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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 9, 2018 14:43:30 GMT -6
brenna - +1 don't feel annoying asking questions! That what they're there for.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 9, 2018 14:53:19 GMT -6
We decided last night to try to bust ass and get some painting done today. It was going somewhat ok. But then, naturally, DS decides that today is a GREAT day to nap for 30 whopping minutes 😩 Seriously, he usually naps for at least two hours. Now I'm nearly done with the main color, but MH had to get ready for work so my FIL is coming over to hang out with DS while I finish....
I better sleep well tonight after working my butt off on this all day!
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Post by mirabelle on Aug 9, 2018 16:08:18 GMT -6
Random question for people planning to try to breastfeed, do you own a manual pump along with your electric? Debating if I should order one.
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Post by brenna on Aug 9, 2018 16:59:58 GMT -6
Random question for people planning to try to breastfeed, do you own a manual pump along with your electric? Debating if I should order one. the hospital gave me one to use because my insurance was stupid and wouldn't let me order my pump until DD was born (and of course she was was born on a Friday night and they were closed all weekend) so they gave me one until mine arrived but to be honest I hated it and felt like it was so slow I never used it afterwards besides the one time I forgot to take my pump to work and had it at school as backup. I would just use a regular pump if I were you.
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Post by ftwr on Aug 9, 2018 19:19:43 GMT -6
Random question for people planning to try to breastfeed, do you own a manual pump along with your electric? Debating if I should order one. I had a manual pump, the hand piece was part of the pump kit. I used it maybe once? It sucked. I have a haakaa this time that I'm excited to use because it can serve to collect let down from the other breast while nursing OR a hand pump but once your let down is initiated you don't have to keep pumping/squeezing.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 9, 2018 19:21:37 GMT -6
Random question for people planning to try to breastfeed, do you own a manual pump along with your electric? Debating if I should order one. I don't own a manual pump and am not planning to buy one before baby comes. However, if I have any issues responding to the electric pump this time I may buy one later.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 9, 2018 19:27:49 GMT -6
I finished almost all of the main color in the nursery today. I am so f-ing tired. I've been working on it all. day. long. It looks good, although the gray turned out a little darker overall than I was expecting 😕 It's always so hard to tell from those tiny swatches. The next colors down seemed like they'd be almost too white. Maybe it just seems darker because it's different. Hopefully I'll feel better about it as everything comes together.
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Post by Nymeria on Aug 9, 2018 20:15:52 GMT -6
Random question for people planning to try to breastfeed, do you own a manual pump along with your electric? Debating if I should order one. I bought a manual one in addition to my electric from insurance. If I only needed to pump a little or just one side, I used the manual rather than set up my electric. I bought a Haakaa for this time and plan to use it in the same situations, it just seems like it might be easier to use than my Medela manual once I get the hang of it.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 10, 2018 13:50:38 GMT -6
Trying to just have a chill day today after all my hard work yesterday. Woke up feeling sore and had an upset tummy. But I managed to roll myself out of bed and into the car and we went out for breakfast at our fav local place for our anniversary. Even though we discussed that we would not be exchanging gifts, MH got me a new tiny orchid. I have a bit of an orchid problem.... I just love them so much! And this one looks nice and healthy in the roots so I think it'll do well!
DS is napping, I'm relaxing on the couch having a snack while Roomba cleans my floors. Have I mentioned how much I love Roomba?
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Post by mirabelle on Aug 10, 2018 14:04:59 GMT -6
I’m officially on travel restriction, so my H will be out of town the next 2 weekends and I’m home. I was salty for about 2 seconds and now I am loving it because I have so many cleaning/organization plans and I can throw things away in peace.
He’s close enough that if baby does come he can be back for it. I do wish I could go to the resort vacay we planned next weekend prior to getting pregnant. It’s a family thing and the resort looks gorgeous.
