Cheshie6
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Post by Cheshie6 on Jan 21, 2019 21:15:42 GMT -6
Cheshie6 I’m sorry. I have no advice on how to fix things since hello! I’m obviously enveloped by family dysfunction. Actually, I might be president of the club. 😂 All I can say is my own experience of accepting things as they are and making the best of everything. One of my biggest issues is getting so heated up about the past and annoyed with how things are handled that I tend to find a way to ruin a visit before it even happens. You gave the weekends you are available so now just go with the flow. Maybe they’ll want to come with you to gymnastics, that would be so much fun for them to watch L do his thing! And church doesn’t need to be rearranged, but planning a brunch and activity afterwards would be a nice way to have everyone get their way and still spend time together. We can’t change family, so it really is not worth the negative energy to get fired up about it. This is great advice. I’m going to try to follow it. I’m a grudge holder which I’ve been working on on other people and I should work on it with them. Thanks
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Post by sophiegrace on Jan 21, 2019 22:18:08 GMT -6
Cheshie6 I’m sorry. I have no advice on how to fix things since hello! I’m obviously enveloped by family dysfunction. Actually, I might be president of the club. 😂 All I can say is my own experience of accepting things as they are and making the best of everything. One of my biggest issues is getting so heated up about the past and annoyed with how things are handled that I tend to find a way to ruin a visit before it even happens. You gave the weekends you are available so now just go with the flow. Maybe they’ll want to come with you to gymnastics, that would be so much fun for them to watch L do his thing! And church doesn’t need to be rearranged, but planning a brunch and activity afterwards would be a nice way to have everyone get their way and still spend time together. We can’t change family, so it really is not worth the negative energy to get fired up about it. This is great advice. I’m going to try to follow it. I’m a grudge holder which I’ve been working on on other people and I should work on it with them. Thanks I’m fantastic at holding grudges. But then I realized like a light bulb going off that no matter how much I would internally battle about someone or something it never changed that person into what I wanted them to be. It’s still and ongoing battle for me because I naturally just tend to steer that way, but I try and do my best. Sometimes that means I need to put forth and bigger effort and other times I need to know my limits and when to just let the situation be what it’s going to be. I can only choose how I’m going to act and react, not how everyone else is going to so as long as I’m respectful and trying to do what I can no extra energy is going to be wasted.
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starbuck
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Post by starbuck on Jan 22, 2019 7:15:19 GMT -6
Aww that is hard. I wish they would just go with you and hang at the pool during the day. Enjoy breakfast and dinner with you. Something at least. I mean, that sounds like a great plan to me. Florida in February is heaven when you live in the northeast, but what do I know. I’m glad I vented because the more I think about it the better I feel. I don’t think it would have been the jolly family bonding I was hoping for. Not sure what I was thinking. Should probably start on my phase one of the plan to get @tgrime ‘s in-laws to adopt me. Girl you'll have to fight me for her ILs.
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tgrimes
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 22, 2019 9:06:06 GMT -6
I mean, that sounds like a great plan to me. Florida in February is heaven when you live in the northeast, but what do I know. I’m glad I vented because the more I think about it the better I feel. I don’t think it would have been the jolly family bonding I was hoping for. Not sure what I was thinking. Should probably start on my phase one of the plan to get @tgrime ‘s in-laws to adopt me. Girl you'll have to fight me for her ILs. Lol. They really are amazing!
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