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Post by hawkward on Jun 4, 2017 8:27:26 GMT -6
I know we've done this before, but not here!
What are your kids responsible for, and at what age?
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hawkward
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Post by hawkward on Jun 4, 2017 8:27:51 GMT -6
DS1 is six, and although he helps out when I ask, he has no regular expectation of chores. He probably should. He is in charge of cleaning his own room, and he knows he'll be grounded if I tell him to clean it and he doesn't. He dusts when I ask.
When our puppy comes home in a couple weeks, he'll be in charge of feeding as well as helping with exercise.
Our washing machine is pretty simple to operate. I think he could probably manage his own clothes (which don't require sorting). I don't really trust him to help with dishes because he has terrible balance and I don't want him to break my dishes.
ETA He is expected to pick up after himself like take his own dishes to the sink (his are plastic).
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Post by Betweenthelines on Jun 4, 2017 8:35:33 GMT -6
Dd will be 4 in July, she puts her dirty clothes in her hamper after undressing and also into the washer machine when I do laundry. She puts her cup and plate in the sink, she matches and balls up socks when I'm folding clothes, she Swiffer dusts around the house and cleans the baseboards and radiators and we recently showed her how to use the dust buster so she can clean up her's and ds's mess after meals. She's also responsible to make sure her room is clean
Ds will be 2 in July and he also does the swiffer duster, he puts his dirty clothes in his hamper and also in the washer machine, and puts his plate and cup in the sink. Also he is responsible for cleaning his room up.
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Post by jfresh on Jun 4, 2017 8:36:35 GMT -6
DS is 4.5. Daily he's expected to clean up toys/things he's played with. Usually we have to remind him. He earns $1 a week for letting the dog out or in when I ask and feeding the dog when I ask. I also try to have him help me set the table or wipe the table down after dinner. He'll help put away his laundry but that doesn't happen too often.
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Post by hawkward on Jun 4, 2017 8:40:07 GMT -6
Dd will be 4 in July, she puts her dirty clothes in her hamper after undressing and also into the washer machine when I do laundry. She puts her cup and plate in the sink, she matches and balls up socks when I'm folding clothes, she Swiffer dusts around the house and cleans the baseboards and radiators and we recently showed her how to use the dust buster so she can clean up her's and ds's mess after meals. She's also responsible to make sure her room is clean Ds will be 2 in July and he also does the swiffer duster, he puts his dirty clothes in his hamper and also in the washer machine, and puts his plate and cup in the sink. Also he is responsible for cleaning his room up. This is a fantastic idea.
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Post by pumpkin on Jun 4, 2017 8:41:04 GMT -6
DS is 6. He has 1 mandatory chore every day that he doesn't get paid for. It varies by day- dishes, sweep the floors, empty the trash cans, clean up the toys outside, etc. He also has to make his bed and pick up his room every day. Then he has "for pay" chores he can choose to do. There is a list on the fridge and each chore he does is worth $1. He can chose to do them or not, but he knows if he doesn't earn the $$, he won't have any to spend on a toy at the store or whatever. He has to do his mandatory chore before he can chose a for pay chore. Some of the pay chores are clean the windows, mop, fold laundry, pull weeds (in our flower beds), clean the bath tub, or ask mom (basically, see if mom has something that needs done). He does really well with it- and it's a good balance. He's learning that everyone in the house contributes by having the mandatory chore. But he's also learning money management with the for pay chores. You don't work, you don't get paid. And if you want something that's $10, well, that's 10 chores. DS2 is only 19 months right now, so no chores yet. He is pretty handy with a Swiffer though
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Post by mommabakes on Jun 4, 2017 8:47:17 GMT -6
DD will be 4 in September. She's in charge of feeding the dog, picking up her toys, helping set and clear the table, and putting away her clean laundry.
DS will be 2 in August, and he helps put toys away, puts dirty clothes in the basket, and his dirty dishes in the sink.
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Post by jabbers on Jun 4, 2017 8:48:27 GMT -6
DD is 4 1/2: she feeds the dog morning and night, helps make the beds, clears her spot at the dining room table, starts the dishwasher when it's full, picks up the living room and/or play room, and helps start laundry (if I load it and put the soap in, she knows which buttons to press in order to start it). She hates the sound of the vacuum, so we haven't forced that yet, but she could easily use the Dyson stick vac.
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Post by pianolove on Jun 4, 2017 8:58:51 GMT -6
DS will be 2 next month, he helps put away dishes (forks and spoons), feeding the dog, puts away toys, wipes up messes, and throws garbage out.