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Post by mirabelle on Aug 10, 2018 14:06:30 GMT -6
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 10, 2018 14:13:33 GMT -6
mirabelle Yay to throwing things away! It feels good to purge! But major bummer to missing a nice resort trip.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 10, 2018 14:13:45 GMT -6
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Post by akwild on Aug 10, 2018 16:58:45 GMT -6
School officially started for teachers yesterday. So I’ve been sitting in A LOT of meetings. So my legs are falling asleep but I’m trying to get up and move but not push myself too much.
I will say that everyone has been super nice and telling me I look good, blah blah blah.
Our daytime custodian makes a comment about how big my baby is going to be every fricking time I see her. I want to be like I’m fine the baby’s fine. I feel as good as I can for having 10ish weeks left. But damn keep your body comments to yourself.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 10, 2018 20:03:00 GMT -6
It's getting more difficult and more uncomfortable to try to rock DS on my lap at bedtime 😔
I keep getting these pains in my skin in isolated spots on my belly where it feels like my skin is going to rip open. Sorry, that sounds awful! It's very unpleasant. Does anyone ever feel anything like that? Do you do anything for it? When my skin starts feeling angry I either load it with more belly butter or slather it in straight coconut oil. Neither seem to make those pains stop. I remember my skin being uncomfortable the first time, but I don't remember having this.
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Post by Nymeria on Aug 11, 2018 8:19:41 GMT -6
Happy Yesterday Anniversary tbirdlove! I never really got pains but spots of my skin at the top of my bump went completely numb towards the end.
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Post by Nymeria on Aug 11, 2018 8:25:05 GMT -6
I did not drink enough water yesterday which promted a ton of Braxton Hicks while at the reception for my grandfather's wedding last night. Even when I was just sitting. They mostly went away after I finally chugged a bunch of water thankfully.
Slept like crap last night though so I'm exhausted today. Thankfully the weather is pretty crappy today so I have a real reason to chill while DS plays with indoor toys.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 11, 2018 14:41:17 GMT -6
Happy Yesterday Anniversary tbirdlove! I never really got pains but spots of my skin at the top of my bump went completely numb towards the end. Thank you! I had a numb area around my belly button at the end!
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 11, 2018 14:42:10 GMT -6
Nymeria I've been bad with drinking water lately too. Hope you're able to get some rest today!
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 11, 2018 14:46:17 GMT -6
I hauled ass and got the dark, front mountains done during nap time. Naptime hustle baby 😎 And hot diggity!! They look pretty awesome!!
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Post by Nymeria on Aug 11, 2018 19:54:37 GMT -6
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 12, 2018 12:47:52 GMT -6
pixiepink24 I hope you're doing ok. I've been thinking about you 😊
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Post by teambrink on Aug 12, 2018 13:50:04 GMT -6
Lazy rainy days cause me to spend too much money online. I need to get my butt up and work on the nursery, but I'm too busy buying stuff. The good news is that they are things that were budgeted for and that I've been wanting to purchase but it will just mean more things in the house to add to an already long to do list.
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Post by pixiepink24 on Aug 12, 2018 15:06:24 GMT -6
pixiepink24 I hope you're doing ok. I've been thinking about you 😊 Thank you. I'm hanging in there. Things are just sucking more and more. Luckily he will be gone this week and so we can sleep in our own beds again. But he's just getting more and more angry and taking it out on me. So I'm pretty miserable. I've started going to Al-Anon and have a therapy session scheduled for Saturday. Just trying to do Day by day.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 12, 2018 15:21:25 GMT -6
pixiepink24 I hope you're doing ok. I've been thinking about you 😊 Thank you. I'm hanging in there. Things are just sucking more and more. Luckily he will be gone this week and so we can sleep in our own beds again. But he's just getting more and more angry and taking it out on me. So I'm pretty miserable. I've started going to Al-Anon and have a therapy session scheduled for Saturday. Just trying to do Day by day. Sometimes day by day is what you gotta do. Sometimes hour by hour even. Have you and your SO been able to talk at all? I hope his anger settles soon. It's so awful feeling uncomfortable in your own home when you're not getting along with your partner. Maybe the week away will help. Good for you finding a way to get a therapy session in - I hope it helps to talk things out and that they can offer some guidance 💓
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Post by pixiepink24 on Aug 12, 2018 15:58:09 GMT -6
tbirdloveTalking is a shit show. He threatens and says shitty stuff including that I'm an unfit mother and I'd better have a good lawyer. There is no reasoning and he feels he has done nothing wrong and doesn't have a problem. In fact, he often says that IM the reason he drinks and it's MY fault for hearing him say the mean things and IM messing up our kids. It's all really fucked up. And I've already been sleeping elsewhere for about two weeks now, dragging DD around all while he sleeps at home. He's only been home 11 weeks this year so distance is something we always have. Honestly, that just makes it worse because he then drinks even more every night and sends awful texts.
