting on the toilet as well (mostly at night for whatever reason). I’m thinking it’s normal with baby being engaged and being this close to the end.
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Post by k on Feb 6, 2019 7:28:20 GMT -6
TMI probably but.... It's so uncomfortable, borderline painful, to go to the bathroom. A is so low in my pelvis, it causes crazy amounts of pressure to sit on a toilet or anything similar. Like, I feel like I could cough hard once and I'd hear a baby plop into the water. This reminds me of when they kept trying to have me pee during labor with DS1 (I kept myself fully hydrated, to say the least) but it hurt to labor on the toilet and I was miserable there. Please tell me it's not just me. Yep I had the same thing.
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Post by sunshiney on Feb 6, 2019 7:43:43 GMT -6
thelittleredm getting up to pee at night is really ouchy on my pelvis (7 times last night ugh), I think because I'm not wearing my support brace at night. Sitting on the toilet isn't too bad for me yet but I could see that it could be because of relaxing/spreading when tucking everything in and up tightly is always helpful for relieving the pain! On a related note, is anyone's digestion going haywire? I've been so beautifully regular almost the entire pregnancy (a real miracle since I'm a Crohn's girl) but the last week it's just flipping between constipation and diarrhea. TMI WARNING -- a couple nights ago I was so uncomfortable, felt like I couldn't fully evacuate and get clean when wiping, and ended up using a finger to help clean out my bum in the shower... Didn't really think it through it just was such a relief I kept going... To my horror realized there was some actual plops of poop going down the drain and then was so afraid it would back up or smell or otherwise be noticeable but didn't tell DH and as far as I know he is blissfully unaware!!! Tell me I'm just a normal pregnant lady and not a freak lol?!
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 6, 2019 8:09:40 GMT -6
sunshiney, I'm going to say that's not abnormal Lol I can barely reach to wipe now and it's so frustrating. I always make sure to take extra time in the shower because of it >.<
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