When the kids get older they'll be responsible for helping fold laundry and keeping their areas clean, as well as outside stuff like stacking wood, garden, and sweeping the garage out.
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Post by origami on Jun 4, 2017 9:00:50 GMT -6
My kid will be 5 in September. He has to clear his own dishes from the table and clean his own room. I might start to add dusting to the list.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jun 4, 2017 9:01:02 GMT -6
DS is 6 and had similar expectations as yours. He also waters the plants, but I remind him to do that because he'll probably overwater otherwise.
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Post by danib on Jun 4, 2017 9:04:41 GMT -6
C is almost 4. He puts his (plastic) dishes in the sink after meals and throws out any garbage of his (ie wrappers from snack foods) and his dirty clothes in the hamper. He has always had to help clean up his toys, but lately we've shifted gears so that he plays a bigger role in the picking up toys and we help him. Those are his main (consistent chores). Other things he does when asked (but not expected every day) are: help unload the dishwasher, help change over laundry, and feed the cats.
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Post by sweptaway on Jun 4, 2017 9:09:49 GMT -6
DS just turned 5. He knows to pick up his toys in the living room and playroom. He puts his clothes in the hamper and makes his bed. Occasionally he'll help unload the dishwasher and feed the cats, or help with yard work. I think we need to start giving him more regular chores.
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Post by Bubblegum on Jun 4, 2017 9:11:44 GMT -6
DS will be 2 next week and he helps unload the dishwasher by handing me the plates and utensils on the bottom rack. He LOVES laundry. He drags the basket into the kitchen and dumps the clothes on the floor. He grabs as much as he can and throws it into the machine. We always encourage cleaning up his toys at the end of the night and putting away his shoes when he gets home. As he gets older he will be assigned more tasks and we will make a chore wheel. DD is 2 months and so far her only responsibility is eating and sleeping and so far she's a pro.
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Post by oceanblue on Jun 4, 2017 9:17:36 GMT -6
DD just turned 3 and her chores right now all involve cleaning up after herself - bringing her dishes to the counter and throwing her trash away, cleaning her toys up, and putting her dirty laundry in the basket.
She's at a stage where she's really interested in doing what I'm doing, so I'm trying to capitalize on that and plant some seeds for future cleaning/chores. She's not at a point where she's thorough enough for true cleaning yet, but I will have her dust or do baseboards and I'll go over them again when she's done. When I fold laundry I'll have her help with things that I don't mind being wrinkled - wash cloths, socks, pajamas, etc.
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Post by millimeter314 on Jun 4, 2017 9:41:51 GMT -6
DD and DS will be four in a little over a month. They do everything I do except clean the toilets and the litter box.
Throw dirty laundry in the hamper, toss it in the washer and dryer, measure out the soap and turn washer and dryer on (with help), attempt to fold clean clothes, put them away.
Set table, clear table, load and unload dishwasher, help wash some dishes by hand.
Get out items for lunch/dinner, help with measuring, pouring, and mixing.
Help get items at grocery store, put them on the belt, carry bags inside, put groceries away.
Clean up their bedrooms and living room, sweep and mop with swiffer, use vacuum on carpet and rugs.
Wipe down bathtub, shower, and sinks.
Take trash outside and to the curb, then bring empty trash cans back.
Water grass, pulls weeds, and help with any outside work (putting down mulch, raking up leaves, picking up sticks).
Help with any special tasks--cleaned all the window tracks and washed windows last weekend, helped build shelving units for the basement, handed me tools when I changed the oil.
We work alongside one another and it takes a lot more time and sometimes it isn't the way I want it, but it keeps them busy, they understand that everyone works together (we say "let's go teamwork the laundry!"), it builds their skills, and builds confidence (how many people are afraid to use a hammer or change their oil?)
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Post by misskilljoy on Jun 4, 2017 9:43:04 GMT -6
DD is 2.5. I don't have any expectations of regular help, but she consistently puts her dishes in the sink, throws away her garbage, sweeps the floor, puts away groceries, tides her toys (the one thing we expect her to do all the time), and helps with laundry. We will probably start regular "chores" when she's three. Maybe.
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Post by cp3 on Jun 4, 2017 9:47:26 GMT -6
DD is 2.5 and she puts her dirty clothes in the hamper daily, helps put clothes in the washer or dryer, cleans up her dishes after meals and helps load the dishwasher, wipes down the table after eating, she's also obsessed with the swifter duster and does some dusting. She's in charge of cleaning her room and the play area downstairs. She will also help water the plants outside and tries to help sweep.