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Post by Nymeria on Aug 12, 2018 16:26:34 GMT -6
So many hugs pixiepink24. You did not cause him to act like this and it's definitely not your fault. I would save the texts in case you need them for anything in the future, but getting away sounds like the best thing right now. I'm glad you were able to get to a meeting. I'm sorry to you have to deal with this at all, let alone right now.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 12, 2018 16:51:45 GMT -6
tbirdloveTalking is a shit show. He threatens and says shitty stuff including that I'm an unfit mother and I'd better have a good lawyer. There is no reasoning and he feels he has done nothing wrong and doesn't have a problem. In fact, he often says that IM the reason he drinks and it's MY fault for hearing him say the mean things and IM messing up our kids. It's all really fucked up. And I've already been sleeping elsewhere for about two weeks now, dragging DD around all while he sleeps at home. He's only been home 11 weeks this year so distance is something we always have. Honestly, that just makes it worse because he then drinks even more every night and sends awful texts. That sounds so terrible 😢 I'm so sorry he's talking to you like that. I'm not sure if you've mentioned the drinking before, that makes everything worse. Is that the anonymous group you've been going to? At first in your other post that's what I thought you were referring to, but I didn't remember you talking about any alcohol issues before so I thought I must be wrong and that it must be a different group. Are you wanting to try to work through this with him? Or are you looking for support in how to break away from the situation? Is the drinking a lot of what's making him act like an asshole to you? Living with an addict is incredibly difficult, and loving an addict even more so, if that's the case. Please don't feel any pressure to answer any of this. I understand it's a lot to share with internet strangers 😉 I'm just trying to be supportive, not to pry.
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Post by pixiepink24 on Aug 12, 2018 18:50:33 GMT -6
tbirdloveYeah, Al-Anon is for people who love someone that has problems with alcohol. It's always been an issue and I'm just over it all. The majority of the nasty things he says is while under the influence but he does also say things when sober. Mostly because he has so much baggage from his past that I guess it makes him feel better. He desperately needs real deep therapy. But to kind of answer your question, I'm just trying to get through having this baby first. I refuse to live with him as he drinks. I refuse to subject my children to it. And Al-Anon is teaching me to let go of that control and realize that I can't control or stop any of it and I need to focus on me and what I can control.
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Post by tbirdlove on Aug 12, 2018 20:09:43 GMT -6
tbirdloveYeah, Al-Anon is for people who love someone that has problems with alcohol. It's always been an issue and I'm just over it all. The majority of the nasty things he says is while under the influence but he does also say things when sober. Mostly because he has so much baggage from his past that I guess it makes him feel better. He desperately needs real deep therapy. But to kind of answer your question, I'm just trying to get through having this baby first. I refuse to live with him as he drinks. I refuse to subject my children to it. And Al-Anon is teaching me to let go of that control and realize that I can't control or stop any of it and I need to focus on me and what I can control. I hope he is able to get help some day. And I'm so glad you're getting the support you need and deserve. Focusing on you sounds like a great start 💓
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