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Post by icaughtfire on Jun 4, 2017 9:48:00 GMT -6
DD is going to be 8 this month. She's responsible for feeding the dog, taking recycling to the garage, putting her clothes in the hamper and cleaning her bedroom & gameroom.
She does other chores when asked, like vacuuming, putting clothes in the washer/dryer, putting clean clothes away, setting the table, etc. I really like the idea of her picking chores for $1, as mentioned above. The girl loves money.
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Post by Minerva on Jun 4, 2017 10:50:31 GMT -6
DS is 4. He is in charge of feeding the cats, picking up his toys, and putting his dishes in the sink. He always helps me put laundry into the washer and dryer, add detergent, and push the start buttons. He also loves to help vacuum. Outside, he helps me weed our mulched front yard and clean his outdoor toys every few weeks.
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Post by Lakes on Jun 4, 2017 10:56:32 GMT -6
Ds just turned 2. He scoops the dog food into the bowl, throws his trash out, picks up his toys or craft mess, and sorts silverware while I unload the dishwasher. He likes to "assist" in whatever chore we are doing so I always encourage that by giving him a swifter rag, little gardening shovel, etc.
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Post by fosterlove on Jun 4, 2017 11:00:53 GMT -6
The twins are 3, they are expected to pick up the living room before bed each night, and their kitchen whenever they are done playing so it doesn't take over my kitchen. They bring in the empty trash bins every week from the road. They also bring all their toys to the toy area if they are playing in the back yard.
Basically we just make them clean to their shit.
M is 22 months and gives no fucks when we give him and direction about cleaning.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2017 11:22:51 GMT -6
I need to write this stuff down for DS. H and I have very different views on chores for kids and you can tell when it comes to DS. I grew up in a house where chores were expected where h did very little.
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Post by McBenny on Jun 4, 2017 12:13:50 GMT -6
Clothes in hamper Everything off floor Vacuum room Make bed Laundry at least once a week-wash, dry and put away.
These rotate: Their bathroom trash Bathroom sink Wash bathroom rugs
Feed dogs Let them in and out and clean kennels
Ages 11 and 6
Clearing their dishes goes without saying
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Post by McBenny on Jun 4, 2017 12:18:53 GMT -6
Things that are their responsibility they do not get paid for. Things that help me and H, a dollar.
Example any of their chores zero Vacuum my room $1
I won't give set amount allowance. The more you do the more you get.
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Post by dc2london on Jun 4, 2017 12:36:32 GMT -6
everyone: Put your own laundry in the hamper, help put your clean laundry away, clear your dishes from the table. Clean up own toys/messes.
7 year old: Set the table, help clear. Put away own clean laundry. Put own dishes in the dishwasher. Vacuum foyer daily.
4 year old: Place the napkins and place mats on the table before dinner. Collect water bottles from around the house for washing. Wipe down bathroom sink and counter after brushing teeth.
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Post by dc2london on Jun 4, 2017 12:38:10 GMT -6
now that it's summer they'll be helping me weed, tend to and water the gardens, too.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2017 12:39:14 GMT -6
DD is 6 and DS is 4. Both need to make their beds, put their laundry away and pick up after themselves. DD helps with dinner prep and makes lunches for her and DS. DS cleans their tub. Similar to others we have optional chores for money.
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Post by Ee on Jun 4, 2017 12:40:49 GMT -6
DD is 2. She doesn't have chores per se, but she's very interested in household tasks and MH and I just try to include her in all the stuff we do throughout the day. So she helps feed the pets, helps with laundry, helps put away dishes, picks up her toys, brings her diapers to the trash, etc. Her "help" is usually not all that helpful yet, but I'm hoping we can create some good habits while she's naturally interested in household chores and hopefully make our lives easier down the line...
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Post by fikafairy on Jun 4, 2017 12:49:16 GMT -6
DS is 4, will be 5 in September. Besides being expected to put his toys away, dishes in the sink, and clothes in the hamper, he has a couple things we ask him to do.
He is supposed to feed the cats dry food, he also pairs his own socks, and he uses the dry swiffer on our dining room pergo floor. I have let him use the wet jet swiffer a few times in the kitchen, but usually just pop one of the wet ones on a normal swiffer. He also dusts with the swiffer brush, puts away groceries, and the dishes in the drawers/cabinets he can reach. He occasionally helps with yard work, as we don't really have much of a yard for it to be regular.
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